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Do As We Say, Not As They Did

An unfiltered dating podcast all about love, sex, relationships, and all the ways humans are sometimes really bad at them. Dr. NerdLove and Dr. Liz Powell break down what not do, and what actually works.

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Voice Memo Guy: Consent, Coercion, and Boundaries Ep. 22
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Aug. 11, 2026

Voice Memo Guy: Consent, Coercion, and Boundaries

Have you heard about the infamous TikTok Voice Memo Guy? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell fill you in on all the details, some questionable twists, and their thoughts on how weird it is to schedule getting laid via voice memo. A few months ago, a guy sent a voice memo to a woman he’d gone on a date with, saying that if their second date wasn’t going to end with them in bed together, there was no point in going at all. His message points out a
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Hard Truths About Male Loneliness Ep. 21
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Aug. 4, 2026

Hard Truths About Male Loneliness

How do you react when people tell you things you wish you’d never heard? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are joined by Evita Sawyers for a conversation about emotional responsibility, connection, desire, and what happens when people treat others like solutions instead of human beings. First, they wade through a toxic mess where a man learns that his married father is considering buying a house with a woman he’s only been seeing for four mont
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The Truth About Jealousy in Polyamory Ep. 20
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July 29, 2026

The Truth About Jealousy in Polyamory

Have you ever set yourself up to get hurt, but you just couldn’t help yourself? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley are joined by the brilliant Jessica Daylover. Polyamorous since 2013, co-author of “Polyamory & Parenthood,” and founder of Remodeled Love and the Nuclear Fusion Network, Jessica brings all the insightful commentary on two poly relationship stories that…let’s just say aren’t exactly set up for success. First up, they hear from a wo
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Love or Control? AI Girlfriends, Consent, and Polyamory Ep. 19
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July 22, 2026

Love or Control? AI Girlfriends, Consent, and Polyamory

Is it better to be in a relationship where you’re constantly contorting yourself to avoid saying “no,” or one where your partner can’t say “no” at all? Trick question. The answer is neither. In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are joined by author, educator, and longtime member of Philadelphia’s polyamory community, Kevin Patterson. They read two stories that seem completely unrelated, but share the same uncomfortable truth: relationships stop b
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Dating Apps Aren’t Keeping You from Finding Love Ep. 18
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July 15, 2026

Dating Apps Aren’t Keeping You from Finding Love

Could your biggest obstacle to dating success be the advice you’ve been following? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley endure the trenches of r/PurplePillDebate, a supposedly neutral subreddit where you somehow end up with advice like “Men, don’t talk to women.” Huh? According to one self-proclaimed 10, “ugly” men shouldn’t bother trying to talk to a woman in person because they simply have no chance. After all, if no one wants to swipe right on
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Love Isn’t Enough to Make a Relationship Work Ep. 17
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July 8, 2026

Love Isn’t Enough to Make a Relationship Work

Is there a secret formula for healthy, conflict-free relationships? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley have an insightful yap session about why so many people approach dating and relationships like they’re trying to solve a logic puzzle, and why that often creates more frustration than it solves. From clients who expect their therapists to “fix them” to people who would do anything to avoid the friction that comes with being around other people
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About the Hosts

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Harris O'Malley

Harris O’Malley is an internationally recognized relationship expert, dating coach and syndicated advice columnist.

Famous for his ability to simplify complex dating dilemmas and solve the toughest relationship problems, he has long been sought after for coaching and advice.

Harris and his work have been featured in or on Nightline, Fusion TV, Vice, New York Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Harvard Business Journal, The Guardian, CBC’s Out In The Open, Buzzfeed, Wired, Think Progress, Raw Story, Slate, Boing Boing, The Good Men Project, The Daily Dot, Mel Magazine, Lifehacker, Kotaku and many, many more.

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Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz believes that Great Sex Can Change the World. They are the author of Building Open Relationships, a sex educator, and licensed psychologist (CA 27871, OR 3068) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped folks of all kinds become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz at DrLizPowell.com, Unfuckyourpolyamory.com, Sex-Positive Psych on YouTube, and @DrLizPowell on Instagram & Twitter.