#33 How Successful Men Control Their Lives, with Ray "Cash" Care

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You Here, you can leave a review up to five stars and share this with friends, family and colleagues, today's guest is Ray cash, care and raise former Navy SEAL, and he is helping men from all over the world and physically mentally emotionally, spiritually financially, he's working with bedros and some other great, guys, other guests that I've had on here and we'll have on here and they're just doing awesome things for men and Youth.

And in our conversation day, we talked about his story as you know, rough start things were tough.

He had a, he had a tough go, but he refused to just acquiesce and give up.

He refused to believe what others were saying about him and initially started to prove them wrong.

But then as we talked about in this episode, proving yourself, right?

Instead of going along, you know, with kind of a chip on your shoulder and man, we talked about the, the complacency, the many men have a being a man and looking for the Easy out those who are avoiding responsibility or, you know, not doing anything or not, taking care of their bodies or not showing up as they could and should, and how successful men really control their life and all the important elements of Life, the things they can control, they lean into that to plan and schedule to work out eat well sleep.

Well, that just do all the things that really matter.

So you guys are going to love this episode and all the great It's you pick up here from Ray and his experience and his life and historian who has become and how he gets to work with men and show these inside.

So let's jump in.

All right, brother, we are excited to learn from you today, man.

Why don't you just start off with?

Give us some of your background because I know you've got, you've had your hands and your life and all kinds of cool stuff.

So give us a background.

Then we'll dive into the whole idea of becoming a man.

Yeah well I guess you noticed talk about now you got to start the beginning.

So Baltimore native 50 years, young grew up on the wrong side of the tracks.

Violent was pretty much voluntold to join the Navy College.

Wasn't going good for me abusive relationship at home.

Join the Navy was told I was never going to amount to anything.

You know, Screw you.

Sorry about, you know, I wanted to show everybody that I was I was destined for more which I'll talk about you know for the longest time I was doing things to prove people wrong.

Now, with the growth of who I am now, I produce things to prove myself, right?

Serve 12 years in the military, 14 years, working with the government agency World met, my beautiful wife who have no business being with.

I got her tattooed on my arm.

That's, that's my prenup.

So she stuck with me, funny, baby, and now I have the pleasure of being business partners with bedros, keuilian in three businesses, which is the project.

The 25-hour kicking the black which we talked about ahead of time the LTD which is leadership team development training, which is our corporate training that we do a PG version of very professional version of what we do with the project nice and then my passion and then my passion project.

Yeah I told you have Fox News talking to me right now is the father-son program.

My father was murdered when I was 11 and you know, we throw these words in society around a lot and that is toxic and Any and I don't think there are tosk.

Toxic masculine men.

I just think there's toxic men because I feel like I'm a masculine man.

But I treat women with respect, I don't raise my voice right, what?

But if you disrespect, my queen or my princess, then I will become toxic.

But not because I'm asked, I'm a masculine man, but because I am the protector.

All right, my home which, which may not even be toxic.

It's just like that's the right thing to do.

When you do cross the boundary it's like I won't.

I will turn from friendly too Fierce.

Yep.

Anything right.

I'm the the line, right?

The Lioness runs.

Runs.

The pack.

We know this.

The wife runs at.

I love each race.

That's my wife.

But as I've said before, and I've gotten some grief from this to write is.

If someone were to break into my home, I have we have roles in our house.

My wife knows her roles when I'm home, and when I'm not home, And my daughter does and my son, who is now 28, if he visits, you knows his roles and if someone breaks into my home, my wife is behind me, right?

And I'm going to go take care of things, she's not beside me, she's not in front of me now.

I know that with every good man, there's a great woman who is beside her in front of him, but there are roles and responsibilities in my wife, accepts that role and responsibility, same.

And I am the protector of the home.

So if you mess with me and what's mine, I will flip that switch and become that.

Ferocious Beast.

Yes.

I you know with the training but here's the difference you don't have to be a Navy SEAL to do that.

Any man, any man that loves his family and loves what his family represents will do that.

Now, if you're married to a world-class pistol shut, who's a female?

Let her up front.

No babe, you know, my wife has her roles and she educates and teaches my Things that I have no business doing.

So I stay in my Lane, she stays in her Lane, but she is proficient with a gun and so is my daughter.

So if I'm not there, then they my wife will step up into that role because you know, that's the biggest fear of man has is being on the road and something happening when he's not there to protect his tribe.

That's that's like people ask me.

What do you fear that?

That exactly.

So but what do I do as a man as a mask?

Oh man I trained the females I trade of anybody in my life and my family had.

Protect themselves to the destiny of Koreans who are training our kids.

And I think you're spot on brother.

There is a time to be dangerous as men and and I think every man I don't know, maybe this is too bold but maybe every man ought to have that switch when somebody brings a fight to your doorstep like they're going to get they're going to get answer with a fight, right?

If they cross the line, if they push too far, there has to be a response and I don't find that to be toxic.

I find that to be Good thing to keep malice and malevolence at Bay, I think.

And again, I know I'm going to get grief for this.

So you I think every male is born with that switch.

I agree.

But Society, things way down on it where they want to flip a society and identity issues.

And this, and political, that's not me, like, I know what my role is like, perfect example, I can, I can barely change a light bulb, but that's not my strength, right?

I'm not mechanically inclined.

And but if you put a gun in my hand, and I have to protect my house, I will clear that house with the best stuff.

I will do everything.

I will do everything in my power at all costs and I want to make that very clear any cost to protect what is mine.

The rules of you know you know you hear the rules now of.

Will someone breaks in your house and have a two-story house?

Just tell them.

Hey take whatever you want.

It's not and then leave.

No, no, I work hard for what I have.

My wife is a stay-at-home mom.

She has a toughest job in the world.

Making money is easy compared to being a stay-at-home mom.

So I'm not going to let someone disrespect all the hard work.

That not only I but my wife is put into you.

I mean seriously keep your house, looks beautiful.

My wife decorates the house, I don't I don't have it in writing skill, she does all that.

Like on I just okay, like, I don't care.

So, I, as a man, it's my job to go down and protect what she is done.

You know what I mean?

Everybody's a goal that can be replaced.

It can be b-but, you know, the effort and the time that my wife put into creating this atmosphere because a home is an at me, right?

It's, you know, the you walk into someone's house and you kind of get a feel for who they are from their own.

We have a beautiful home and that's not because I make decent money.

