#48 You're Not Near as Prepared as You Think You Are -- Peak Performance Preparation For You And Your Children

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So I got something on my mind right now and and and I just wanted to just grab a microphone because I was thinking about I've been writing about it having conversations about it.

Like I just I have to turn on the mic and share some of these thoughts and I would love to have some dialogue again.

You guys can always jump in like in Spotify or an anchor.

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It just just reach out and engage in this dialogue because I really want to wrap my head around it and I want to kind of raise.

Well it's going to come, it's going to come out today like as a warning voice, right?

Where I'm kind of raised a warning and, and you might think it seems a little pessimistic or a little darker, a little gloomy or little fearful and and I want to assure you.

It's not it's not fearful in that like is a reaction to Fear.

But fearful in the yeah, we there are things.

We should absolutely be afraid of and there are some, some things happening around the world and I think are going to be happening a lot closer to home.

That we should be afraid of and the fear shouldn't overpower us.

It should prepare us.

I guess that's what I'm after here today.

So have you ever had those experiences?

I'm sure you have where it almost Coincidental, I think it's providential or divinely orchestrated where you have a series of experiences back to back or in a short time it seems a little bit compressed and it really adjust the lens that you're looking through like that that metaphorical lens that with which you see the world.

And so you have you go have an experience and you come back you like okay wow that change the way I'm looking at life or at this thing.

Or at the world or at my kids, or, or business, whatever you can go to a business event, you can read a book, you can man, you go to a funeral, right?

Somebody you love passes away or you go have maybe you have a near-death experience or a scary experience, or you go to a museum and it changes your whole understanding and Paradigm and when you come out of that, your mind is attentive to And things, right?

Because it, it's the reticular activating system.

I think it's What's called the RAS, then it starts noticing all kinds of things and so happens, all of us, right?

You get into some or even in your line of field if you're deep into your line of work.

If your dentist or your orthodontist surgeon for sports or you're an attorney or a teacher like wherever you are, you're deeply immersed in your field.

And so you see Those things, they become more.

Important almost like the Mind, begins to weigh things out and those things because because you're deeply in it become more important obvious to you.

And so you see things and you, you think from that framework, I do the same thing, right, whatever, whatever we're in is kind of what we see.

And that's what that's the beauty and power, especially of having a Brotherhood.

And a group of people, you can do life with, who are coming with all kinds of different perspectives.

I love to say that, none of us.

Is as smart as all of us and just from your background and your experience is, you see things differently.

So if you've been through a divorce, you're going to see things differently.

If you've lost a child, you're going to see things differently.

If you've been farming or ranching, you're going to see things differently than someone who's always lived in a big city.

And that's the beauty of it all.

We can catch these different perspectives and there's so much to learn from each other and like Emerson.

And said that every person is, is my Superior in some way.

And in that way, I can learn from them and I love that and I believe that there's so much to learn.

So there's something that's been on my mind because of the experiences.

We've had recently, we're in Europe right now, I'm actually in still in Vienna and we.

So we've been through, I think 11 or 12 countries.

Now in the last couple of months, and it's just been awesome.

So you get this.

Whirlwind effect, right?

And you get to see a lot of different culture and places in big cities and countries, mountainsides and and all these beautiful things.

So, from anything from Helsinki, Finland to the dolomites in Italy, just the most stunning Jagged Rocky peaks of the Italian, Alps, and men that place has justly earned its reputation.

It is stunningly.

Beautiful in there.

And we also did going through.

So we went through Estonia Latvia, Lithuania and Poland, and there was a lot, and, and Austria, there was a lot of World War two specific things in there, and actually actually World War one.

And, and then we went to these museums, and we went to the cities and we learned about history.

I mean, like Warsaw for example, was just leveled just Massacre blood running.

In the streets many times, it wasn't just in World War 2, it happened before that, and before that, and before that, where it was burned to the ground destroyed, they attacked by his conquering Army back, hundreds and hundreds of years.

Some in some cases, thousands of years which is really incredible, right?

You start thinking about that?

We went to the Museum of War history.

Which was spectacular.

I was blown away by that.

And it walks you through, like man, when you go through there again here this is exactly what I'm talking about.

