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Feb. 16, 2024

S5E4: Are My Desires Good, Godly, or Selfish? How To Discern Which Desires To Pursue

Is one of your 2024 goals to SLOW DOWN? Get 10% off Maryellen’s new book, Slowliloquies, with the code HEADTOHEART10 here: https://www.maryellenhacko.com.au/slowliloquies How do you know if a goal/dream is from God or from yourself? If it is "from yourself", does that mean it's inherently bad? Maryellen Hacko joined me for a 2nd time on the podcast - she is a BRAVE soul because we tackled such a complicated & layered topic! So many of us overthink our dreams to death because we're so afraid it...
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Feb. 2, 2024

S5E3: What Do I Do With My Sex Drive As a Single?

Is one of your 2024 goals to SLOW DOWN? Get 10% off Maryellen’s New Book, Slowliloquies, with the code HEADTOHEART10 here: https://www.maryellenhacko.com.au/slowliloquies I need to tell you something. This episode is an absolute dream come true for me! There are currently very few Biblical resources about sexuality that are targeted towards singles. This issue has been getting better in recent years, but there is still a huge discrepancy in the comparison of resources targeted towards marrieds...
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Jan. 19, 2024

S5E2: Unhurry Your Life in 2024: How Busyness Is Killing Your Connection To God

Want 10% off Maryellen Hacko's perspective-shifting book, Slowliloquies? Here's the link: http://maryellenhacko.com.au/slowliloquies Let's be honest: Being busy can feel really good! Your mind is occupied, you're checking items off a to-do list & you feel as if you are self-sufficient. WELL, GET READY FOR A RUDE AWAKENING. Bethany Hall has been sitting at the feet of Jesus for years, seeking His wisdom for how to walk at His pace through life. She has found that EVEN IF you think you're coping ...
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Jan. 5, 2024

S5E1: How Single Life Can Be Your Best Life From a Celibate, Gay Christian

FREE 20 Minute Training: How To Minister Into LGBTQ+ Issues: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63f55469dfb67d493413dac6 Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to be fulfilled relationally as a single? What if you’re single for life? Do you really, deeply believe God has the very best in mind for you? Art Pereira talks about how to create a beautiful, quality community around you & how to deeply believe that God's plans are for YOUR BEST INTEREST, whether you're same-sex attracted or straight. Fulf...
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Dec. 22, 2023

S4E21: How To Respond to Your Partner’s Porn Addiction + Listener Q&A

Tell me what you want to hear in 2024! Take my short, anonymous feedback survey: ⁠https://forms.gle/yfj51qEp6DHgvQBE9⁠ (DM me to get a FREE sticker!) Joseph is back (by popular request!) and while we recorded an episode a while back about breaking free from pornography, we noticed a need for an episode for the partners of those who have struggled with porn. We answered ALL the listener questions that were sent in: - How should you respond when your partner sins? - If you forgive them, will they...
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Nov. 24, 2023

S4E19: How To Heal From Disordered Eating

Trigger Warning: We talk about eating disorders in this episode. Please take the necessary precautions to take care of yourself! Kristina Garza has been set free from disordered eating & an unhealthy relationship with her body and food. Ultimately, the pattern was not about food, but about not knowing how to cope with emotions well. - how to identify what you are running from What feels too big to deal with? - How can you stay present, connect with your body & face the root under the addiction? ...
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Nov. 10, 2023

S4E18: Answers To All The Sex Questions You’re Too Afraid To Ask

Ashlyn R. Watkins, the host of Spiced Wife podcast, joined me for a 2nd time on the podcast! This time, we answered ALL the anonymous questions about sex sent in by listeners. We covered: - how God views sex - what is allowed & not allowed in the bedroom - how to improve your sex life - pornography recovery - healing from the past - sexuality in singleness We pray this episode wipes shame off of you and that you will bring every area of your life under the lordship of Christ, including se...
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Oct. 27, 2023

S4E17: How To Start Dating Without Being Weird About It + Listener Q&A

Danielle Hanlon has been set free from several lies that used to hinder her dating experience. Exhibit A: “Men are sexually weak & I will always be the one fending them off and trying to have integrity.” WOW, that's far from the Truth! It is rarely taught HOW to date well, but we have good news for you: We are here for you! You won’t figure this out alone. We want to take away all fear from your mind so that you can stop over-spiritualizing, overthinking, and overanalyzing & have fun while yo...
Oct. 13, 2023

