Welcome to Do As We Say, Not As They Did!

About

So... what's the deal with this podcast, anyway?

The rocky road to love is never easy, but especially today. Every day, it feels like there are new terms to learn, new relationship styles to try, new do's and don't's to follow and a neverending parade of confusing and contradictory complications. It's enough to make you swear off dating forever. 


But what if it didn't have to be such a nightmare? They say that experience is the best teacher... but nobody says that the experience has to be your own. Why not learn some valuable lessons from looking at other people's mistakes and have some laughs along the way?

That's where we come in. 

About the Show

Do As We Say, Not As They Did is your no-holds-barred guide to love, sex, and relationships. Hosted by the insightful Dr. Liz Powell and the not-a-real-doctor Dr. NerdLove (aka Harris O’Malley), this podcast dissects all the ways we stumble through their connections while offering a refreshing dose of honesty, humor and practical advice. We explore everything from the age-old question of whether love all you need to sustain a relationship, to the complex dynamics of gender roles, such as when women earn more than their male partners. We tackle the allure and potential pitfalls of the manosphere, delving into how ideologies like those discussed in "how the manosphere feeds the ego, but starves the soul" can impact one's relationships and sense of self, and critically examine the beliefs and claims made by movements like incels and looksmaxxers in "the lie incels and looksmaxxers are trying to sell you". We also venture into the evolving landscape of intimacy, touching on topics like the role of saliva in connection (yes, really!) and the exciting advancements in accessible adult toys.

What You'll Discover

  • Unpacking the impact of jealousy and what it signals about your relationship health.
  • Strategies for building genuine intimacy and connection with your partner(s).
  • How societal conditioning, including misogyny, can actively sabotage your love life.
  • Navigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships, including how to approach them authentically.
  • Differentiating between social media-inspired "red flags" and actual deal-breakers
  • Explaining and challenging the ideas, memes and beliefs spread by harmful online communities and their impact on individuals and relationships.
  • Exploring the evolving nature of gender and expression, and how to be a supportive partner.
  • The troubling new role of AI in dating, the realities of using technology in relationships, and why technology and surveillance is not a substitute for trust.

Who This Podcast Is For

This podcast is for anyone who's ever swiped right, swiped left, or just felt utterly baffled by the modern dating scene. If you're seeking honest conversations, practical advice that cuts through the noise, and a healthy dose of humor, you've found the right place. Whether you're single and looking to mingle, navigating the dating apps or the bar scene, in a long-term relationship and looking to strengthen your bond, or simply curious about the intricate tapestry of human connection, Do As We Say, Not As They Did is your go-to resource. We're here for the curious, the committed, and everyone in between.

Like we always say...

Do as we say... not as they did. 

About the Hosts

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Harris O'Malley

Harris O’Malley is an internationally recognized relationship expert, dating coach and syndicated advice columnist.

Famous for his ability to simplify complex dating dilemmas and solve the toughest relationship problems, he has long been sought after for coaching and advice.

Harris and his work have been featured in or on Nightline, Fusion TV, Vice, New York Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Harvard Business Journal, The Guardian, CBC’s Out In The Open, Buzzfeed, Wired, Think Progress, Raw Story, Slate, Boing Boing, The Good Men Project, The Daily Dot, Mel Magazine, Lifehacker, Kotaku and many, many more.

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Dr. Liz Powell

Dr. Liz believes that Great Sex Can Change the World. They are the author of Building Open Relationships, a sex educator, and licensed psychologist (CA 27871, OR 3068) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped folks of all kinds become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz at DrLizPowell.com, Sex-Positive Psych on YouTube, and @DrLizPowell on Instagram & Twitter.