If you're out here and you're living in very peaceful place and very peaceful times and occasionally, you catch something on the news, you hear about a war and a far-off distant place and like, oh, that's too bad.

But your life has been peaceful and good, and you've never experienced War.

It's so easy to get thinking that, it'll stay that way.

And that you'll be untouched or unaffected by it.

Especially in certain time periods.

If you guys haven't read the book, The Fourth turning, or at least watch the videos are some great videos explaining it on YouTube and online but learn about the fourth turning, and his premises here, is very fitting for this conversation.

His premise is that there's a turning or a change about every 20 years and give or take some years.

But about every 20 years, there's a new generation and the new generation grows up without the experience and perspective and reality of the previous one.

And so, whatever the previous one experienced that kind of shapes their life and how, who they were raised by.

Right?

You're raised by the people who have a different experience at a different time and so there's a turning every 20 years.

And so about every 80 years, there's a fourth turning, there's a total turnover in society, and it's usually chaotic.

And for the last five hundred plus years of Western Civilization every 80 years.

There's been a huge War, it's, there's always been a big turnover with war and it's just this pattern.

Because by the time you get to that fourth generation, they forgot what it was like and things are chaotic.

And there's ton again, the this cycles and the patterns and the psychology of each turning.

It's unbelievable.

And it's like it's shockingly related and clear like when you step back in like, oh my goodness, this these exact same things were happening. 80 years ago are happening again today.

But then, you know, the things that happen so in my childhood.

So 20 years ago were happening, you know, 100 years ago.

So like it just follows this pattern.

It's it's, it's crazy.

But when you see it you realize oh man, it makes so much sense.

And the people who lived in times of Peace just they become complacent.

And in the think we'll man this is just the way things are.

There's the way life is.

And and I've done that too and I'm sure in many ways, I'm still doing it but that's extremely dangerous in that it makes us vulnerable and naive.

It is so naive to think that just because it's been that way for a while.

Did it's going to continue that way?

And all you have to do is study dig into some history and you realize, yeah, that's it's super naive.

And what's interesting is like every generation that has piece they think, oh not now it's going to continue now, it's going to go on like this time will be different, but the pattern just keeps happening and that's part of why it happens because that, that generation that thinks.

Oh no, this is great.

Everything's great life is fantastic.

There's no trout.

This.

Wow, is amazing and just keeps going and we It caught in these this realities because we want it to be peaceful.

We want it.

We want the economy just to keep climbing in definitely, especially United States.

We've gotten caught in this consumerism in the growing economy that that it just keeps growing and growing and growing and expanding and it's a never-ending consumerism which if you just stop and think for a minute that's actually not possible you in and an economy that is completely built on.

Increasing consumption is it possible?

And yet that's what we want.

And that's that's our metrics and that's what we're going for.

Everyone's measuring like just keep consuming, keep consuming like it's some point.

It just won't work and in Rachel and there's just really fascinating book.

Just came out.

Can't remember the title of book right now and we listen to a podcast interview with the author, just a sharp, sharp thinker, big Financial Global big Sure, thinker.

And he's saying look man we've slipped into the society that's predominantly Services based and has broken away.

So like on a government level and economic level in a social level, it's broken away from fundamental Real tangible valuable things, right?

Real assets.

And so we're and we have is really fascinating like we're in this economy in the society.

Now we're like, we're were exchanging money and time and stuff for all these things that aren't even tangible.

They're not, they're not even real.

And it's all like, it's an all an idea.

Which is pretty fascinating is super cool, but it's only going to be super cool.

Fascinating is if that's sustainable and it won't be disrupted and if you go back through the cycles and patterns of History, which he goes through, dig through all this like yeah, that that doesn't always work out because there will come a point of Crisis and when it comes like the only thing is going to be really valuable or like, tangible things.

So again, these principles and then I recently read The principles for a changing world order by Ray dalio.

And then you know like I was saying being in specific places, be going taking my kids and we let a trip and we went to Auschwitz the Concentration Camp outside of Krakow Poland and You being there in the exact place, where were over a million people were murdered just for being Jew.

And that wasn't the first time those massacres happened.

And then your were reading about.

See you soon.

