How much would you pay a matchmaker for the CHANCE at finding love? Nothing’s guaranteed, but you can also cut through all the noise that is modern dating. So we kind of get it. 😆 Not $60,000, get it, but it would be nice to have someone else sort through…
Would you rather spend a first date talking about your favorite color, sports team, and how many weddings you’re going to this summer OR talk about all the things you’re passionate about? The things that are meaningful to you and have shaped who you are. Which conversation do you think…
When it comes to relationships, women are socialized to make their partner’s life easier. They are often taught to take care of the house, raise the kids, and support their partner’s career. Men are taught their value comes from money and monogamy…or at least pretending to be monogamous. These gendered…
Would you pay over $60,000 to find a date? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell skip the Reddit disasters and get right to the source of modern dating…and why it sucks so much. Reading articles from The Cut,…
We should be in relationships because they feel good for everyone involved. They make us want to be better. We get to support each other. So if your partner is doing everything in their power to keep you from succeeding, is that really a relationship you want to be in?…
What if we’ve been thinking about the “friend zone” all wrong? Emotional needs and physical needs are different, and sometimes we get them met in very different places. For some of us, physical intimacy can feel WAY easier than actually letting someone get close enough to know us. And that…
It’s not your job to make your partner not mad. Full stop. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. And this is ESPECIALLY true if your partner gets mad at you for doing literally anything. On this week’s episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell stumble upon a Reddit post where…
It doesn’t matter how old or young you are, or how many relationships you have been in or haven’t been in. It doesn’t even matter how long your current relationship has lasted. There are going to be awkward moments and uncomfortable conversations. So if you can’t avoid them, why not…
Toxic or abusive relationships don’t always look like threats or physical violence. Sometimes your first sign that something isn’t right is when you’re always asking yourself: “How do I keep them from getting mad?” Maybe you’re always walking on eggshells or changing your behavior to manage your partner’s mood. That’s…
If your partner starts talking to you in a different language the first time you get in bed together, what would your reaction be? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O’Malley get back to their Reddit-y roots with two…
Building a healthy relationship starts with communication. You’re a person, so you’re going to have needs, wants, preferences, and desires. That’s okay! But how you communicate them can be the difference between a productive conversation and coming across as a weirdo waving a bouquet of red flags. And it doesn’t…
Dating apps have convinced us that getting matches is the goal, and if you don’t appeal to everyone, your chances of finding someone are basically zero. Trust us, that’s not the case. The more upfront you are about who you are and what you want, the better your matches will…
Consent is more than just getting a “yes,” especially in a new connection or relationship. That’s where the FRIES model comes in: 💚 Freely Given 💚 Reversible 💚 Informed 💚 Enthusiastic 💚 Specific And if you don’t think clearly communicating consent can be super steamy and hot??? You need to…
Communication can be difficult. Especially when you’re not great at reading social cues, or when you really, really want one specific answer from someone. So what happens when someone is on the fence, and you’re leaning super far in one direction? 🤔 If you push toward the answer you want,…
Not everything that looks like a boundary actually is one. Sometimes people use the language of boundaries to coerce, control someone else’s behavior, make demands, or apply pressure…all while insisting they’re just “communicating their needs.” On the latest episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are talking about the TikTok…
Have you heard about the infamous TikTok Voice Memo Guy? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O’Malley and Dr. Liz Powell fill you in on all the details, some questionable twists, and their thoughts on how weird it is to schedule getting laid…
If nothing has inherent meaning, why not choose joy, kindness, love, or connection? That’s the whole idea behind optimistic nihilism. Instead of saying, “Nothing matters, so why bother?” try saying, “Nothing comes with meaning, so I get to create a life that feels meaningful.” On the latest episode of the…
Are you actually getting mixed signals… or are you just hoping they’ll eventually become what you want them to be? 😬 When we really want someone to choose us, it’s easy to turn something totally ambivalent into a yes. It’s easy to read the tea leaves and get the answer…
This week on @DoAsWeSayPod, we’re bringing you two messy Reddit stories that might just have more in common than you might think. First, @DrLizPowell, @DrNerdLove, and Evita Sawyers, look at a poster in r/TrueOffMyChest. A son realizes his parents are in an open relationship, that might actually just be cheating.…
Trying to get a $1 relationship while only investing 15 cents isn’t the best way to approach a relationship. (And it won’t save you from pain or conflict either.) It’s scary to be vulnerable, to ask for what you need, or risk disappointment. But if your strategy is to always…
If it’s not an enthusiastic, consistent yes, it’s a NO. 🚨 Yeah, rejection and unrequited feelings suck. But continuing to chase someone who’s already told you who they are or how they feel isn’t going to end how you want. In fact, you might just be turning that person into…
We’ve said it before, we’re saying it now, and we’ll say it again: DON'T GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE! This week on @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrLizPowell and @DrNerdLove are joined by Jessica Daylover of @RemodeledLove for some truly eyebrow-raising dating stories from r/PolyAdvice. We all have private thoughts and feelings, even in…
The internet is great because you can find your people. But it also kind of sucks because those people might live thousands of miles away. And no matter how immaculate your group chat is, you still need some kind of community with the people who actually live around you. The…
How do you react when people tell you things you wish you’d never heard? In this episode of @DoAsWeSayPod, @DrNerdLove and @DrLizPowell are joined by Evita Sawyers for a conversation about emotional responsibility, connection, desire, and what happens when people treat others like solutions instead of human beings. First, they…