It's because my wife's really good.

It getting the right stuff or hiring or whatever she does care.

That's not my role here, make the house.

Look, beautiful, I'll go work more.

Make sure our daughter goes to the great school and does, you know.

It's I just think if people Stay in their Lane more.

Yes, and and understood what their roles and responsibilities were.

I'm not saying I don't go on a hurtling at times and she doesn't come to my Lanes at times.

But, you know, I have a 14 year old daughter who's doing going through things, that's not my Lane man.

Now my wife wasn't a part of my life or she was taken from me and some, you know, God forbid, then, yes, I would step up and do exactly what right now.

That's I don't need to I do I'm concerned.

I know that Mom's taking care of her.

So let's dive into that a little bit brother because I know like you and I get to do coaching me to work with people and some couples really struggle with them.

My wife and I have the same agreement is like we've talked through and and chosen I feel like we're very equally yoked so to speak were just in this together but we have our roles.

And how did you guys get to?

That is, did you is a lot of talking, a lot of work.

A lot of, was there some stepping on the toes?

How do you get to this place?

Where you both just feel really comfortable?

And I because I know a little bit about you, I know you're chasing Mastery and I'm assuming your wife's driven to, she course.

She's right.

She's right.

You guys are going to have a role and you're gonna do it with Excellence.

How do you get there?

Well, I mean, obviously communication is transmitting and receiving, right?

What we try to do the line of sight communication, right?

I'm not vectoring, I'm not bouncing.

I want when I speak to my wife about things that are Critical in the family role.

It's, that's not with a phone, that's not with an email, that's not with body language.

That's man, looking at woman talking in a controlled environment, phones off and letting her know that there's no other place on Earth.

I'd rather be because this is very important, that's number one.

How did we get to where we are?

A lot of trout, are a lot of me, messing up doing things.

I will can be completely.

Us too.

If you file, I hope she has list.

This one, my daughter was like three or four days old and it was like, hell week all over again.

I was tired.

I was running up and down the stairs.

My parents were there and I don't know.

She had me going up and down stairs and ladies, if you listen, I apologize it ever since that I have, I've got to get diapers.

But my wife said, hey, go back down and get this.

And I said, why don't you go down and get it being a stay-at-home mom?

So So now people say that takes some some real, cojones to say, the reason why I say it is since the day that that happened and I mean there were some ramifications believe me I have gotten up every day every day since then said.

Thank you for being a stay-at-home mom.

I learned my lesson, she went here, you watch her and I was like you know like I got I wasn't thrown into the fire.

The fire was thrown on me, man.

It was like holy crap.

So I think the best way that you can do that is number one, you need to understand that there are certain things as a man that we're just not good at like we can get it done, right.

I am chasing the art of being a the Mastery of everything.

But yes, I'm not going to be a subject matter expert in everything.

So me and my wife have had a lot of dialogue and what I like to do with my family and I do this every we try to do this every Sunday as we have an AA.

Our after action report on one thing and might just so you know my daughter her name is Nyla.

She's 14.

She's included in this.

Yes, we don't talk about money in front of my daughter but we will talk about how we can be better or worse.

Now if me and my wife had my daughter's at school and we have an argument about something and it let's say it got, you know, when I say he did you know where Bickering at each other.

We're not going to discuss that in front of my daughter.

But if I'm short because I've got a business deal which I'm guilty of and I've snipped a little bit, you know my daughter will say hey Daddy you know I thought you did, you always finish you always start with two things that you need to improve on one thing that you did.

Good always end on a high note, Daddy, I noticed you kind of were a little snippy when you picked me up from here and here, I was hoping next week you couldn't do that.

Okay, beautiful.

But you know what?

You know, even though you were super busy you because we always do daddy-daughter, we do, I do date night with my wife and daddy daughter night.

We my daughter usually go to a Mexican restaurant and there was a couple times where like we were doing daddy-daughter date case in point.

I gave her feedback to she wanted to bring her friend and I said, Hey, listen, I don't mind bringing your friend but don't count this as daddy-daughter night.

When we're bringing your friend because the phone, right?

Just so, you know, Dad's this isn't spending time with your dog.

Oh exactly.

This is like I have a special ringtone for my wife and beige Rose and my other business partner, Steve.

Other than that, The pope could call and I'm not picking up when I'm doing them.

What?

I was not always like that.

That's what I got.

A lot of my AR Daddy, when you're to dinner table, you're on your phone, boom, there it is game changer right there, in changer will turn off the TV or will turn on music what we do now.

Like things we do is we put on that Alexa Play the song and why we're eating we're singing like we're doing things as a family.

I try to use technology to my advantage for a lot of people like, you know, this is a crime.

But Alexa play, one of our favorite songs Islands in the Stream.

The three of us sing.

I do the guy.

I do.

Kenny Rogers, they do Dolly Parton.

Yes what are we doing with that?

We're creating this amazing thing called a memory, right?

And that goes into that just goes into the the book, right?

This is the photograph book or the memory book here and that's what I want my daughter to remember and that's what I want her doing.

I want hopefully she'll meet that same kind of man, that will give her that love and attention.

And then they'll be doing that with my grandkids, right?

Yeah, you're setting the standard for an awesome family family environment its key is it's crucial.

I love it.

Beautiful brother.

Hey I want to Circle back to something.

You said early on, like, right from the get-go.

You, you just had this thing about, like, they were saying that you weren't going to make it.

Like, why didn't you just believe them?

Like what made the difference Man?

By?

Why don't you just because I was at a point, like so I ended up out of my own at 16 as well, and there was a couple Or people just would say stuff and I was like, yeah, tell me something.

I didn't.

I don't know, right?

I was in a low mental state where I just believed it, I got out of it where you did.

I'm like, oh yeah I'm gonna I'm gonna prove you wrong and then I'm going to prove myself right?

What was what was it?

That drove you early on man?

Well I think it was a combination of things.

It's a lot of my friends were getting in trouble.

I was doing Roofing growing up.

You know, I was doing I was doing a lot of bad things, drinking and drugs, you know, that was a different time.

I'm 50 years old.

No, we didn't have nothing was filmed.

Nothing with, you know, you got away with anything back in the day, you know?

And I remember it was just, like I said, it was, you know, oh, I would grew up doing Roofing and I would save my money and I had a car and I'll never forget, like, we had like, a month of rain.

Like, I can't control the rain, but I can't get up on the roof when it rains.

