#61 Can you withstand the pressure; will you pass the test?

Gentlemen, welcome to the Be The Man podcast.

I'm your host, Greg Denning.

I'm the creator and coach of the Be the Man, Master, Class and Tribe, which, by the way, we've been having.

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Heart, right?

It's hard to live with another human being, but then another human being.

Of of a different sex and gender and like.

In a completely different lifestyle, life experience and different ways of thinking and living and feeling and well and and a woman is constantly changing right I I just came across across.

A.

A Doctor Who's been doing this research on the on a woman's body and.

I actually got him scheduled to be on the podcast.

Super excited, but he he started doing his research and he realized that the estrogen levels in a woman's body and her and her body or biochemistry is changing every week.

So he says you're.

Going to change every week?

Well.

It's going to affect your your emotions and feelings every week.

And he says, boldly, but not in a derogatory way, that there's no such thing as an emotionally stable woman.

Let.

That sink in, That's so.

Powerful.

It's like, well, a man's, you know, a man's biochemistry is pretty simple and kind of can stay even.

But a woman's body is changing independent of her routines and how she's doing.

I mean, obviously she needs to manage all that, but just just by biology and biochemistry, her body's changing every week.

And so, you know, that's a that's a totally different experience than a man.

And so figuring that out is.

It's tough.

Well, it's not.

It's not.

Most people make it too complicated, make it.

They make it harder than it needs to be.

But it's such an important work and such an important thing.

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That's why we're here.

And so thank you for listening.

Thank you for being that caliber man and I know some of you are in the in the master class.

Already and it's just such an honor and privilege to me and I just.

I love it.

I love learning with and learning from this great group and and sharing the.

Tools and strategies that I've learned over 2 1/2.

Decades of voracious searching.

So what?

What an awesome thing.

All right, fellas, let's let's dive in.

I've been thinking about.

This for for quite a while.

We live in such a fascinating time and I and I love.

To study history.

I hope you love to study history.

I hope you're constantly reading the great books throughout history and there's a lot.

Of powerful books that come out during what's called the 4th Turning.

In fact, the authors of the Fourth Turning.

Just wrote Well, the one of them passed away.

The one who's still alive just finished a new book called.

I think it's called The 4th Turning is now or The 4th Turning is here.

So we just got.

We just bought that.

I'm excited to dive into it, but essentially the 4th turning is it's.

Essentially every every 80 years and every 20 years is a turning.

So every 80 years is 1/4 turning the 4th turning for the last. 500 years of of history has been a war or some kind of.

Collapse in society that resets everything and reading books from 4th Turnings are really powerful.

So all the books from World War Two were the last turning, right?

And those kind of books from Let there Be Light, No and and there was.

Light by Jacques Lousert.

One of my all time.

Favorites Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankel, which is worth rereading every year.

The Hiding Place Beneath the Scarlet Sky.

Night The Unbroken by Louis Zamperini.

So, so many good ones.

And I just finished.

Wild Swans.

Which man I'll I'll circle?

Back to that because it's so powerful, but it it's been on my mind and and what brings it out right now is it's such a fascinating time in the.

History of the world because of technology, because of now AI that's coming out and AR and all the inventions.

It's just been such an unbelievable time of inventions.

Now because because we just, we come into life, we're born, we're just kind of experiencing life and we just experience what's there.

We don't know any different until we really.

Start researching and studying and those.

Who don't study don't ever realize how different their lives are.

How unique and how interesting and the time period and and the place in the world.

And if you.

Don't get out and travel.

Then you just naturally assume that, oh, life is.

Life is like this, but if you travel extensively and study across time and space.

Then you realize, wow.

OK, here's what's similar about human beings and the human experience, and here's what's different.

And we live in an absolutely extraordinary time.

It's a great time to be.

Alive, but there's a lot of crazy things happening.

Too a lot of evil that you've heard me talk about from, especially I think the one that's really standing out is the the human trafficking, the literally millions.