I'm saying, I'm trying to, I'm trying to tell these different angles of why this is on my mind right now.

And of course, you know, input determines output.

I get that.

So I happen to come across podcasts and read certain books and have certain experiences.

So it's bringing that to my mind.

It's it's affecting the lens I'm looking through.

And so I want to share what I'm seeing Through My Lens because I fully realize like most of you may not be looking through the exact lens right now.

The chances Of us having the exact same experiences and seeing through the same lens is rare, that's why it's so valuable to for you to be listening.

So, kudos to you for listening and why I love having the discussions and the dialogue, we have particularly in the in the be the man tribe and these other places where I get it, I get a see from the lens you're looking through and you get to see through the lens.

I'm looking through, we get to learn from each other.

But I want to share this lens because now I feel super strongly that we have.

The need to kind of wake up a little bit and get prepared.

I sense this feeling because I was just reading voraciously and talking to people and seeing what's going on and kind of stepping back trying to see the big picture across time and space.

So looking at the globe as a whole where, you know, I've been able to travel extensively now to like 55 countries and having been through 12 countries very recently, you get it, it's palpable and to do it quickly like that.

That it is palpable to see and feel, and like you can actually feel it and to experience the differences in culture and mindset and tradition in like actions values habits patterns, you going to see it and it's to go to this city to this city to this country this country.

Whoa, And if you're super observant, you get to see the outcomes, right?

And I've been, I've been studying habits and patterns for over 25 years and I'm to a place now where, like you tell me your habits.

I can tell you your future, and you see those outcomes.

And so, I go into a city or culture or the countryside, or a country, whatever, and, and I can see it.

I can see it playing out.

And then you ask the right questions and people like well, yeah, you know here, we think like this, we do this and this is the outcome.

And you can see it all there.

And so then you could you take what's happening in Russia.

And there's some pretty crazy, crazy things happening in Russia that are eerily similar to the gulag archipelago which you should all read as a very, very difficult read.

But everyone should read it.

Everybody should read because the risk of forgetting that that happened about 80 years ago is the risk of his going to happen again and and the similarities of what happened back then.

Or happening now.

It's unbelievable.

And then you have the war in Ukraine and that's not going away.

But we forget about my God.

Yeah, there's a war still going on in.

But we going on about our lives right understandably because you get up and you're like, okay, I got it.

So got to get food.

I still got to do work.

So I got to spend time with my family, take my wife on a date.

Still go to church and and play sports and do these things.

And we just go on And I think it's easy for us to forget that that's still happening day in and day out, and we forget to deeply consider what it means for the rest of us, especially now the world is more Global.

So then you got some funky stuff going on with China, in whatever ever again, and then you have the cartels.

Right.

That are just all out taking over sections of Mexico with Firepower, just coming in with massive amounts of money and Firepower, and directly fighting back is killing innocent.

People attacking the military attacking, the police, just going nuts, and those guys are moving across the border and there's videos of that.

There's all kinds of evidence of it.

I mean, they're coming across the border.

It in with just two dominating own like gangs and drug drug circles and ring.

I mean they're all kind of stuff so again and I'm pointing all these things out you just I'm just getting bits and pieces and then as some of you know like I have felt this is been for like 10 or 12 years.

I've felt this deep deep need to somehow participate and be involved in anti-human trafficking just to be a part.

An advocate, right and Ambassador, I just really want to.

I if there's something I could do, I want to be involved in stopping this because there's an estimated 300, I saw two different numbers through almost 300 million.

The other was 500 million that there's three to five hundred million people.

Right now, right now at this moment that are being trafficked as humans Let that sink in. 300 to 500 million people across across the globe are our slaves.

Many of them are sex slaves.

And many of them are children.

It's a gigantic problem.

And most of the listeners I think are still in the United States and so I'll share relevant relevant information.

There that the United States as a country is the from what I have been told and the research I've done and people, I know that are working in that industry to put a stop to it.

The u.s. is the third worst country like meaning happening inside of the country, right?

We often think.

Oh man, that's terrible.

Must be having a little far off place.

Cases where there, it's just chaos and Mayhem, and corrupt government, all these terrible things when you realize, wait a minute, no, it's it's third worst country, but what's interesting Americans are the top consumers, especially of like sex trafficking Americans of the top consumers worldwide.

