PSA: Finding someone else attractive doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Shocking, we know. Humans notice other humans. That’s part of life. And being attracted to someone else doesn’t automatically mean your relationship is failing. It doesn’t mean you’re cheating, and it definitely doesn’t mean you love your partner less.…
Hot take: You should never, ever, EVER go through your partner’s phone. (Yes, we’re looking at you.) 😤 Unless it’s a genuine emergency and you need to find their mom’s phone number, your partner deserves privacy…even if you’re feeling jealous. On the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove talk…
Look, we’re not saying that you aren’t right 100% of the time…except that’s exactly what we’re saying. 😘 Our perceptions impact how we understand things, and sometimes our instincts can lead us astray. And sometimes, there just isn’t anything to be “right” or “wrong” about! So if you’re treating your…
Are some people just wired for jealousy, with no hope of changing, or is it actually the check engine light for your relationship? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell discuss Psychology with Dr. Ana’s YouTube video, “Turns Out Jealousy Isn’t Always a You Problem.” The video reveals research…
Hot take: If you want to do the thing, you need to be able to talk about the thing. And you need to be able to take feedback about the thing. Our culture still treats intimacy as something shameful, so many of us treat our preferences like a dark secret…
Who would be a better lover: Marx or Mao? According to Dr. Liz, Marx was probably more generous in the bedroom. 👀 (And no, we’re not accepting historical fact-checks at this time.) Like most conversations on the @DoAsWeSayPod, we started discussing one of Reddit’s favorite hobbies: answering a question that…
Is swapping spit as casual as a handshake or as meaningful as a wedding vow? 👀 The answer is…it depends! The things we do with our partners only have the meanings we give them. For some people, exchanging bodily fluids is deeply intimate, and for others, it’s just another Tuesday.…
Have you ever thought about how much saliva affects intimacy? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are joined by Marcin (he/him), founder of Twinkle Tongue, a saliva enhancement product designed to support their body’s natural saliva production for a more satisfying and fun bedroom experience. Together, they discuss…
Art imitates life, and nowhere is that more obvious than in romcoms. Case in point: the infamous wagon wheel coffee table from When Harry Met Sally. One person thinks they’re making huge compromises for a relationship and being incredibly accommodating when a partner moves into their established space. And the…
A lot of men seem to be waiting for dating to go back to the way it used to be (anyone familiar with Pleastanville?). There’s just one problem…it will never go back to how it was. And that’s a good thing we should be celebrating. 🥳 Women can own homes,…
So many men SAY they’re totally fine and cool dating a woman who earns more than they do, or owns their own home. But what happens when they actually find themselves in that situation? 🤔 Well, they don’t find it easy. They’re stressed, defensive, questioning their value, and making it…
When you’re looking for a relationship, there’s one very important thing you need to ask yourself: Do you want a partner, or a hostage? A lot of people say they want to feel “needed” in a relationship, but if your partner needs you for housing, money, and basic survival, do…
Does a woman earning more than a man in a relationship make you feel some type of way? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove jump right into The Guardian’s article, “Single women are buying more houses. The men they are dating are not responding well,” and talk about…
Look, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove believe that there is a male loneliness epidemic, AND we’re pretty sure we have the cure: 🏒 Heated Rivalry 🏒 Because, while yes, we all love the steamy relationship between Shane and Ilya, at its core, Heated Rivalry is about men talking about their feelings. And…
Only cis het dudes believe that women want tall, rich, supermodel-looking men. When all it takes is one watch of Chef to know that what women want is a man who can cook a great meal, take care of himself, and contribute to the household. 🥵 💦 When you act…
One of the easiest traps to fall into in relationships is believing that the early excitement is the “real” version of love, and that anything calmer or more familiar must mean something has gone wrong. But the truth is that no relationship stays in that honeymoon phase forever (that would…
Everyone’s chiming in on the male loneliness epidemic lately. But @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove want you to pay attention to how it’s framed. Too often, the solution people propose isn’t men building deeper friendships and learning emotional regulation skills. Nope. Women should fix it. Women should lower their standards or just…
Fun (or maybe not so fun) fact: Women didn’t start shaving their body hair until the 40s and 50s. When all the men were off at war, Big Razor needed to find a new way to make money. And what better way to make money than to make women feel…
We have a question for you: Do you actually want a partner, or are you just looking for someone to call your girlfriend? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell share two Reddit stories that reveal just how much the manosphere has poisoned modern dating, and the actual work…
Old people are still getting busy, they’re going to all kinds of parties, and they’re 100% trying new relationship structures. There is nothing more delightful than seeing 50+ year old couples still fully enjoying life and deciding that getting older doesn’t mean they have to stop having adventures. Because, as…
Healthy relationships require communication. Polyamory requires approximately 47 additional follow-up conversations, and a shared Google calendar doesn’t hurt either. 😉 Polyamory representation in the media leaves a lot of be desired, so a lot of people get into non-monogamy thinking it’s just a dating free-for-all, only to discover it’s actually:…
A lot of people think non-monogamy is just monogamy with more people. It’s not. Opening a relationship tends to expose every communication issue, insecurity, attachment wound, boundary problem, and emotional blind spot that was already there…just way faster and way louder. In the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod , @DrLizPowell and…
Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean you stop growing. Sometimes people grow together, and sometimes they grow in different directions. And that doesn’t mean that you or your partner failed. No one has to be the villain at all. Two people can deeply love each other and still realize that…
What happens when people open a relationship without unpacking everything monogamy taught them first? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell sit down with Kristen, psychotherapist and co-creator of @TheNonMonogamyCardGame, to talk about the communication that doesn’t always happen in poly relationships…but really should. Then, they discuss two struggling…