And, you know, someone in my family doesn't matter is, oh, you know, I always paid my car on time and there was gonna be like a month where I couldn't back then was like, 100 something dollars.

Got a bunch of grief.

Oh you know you need to join the military because you can't make it and blah, blah blah on you know, to be quite honest with you sir for the longest time.

I didn't believe that.

And you know, it's something that I do that.

I coach now it's ass.

I do a self-reflection drill and I'll never forget, I had was coming.

I came home from a bar in Towson, I can't remember what I had for breakfast, two months ago.

I usually the same thing so I do.

But I came home and I I was intoxicated and I think I'd smoke some weed of dumb kid behind a wheel.

And I looked in the mirror, my father was murdered when I was 11 and he was a good man but he had a lot of bad habits will either leave it at that and when I looked into the mirror, I saw him I didn't see me and I didn't want to take that path because he was murdered.

And I think a lot of the issues that stem with me.

My mother is I remind my mother and a spitting image of him.

They had a better, very bad relationship and I said, you know, I can either go down the same Corridor, the same path or, you know, I say f it Fu, that's what I say to myself.

Ethic like listen, this is the hand you were dealt.

Like, I say to myself in a nice and then I say the fu Not to you, but to myself, like, come on.

Right?

You're better than this dig deeper, right?

That's where I came up with the attack, the hill Mantra, where I do everything different.

And I was like, if they're telling me, I can't do it.

It's because what I used to think of this.

Because the reason why I think there's the haters and naysayers out there is because they tried it and it didn't work for them just because it didn't work for them.

It doesn't mean it's not going to work for me.

So my thing was, I said screw it.

Let's go balls to the wall and see what happens, right?

Like I'm going to join the Navy and I'm going to become a Navy SEAL and everybody said you can't do it, okay?

Roger that and truth be told brother had to take the ASVAB tabs test, the total three times just to get the mechanical the score second time.

I took it, I missed it by one.

One point, one point and the difference between me doing it the second time and a third time is, I just studied the second time the third time, I asked the gentlemen, I'll never forget him.

His name was yn1.

Coughlin he was a, you know, work the Yeoman and he said I'm going to help you get some external classes because he saw the drive that I had.

And I remember this Like, it was yesterday but you have to wait a certain amount of time.

So it's total like a year and I'm taking, I took the test and I'm standing in front of right.

I was in E2.

He was an E6 is doing this thing.

You know, you don't know your standard attention.

He's like, you know, Seaman Apprentice care.

I'm like hey why and what, how do you think you did?

And I mean, I mean I'm sweating because like that was, this was my shot.

This is it.

And I don't know, and he doesn't even look up at me and he goes Cause he's like, I'm ever he's like reading something, right?

Something he goes, he passed and he said it so nonchalant.

It was like cereal.

He says, do you have any questions with me?

And it was like I was overwhelmed with emotion like I mean I tears coming down my eyes because I work.

So, friggin hard for this.

I mean why everybody else was out drinking and chasing girls, you know, I was knows the books.

I mean yeah I still I wasn't a monkey, right?

But I was dedicated to what I need to be done and he goes, you have any And I said, yeah, petty officer Cochrane looked up at me and I'll never forget this night, get emotional.

Every time he says will ghost, you want to know what your score is, don't you?

Damn, right.

I do because it doesn't.

And this is what he told me.

This is how I've lived my life ever since it.

I love this guy, he goes, he looked at me.

He took off his glasses ghost, doesn't matter what your score is it matters what you do with the score that you got from this moment forth?

I sat there for a minute part of me was like gosh damn it.

What is my score?

And he just looked at me goes.

Don't worry about the score.

What are you going to do with the fact that you passed it?

So I started with my buds class and I finished with my buds class and that's what I try to teach everybody, right?

Like we talked about it, have a book coming out.

Oh you're a Navy SEAL, I don't judge a man or a woman on these things.

I don't judge people on their political views, I don't their race.

Race their color.

What I judge people want, what they've done.

Its what they're doing right now from the handshake, from the eye contact to.

Hey, what are you doing?

Like, when you get to know people, what are you doing?

You know what are you doing for charity, right?

You know, I see I meet a lot of people with church start to get in a church.

God, I'm really liking that.

What do you do in your spare time?

How are you giving back to the community?

Yes, all this stuff, I'm not gonna lie to you, I didn't Up with this shit by myself.

My boss taught me this because when I got interviewed with Pedro scullion number one, I showed up three hours early because if you earlier, on time, if you're on time, you're late, you're late, you're fired, but he said right, you know, he said, tell me a little bit about yourself, and I opened up for him, but in a speaking event, we really hit it off.

And I said, well sir, this was the job interview.

Like he's I'm not worried about your resume Ryan, who you are.

I can teach you anything.

He goes.

I said, well, I'm not the biggest the fastest, the strongest and I can make it most money.

There's right, he's big.

He puts his hand on the shoulder goes.

That's not how you start with me.

I said, but no one will outwork me, be more loyal, bring the lime and shovel and he goes, you're hired, that was how I got hired.

He goes, but I want to test you and I said, okay, he goes, I want to ask you something.

I want you to fill it in and I want people to listen, because this is what Society is done.

This is, this is society, this isn't my fault, he goes.

All right, you ready?

This is the topic is money.

Okay, money, I like money.

And the more you make.

The more I take.

No.

Okay let's try it again.

The more you make The more I take so after like two or three times of him going.

No, I said, sir, I'm Irish.

I'm three years older than you.

I don't know what, if you keep asking me this question, I'm going to keep answering same way and this is what he says to me.

He believes and he goes because we were you were kind of sitting and he goes re it's the more you make the more you give.

Yeah, I don't understand.

And he goes, of course you don't understand.

You don't make enough money to 0 and I'm like What he goes, let me teach you how to make enough money where because a man him sent me a man only needs so much right, you know?

I mean I've got the truck on my dreams.

Now my wife has a giant ring, you know, we're investing.

We're doing everything and now we got to that point he goes, okay, now right now it's time to start giving giving the church.

It's more breast cancer.

So they, so man, I stroked nice checks.

And, you know, what I do now is I stroke these checks And instead of me going up at a thing, my wife gets up there she has no damn clue there like this Trish.

If you have that she's like yeah, you know.

So and I'm not gonna lie to you.

I got goosebumps, it feels good, it feels so good.

