Monarch for Love

Welcome to Monarch for Love. I'm Michelle Hays and I'm a relationship coach who believes that love is the most important aspect of our lives. I believe love is life's greatest gift. I have spent decades researching and studying how relationships that are once fun, passionate, and happy can become heartbreaking, unfulfilling, and hurtful. I was an unhappy wife. Twice! I know that choosing love is always the path to true happiness, a fuller life, and a passionate partnership.

Love is a decision! It's a decision we must make every day. Love is meant to be cultivated yet it is too often dismissed and ultimately destroyed because we lack the skills and knowledge to nourish it. We are here to change all that. Join me as we learn how to create loving, lasting relationships and open ourselves, our pasts, our hearts, and our dreams, and discover what it is we are all truly looking for…love.

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Ep, 230 - Feeling Unloved In Your Marriage? This May Be Why!
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Sept. 28, 2026

Ep, 230 - Feeling Unloved In Your Marriage? This May Be Why!

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores the painful disconnect that happens when love is present but goes unrecognized. Discover how assumptions, unmet expectations, and the stories we tell ourselves can create emotional distance—even in marriages where two people genuinely love each other. You’ll learn how to recognize the love that may have become invisible, get curious about what you’re really feeling, and communicate your needs without turning disappointment into disconne
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Ep. 229 - The Truth About Compatibility in Marriage
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Sept. 22, 2026

Ep. 229 - The Truth About Compatibility in Marriage

In this week's episode, Michelle challenges the belief that strong relationships are built on sameness. You’ll learn why differences in communication, emotions, and personality do not automatically mean you chose the wrong person—and why understanding matters more than thinking alike. Compatibility may make love feel easier at first. But curiosity, emotional regulation, repair, and respect are what help love last when life gets hard.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsboo
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Ep. 228 - Stop Chasing Your Husband
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Sept. 15, 2026

Ep. 228 - Stop Chasing Your Husband

In this week's episode of the Monarch for Love Podcast, Michelle explains the difference between reaching for connection and creating pressure. You’ll learn how anxiety can turn a healthy need into a demand, why the pursue-withdraw cycle keeps couples stuck, and how to express what you need without pushing your partner further away. The answer isn’t to stop caring. It’s to reach for connection in a way that invites your husband closer.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedhearts
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Ep. 227 - Why Love Isn’t Enough to Save a Marriage
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Sept. 8, 2026

Ep. 227 - Why Love Isn’t Enough to Save a Marriage

Can two people deeply love each other and still struggle to stay connected? Absolutely. In this week's episode, Michelle challenges one of the most common beliefs about relationships: that love should be enough. Love may bring two people together, but love alone does not teach us how to regulate our emotions, communicate when we are hurt, repair after conflict, challenge our assumptions, or create emotional safety. Michelle shares what she learned from the end of her first marriage, the struggl
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Ep. 226 - Silent Treatment vs. Stonewalling: What’s Really Happening?
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Sept. 1, 2026

Ep. 226 - Silent Treatment vs. Stonewalling: What’s Really Happening?

Is your spouse using silence to punish you—or are they emotionally overwhelmed and shutting down? In this episode of the Monarch for Love Podcast, Michelle explains the important difference between the silent treatment and stonewalling—and why confusing the two can create even more hurt and distance in a relationship. You’ll learn how silence can become a weapon, why some partners withdraw when their nervous system becomes overwhelmed, and how the stories we tell ourselves during those quiet mo
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Ep. 225 - Why You Feel Unloved in Your Marriage
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Aug. 25, 2026

Ep. 225 - Why You Feel Unloved in Your Marriage

Why can you be deeply loved by your spouse and still feel completely unloved? In this episode of the Monarch for Love Podcast, Michelle explores how quickly assumptions can shape the way we see our spouse. A missed text, a distracted response, or a lack of affection can easily become, “They don’t care,” “I’m not important,” or “Nothing will ever change.” But assumptions are not facts. You’ll learn how negative stories create defensiveness, distance, and confirmation bias—and how one simple shift
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