BONUS: How To Make New Friends: Start With Hello

Get ready for some Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood vibes! You may know that you're supposed to "love your neighbor", but so many of us don't even know our neighbor's name. And most of us have friends, but somewhere along the line, we forget how to make friends. We are only forced to remember again when we find ourselves in a season where we "start over". Shannan Martin is a wife, mom, author, and a neighbor. She knows all about having to move and start over, not knowing anyone at first. The Lord took...
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Sept. 29, 2023

S4E16: Does God Want Me To Be Happy or Holy?

Does God care if you’re happy at all? Is His goal to make you holy or happy? Does He care about your desires? Even the ones that won’t necessarily “sanctify” you? Am I an accidental Buddhist!? SO. MANY. QUESTIONS. Kristina Garza & Mackenzie Ryder interviewed me about asceticism, which I lived in for a very long time. I essentially believed that the more I suffered, the holier I became. Have you ever heard phrases like, "Don't pray for patience because then God will make you wait." or "God wants...
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Sept. 15, 2023

S4E15: How To Define Gender: The Danger of Stereotypes & Unbiblical Assumptions

Are there any gender stereotypes you genuinely believe? Do you ever wrestle with the thought, "Am I woman enough?" Bonnie Pue & I had an amazing conversation about what God defines as feminine and masculine (and it doesn’t have anything to do with axe-throwing or shopping or cooking). The Bible is actually very broad in defining what masculine and feminine are. David danced and wrote music. Deborah led a nation as a warrior. Nehemiah wept for his destroyed city. Jesus longed to gather Jerus...
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Sept. 1, 2023

S4E14: Why Christians Have Excluded The Undocumented (& How To Change The Narrative)

How do you think the Kingdom of God works? Who do you believe is invited to the table? Is the undocumented asylum seeker welcome too? Tess Clarke runs a grass-roots organization called We Welcome, which seeks to mobilize and equip women of faith to build and cultivate a welcome movement from their tables at home to the halls of Congress. In our conversation, we answer questions like: - is seeking asylum illegal? - do we have enough resources to go around? Should we open our borders to more p...
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Aug. 18, 2023

S4E13: How To Thrive as a Female in a Male-Dominated & Marriage-Focused Culture

Have you ever been disqualified because you’re a female? Or maybe because you’re not married? Do you wrestle with what God intended when He designed woman? Do we have different roles than men? Nina lives in the Middle East, but whether you live in Midwest America or find yourself in a Muslim context, you’ve probably come into contact with a male-centric or marriage-focused culture. Nina & I had a hilarious and encouraging conversation about: - how God moves through single women, not just men or ...
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Aug. 4, 2023

S4E12: How To Break Unhealthy Generational Patterns and Cycles

Madeline Peña has been set free from mental health issues, addiction, an eating disorder, and self-harm. And the most beautiful thing is that since Jesus has ended these unhealthy cycles in her life, her entire generational line benefits from it! When we break generational patterns & cycles in our lives, it does not just impact us, but also everyone in our lives. Christ’s desire is always to heal the root cause of unhealthy patterns in us. In this episode, we answer questions like: - what is cyc...
July 28, 2023

BONUS: How To Reach Beyond Your Limits

Did you know that the disabled community is among the most unreached people groups in the world? 18 - 25% of the world has a disability, seen or unseen. Craig Spottford is the executive director of Beyond Limits, a residential post-secondary Christian campus experience for qualified young adult students with developmental disabilities. In our conversation, we cover: - How people with disabilities are not just able to receive, but to also serve others - How to view every person as an image-be...
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July 21, 2023

S4E11: He/She/They: How To Handle Pronouns + Listener Q&A

Laurie Kreig has been equipping the church with a Gospel-centered approach to gender and sexuality for nearly a decade. She joined me for the 2nd time on the show to discuss how to handle the pronoun conversation. Many Christians are simply afraid. Afraid to get it wrong. Afraid to offend someone. Afraid to dishonor Jesus. Afraid to accidentally encourage sin. Afraid to come off as a jerk. - Is calling someone by their preferred pronouns the same thing as affirming sin? - What is 'pronoun hospit...
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July 7, 2023