Um and I didn't believe him and I after this happened, you know, I walked up to him, he goes I know because he was with me when I gave like a 5000 and that's not a lot compared to him but 5,000 and he would be like 50 or 500 to him but it felt good.

You know what are you not worried about things or because you know, I know, Everybody's like, you know, money is the root of all evil snow.

It's not money, doesn't even buy happiness.

A money is a vessel for freedom to create.

For me, it's time and opportunity to doc doc doc.

So my three dots are simply.

This invest, my daughter goes to the school that my wife wants her to go to and my wife is a stay-at-home mom.

Like she's the one like that drives my daughter to school every day and I pick her up or do that.

And, but for me, That's all I need, right?

So I don't need, they know like Pedro's, you know, he's gazillionaire, he's like listen here, worth 500 million dollars, you got 500,000 problems.

I'm like for 500 grams or whatever up, like I'd be happy with like 1 million bucks, he's like, but it's true with, you know, that's what's so important that people need to understand is I don't live life for money.

I live life for fulfillment, Impact in the make a difference.

And I know that's easier said, now that I've kind of gotten much more comfortable and I've climbed up the ranks.

I mean three years.

I've, you know, I've tripled my income, but Sons a bitches really was working on Christmas.

I work with me on vacations, you know, to earn your spot.

So my point is the whole as I bring this, do you know the full circle is?

Number one.

Don't let anybody tell you you can't do anything.

Number two.

Yes.

So don't do things to prove people wrong.

Do things to prove yourself, right?

Because when you look in that mirror, if you see all the other people yelling at you, you've got to look at yourself and say we got this and then number three is the more you make, the more you give and it doesn't even have to be with money.

You know, the most precious thing that you can give somebody.

I think is time and advice, not not.

Ian's advice.

And I think once you start out, not only thing I know that once you start doing that, people will be much more receptive.

And people people know when you're when you really care about you know like with courses that I'm running.

Even though it doesn't look like I care on social media, I do that.

Looks like nobody wants to be there when you let it fly.

That's awesome brother.

If you set out, you said something that was so profound.

It's like you're Crossing this threshold into an abundance mindset and abundance way of being.

Yes, and I love to hear you say this.

Like once you get there it is so much more fulfilling and rewarding, it's rewarding.

Words of giving back, are massive, and I thought it was the corniest damn thing in the world.

When he said to me, I won't lie to you.

I mean, as God is my witness when he said that I was like, man, you are so full of shit.

Your eyes are round of blue.

Sorry.

I did.

I was like the dumbest thing ever.

Of course, that's what the rich guy says, right.

Like, you know, it's nice to, you know, like we used to give a certain amount at the church and now we give a little bit more, a little bit more, and, you know, Pastor Hank.

I got to give a shout out to pasture.

Hey, you know, he Like listen Ray, I noticed that you've been given some real generous donations.

I said, yes, sir, you goes just so happens.

I'm doing a sermon today on resiliency and I said that's awesome.

Sorry, go.

So I want you to do something else for me, I'm like, I'm sorry those.

I'm running to 30 minute because he speaks for 30 minutes.

They have the choir.

I want you to do.

You know?

I do. 22 push-ups on the minute, every minute for 60 minutes.

That's thirteen hundred, twenty push-ups.

He goes.

I want you to do that.

Cut that in half and do it for church as I'm speaking.

And I'm like, during during the sermon boring, the surviving you crank?

Yes.

And I was like, okay, we'll put me in the back and, you know, be quiet.

Nope, I show up.

There's a, there's a little like foot high stage right beside him with them.

And what are you gonna do?

Tell the pastor know what he was like.

Now you do know if you say no I'm gonna, you know, he knows about my past.

He goes I'm gonna expedite you going south instead of North.

I'm not.

No sir, I'll go, I'll go.

He was joking, but man, it feels so good.

Like my point is, it's not.

He didn't want the money.

He wanted, he wanted, you know, the Blood Sweat, and Tears and it was huge.

I mean, I actually from that channel, 3 news did a feature on me, my local news team and I got hero the month and my wife was part of it.

So she got a little Tiki with me so that was really cool.

You know very cool.

Yeah very cool.

And that's what I go off tangent.

So you know this is this is Awesome.

That's what I'm talking about and see, see behind the scenes because we have to see the whole man, right?

It's the whole package because, you know, as well as I do and anyone with yourself your own experience and working with others.

Like you can't leave.

You can't leave party yourself undone.

Yeah.

Right.

Because you end up, you know, some some form of atrophy, whether it's mental or emotional, or spiritual, or whatever, and and you limp along and this becomes this problem in your life and it starts to show up in fact.

And this is Perfect time to switch.

Is like, what do you what do you seeing is the major problems?

Men are facing and what are the underlying causes?

I mean, what's what's, what's the issue?

And what's, how can we address it?

I know that's a big broad question but I know you're in your own experience and the people you get to work with like what's what's showing up?

What's not working and what's causing the problem?

Wow.

Trying to back it up.

You're good.

That's a good question which I do.

I gotta answer the right way.

I don't want to get food off.

Um, you know, the problem I see with men is complacency in being a man, boom.

Too many men are in feel or entitled, or enabled, or like case.

In point I get married.

I'm gonna get a divorce.

No man, you work through it.

It you got to want pregnant, you're not stepping up to the plate, you're sitting around when you know instead of trying to get a job collecting checks on other people's, you know, hard-earned money.

And I know this is going to piss some people off.

You know, you're living at home at 40.

It's just and I could go on and on and on not being a positive role model for the community not doing anything for the community.

Not here you go, physical fitness, not taking care of yourself.

I'm 50 years old and I'm seeing men in their 20s that are 40 pounds overweight.

And I just did a article for muscle and fitness and I tell people I will not apologize for being a fit male Alpha.

I won't, I won't do it, I will not apologize and everybody's like, well, you know, like, case in point and and I see it like I can wear something.

It's worse with winning.

My wife's a very attractive woman, very small.

She can wear a pretty solid sundress.

Very classy and a woman who I'm not being rude.

Who's a little more out of shape.

Look at her.

Look at her.

She don't work for it but I'll see some women and guys wearing shit.

That's totally inappropriate for their body type with a lot of skin and society says, can't say anything that I don't say anything about that.

Thing to me is just like I had a guy the other day that came up to me and said you know I'm six foot.

One 283 pounds is not muscle.

He's like yeah I think I'm a little overweight.

I'm like, you know, the overweight you're you're fat.

