Episodes

Wouldn't it be fantastic if you could wave a magic wand and "poof!" you could have the kind of relationship you want? Sounds great, but relationships don't work that way. You have more power than you think! Love is a process. In this episode, you will discover three significant ways to improve your relationship faster than you believe possible. Don't delay; listen today! Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

When you feel stressed, it's easy to take it out on your partner! Maybe they are taking their stress out on you? In this week's episode, my husband, Brian, and I talk about stress, expectations, and the pressures of society. Listen now to find out why your partner must come first and what you can do to alleviate some of the stress in your relationship! Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Life happens! How would you and your spouse adapt if one of you were suddenly unable to walk? In this episode, my husband, Brian, joins me as we share how a day out on the boat with our family turned into a race to shore and how we continued to navigate this unexpected accident. Listen now to hear about the frustrations, attitude changes, and opportunities we had to grow through adversity. I want to dedicate this episode to Melissa Hopkins; I will never forget Melissa's love and support. Follow...

I am willing to bet that thinking about your wedding day brings back some blissful memories! In this week's episode, my special guest is Abi Allen, and she shares the excitement and anticipation of her upcoming wedding day! Hear how Abi's romantic fiance, John, proposed to her and how they plan to manage their conflicts. Also, do you know that you are supposed to love your spouse the least on your wedding day? Listen now to find out more! Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monar...

This week's episode is jam-packed with thought-provoking ideas! Get ready as I take you for a short stroll down memory lane, address some of the frustrations and beliefs holding you back from the marriage you desire, and consider the "thing" about dogs. Keep listening to experience a unique invitation that will touch your heart! You will also find out how you can reconnect with your partner in a few simple ways. Remember, have an open mind and choose love! Follow me on Instagram! https://www.i...

Listening is not always easy. We have all experienced conversations with our spouses when they were waiting to respond and were not listening. My husband, Brian Hays, is my special guest on this week's episode. Listen now to learn how to improve your listening skills. Learn how conflict can be a source of connection and about the "Six-Month Theory" that can enhance the quality of your marriage. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Is it possible that you are contributing to your unhappiness? Do you believe that love is a "feeling"? In this week's episode, we are debunking what most people believe about love. Listen now to learn how a little self-awareness and one decision can transform your marriage. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

In this episode, Karen Ferritto and I discuss some of the essential ingredients needed to create a strong, loving marriage. You will learn why there is no such thing as a perfect partner and how simple choices can connect you to your spouse. Find out if you are an internal or an external processor Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

This week listen to hear about a bipolar relationship. When it was good it was incredible but when it was bad it was abusive. You will also learn about red flags, and the dangers of the things we don’t say in order to keep the peace. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Your greatest desire is to be loved. Do you think you can go through the motions with little effort? Think about that for a moment. In this episode, you'll hear a story about an extraordinary woman who chose to love despite her husband's deteriorating diagnosis. How do you envision the future of your marriage? Is your marriage everything you hoped it to be? If not, listen to learn about the small mindset changes that can help you to cultivate the love you hoped for when you said: "I do." Follow...

Let's face it, being a stepparent is not easy! It can be downright frustrating and can potentially put a strain on your marriage. So why are stepfamilies so challenging? Most of the time, it's because stepparents and stepchildren have a weak bond due to a lack of history and emotional bond. So how do you connect with your stepchildren? In this week's episode, my husband, Brian Hays, joins me, and we are discussing his role as a stepparent. Brian has experienced being a stepchild firsthand, and ...

It is easy to get complacent in relationships. However, if you want a more fulfilling relationship, growth is essential.Growth brings excitement to a relationship! Growth can reconnect you and your partner!Are you a people pleaser? Are you scared to be vulnerable? Isn't it time to choose growth? Choose love.This week's episode discusses the importance of self-awareness, growth, and change. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Today, we welcome back our special guest, Karen Ferritto who has been married for 33 years! In this episode, we discuss: - The influence of In-Laws - Why understanding and forgiveness are important to you - Why childhood wounds and trauma can connect you and your partner - The essential ingredient to creating a thriving relationship - How an important choice can help you see love in a different way - When "Dan" Houmes, LMFT challenges Michelle - How you can make better choices when it co...

Are the words and phrases you are using disconnecting you and your partner?The words you use are potent. They can deliver a message of love, appreciation, and respect.On the other hand, your words also have the power to hurt, offend, and cause disconnection. In this week's episode, you will learn how to use simple yet powerful words and phrases that can transform your relationship and help you to create the connection you crave! You'll also discover three factors that affect your communication ...

Toxic behaviors drain us. Maybe some toxic behaviors have creeped into your marriage? Listen in to learn what the good characteristics of a marriage are and how to include them in your marriage. Find out what Gandhi has to say and why genuine interest in what your partner has to say is important. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Step Families can be down right challenging. Do you feel like you are always walking on egg shells? Are you frustrated and confused? The good news is you're-normal! Most step families experience tension and resistance. This week I welcome my special guest, Karen Ferritto. Karen and her husband, Tony, and their four children have been living the step life for 33 years! In this episode, we'll share what we learned about step families, how we handle "the exes", the pain of failed marriages and on...

The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times. Dr. John Gottman uses this same metaphor to describe toxic behaviors that can predict a relationship's ending. This week we are exploring those toxic behaviors and how to avoid them in your relationship. Remember when you know better you can do better. Choose Love. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Most of us tend hold our tongues when it comes to conflict. Is that choice really making our relationships better? In this week’s episode, my husband, Brian Hays, joins me to discuss how our pasts affect our relationships, "The Pact" we recommend for all couples and how conflict can unexpectedly connect you and your partner. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Did you know that when we complain or nag there is actually an underlying DESIRE? How does your partner respond to your complaints or nagging? You repeat yourself because you believe they are not listening! I hear this from my clients all the time! It's not your message. It's your METHOD. As humans, we tend to complain. Nobody wants to hear us complaining. So we stop listening. Join me to find out how to communicate with your partner so they begin listening......again. Follow me on Instagra...

There are times when the thought of divorce may cross your mind. In this episode we discuss the decision to get divorced, what that may look like and how the decision to love can empower you. Thank you to Laverne Gay, my mom, for her love and support. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Surrounding ourselves with friends who have successful marriages and relationships is essential. Friends who can empathize and share rather than judge and criticize. Today my friend Sally Palmer joins me to share our tips on self-care, the healing power of walking, seeking understanding, cranky days and much more! Thank you Sally Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Do you have a fixed mindset? Are you stuck in a belief that things cannot change in your relationship? How would your relationship change if you opened up your heart and mind to the possibility of change? Let's find out how having a growth mindset is an important aspect of change! Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Have you been saying the same things over and over in your relationship? Let's shake up how we think about communicating with our partners. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

Here's the story of two people who fell in love and gave up on each other. There was plenty of love but definitely not enough communicating. Are you feeling unheard, unappreciated and ultimately unloved? The reality is we all just get lost. Let's find our way back to love. Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/