S4E10: How To Love The Lord Your God With All Your Mind: Taming Intrusive Thoughts, Lies & Anxiety

I’m back from sabbatical & we’re mixing it up today because I’m not the host here - Liz Dorsch is the host and I was a guest on her recently launched podcast, Reconnect! How do you get those intrusive thoughts out of your head? Our minds can toss and turn faster than anything else. The good news is while we do not always have control over every thought that pops into our heads, we do have control over which thoughts we dwell on. I had a beautiful conversation with Liz about how to - not be co...
June 23, 2023

TOP #1: Same-Sex Attraction Meets The Gospel: How To Respond, Love & Care For The LGBTQ+ Community ft. Laurie Kreig

There are so many questions about gender and sexuality demanding answers in our culture today. Does the Bible affirm same-sex marriages or not? What do you do if you're just not attracted to the opposite gender? Who do you talk to about your same-sex attraction? What should you say when your sibling comes out? How should the church respond to the LGBTQ+ community? Laurie Krieg is an author, speaker, and host of Hole In My Heart podcast whose mission is to train the church with a Gospel-centered ...
June 9, 2023

TOP #2: How To Live An Abundant Single Life ft. Christine Ramirez

If Jesus truly does promise abundant life for all who love Him, then you do not have to wait until you’re married to enjoy it! Christine Ramirez is 39, single & loving it. She’s been set free from having to know if she’ll be married one day or not. The mystery is beautiful and not something to be feared. Marriage is not the goal of life; Jesus is. So, what will you do with your one wild & precious life? We also answered all the questions that listeners sent in about this topic, so if you asked o...
May 26, 2023

TOP #3: Is Masturbation a Sin? Answers For Singles & Marrieds ft. Ashlyn R. Watkins

Since masturbation is not directly mentioned in the Bible, is it sin or not? What if you're able to masturbate without lusting? Ashlyn R. Watkins, the host of Spiced Wife Podcast, joined me to discuss this topic. It would be so much easier if this was just a simple yes or no, but it's actually a lot more complex than that. The Word does not directly mention masturbation, but it does give us a roadmap for how to evaluate our own hearts and James 1:5 tells us that if we lack wisdom, we can ask G...
May 12, 2023

TOP #4: How To Live Life Driven By Love, Not Fear ft. Laura Krause

Are you living in fear of sin? This may not be easy to pinpoint in your own life right away, so here are some questions to ask yourself: - are you terrified that your spouse will look at porn? - does the possibility of your children being exposed to various sins keep you awake at night? - do you find yourself spending a lot of energy trying to control other people's choices? Laura Krause is a wife, mom, prayer warrior & church planter who has been set free from fear's grip on her life by th...
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April 28, 2023

S4E9: How To Cultivate Contentment In The In Between Spaces

BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL WITH KATE TODAY: https://www.katepetry.com/coaching Do you feel as if you're in an in-between space right now? You've come a long way, but you're not where you want to be yet? Do you ever struggle with FOMO & feel a lack of purpose in the everyday grind? Cassie Goossen has been set free from a mindset The mundane tasks of changing diapers, potty training, and You can have huge dreams for the future and receive many prophetic words, but your focus cannot be stuck in...
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April 14, 2023

S4E8: How To Heal From Sexual Trauma

Book your FREE coaching call with Kate today: https://www.katepetry.com/coaching DISCLAIMER: We talk about sexual assault and the traumatic effects of it. Please use discretion before listening. When sexual assault happens, whether if it is one incident or repeated over a long time, how do you heal afterwards? What if you don't know the details of the assault? Do you fear you're 'just being dramatic'? I have great news for you: You are able to heal from trauma and the lies that may come with...
April 7, 2023

Grounding Exercises That Will Change How You Understand Anxiety ft. Jody Goldie

Jody Goldie is a wife, mom, and licensed marriage & family therapist. Even though we talk about the heavy topics of trauma and anxiety, she is able to make them approachable and less intimidating. We discuss practical techniques you can use to be grounded and diminish the trauma capsules in your brain so you can operate from your most resources self. Deb Dana - https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/ Listen to this episode to find out what the future holds for locked episodes!