So they will travel outside the US.

To participate in this wretched wretched, horrible problem, but it's third for happening inside of our country.

And number one is for states number one, as I understand it is California and the to is Texas and three is Florida, right?

So this is happening right under our noses.

I recently heard a story of a young woman.

She got in an Uber, she woke.

Cup a couple days later four states over and she was inside a shipping container.

Well, luckily, she had taken her phone and stuffed it in her bra and then somehow they gave her some kind of chemical or whatever.

And she was out cold and they took her four states and in an Uber Ends up four states over and in a shipping container was going to be, you know, sold or raped or murdered or whatever.

And luckily she had a phone so she called and she was able to get rescued but I mean these stories are going on and on and on and you know the I get to again I'm trying to share my lens here.

I have a lot of friends who are in the military and special forces and to our police officers in on SWAT specifically.

And who heard out fighting crime and so I get to hear these stories regularly.

These are real life, stories.

Gentlemen, and some of you know what I'm talking about?

Yeah.

You get it but some of you like me used to be in this, I'll call to Bubble.

Because we like the bubble dude, I like the bubble.

I want to live in the bubble.

I want I want to raise my kids in the bubble.

I wish you know I don't like this stuff.

I hope I'm wrong.

I genuinely hope I'm wrong that that all this Darkness coming, but it's already happening.

The evidence is so palpable and it's all around us, but somehow we still live in the bubble.

And I get it because we want to write, who wants to face this crap?

It's dark man.

And nobody, nobody would wish this on their families or their kids.

They they want to live in a world that doesn't have those things and they definitely want to raise their kids in the world.

That doesn't have those things.

And I guess this is where I want to share my lens right now and I realize, I'm sounding pretty pessimistic.

And negative about it.

But I cannot dismiss.

The fact that it's happening so much.

So often and all over the place in neighborhoods where you would be shocked.

Because even then we think and and I had some actual personal experience with this recently where you go into wealthy neighborhoods and nice areas and you think well at least here and I catch myself doing this.

But at least that craps not happening here.

And that's oh man!

That's hilarious.

I have my laptop open and Siri thought I was talking to her.

Sorry guys.

So you get thinking well, okay, it's definitely happening in the bad neighborhoods will stay out of the bad neighborhoods, as long as we live in good areas, it won't happen.

And just recently, I was talking to a couple of police officers who were responsible for this this trafficking and sex trafficking and sexual crimes in one of the wealthiest nicest neighborhoods in the United States.

And the stories like this are first-person stories, like that happened recently that would just make you sick.

And and they wanted like they just want to shout that from the rooftops.

Like are you kidding me?

Everyone thinks that.

Oh because you know so and so let's famous or well-known or in these important positions in business or government, they have a house there and they're like yeah, that dude was involved.

And then all just menu like, no, it's those ladies to and ladies are heavily heavily involved in human trafficking and and these bus, these total huge bus, whether it's drugs or crime, or or human trafficking.

They're happening all the time in some of the nicest areas in the nicest neighborhoods.

I have personally been in some of those neighborhoods recently.

When I learned about bus that went down like and I'm still shocked by the my car.

You kidding me.

Like I thought those things would be happening, you know, over in that part of the city or that, you know, part of the area or in a different country.

But they're happening right under our noses.

And this is why it feels like a warning, voice gentleman.

And I genuinely want to raise a warning voice here.

We have to we absolutely must be more prepared ourselves and we must prepare our children.

I can confidently say that most of you and most of your children are grossly under prepared for what is happening and what's coming.

And I don't want that to sound harsh or mean, I just want to be honest, and I'm concerned about it for myself and I'm concerned about it for my kids, and we've been working on it for years deliberately because we've been traveling.

Now, for I lost count things, like 16 years, we've been traveling extensively and been in some of the poorest places in the world.

Some of the worst places in the world and some of the best places in the world, And we've seen this and so.

And again, you guys know my story, I was out on my own, a 16 in rough, rough areas, just barely surviving.

So I grew up with some Street smarts And again, you're like, well, okay, well it's obviously influencing your Paradigm, your perspective and your reality, I'm like, yeah, of course, it is, of course it is.

