Episodes

In this episode, Roy and Catherine take on the question of who gets to define you. Catherine says nobody does. She tells the story of a marketing coach who gave her good challenges but tried to tell her who she had to be to win clients, and why that never sat right. She explains how every time she looked to someone else to tell her who she is, it backfired, and the only definition that has worked is the one she finds by going inside herself, sometimes as a feeling or a colour rather than words. ...

In this episode, Catherine and Roy ask what it means to be seen, and why it takes courage. Roy admits he never wanted to be seen. He ran big jobs in Ireland and was strong at negotiating and leading teams, but he was the one at the back of the class and the back of the meeting. He explains what changed when he wanted to get his message out and make the world a better place: nobody follows you if you are hiding at the back. He also talks about not letting attacks come in. Catherine describes grow...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask a simple question: how do you know when enough is enough? Catherine says most of the time we already know, whether it is time to leave a party, end a relationship, take a break from work or stop recording. She explains how we override that sense with alcohol, tiredness, too much sugar or too much coffee, and why it is worth protecting and rebuilding if you have lost touch with it. Roy shares how he and Catherine settled on recording in batches of seven, wit...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine take on a slightly odd topic: what are you pretending not to know, and what do you really know? Roy starts with something he has noticed in people’s emotions. Some people, women first and then men too, laugh in a conversation when nothing is funny, to get you to laugh and be liked. He knows it, never says it to them, and has found that people who do it are often not as straight as they come across. Catherine says she has been in those moments too, and she is no...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask whether you can change your mind. Catherine can, but not when someone is trying to force her, because it’s her mind. She also admits she can get stuck, and links it to the sunk investment fallacy: the more you have put into something, the harder it is to let go, whether it’s an offering nobody wants despite years and money spent on marketing, or a 12-year relationship that has run its course. Her attachment is tied to what she has invested, but she points o...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine answer a listener request from Anthony Semeroff, a three-time guest on Catherine’s other show, who asked when to push and when not to push. Roy takes it as a question about pushing himself. He has goals in his business and pushes towards them, but he has learned to notice when the battery is going down and not fight through it. He gives last week as an example: Thursday was incredible and he got a huge amount done, then on Friday he was at 20 percent, so he did...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask what one small step you will take today. Catherine says she takes lots of small steps, but the one that matters right now is part of getting back into a good rhythm between work, relaxation, looking after her home, time with friends and her health. Today she is trying out a new version of that rhythm, and she started it by getting up at six, well before usual. Being ahead of the day makes it easier to fit in the small jobs, like the dishwasher and laundry, ...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine reach their 50th episode and ask what a good life means. Roy thanks listeners for coming back and says the show is doing well in the charts and downloads. For him, a good life is about being present, not about owning a beautiful house or a fancy car that never breaks down, a point he makes after his own car broke down at the weekend. It is the people you surround yourself with, being close to family and loved ones, and enjoying and nourishing yourself with good...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask what question ends your day. Catherine has two. The practical one is what she is doing tomorrow, which she checks or sets so she knows where her focus will go. The one she asks while winding down is how she feels about her day and her life, and whether things feel right. If something doesn’t, she uses a technique she was taught years ago called dream programming. She relaxes in bed, reflects briefly, then drops a request into her subconscious, such as askin...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine talk about what brings them joy and whether we can choose it on purpose. Roy’s joy comes from being around loved ones and being present with them. This weekend that meant cooking with his son and taking him fishing again, watching him get his hook caught in a tree and reel in seaweed, plus walks and conversations with him and phone calls with his mum. He also finds joy when people spread the word about him, like a recent case where someone in a business group t...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask what they’re each unlearning. Catherine starts by questioning the premise itself, wondering whether saying “I’m ready to unlearn this” is ever really true, since for her unlearning usually only becomes visible after it’s already happened rather than before. She gives two concrete examples from starting her podcast: she’d developed a slow, deliberate, slightly deeper speaking style from years of running groups and coaching, which worked in that context but p...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine share how they actually practice presence day to day. Roy describes his approach as having evolved over the years into appreciating the earth, the sun, and the food grown from both, staying grateful for what sustains him and paying close attention while he’s out walking, enough that he notices when he feels out of sync and knows to step back, take a break, read, or simply stop staring at a computer. He’s not attached to any particular belief system, has friends...