Of people who are still slaves right now in this time.

It's insane that's even happening, but.

Violence is picking up all over the place and.

Societies are beginning to crumble as our economies, and it's an interesting time.

But in spite of all that.

Man, it's still what a wonderful time to live with all the inventions and all the cool things and so many comforts and convenience.

The fact that I can, I can record this podcast and you can listen to it from.

Wherever you are and I can record it from wherever I am and I just have my phone, I'm actually recording this into my phone.

With, you know, this beautiful little microphone and I'm sitting here in my office in Portugal, it's just, it's unreal.

And on my desk here.

Got.

Cameras and microphones and laptops and desktops and and.

Amazing books that we're reading and my journal that I'm writing in and these phenomenal pens.

I love pens.

So I can write with and.

I mean, just just looking around, there's so many great things and and the carpets, we bought these unbelievable Turkish.

Rugs when we're over in.

Turkey and brought them back in this, these.

Antique desks and chairs, and I mean it's wow, what a what a time to be alive, right?

There's so many cool things, so much, so much going on.

But what's interesting is that so many people.

Who are doing OK today in life?

Are only.

Able to live the way they live because we are living in such easy, comfortable, convenient times.

I want you to chew on that for a while and just.

Kind of contemplate that so many of us and perhaps.

You are included in that there's things you're kind of letting.

Slip a little and you're taking it easy and doing just enough and the.

Only way you're able to pull that off.

The only way that men are.

Able to get by or get away with it is because times are so easy, so comfortable, so convenient.

That if there was a test, a real true test, would they endure it?

Would they hack it?

One of the great thinkers from several decades ago, I can't remember who it was right now.

He said that that every generation needs a war or its moral.

Equivalent, and usually again with the the framework of the fourth turning.

You get two or three generations without a war and you know, there's always little small conflicts.

There's always little wars but.

The idea here is like it's a major.

War.

It's a World War.

It's something so big it just the society and economies that things as they are cannot remain.

It's that big.

It just undoes everything.

And we haven't had that.

So essentially since World War 2, it's it's been relatively easy and comfortable and convenient.

There's been so much progress.

I mean, we'll just.

Just chew on that for a second.

Since 1950.

Just think about how the world has changed since 1950.

It's just so astounding to me, Medicine, transportation, technology since 1950.

It is unreal what's happened with music and.

Radio TV's and movies.

Man, Just even since over the last 20 years, look.

What's happened in the movie industry?

I mean you.

You.

Watch A A cartoon with your kids that was made 20 years ago.

The ones we we watch weird kids when I was even maybe. 30 years ago, 40 years ago.

But you look at those movies, those cartoons, even when when Pixar came out and those animated ones came out.

And they seem so amazing.

Now if you'll watch the first one versus the last one, you're like, what a?

What a.

Difference.

What a contrast the things they're doing with brain imagery now with stem cell research and injections.

There's you guys.

There's.

So much going on.

It's so rat.

So, so from from 1950 and what's really cool is.

Because there was cameras and radio.

And all that stuff we.

Have records of how things were and now we can.

Contrast that.

It is so exciting and so cool and it's it's going to keep going.

You know what will happen in the next. 50 years.

So when you and I are old men and we're, you know, we're grandpas and great grandpas and and hopefully we live that long.

If we take care of ourselves, what what changes will happen between now and then?

Man, that's exciting to think.

About, but I really want to emphasize this point that we're only.

Able to get by.

We're only able to get away with things because it's so easy and comfortable and convenient that if things were truly hard, genuinely hard, a great many men would not make it.

Now you know, in in a very real way I was observing a discussion the other day we've been watching with our family and some really great thinkers.

They were discussing this idea and they said you know and and these are these are older men in their 60s and and they.

Kind of all agreed, Like, hey, yeah, our, our society really hasn't truly been tested.

