Have you ever gone looking for evidence that your worst fear was true, all so you could feel even worse than before? đŹ Sometimes weâre so desperate for certainty that weâll end up being our own worst enemy. We keep poking around until something sticks. On this weekâs episode ofâŠ
Why is it easier to go on a romantic date than schedule and follow through with that friendship date? Well, it might just come down to the fact that humans love instant gratification. Dating comes with obvious dopamine hits. Friendship? You might âjustâ have a great conversationâŠand then you haveâŠ
Can you imagine how exhausting it would be to meet every single one of your partnerâs needs? When would you even have time to meet your own? đŹ Look, polyamory isnât for everyone, and thatâs totally valid. But if you are polyamorous, you might need to learn that your partnerâŠ
Have you ever set yourself up to get hurt, but you just couldnât help yourself? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are joined by the brilliant Jessica Daylover. Polyamorous since 2013, co-author of âPolyamory & Parenthood,â and founder of @RemodeledLove and the Nuclear Fusion Network, Jessica brings allâŠ
Remember Mystery? The pickup artist from the early 2000s who taught awkward men how to attract women? Well, heâs back in the headlines. đ This time, itâs because he wrote a book with (and about) his AI girlfriend. So you already know that @DrLizPowell, @DrNerdLove, and @polyrolemodels7265 had some thoughts.âŠ
Control doesnât always come from a mustache-twirling villain who laughs at your misery. Sometimes it looks like victimhood and comes from someone who feels so out of control that they create impossible rules and constantly shifting goalposts to avoid getting hurt. That doesnât mean theyâre a villain, but it doesâŠ
Friends donât let friends date AI chatbots. They sit you down and ask if youâre okayâŠor they lovingly roast you first and ask questions second. đ In the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell, @DrNerdLove, and @polyrolemodels7265 debate what theyâd do if a friend announced they wanted to bring their AIâŠ
A good relationship has friction occasionally. That doesnât mean youâre walking on eggshells 24/7, constantly trying to avoid upsetting your partner, or somehow upsetting them without ever understanding what you did. If every disagreement leaves you thinking, âWait, how is this my fault?â itâs worth paying attention. đ Fortunately, onâŠ
Is it better to be in a relationship where youâre constantly contorting yourself to avoid saying âno,â or one where your partner canât say ânoâ at all? Trick question. The answer is neither. In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell are joined by author, educator, and longtime member ofâŠ
Sure, ChatGPT can write your dating profile, but then whoâs going on the date⊠You or the robot? đ€ The goal of your dating profile shouldnât be to appear like a perfectly optimized human being who can do no wrong, has no faults, and always knows what to say, becauseâŠ
Swipe right. Swipe left. Swipe, swipe, swipe. You can end up with 3 matches or 300, but guess what? Matches alone donât get you dates, relationships, love, or intimacy. A match is an introduction. You still have to start the conversation, build a connection, and eventually meet in person. InâŠ
Itâs hard to feel safe with a stranger, and without safety, desire is basically non-existent. And you donât have to race toward the finish line. In fact, sometimes letting that tension build is even hotter than trying to make everything happen in one night. đ„” In the latest episode ofâŠ
If youâve spent any time in incel spaces or in the manosphere, youâve probably heard about the infamous â666 Rule.â Six feet tall, six figures, and a six-pack. (Or six hundred horsepower, or a minimum of 6 inchesâŠdepending on whoâs telling the story.) Not only does that exclude millions ofâŠ
Do you think itâs more possible that men know what women want, or that women know what women want? đ We know it can be a real head-scratcher for some people, so weâll help you out: itâs women. Women know what women want, and itâs time we all started listening.âŠ
Wouldnât it be nice if relationships came with an instruction manual? Step 1: Say the Correct Thingâąïž. Step 2: Never have a misunderstanding. Step 3: Live happily ever after. Unfortunately, your partner had the audacity to be a person with their own goals and dreams and understanding of life. TheyâŠ
Could your biggest obstacle to dating success be the advice youâve been following? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove endure the trenches of r/PurplePillDebate, a supposedly neutral subreddit where you somehow end up with advice like âMen, donât talk to women.â Huh? According to one self-proclaimed 10, âuglyââŠ
Whatâs scarier: ripping off the band-aid or peeling it off hair by hair? đ Weâre pretty sure this is one of those things where we all know the ârightâ answer, but that doesnât stop us from slowly, painfully peeling away the band-aid. Ending a relationship is no different. Sometimes aâŠ
Everyone wants deep connection. The friction that inevitably comes with those connections? Ehh, maybe not so much, right? đ But the truth of the matter is that you canât get one without the other. Youâre going to have disagreements or misunderstandings. Things can get awkward. Itâs all just part ofâŠ
You ever hear people or read those Reddit stories where the OP is going on and on about how amazing their husband is, but everything they say actually just sounds like a red flag? đ© OrâŠis it possible thatâs you? đŹ Friend. The yogurt is not the problem. On thisâŠ
Who among us hasnât heard, âLove conquers all?â Itâs a beautiful sentiment, and we might let it slide in a romcomâŠbut itâs terrible relationship advice. Love matters a lot, but itâs not enough to solve incompatibility, repair broken trust, or magically make people want the same future. In the best-caseâŠ
Is there a secret formula for healthy, conflict-free relationships? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove have an insightful yap session about why so many people approach dating and relationships like theyâre trying to solve a logic puzzle, and why that often creates more frustration than it solves. FromâŠ
Gather âround for todayâs lesson, everybody! @DrNerdLove is using his English degree to tell us all the difference between jealousy and envy. And for the dayâs juicy-and-not-so-secret confession: @DrLizPowell thinks Sam Reid is an absolute baddie. (But who among us would disagree?) And to top it all off, we wantâŠ
You donât get both. If you want to do whatever you want and not care how it affects other peopleâŠyou probably donât want to be in a relationship. đ€· Healthy relationships require caring about your needs and your partnerâs. So before you convince yourself that cheating, shutting down, or avoidingâŠ
A lot of people tend to describe themselves as either jealous or not jealous, like itâs an ingrained personality trait. But jealousy doesnât usually thrive in safe relationships. đ It thrives in relationships where you donât feel like you can be honest. One where bringing up a concern gets youâŠ