And he was like he would like he wanted to come to my course and I was like, you have two.

I need you under 240 pounds.

You just you just can't do it.

He's like, I can't believe he called me fat.

I'm like, well, maybe you need one here, that's right.

I mean, I didn't say look Lee and he called me back and he's like, he was in tears.

He's like, you know, I appreciate that.

I'm like, I'm not calling you that word because I'm being cruel.

I'm calling you that word.

Because number one, it's true.

And number two, you told me for the last six months, you ordered food out the whole time, even, In front of the computer, because your job told you, you could stay home.

Even though the job told me to go back, he chose to stay home, right?

So not only are you fat, you're lazy.

And I think if more men were receptive to receive that kind of message, because man, listen, here's how it works, sir.

If I'm messing up, tell me right now if I'm messing up, don't it situation awareness right?

Right case in point, here you go, the school.

The Squire program, dad, you have a son.

I see You'd adding and I see something that I don't agree with now, I could go.

Hey sir.

Hey, that's a dumb thing.

You're doing in front of your son?

No no no.

Don't you ever?

Or I could say Excuse me sir.

Can you come over here for a second?

Yeah.

Hey listen, here's the deal.

Just so, you know.

I'm also a father, I'm 50 years old.

How old are you, sir?

344.

Okay, good.

And I have a 28 year old son and you know with the course of your son's between the ages of 14 and 16, I've got it, got it, got it.

So here's what I see from an outside perspective, all I want you to do dad is here what I say Throw, throw it in a dad tool bag and we need add up, maybe try it, boom to Tennessee diplomacy well, Missy, thank you.

Now, if I pull, if I said that in front of you, if you said that, if you pull me, aside said, Hey, listen, I don't like what you're doing to your son in front of my son.

I'd be like go but and I think the world needs that they're in there.

But there is a time to call a man out on his shit.

I think more men need to be called out on, yes.

Well, the great trap that they're doing this thing.

I don't know if that makes sense or not, you know, I just don't, it's an Awakening to the complacency you're talking about, and if it's done with diplomacy and tact, it's almost like just holding up a mirror and hey saying, Hey brother.

Look honest talk here, man.

The stories you've been telling yourself.

You know, the excuse, you're making his hold up a mirror here.

Let's just own this and break free from this complacency in the laziness and the excuses and level up, be your B be the best version of yourself.

Yeah, that's the thing right?

Everybody wants to be someone else.

And I tell everybody, I just had a conversation with Pedro schooling today.

Like I drove his, we have we have matching trucks, mine's a different color than this is.

I'm driving his truck back.

He's in the things I said, I don't want to be you.

I just want to be a better version of me, from learning from what you.

Music is a good.

This, he's good.

He's good at what he does.

He's I told him about this comment.

See you really intoxicating, right.

Is, like, like me, people were drawn to certain types of, like, a moth to a flame.

So I think I has, I scored my wife who score but and the thing when the guy called me back, the one that I called fat, what's so, what's so important for everybody to understand is what he called me back?

I think he flipped the switch mentally and emotionally and Said.

Well this guy's right?

I'm going to take ownership over this.

Yes.

So when he called me back he was like what do I do?

What do I do?

Okay, so now the guy has owned up to his mistake.

He's taking ownership on it and now he's reaching out for help.

So what did I do?

I told him what listen, this is what you do.

I have this program, it's okay my program.

Yes, it's another fee you do this program.

What I'll do is I'll take that off the thing for this or just do the program for three. - lets get you in shape if you don't even want to do the, the big package, who cares.

We got you, 40 pounds, lighter your hearts, working, better.

You know, you're going to, you're going to feel more confident in yourself.

You're going to live longer and no offense.

Your wife's probably gonna like it too, because when you're, when I look at a male, you're in shape, you groomed, hair looks good.

It shows me that you have.

You ready for this word?

It's a horrible word discipline.

Yeah.

And Discipline is key when I look at a fit, man, who takes care of himself discipline, right?

My first date of my wife, got the truck, leaned, right Immaculate, she didn't come over right away, but I had a clean way.

I mean my house was Immaculate because sometimes, you know, you only have one shot him.

The only have one shot to make and it's not even impressed to make it impact, you know, how you have a clean house?

Well, yeah, great.

You know, she she's like I thought you were Be a while.

Maybe.

See all the bastard.

I had my eyes fixed on this one.

So I, everything else was gone.

Everything's in order baby only giving you come by anytime you want.

There's nobody here.

She started stopping by and believe me.

I mean I mean this is respect what boy she made me.

Wait for the prize but boy it was worth it, you know.

I mean we I courted her for months and how true is that for everything in life, brother?

Look at this.

I got Tim Kennedy of all people calling me right now is nice.

Nice.

And that's what's so important is men.

Don't do it because you want to do it because you need it.

Yeah I need to be a better man for my family.

I need to be a better provider for my family almost cost.

I get so emotional and I need to be fit so I can live longer to make an impact on this Earth.

Yes.

And the myth that men take responsibility and accountability for their actions.

Look in the mirror.

Do a self-reflection drill when your family your Finances and faith family.

Are you a good father?

Husband son, whatever Avenue of a man, you are right?

Fitness, are you physically, mentally, emotionally?

Strong Fitness is three-dimensional.

Finances.

Are you doing?

What you can are?

You finances?

Are you living in the moment, right?

I have my high risk.

My medium risk.

My.

My safety stuff.

Right?

Are you are you prepping for the future, right?

It's Tony.

Robbins said, winter is coming.

Winter is here.

It is.

Here it is here since degrees where I'm at right now, Winter is here.

Yep, and then, faith faith doesn't have to be religious.

I've got to be careful with religion, right?

We do.

But it might be ritual spiritual.

What I do is I use team care.

Team, trust effort, attitude Mission.

Trust you got to trust yourself.

Trust the ones you love.

Trust the process of what you guys are doing effort.

Don't give me 100%.

Give me every freaking thing.

You got 24/7.

Attitude, nothing will open or close a door in this world, you know, and life in.

Good or bad attitude.

And then last is the mission.

In their mission is grow for six forms of growth.

Physical mental, emotional social spiritual Financial until him.

You do exactly the same thing.

Now your, your pecking order may be different than mine.

I don't care don't care but just as long as you're covering all those growths cover up, right?

And all I did like I have a son.

My job is to teach in the same damn thing, right?

My son, you know, I've opened the car door for my wife.