So there's there's an academic side of this which is great and there's a street side of it like Street smarts.

And we have to build a see both.

But we cannot dismiss just because so far, maybe nothing bad has happened.

But it you with me on this, like it would be unbelievably naive and stupid of us to think that it won't happen to us that we can somehow just go through life and completely avoid.

It is, that's that's where I'm coming from and reading these great books from these really great thinkers and seeing the museums and traveling from countries and and hearing reports of things that are happening real time.

And and these big big thinkers guys who are so So much more intelligent and Brilliant than I am.

They're seeing the big picture and the Deep picture and they are raising a warning voice saying, whoa.

Like look at this.

Look when these indicators popped up in history.

This is what happened.

When these indicators popped up in other countries is what happened.

And when they see those indicators happening, they're like, hey guys, the exact same things happening and yet.

So many of us are like that we want to stick our heads in the sand and pretend like for some reason.

And that won't happen to us, that were exempt.

And we want to believe that it's not happening, the reality is, it's totally happening.

In wealthy areas, in affluent, areas and educated areas in very religious areas.

When you, when you find out the statistics.

Here's a, here's one for example, of rape, in in predominantly Christian areas, Who's one in four girls will be raped before the age of 18 and these are in predominantly Christian areas were like good areas after there's a lot of affluence and education, a good stuff wanted for men. the and even like the child sex offender registry, You live in a nice area thing.

No, not here and then you get on that.

You like, oh my goodness.

There's that guy down the street that guy the other way down the street and then that person you know, the street behind us and the block over, it's all over.

So like what's the point?

Why am I saying all this Why am I sharing this?

Why am I?

Why am I ranting here, guys?

Why am I sitting here?

Like, what are you doing?

What are we doing?

Why am I talking about this bad stuff?

Because it is legitimately whether we whether we're ignorant of it or not, or whether we are willfully, ignorant of it because we don't want to know, Like, it doesn't care.

It doesn't care, and it doesn't matter.

It is happening in real time, right now?

These things are happening all around us. and in just as it is, we are likely to face it.

We're likely to come across it or randomly, just be a victim of it.

There was a thing going around and it always changes, right?

And it'll get on social media, it'll be on Twitter, Snapchat, or whatever where these criminals will be like, hey, let's try this, let's try this.

And, and this was years ago, they were trying to do just this knockout videos.

They would just randomly pick anybody on the street and walk out and try to see if they could knock him out, cold with one punch.

So, you could just be strong down the street.

Minding your own business, you are not involved.

You're not in a bad area at, you're not involved in any crime.

You have no haters and Bam, somebody just comes and dislocate your jaw.

Or I read a book recently where it was this mistaken.

It was in this huge, huge mansion super super wealthy area in Florida and supposedly the neighbor was deep in the drug cartels and a, an enemy cartel wanted to like put a hit on that place.

Well the guys, they sent out to put the hit on five dudes.

Got the wrong house.

And so like horrible raping and the just terrible.

Terrible things.

And they caught a couple that dudes and they're like what was going on there?

Like oh, oops, wrong house.

Right.

So and again and I'm purposely telling you some stuff and there's things, I'm holding back like real stories that are just brutal terrible.

But this is happening every single day.

In fact, a woman gets raped United States.

Every 68 seconds.

So, already while we've been in Ulysses podcast, 30 women have been raped.

And those are the ones get reported.

So the likely again, I want to re-emphasize it.

Like if things just stay as they are, you're going to come across it, whether it's you, or someone else, you witness, observe your there.

There's something.

But what I see it's going to increase because the indicators are there, the division, the the segregation, the animosity, the enmity, the, the polarization.

We're just fighting over everything.

From politics to sports to whatever.

I recently read about these, a coach and a dad of a little league sport, their boys, were out there playing in the dad just got so angry and the coach, you know, fought back and they're yelling at each other.

Yeah, I mean, right there with all the kids watching everything and they both got so upset, they started throwing fists and and punching each other and the dad was a big dude.

And so You know, in a fit of anger knocked in the ground was just punching him will.

When he went down, he hit his head and he was punching him.

His face and was punching him right into the concrete and he killed him.