And they were talking about Europe because they're from, they're from Europe and the UK and from the US And so combined they're saying, yeah, you know, our, our countries in our.

Lifetimes haven't really.

Truly been tested yet.

And so one of them said, you know, he's like, it's not we can't really.

Tell who will make the test or not, because it's it's not always clear and evident and and some people will surprise.

Us.

Right of of when things get really, truly challenging.

How?

They rise, they'll rise up in unexpected ways, but those?

Those are the outliers, right?

Those are the exceptions for the most part.

When things get really, truly hard, it exposes where you're at, right?

So it's interesting you go on a go on a big hike just right now, just out the door.

Go on a big hike.

It's going to reveal your condition.

Rolling down to the beach.

You know, you get down to the beach and everyone you know pulls off their clothes and and they're just in their swimsuit and it reveals their habits, it reveals.

Their condition?

You go out and do anything challenging, so when your car breaks down or buses or trains get canceled or for some reason.

You have to walk really far, those moments.

Of tests reveal your habits.

They reveal what you've been doing in the condition you're in, and as you've heard me say many times, we do not.

Live at the level of our hopes.

We live at the level of our habits.

But what's crazy because things are so easy and comfortable and convenient?

Some people are living at the.

Level of their hopes like financially and is it I mean they've got they can have the houses or the cars or the.

Things that I mean getting away with.

Things that they would never be able to get away.

With otherwise, and I hope, I hope I'm articulating this in enough different angles that you really are.

Are grabbing hold of this idea.

Thinking yeah like what are what are some things that we're quote.

Getting away with that, there's.

No way we.

Could get away with in tough times and where we can be lazy and indifferent and apathetic.

When things are comfortable and convenient, right?

When there's when there's an abundance.

When the economy is super strong.

Even the slackers earn enough money to stay in operation.

Right When there's nothing like.

Truly testing your physical limits then.

You know, you even being out of shape and overweight, you can you can get away.

With it because you know things are.

It's so easy and.

Comfortable and convenient, But what happens when things get real?

When real.

Troubles show up then what?

And I want to invite each of us today myself.

Included To walk through this journey of the whole, You know what I've I've presented the wheel of life.

Before and the wheel.

Of life essentially is.

You you take this, there's a cool you can find them online.

They're super cool and I've I've shared them, printed them out before and used them a lot.

But it's essentially you have this will and each spoke represents an aspect of your life from your health and fitness, your marriage.

Your.

Each.

Each of your relationships with your kids.

Your recreation, your finances.

And you can actually do a will for each part of your life.

You can do a marriage will and each spoke.

Would be, you know, listening, sex, connection, intimacy, dating, you know, pursuing goals together, finances together, dreaming together You go.

You can do each aspect of that and then you can do.

A will for each kid and go through like how's my relationship with them?

How engaged?

How's their education?

How am I contributing?

How am I modeling right?

You go through each one, it's really powerful.

It's such a powerful exercise, but let's just take a general will of life and you've got your recreation, you've got your work.

You've got your health and fitness, your spirituality, your mind body.

Spirit, right, Your social, your relationships, all those things, and you take that aspect and it's like, how am I doing?

And and how am I doing in prosperous times which is right now and?

And how would it?

Hold up.

I guess that's the question I'm asking today.

For all of us, how would your habits hold up under pressure?

How would your habits hold up under pressure?

And I think a lot of us would be in trouble.

Would your spiritual fitness endure?

A An extreme.

Test Would they withstand the test?

Would your relationships, your friendships, Your family relationships?

Would they withstand the test?

Are have you been working on them enough?

Are they so solid they would withstand the test?

Would your fitness that's That's kind of an fitness is the easy one.

That's the That's why it makes such a great metaphor.

Like, would would your physical condition withstand the test?

How about your mind?

So obesity.

Is just off the charts and unbelievably to me, it's getting worse.

It's so crazy it went now.

I mean there's.