In this episode, Roy asks Catherine point blank: are you living your values? Catherine says she’s doing her best, and that the honest answer involves two shifting things, she feels she lives from her values more as time passes, but also notices more clearly when she doesn’t, while becoming more forgiving of herself either way. She used to treat living your values as an all-or-nothing standard, where any slip counted as failure, but now sees her own human frailty as part of the point of having a ...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine explore how small acts of kindness ripple outward. Roy’s approach is less about grand gestures and more about how he lives day to day, letting a car pull out from a side street, stopping at a crossing even when he doesn’t have to, and in business or community settings, always asking how he can help someone rather than how he can sell them something. He points out the ripple effect isn’t really about immediate payback, it’s that the person you helped goes on to ...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine explore why community matters so much and how differently it works today. Catherine opens with a relocation agent who used to tell her they’d find a neighbourhood full of her “like-minded people,” only for Catherine to point out that her like-minded people are scattered across the world, not clustered in one place. She breaks community down into layers: simple everyday kindness, like a neighbour who says hello or stops to greet your dog, and the deeper layer of...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask what wisdom actually comes with age, a question Catherine admits made her burst out laughing before they even started. Roy’s answer comes straight from his own financial history: since the losses he’s talked about before, he hasn’t touched a credit card or borrowed money, because living on assumptions (that a sale will close, that money owed will arrive) doesn’t match reality. He finds that paying with physical cash, where you watch the money actually leave...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask how you actually find calm inside chaos. Catherine draws on her long practice with Five Rhythms Dance, a freestyle movement meditation whose third rhythm is literally called Chaos. In that rhythm you let go completely, letting your body move however your emotions and energy dictate, however bizarre or erratic that looks, and what she’s found, over and over, is that fully surrendering into it eventually reveals a calm, settled center right in the middle of h...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine mark the show’s 40th episode milestone by asking how you actually nurture hope. Roy’s take is blunt: hope on its own isn’t a strategy. He breaks everything down into tasks and systems instead, using his own podcasting journey as the example, the first episode took forever to edit, cutting pauses and filler, re-listening, re-uploading, and improving each time, and now he’s running ten shows including this one. For him, discipline and systems are what actually pr...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask: where can you be brave today? Catherine admits the question first strikes her as odd since there’s no obvious threat in her day, just work at home, but she identifies several real forms of small courage. One is being truthful and genuinely feeling what she shares in promotional video clips rather than performing something she thinks people will like, and she says she can tell the difference between creators who are doing that and ones who are just presenti...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine dig into fear as a teacher. Roy approaches it two ways: first, following on from the last episode, the fear around what was being pushed on people during Covid, where the lesson was recognising it was orchestrated and understanding the dangers of what people were being told to take. Second, the fear instilled by abusive schoolteachers, something he’s seen damage people for years, especially through his speaking podcast, where guests trace a lifelong fear of pub...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine take on resilience in uncertain times and how to recover. Catherine starts by questioning the premise, pointing out that life itself is inherently uncertain since she’s an organic being, not a machine, and that when people talk about “uncertain times” they usually mean something external, like not knowing when a war will end. Her view is that the goal isn’t to recover from uncertainty, it’s to live inside it fully and feel it, because she believes uncertainty e...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask the question: what legacy are you creating? Roy says his legacy isn’t about being remembered, a statue or a vote of thanks, it’s about leaving the world better than he found it for every generation’s children, not just his own, and knowing in himself that he spent his life trying to improve things. Catherine frames it through consciousness: she judges her life and work by whether, on balance, it’s helpful to the world, and believes the quality of her own co...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine ask whether a business can be heart-led. Catherine opens with a story from her other show about a guest descended from a family as wealthy as the Rockefellers, whose fortune, unlike some of that era’s dynasties, was built entirely ethically and heart-led, with every deal structured so everyone involved came out ahead, a legacy that carried down generations into the guest’s business today. She makes the case that heart-led and highly successful aren’t a contradi...

In this episode, Roy and Catherine take on a question every entrepreneur eventually has to answer: are you serving, or are you selling? Roy explains why he’s never run a hard-sell close, even in his virtual assistant business, pointing out that he could probably get ten times the clients using urgency and discount pressure, but refuses, because he’s watched the demeanor of otherwise friendly prospects shift the moment they feel pushed into a decision. His rule: treat every person like they’re yo...