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Oct. 2, 2026

Life Is About Learning to Love Yourself

Why does our culture hate aging so much??? We treat getting older like it’s the worst thing that can possibly happen to us. And if you still want pleasure and excitement and joy as you age? Well, apparently you missed the memo. 🙄 But we’re all gonna get older. At…

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Oct. 1, 2026

Rejection and Connection in Relationships

Wouldn’t it be great if we always communicated perfectly and understood what our partner needed? Could you imagine never feeling insecure or dealing with rejection in a long-term relationship? Unfortunately, real life is full of feelings that don’t always feel great. When attempts at connection are met with rejection, it…

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Sept. 29, 2026

Ep 28. How Aging Changes Your Relationships w/ Wendy Strgar

We’re all going to get older, so why does our culture treat aging like one of the worst things that can happen to us and our desire? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are joined by Wendy Strgar,…

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Sept. 17, 2026

What Does Taking the Lead Mean

Women are either telling men to leave them alone and NEVER talk to them, or they’re complaining that men never take the lead anymore. What are men supposed to do?! 🥲 Well…we think a few things may have gotten lost in translation. This week @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell hear from a…

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Sept. 17, 2026

Just Treat Them Like a Person!

It’s easy to hide behind a screen; we’ve been doing that more and more since 2020. But talking to people irl can feel a little harder, especially when it feels roughly as threatening as being chased by tigers. We’ve got the solution, though. Talk to people! 🙌 And not just…

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Sept. 17, 2026

Do You Want a Person or a Body

Being attracted to someone is totally normal. We actually love that for you! It’s probably why you noticed someone in the first place. But if their looks are the ONLY thing you’re focused on when you walk up to them, things are going to get super weird super fast. On…

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Sept. 16, 2026

Do You Need an Internet Break 😬

Look, as certified ADHD goblins, we love the internet…but we also have to admit that it really freaking sucks. 😬 Algorithms are really good at figuring out what makes you anxious, angry, sad, and straight up miserable. And then showing you clip after clip after clip until you’ve spent the…

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Sept. 16, 2026

Can You Actually Approach People

Yes, you can totally approach people. However, that doesn’t mean you should just approach every single person, in every place, at every moment of the day. When people are at work or simply trying to get from point A to point B, you’re better off leaving them alone. If someone’s…

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Sept. 15, 2026

You Have More to Offer than Being a Provider

Men do themselves a disservice when they think the only thing they can bring to a relationship is being a financial provider. You are so much more than your paycheck. 🙌 Are you a fantastic cook? Can you make the plates sparkle? Do you make your partner laugh until they…

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Sept. 15, 2026

Ep 27. Has the Internet Made Dating Worse?

Women told men to stop approaching them, but now they’re upset that men aren’t taking charge? So what are men even supposed to do?! 🫩 In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley dig into a post from r/DatingOver30 titled,…

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Sept. 15, 2026

Men Can Be Friends

We love when men are allowed to kiss about their feelings. 😉 BUT if every close, emotionally intimate friendship between men gets treated as secretly romantic, we’re kinda just reinforcing the same idea heteronormative culture already teaches men: emotional vulnerability is only for romantic partners. So what’s the answer? BOTH!…

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Sept. 14, 2026

Loneliness Isn’t a “Men Problem” 📣

The male loneliness epidemic doesn’t exist. 📣 Yes, men are lonely. But so are women, trans folks, nonbinary folks, and people across the gender spectrum. And the research backs that up. We don’t have a male loneliness epidemic so much as we have a loneliness epidemic. And if we keep…

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Sept. 11, 2026

Love Is in the Little Things

What’s the most romantic gesture you can think of? Is it a surprise trip or a huge bouquet of flowers? Maybe you’re already picturing yourself standing outside a partner’s window with a boombox. But what if it looked like doing the dishes after your partner cooks, folding laundry after they’ve…

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Sept. 10, 2026

One in Five Adults Have No Close Friends

Obligatory capitalism rant incoming: Where did all our third spaces go? People used to get regular social interaction from things like Elks clubs, Rotary clubs, bowling leagues, rec sports, or even just going to the mall and grabbing an Orange Julius. Now, even thinking about going out can cost you…

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Sept. 8, 2026

The Problem with Labeling Men as Providers

Men: We’re providers. Women need to rely on us. Also men: Why are women only interested in me for my money? Make it make sense. 🥴 This belief that men should be providers, combined with the fear that women are gold diggers, is just one of the many ways that…

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Sept. 8, 2026

If You Want Model Hot, Bring Model Hotness or Money

If you only want to date someone who’s model hot, we have a few questions: 💚 What are YOU bringing to the relationship? Are you also model hot? Filthy rich? 💚 Why is “model hot” so important to you in the first place? If your idea of a desirable partner…

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Sept. 8, 2026

Ep 26. Are Men Actually Lonelier than Women?

Is the male loneliness epidemic a real thing, or just something the internet won’t stop talking about? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are getting right to the point: men are definitely lonely…but research suggests that they aren’t…

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Sept. 3, 2026

Gold Diggers Are Like “Stranger Danger” 💰

“Oh no! Gold diggers are everywhere!” sounds an awful lot like “stranger danger!” to us. Sure, it can happen. But is it the most likely thing to happen? Hell no! Most women you meet aren’t lurking around waiting for the chance to drain your bank account. They’re trying to find…

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Sept. 2, 2026

Don't Order a Steak at McDonald's 🥩

When men complain that all women are gold diggers who only want them for their wallets, we have to ask: Where are you even looking, bro? 🤔 If you’re going to clubs and sugaring sites looking for a girlfriend who doesn’t care about money, you may have misunderstood the assignment.…

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Sept. 2, 2026

The Biggest Modern Dating Fear for Men

@DrNerdLove hasn’t scarred @DrLizPowell in a while with a cursed podcast topic, so of course, this week on @DoAsWeSayPod, we’re reading a Reddit list helping men avoid gold diggers. What sort of amazing advice is in store? Basically, the judgiest ways to say: find women with jobs and hobbies. Whether…

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Sept. 1, 2026

What You Want vs Need in a Relationship

Humans can really suck at knowing what we want. We think we have our “type.” We might think that our future partner needs to have a certain job or make a certain amount of money. They should look a certain way, share our hobbies, and check off a dozen other…

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Sept. 1, 2026

The Problem with Modern Dating Culture

Dating right now is hard. The apps all suck because they're trying to be Tinder. The men on the apps aren’t even putting the bare minimum into their profiles. The swipe-right, swipe-left dating culture has turned trying to get to know someone into a numbers game. If you swipe right…

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Sept. 1, 2026

Ep 25. The Internet Has Broken Your Dating Standards

Are gold diggers actually lurking around every corner, just waiting to drain your bank account…or has dating advice on the internet convinced a whole bunch of men to fear a problem they most likely don’t have? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Liz Powell…

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Aug. 31, 2026

Ice Cream Is the Perfect First Date 🍦

We don’t understand people who hate “low-effort first dates,” because we LOVE them! A “low-effort” first date is the perfect way to get over those first-date jitters while still getting to know someone. And if you’re dating to marry? Well, we still think you should start with ice cream. You…

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