And daughter.

Since the first day I met my wife first day I brought my wife and daughter home.

She's 14 Daddy, I could door.

My son has daughters, does the same thing, my daughter and wife can open the car door by themselves.

They're capable and they're confident.

But as a man, as a masculine man, my role is, I will open a car door or a door for a woman.

If a woman tells me, no, I'm going to say, no, ma'am.

This is how I was brought up.

I apologized, respect, honor and chivalry women.

Yeah, I I am respectful to women.

I every now and then you get a woman.

I could older dorm.

I don't look.

You know what?

I'm sure you can.

And when I'm not around by all means, go ahead do that.

But while I'm around, how good it's going to be done, I love it.

They smile where every down the but, you know, they love it.

And you know what, ma'am?

I hope you have a wonderful day.

Look, very you look very nice today.

Hope you have a wonderful day.

You know, who knows what kind of what's going on with people?

Yes, thank you and you're welcome are two of the most powerful words.

As you can use, if you use them correctly and you don't overuse them or mystery thank you.

You know there's so much here about self-respect and then respect in general it just a respect for life and humanity and even certainly back all the discipline and at everything we're doing for ourselves and for those around us, it just comes from a deep place of respect, manage such such a powerful thing.

So I want to dive in brother if you can share some specifics because you were just talking about To go like, hey look we got to be we got to be disciplined.

We got on top of our game.

As you know, the six things you were saying we got to as husbands and fathers his business and his providers protectors, all of it.

What's what's working for you?

Like a day in the life of or in a week?

Like, give us some some of your habits.

So you're telling me rituals I'm a control freak.

Okay, I think successful men, successful manner, Alfred I control.

What time I go to bed.

What time I get up?

I control what I do when I get up.

What I eat, what I drink at control.

That I'm going to work out every six days a week at control, what I put in my body for food.

Now.

And I have a regiment.

Now, there's things I can't control when I get the car.

I can't control if somebody's going to hit me.

I can't control if I'm going to have enough sales.

So what I try to do to be successful, was I try to control.

What I can.

And that's these things right?

My morning.

Routine, my physical, regiment, my hygiene.

The one thing that I do that, a lot of men don't do, is we all have a calendar.

We all have a calendar for work.

I have a color coordinated calendar for my family.

My fitness, my finance and my faith nice and are color coordinated to the minute every damn day.

Does that change?

Yes.

But if I get up, I have a plan.

I plan my dive.

I dive.

My plan.

Will it change?

Yes.

But getting up going.

What am I gonna do today?

Nope, I get up.

I know exactly what I'm doing.

My drink, my water.

I'm going to have my coffee.

I have my oatmeal.

I'm going to go hit the gym like shooting their go to the gym.

Then I have hit my oatmeal, come back, emails are going out.

Boom, boom, boom.

Have a little bit of time.

Spend a little time with my wife, ask her, how her workout was we have about 20 minutes where we just kind of talk about our day with she's going to do what I'm going to do and we split and then I just go, I go earn my keep for the family and she goes and does her amazing mom stuff.

I make sure that she has time to go out and have lunch with her.

She's actually having dinner with the girls tonight.

I make sure that I try to go out with my wife with my daughter once a week and that I at least try to call in the big thing that I do.

Okay.

So a weekly date with your wife and a weekly date with your daughter.

Trying to squeeze that in fantastic.

Of course, I get it.

And here's date.

Like I said, a date.

Let's say it's a hectic week and I can't do it.

We'll go take her Chihuahua for two.

Mile walk and we just talked to stop.

It doesn't have to be spending money.

Yep.

Date is being disconnected from the rest of Of the world whether it's dinner, it's dancing will go on vacations, you know, we do things so that's just what we do and that's what I work on.

You know, I lay my clothes out the night before that kind of tells me, you know.

I don't want to get up and will not going to wear that.

I don't my daughter, does that man know?

This is what I'm wearing.

It's laid out you know much time.

I just say what I try to do is control as much time as I can because time is the most precious Resort we have.

Absolutely so case.

Point.

You know I usually sleep 6 hours a day six seven hours a day so that gives me 15 to 16 hours to do two.

Things kick ass or get my ass kicked and I honestly think from the minute I get up.

I've already got the jump on things.

I get up grateful, not greedy.

I have my, I have my saying that I say every morning to myself sorry, but it's be great today.

Be a bitch tomorrow, like I'm going to be the best I can today and tomorrow, I'm just gonna punk out bitch out.

My wife says I may not always win, but I'll never lose because we We and our family.

What we're told is you only went in.

Learn you only lose if you quit?

Yes.

And my daughter says, I'm a champion.

I'm a winner.

Yeah.

And the thing is, is men.

If you have children, if you have a wife, you if you don't have a daily Mantra that you believe in about yourself.

What the hell are you doing like?

I don't know.

Do you have any?

Do you have children?

Yeah. 77.

So you have both boys and girls, right?

Yeah.

Absolutely.

You know you know I'd rather my daughter get up and say I'm going to be a strong independent woman that I'm going to be in a relationship.

Ship.

And I'm going to be abused and I'm going to be a beta woman, right?

And I'm nobody, I'm stupid.

And just my luck, I can do anything.

If you're not telling them what they should be program themselves and then, who the hell is?

Yep.

That's the question.

Is it bullying at school is at this?

So every day, what are you have a video?

That I'm a champion, I'm a winner.

Darn, right, you are.

Yeah, my wife says that mine's a little more but that's mine be great today.

But tomorrow, I'm gonna get up and I'm going to give it everything I have.

Because all I have to do is give it.

Or 16 hours, right?

And then I'm gonna go sleep.

And then tomorrow, I'm gonna wake up and I'm going to be, I'm going to just relax, guess what I do, when I get up, I hit the repeat button.

Boom, I get up again and I do it again.

And I think if more people started being more grateful about what they have versus greedy of what they want, because it'll come right.

If you focus on the family, the fitness, the finance.

Excuse me, the faith to finance will come the physical mental, emotional social spiritual.

The financial will come.

The problem is, is we put the wrong stuff.

The wrong order and we neglect the things that are important.

Some of the most successful men, I know, make millions of dollars and ask them about their relationship, and they've got a 12 dollar relationship with their family.

Exactly.

You know, I'm right, you know, so let me ask up here because I I'm thinking about it.

No, the listeners give me think about it, like, because you'll push yourself and you push your limits hard.