There's there's a definition of being overweight, and then there's a definition of being obese.

Both of those are just climbing like.

Crazy.

But obesity just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger and I I just keep wondering, how is this even possible?

And yet it keeps happening so that that one is just wrecking lives and literally killing so many people.

But so is the mental emotional illness and weakness that is rampant and increasing.

And mostly, it's a manifestation of habits.

So how you respond to things mentally and emotionally and.

Physically, obviously, it's just revealing your habits.

So would your mental state withstand the test?

Would your emotional state withstand the test?

And the challenge, I think, for most men is they don't think like this.

They don't think.

Through the test.

They don't put themselves to the test.

Enough.

They just kind of rolling along, just doing life.

And I want to.

Extend that out to.

You like?

Are you doing that too?

Are you just going through the motion?

You checking the.

Boxes or you just you just going through life and you're not thinking about.

The bigger picture, and that this is, we have to be so deliberate about it, We have to set aside time.

To really think about the big picture.

Otherwise you're just you just do life and you just go along and and years pass.

Decades pass.

And again, because our lives are so easy and comfortable and convenient, we can we can let years and decades.

Pass like our our.

Parents, their generation, they live their whole lives in in relative ease and comfort.

It was good.

They were the children of the.

The baby boomers, Well, they're maybe they were baby boomers or children baby boomers, but for the most part, they were the children.

Of those who were in the the wars, right, So my grandpa.

Was in the war, and then he came home and had my mom and her siblings and they grew up in this this time of prosperity and growth and ease and.

Comfort.

They're going to spend the bulk.

Of their lives in good times.

And it's it's crazy, but we have to stop and say, well wait a minute, what if the test comes?

Whether it's to us individually, or to our families, or to our communities, or to our entire civilization, society.

Am I ready?

Am I mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, financially battle ready?

Would my finances?

Would my business withstand?

The test.

The pressure.

My marriage, each of my kids.

Well, my relationship with my kids, and then each of my kids and their condition and and you and I were responsible for helping them get to that kind of condition, you know, battle ready.

So to speak, would your mind hold up?

Would your emotions hold up?

What's sad to me is that grown men will snap and explode over little ridiculous things that, you know, mistakes.

Or setbacks.

Or unexpected things.

Or the kids do.

Something and they come unglued, I think.

Man, if you lose your bananas.

Over those little things.

What are you going to do when it?

When it actually is hard if you crumble at the first sign of pressure.

What are you going to do when the pressure is real?

So I want to invite you to challenge yourself regularly, go out, and deliberately.

Seek out tests.

And what's cool about this is because you're not seeking real trouble, you're seeking simulated trouble.

So you do endurance races or competitions.

You do some triathlons or marathons or you know, one of my coaching clients he, he got into running, did some half marathons and some marathons and now he's, he's doing 100 kilometer races across the Andes, you know down in Patagonia.

And how?

How?

Rad is that.

And you just keep pushing.

Those limits.

But you do, you know, maybe.

Do some kind of business challenge you're like OK.

Let's let's put this to a test.

Let's let's put on a.

Pressure test here, you know, or we try to.

Grow your business or get new business or see how much time you can take off you.

And and again, I'm not, I don't want you to negatively test your relationships to put negative pressure on them, but I want you to just go through this simulation.

And be like, yeah, this, you know, if if things got really.

Bad.

I don't know.

I haven't been investing enough in that friendship.

Or with that child, or any of my children for that matter.

Or for your marriage.

Like go through that and just walk through it, right?

Make sure.

You're in a great spot.

I just had an absolutely phenomenal bucket list weekend with my children in France with two of my teens.

We're training for Mount Kilimanjaro.

So there, there's a perfect example, right?

We we're leading a trip to Kilimanjaro in February.

It's mostly full.

There's a couple spots.

If you want to join us, it's.

Going to be a life changing experience, but there.

There's a perfect example.

Go climb a gigantic mountain.

That's putting yourself, your body, your.

Mind your emotions, your spirit.

It's putting it to the test.

That's the point.

You're creating a.

A pretty safe test, right?

No, no, no.

Lives are going to be on the line there.

And yet it's testing you and it's it'll.

Test you socially and spiritually and mentally and physically, obviously.

That's the point.

And so you know, one of the reasons for this last weekend is we went to France, into the French Alps with MY2 teens who were climbing Kilimanjaro with me to train.

And on our hardest, longest day, we were trying to gain as much elevation as absolutely possible.

And so we were hiking up towards Mont Blanc.

And it rained and rained And rained.

It was cold rain, it was windy and then once we hit a certain.

Elevation.

It just started to snow and sleet and you know, we'd go around the points and it would.

Just get this huge blast of wind blowing snow and sleet in your face after you've already been wet and cold and hungry and tired and your legs are burning because just gaining elevation so quickly.

It was awesome.

It was absolutely awesome.

And my two teens, Not a syllable of complaint.

The In fact, they actually enjoyed it, and we were.

We were tired and hungry and thirsty and cold and.

Part of it was just miserable, and the three of us we.

Just loved.

We're like, yeah, this is awesome.

It's hard.

And we're out there doing a physical challenge.

You know, and the weather was.

Perfect to add to the challenge and the pressure.

But it's this perfect way to test our relationships and our mental strength and fortitude.

And if we can keep our emotions in check, it's beautiful.

So.

Test yourself like that, push your.

Limits.

Find ways to grow and expand and put simulated pressure safe pressure on.

Each aspect of your life.

To see if you can withstand the test and I.

Promise you're going to find this out right when I was in.

College, actually, before college, when I was out on my own 1617 Living on my Own.

Some great guys that gave me a job that I know I didn't deserve doing landscaping.

And so they taught me.

They taught me how to become a landscaper and whenever we put in a new sprinkling system.

We'd run a pressure test, right?

You glue it all up.

Glue all the joints.

You put all the heads on your line, everything out.

Before you buried it, right?

That's that's a big mistake.

You go ahead and bury it and then turn it on and there's leaks.

That's a.

Trouble.

So before you bury it, you run a pressure.

Test and you open up the.

City pressure and it comes in, you know, into the one inch pipes and three quarter inch pipes and you.

Do pressure test and you can see if if the joint wasn't glued well enough or if one of the heads is busted or something, you run the pressure.

Through there and if you got water squirting out all.

Over the place you're like, OK now, now I've done a pressure test, I can, I can correct these.

So then when the pressure comes back on and you're like, no, that's good, it'll handle it.

That's essentially what we're doing.

So run yourself through different pressure tests.

What's interesting in this Circling back now to Wild Swans.

Such a great book.

Please, please read it.

It's been it's a it's a personal.

Generational story about China and the.

Struggles, the wars, the changes in their society and economy and and communism and it and it gives.

You the playbook for communism and we have to understand that kind of thinking because those kind of crazy.

Marxist and communist ideas are coming back, and they always do.

They always circle around and usually come around in a Fourth turning and just.

It's Mad Men and tyrants and dictators and coups and what stood out?

What a couple of things stood out?

Lots.

Of things actually stood out, one of them.

Is what the people the Chinese people endured.

Was quite literally unbelievable.

They endured so much.

They were so.

Tough.

They're so tough.

It is inspiring.

And it's also a tragedy because dictators and tyrants and these.

Coups.

They're ridiculous.

They are so into their own all they care about themselves.

We are.

We would be utterly and ridiculously naive to think.

That the government has our best interests at heart.

That what a joke.

What an absolute joke.

So and and you're.

Like, yeah, but.

We live in the greatest country in the world and oh, we have this democracy like, no, it's so naive.

It's so naive to even think that.

Like the FDA or your local government or your state government or.

Your federal government.

Has your best interests at heart.