Like when you, you get to this place where you don't feel like doing things because I know there's a lot of guys you know him too, right?

We Talk to him in there like yeah, I know I should do that but Dad gamma I was discouraged.

I wasn't motivated.

I don't feel like doing it.

I wasn't feeling great in that moment.

Where does your strength and power come from brother?

Because I know you'll well, I want to know if you fill those anymore or you may be using a fast horse stays, I don't want to get up courses days.

I don't want to go to the gym.

Stays resided, swim it out of GO train to go swim across the dam Hudson River.

I don't want to do that.

I'm 50 years old.

But what I do is Is I go to myself?

I'm like, what kind of example am i setting like for my children?

What kind of example am i setting for my wife?

How will kind of example?

Am i setting for when I look in the mirror?

Yeah, yeah, do that.

You know because people ask me, you know where you were a Navy SEAL.

What's the trick?

There's only two tricks.

Number one, don't quit.

Number two, hopefully you don't get to Injured but that's still Falls, are nothing but people like.

Well, how did you where did you find your strength from it's easy?

All I would do is whenever I got ready to think about quitting something.

I would imagine seeing a picture of me with a red line going through it, that said, queer and then yeah and that hurts.

And then one day knowing that I would marry a woman that looks like that.

And then have beautiful children.

And then my son, I said, oh my god, well, what would I do?

If I ever have a son, he asked me, did you ever want to be a Navy?

SEAL Tell him.

I quit.

What would you say?

Exactly.

So my thing is listen, There are a lot of men that get injured and it's just not for them, I got no problem with that, but quitting quitting is not my vocabulary and I'm not, you know, people are like, oh, easy to say it really is.

How do you quit quitting?

Never start.

What if you've done it before?

Don't do it again.

People are like, it can't be that easy.

Yes, it can.

You can quit smoking.

You can quit drinking.

You can get help to get off of drugs porn addiction.

There are ways to get off of things, but it only starts When you take acceptance that, you have an issue because men don't do that.

I was the king of it.

Now I do that because of him and curve him.

No, I do it because of me.

And it's a slap to the face to some and some men aren't ready for it.

And some men, they meant men may never be but when you take ownership of the discrepancies or the downfalls or the the vices that you may have in your life and you accept them and realize that it is I don't want to be this guy.

Yeah.

You know and you start asking for external help Pete.

I've asked people who have been there and done that they just and I have a lot in common and when a man comes to a man and he With all sincerity goes, listen, I've got this problem going on.

Correct me if I'm wrong but you did too.

And you got through it yet, brother.

I need your help.

Like I don't know what to do.

The night will drop everything I'm doing and Oh okay.

This is what worked for me.

This may not work for you, but let's try this first.

If this doesn't work, but damn it.

We're going to find something else because my goal is to make a difference with every human being, you know, I'm specially.

Obviously vet Pro vet.

You know, my goal in life.

People ask me is what do I want to do?

I want to make it so that no veteran ever kills himself.

Again, that would be my goal ever ever, again, ever.

Go.

Now, for my personal goal, I want to be the next Jack LaLanne.

I say that all the time to people laugh at me.

I want to be able to go The jumpsuit polish it with my teeth doing amazing things, right?

That's but that's what I want to do, you know?

People don't know.

Jacqueline was a very, very credited chiropractor.

I mean, I know about him, he's amazing, human being, right was very educated.

But he's a beast because Soto reason why he was a beast, is because he believed that there was nothing he couldn't do.

That's that's the mentality.

I took guess, there's nothing I can do huge.

So man, I got to point out and just emphasize a couple of things.

You said there were so profound and maybe you understood the psychology of the time or maybe you've learned a sense but like what you did early on is like you envisioned.

A lot of pain, like, seeing yourself with loser or quitter across, you know, the identity of quitter, right?

The tons of pain there, or what would I tell my son?

If he asked and then Envision the pleasure, the wife and the daughter in this Is what you can achieve and like the profound psychology.

There are so important that each of us.

Like and everybody listening just internalised like set yourself up to see the pain.

If you keep going, down this path of you don't make the changes.

You don't level up and the pleasure.

If you do all that, both sides motivate you and drive you.

You know, I'm a, you know, I actually subject matter expert.

I'm not a growth expert, I'm a pain expert.

I've, I've had a very Jaded past and I've had a very bad childhood and I fix I've experience more pain than most and I hope that most of ever will and all I've done is learn how to profit from pain pain, equals growth growth equals power, power equals knowledge and knowledge equals profit.

Profit is not from a monetary standpoint like profit to me is creating growth things that happened to me as a child.

I don't think my children, great things will happen to my wife, right?

Don't, we will not let happen but because of Of our past.

My wife is a stay-at-home mom for a reason because I don't trust people with my children.

So men have that inner voice.

Right?

Which can turn into that inner bitch, that right?

The inner dialogue, right?

40 or 60 thousand thoughts 48,000.

More - them to be with your family fitness Finance Faith, but then men also carry on this shoulder.

Their toxic cognitions.

Their demons, right?

Trauma.

If enough bad things have happened to you.

Two things are either going to happen.

You're going to figure out how to try to and again, you can't kill.

Like if you had a horrible things done.

You as a child, a lot of men.

Try to kill that forgetting.

You can't.

What I do is I named claim and tame it a name, claiming tame that Beast because that PTSD is a beast when I when I claim it.

Like perfect example, if I'm driving there's certain things that will trigger something from my past.

I will not drive.

Down that road or be round that smell or anything to make sure I avoid it.

But what most people try to do is they think that they can kill that and they can't.

And that's like alcoholism, right?

I have friends that are alcoholics that I don't drink around and then other ones that I can have a drink around but I respect them enough for if he's like, you know, Five Guys.

Like man, he's on the verge and he's doing good.

Hey man, I've been sober, two hundred days, no drinks, what?

I have a drink with you.

That's fine.

Yeah, I'm fine man.

You know, and there's other guys are like yeah, you know, but and if I do that it's you know, you sure.

Yeah, they're good.

But I don't put it around their face.

I'm not, you know, so you have to know the limitations of who of you and others in your life and when I when you do that, that's how you create that growth and to be quite honest with you.

Anybody that I know that's been a past alcohol.

I just don't drink in front of them.

I was like, oh man, I'm past it.

I'm good.

I'm like, yeah, you know what?

If I was a whatever, you know, like if I was I wouldn't I wouldn't want that just out of respect.