It's like extremely, extremely rare that anyone in government has a genuine, sincere interest for the.

Well-being of the people that is so rare and it'd be.

Naive to think that, but what happens and I saw.

In in this.

Book.

It was illustrated so well, so it's been on my mind.

Is that these coups come in and they take.

Over.

But they.

Don't think through potential tests and challenges and trials.

So it was a perfect illustration of how it's done on a macro.

Level, but also how it's done on on a micro level with each of us individually, you know we'll.

Come in and we don't.

Like I guess what the story that brought it up and it happened multiple times, the coup comes in and takes over the government and then you see it once.

It was illustrated so well in the book and the story I'm like.

Oh man, that's perfect, is they They come in, they're like, yeah, we're in power.

Oh, this is awesome.

And they kick out the government and they take over.

And they're like, yeah, now and and all they want.

They have the power.

They have the money.

They get a right to rules, all this great stuff, right?

And they think, this is great.

You know, we've we have arrived.

We are doing the we're we're awesome.

So, you know, wow.

So.

So great for us, right?

But an example that is so powerful and so important.

A coup comes in.

They're not thinking, hey, if there's any natural disasters, how are we going to take care of?

That look we better, we better set.

Up systems and.

Strategies, we better prepare, we better set aside.

Funds and resources.

And we better train our people, We better have everything totally dialed in, so if something goes wrong, we can help them.

And just an iconic classic example.

They don't think they're that.

They don't think about how things could go wrong.

They don't think about what they're going to do if something doesn't work out.

It doesn't.

Even cross their radar like they come in, like, yeah, we took over power.

Yay, yay us.

Wow, this is so great.

And then a natural disaster happens, and they.

Are left with a seriously major disaster.

And no way to handle it because they didn't even think through it.

They didn't think.

Through the pressure test.

They didn't consider it right.

And so 10s of thousands, hundreds of thousands, sometimes millions and millions of people.

Suffer needlessly because.

Leaders didn't think through any pressure.

They didn't even think about what are we going to do if something goes wrong.

They just think.

Well, nothing will go wrong.

And there's people like that today.

There's men.

And maybe you've been guilty of that in certain aspects of your life.

I know I have.

Where you don't think about what could go wrong.

You don't run a pressure test and everything's so easy and so comfortable and so convenient, and things have been so abundant for so long that.

When something goes off, you're like.

Yeah, it'll work.

It'll work out and.

It does.

It does and and people are lazy and indifferent and apathetic, and they make.

Stupid mistakes.

And they're so negligent.

And it still works out.

And they think, yeah, see, no big deal.

But that's only because we're living in these times.

There's no way that would work.

There's no way they.

'D get away with that in different times and as with all cycles in history.

It's going to repeat itself.

And it's going to happen.

And I'm not.

I'm not, you know, I'm.

I'm optimistic.

I genuinely am optimistic.

I'm not the naysayer.

I'm not Mr. Negative Guy.

But.

But it can't perpetually climb.

The markets can't keep going, right Things can't stay in an unhealthy state.

I mean, you might be getting away with some poor health right now, but you can't.

You cannot.

Literally impossible to do that.

Perpetually it will.

Catch up to you.

Nobody gets away with anything.

You know the body keeps score, the relationship keeps score, keeps the record, right?

Your accounts keeps score and it will catch up, so the big message.

For today.

Is to do a pressure test on every important aspect of your life.

Just pressure test and you can do it mentally 1st and spend some time writing.

Get your journal out and spend some time writing, dictating, recording, just really exploring.

Talk about it with your spouse.

Talk about it with.

Each of your kids talk about it with the.

People you work with, your employees your, your Co workers, your team members your, your.

Partners like go through this and and say, hey, you know how, how would we handle a pressure test?

And you do it for yourself, with your mind and your emotions, your spirit.

Your body.

And then create some tests, some simulations and do this.

Regularly I I participated last year in a.

Selection process for aerial recovery, Such a phenomenal organization doing so much good in the world and.

In order to be able to volunteer with them actively and regularly to go into austere environments and be some of the first people on the ground to help in a natural.

Disaster.

They have a very rigorous selection process because they realized, you know, they didn't all these people.

With good hearts, say I want to come out and volunteer.

And they didn't have the skill set.

They couldn't handle the pressure.

They failed in the pressure test and the last thing you want to do is go into an austere environment and have to add more casualties that your volunteers become.

Casualties because they're not ready.

Because they're not trained.

Because they can't handle it physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, socially.

Financially.

Whatever.

They're just not there.

And so this organization realized it's all you know, created by former Special Forces guys.

And so they create this training process to make sure we get the training, but it also.

Comes with this very rigorous testing process.

So they have created a pressure test and I went through it and I'm on their special operations and reconnaissance team and my sons wanted to join.

So I'm like, well, you got.

To go through the whole process, you got to take the courses and the classes and then go.

Through the pressure test and so they're next week going through the.

Selection process my 19 and 18 year old sons and I'm so excited.

I'm going to be there as as a leader helping facilitate the the experience and it's going to be so tough it is going to be.

So hard.

And it was, it was last year and that's the point, it purposely do things.

To pressure test your mind and your body and your emotions and your.

Social skills and your spirit, Your patience and what?

It does.

Is it?

The pressure test reveals your habits.

Because you.

Can't.

And here's the important thing about a genuine.

Pressure test you can't get away with, you know, cramming for.

The test, so to speak.

The pressure test in this case is so intense that you can't eat poorly and not exercise for months or years and then do something for a few.

Days or a few weeks?

To pull it off, there's no way so if you neglected.

Your health for months and then think.

Oh, in just a couple weeks I'll go ahead and I'll get back in shape and I'll be able.

To pull it off you might be.

Able to do that for an easy.

Pressure test but A.

Genuine pressure test.

Will reveal the negligence.

Let that sink in.

A genuine pressure test will reveal the negligence.

And so it's revealing those habits.

Again, I just can't repeat this enough with enough emphasis.

We do not live at the.

Level of our hopes.

We live at the level of our habits, and that is not more true anywhere else than in a.

Genuine test.

So test yourself constantly and then.

Realign Readjust recalibrate your habits so that they are ready for real genuine.

Pressure test push those limits.

Go do big.

Epic things that make you uncomfortable.

Do the micro.

Level stuff where you're doing it daily and weekly and macro.

Level stuffs where every quarter, every year you're doing something huge and and a big one like Kilimanjaro, I think it's such a great example because it's the same thing that is a big.

Pressure test and you have to train for months and your habits have to be aligned or.

That size of a pressure test is going to reveal where you're, where you're missing, and where you're off.

So love you fellas.

Thanks for listening.

Thanks for being good men.

Thanks for striving.

Set of these tests and chest test the pressure.

And you get the habits aligned and that's this is.

Literally why I created the be the man, master, class and tribe.

To the tools, the resources, the tips, the training, the brotherhood in there that community of men and we're all going after this and and and I.

Set up badges.

We have a Warrior badge.

We have a Philosopher badge and we have a king badge and inside there's all these these requirements to get the.

Badge You have to go through a lot of stuff.

It's rigorous and you're training your mind and your body and your spirit and your relationships.

You're going through your whole life to get your habits dialed in, so you're.

Ready for whatever test can come and get to a place where, gentlemen, we can withstand the test.

So if if you want or need.

Some coaching, some systems and strategies that just work.

They've been gathering for 25 years.

Putting this together, join this master class.

Get in this community, this brotherhood of good men and businessmen and entrepreneurs, with families who are striving to be the best husbands, the best fathers, the best men, the best businessmen we can be so that we can withstand the test and we can stand firmly when everything gets crazy and truly be men.

Thanks, Charles.

Love you guys.

Be the man.