So I just respect people.

I think, you know, respect is what the world needs more of.

Yeah, exactly.

And I'm glad you brought that up.

It's so important for us to be processing.

What has happened?

So I was out on my own at 16, right?

Baron broke families, went through some tough things and and looking back and learning to see it differently and and to get profit from.

Benefit.

What can I learn?

How my better because of it.

What kind of how can I change?

How can I make a contribution to World?

Be a better man because of it.

It's it's taking something that was so painful and making it powerful for the better.

So thanks for bringing that up, bro.

Um what what are you chasing?

Like, what right now are you you just you personally what are you interested in?

What are you studying?

What are you, what are you going after?

What something that you're hungry for?

You know, it's such a cliche just making a bigger impact with the things I'm doing.

You know, trying to make better father-son connections, trying to give back to the community, I don't know, I think the word would just be a bigger audience more of an impact.

You know, I think if I can get my message out to more people, I want to be contagious, right?

I want to be the poison ivy of positivity.

That's what I want to do that.

I mean because perfect example right?

I think quitting would be the most thing, right?

So imagine you were going to start insulting me.

Get ready to insult me gag, just say something ready.

I quit see how easy it is to quit.

Quitting is the most contagious thing but I say, why don't we make positivity?

Why not walk into a room?

And just, you know, and I again motivation gets you up discipline gets it done.

All I want to do Motivate people enough to start creating self-discipline right?

Just carve out little blocks little little tasks that you can do daily daily, monthly daily, weekly monthly annually.

Just task little micro tasks and do it.

And once you get it done, find another one, another one, another one.

So that's what I want to do.

And I want to make more people grateful for the life that they've been given, even if they feel like they've been given a shit hand.

If you're alive and you have your health, you're doing better.

Than a lot of other people.

You know, I mean, I'm dealing with this right now.

My father-in-law, God bless them, he's he's one of the greatest men I've ever met and he's dealing with leukemia and it kills me to see a man who's given, you know.

He's done so much.

He's such a great heart and he's big man to how weak he is right now and it frustrates me, you know, like because then you'll see people that are extreme evil that lived to their 100 years older than you my father-in-law's 70.

It's like this man has been Pillar of just positivity is entire life and it's like these are the things that I question.

These are things that I have.

I have internal conflict with like mine why why can't what you know and it's these.

If I could answer these questions, I would be.

I would be probably the most successful man on planet but I can't and I just, I don't, that's the problem.

I don't understand is you have men that do so good and you know and he's still with us but you know, it's He's not doing well and it is very, and it's a good reminder, brother.

We say my wife and I right after we got married, we watched my father-in-law struggle with cancer and fight it, and then and then pass.

And man up, it was, it was such a great reminder for us to end.

He was 47, 47, man.

So yeah, to see that like man, you would get one shot to be the positive Force for good, right?

Kind of our family mantras, just like, let's be a great force for good in the world and you're right and be that that positivity and bring that energy in that light and share it.

And I love you got a book coming out, which is yes, awesome.

Yeah, I got a book coming out.

It's gonna be called Cash rules as of right now, the projective date projected date is going to be September, 17th.

I will give you guys a spoiler alert.

It's not about me being a Navy.

SEAL, it's a life lessons and the coaching book.

It's a very unique.

Book, it's done.

There's things in this book that you've never seen in a book before you're going to need your phone for this book.

There's going to be some you need your pencil for it's just it's an e-book.

It's just a over crazy balls to the wall in your Facebook.

I'm really proud of it and I can't wait of an amazing publicist and we're going to be launching it here soon and we'll see if you want.

It's not a it's not a look at me.

I'm awesome.

It's Look at all the stuff I've done wrong to get to where I am now and what we can all do and learn from.

That's awesome.

I hope so.

I hope you know like I said man all I try to do is if you can learn to speak, I just public speaking.

I do all these amazing things.

You can just take one second of something that I taught and use it in the future.

They're not that success for me.

Never, that's a whip.

Exactly.

That's beautiful.

Awesome man.

Thank you so much, so many great, great principles here.

So many great lessons, any any?

Last thoughts.

If you had, you got the, the audience here, any last things words of advice or lessons?

Any last thing you want to share of like, what's the big takeaway?

What really matters?

Yeah, I think the lesson to take away is just believe in yourself, you know, if you have a goal and you have a dream, don't let anybody or anything.

Tell you tutor, you from what you want to do, I mean, if I would listen to everybody, I would have probably been dead or in jail, you know, you are a book, like, right?

I don't book.

And The pages are blank for a reason.

You get to write the story.

You want to be a horror story or they live at lived?

Happily ever after, right?

There's always going to be a villain.

There's always going to be a hero in the book, be the hero conquer, the villain, whatever that may be in life and live happily ever after.

And, that's what I'm doing with my book, you know, and every week that I get up, it's just another chapter of the book.

Monday is my favorite day.

I love Monday's.

Like let's go.

People are like what is wrong with you?

Like you're doing it because if you listen and if your Living for the weekends, you live in the wrong way.

Hey, you're missing out, man.

It's for the weekends, I live for the Monday.

So, what's next man?

What can we do?

Yeah, weekends are fun, but I do date night with my wife during the week, everybody else will eyes in the weekend snowfall carve out time during your busy schedule to do something with your family during the week weekends.

Yeah, weekends are just days to me, man.

That's all they are.

I hate weekend's a few more chores than anything it's under.

Are you right man.

Get up on Monday and make a difference in the world.

Get things done.

Write your own story.

I love that brother.

I love that.

All right.

Where can where can people connect with you, man?

Where can they find you an Instagram, Instagram.

I got the blue checks and make sure it's legit because there's some fake ones out there.

Weirdos, you can hit me a tray cash.

Care.com.

If you're interested in any of booking me for anything.

And then I'm on LinkedIn.

I just use cash care because I think there's another raid cash show, just cash care.

Hit me up.

I answer every single DM and booking request that I have.

Okay boom, awesome brother.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for like living out.

The example, right?

Taking what you were handed the cards, you were dealt, and living a life that's worth sharing and the lessons you're doing and the impact you're having world to like.

And, and this isn't adulation I think.

But it's like it's honor to you for the things you're doing and that you have something to share and is born.

Good work in progress though, right?

No, such thing as Perfection only progression so my wife might tell you a different story but that's all good performance.

I love it.

Thanks for being here, brother.

Appreciate, thank you sir.