Right there for other kids.

And now he's he's been in prison for a very long time.

He murdered a guy at Little League because they were upset about how the practice our game was going.

It's those crazy and it's not you want to think you hear stories like this, you like she's not so far-fetched and so far out there like that's crazy.

We like again we just want to dismiss it.

We want to dismiss like I would never happen on my kids team and that would never happen in my area and no way.

That's it's just that's just a random fluke that won't happen.

But there's endless literally endless stories like this.

We lived in a nice area in Georgia and I trained in Krav Maga with a couple of guys that were on the SWAT.

Team, your SWAT team leaders out there and they would come and tell me stories.

Just that were happening nearby like I lived in like kind of a semi-rural area like super peaceful and then I go yeah man just around the corner.

A couple guys came in with like AK-47, then lit up the entire apartment complex.

And I'm like, wait what?

Like right here he's like yeah.

Okay.

And then stories, every time we met up did stories of crazy things happening like that.

And again, you'll hear that story Miller.

Yeah.

Cause that's, you know, that's that's over there or that all.

Yeah, that kind of stuff happens on there.

It's happening everywhere and I, you know, my guess is you guys listening to this, you know, because you're hearing it too and you're hearing in areas where there's more suicides and more murders and more rapes and more crime and then you know, maybe War coming or the cartel or whatever.

I don't know what it's going to be and I hope I'm wrong.

I hope you go.

I choose really do, I hope You go your whole life without experiencing this stuff.

I really do genuinely.

But the reality is, and I keep repeating myself on purpose, here it would be naive and stupid.

To not really seriously, prepare ourselves and our kids and not just like to defend themselves as they should be, but to be smart to have some Street smarts to have confidence and competence.

And to be super ready.

So I guess this is where I one of the things I want to really emphasize here.

We're raising our kids.

And we think they're ready.

We want to think they're ready.

Right?

And you are like, you know, my kids are good kids and they're ready.

Well, what are they ready for too often?

They're ready for this?

This bubble?

And again, I want to I'm going to push here a little bit if you love me.

You think not on all my kids, they know we've talked about the real world.

They know they know the evils out there and bad things know, my kids are ready Like I it's the rarest thing.

To have a kid that's actually ready to succeed as an adult.

And that's, that's outside of this conversation.

A majority of young adults and youth are utterly failing to launch and that Failure to Launch.

That's, that's a term that psychologists are using in therapists are using because they're not launching, they're not, they're not succeeding in the military, they're not succeeding in sports or not succeeding University, they're not succeeding and jobs are not succeeding in marriage, they're not succeeding as Missionaries, they're just going back home in droves or they're never leaving home.

And they're failing to function with just absolute confidence and competence.

And I realize here, I'm what I'm doing is I'm raising the bar, way, way up.

I'm talking about.

I want if you're listening to this like it's because you're in the right space and like I'm talking about our kids should be in the top 1 to 2%.

I'm not talking about in general.

I'm not talking about and like okay top 50% top 25%, I'm talking about the top one to two percent.

That's why I want my kids to be.

And so not only do they have to be super ready for like whatever can happen in the workplace or in Live or crimes or fire any kind of mamak racer or medical emergency or whatever.

And again I like I'm sitting here saying I am thinking through is like I need to be more prepared.

My kids need to be more prepared, they're not ready.

And I've been working on this for years, I've been thinking about it for years and traveling extensively for years and Still, like, I want to work on it more and I want to hone it in more and I want to invite you to participate.

Join me in that to get our kids to this the top 1% where they're ready.

And we have to, honestly look at our kids and this is hard so I know because you look at kids like gosh, I love my kids.

So proud of my kids are doing so many great things and that is true, and that is wonderful.

And that is awesome.

Like, please just keep that up.

Celebrate that like crazy.

But take an honest, honest, look at them.

And if they're if they're timid or lacking confidence or competence in mindset or skill set or whatever it is, you got to be honest, man.

Like if they're timid and shy and reclusive or you know, not their struggle being present or being gauged or being confident or thinking like in in safe places.

And it comfortable environments.

What would happen in all out Mayhem and chaos and craziness?

How would they handle really truly hard situations.

Now, I realize I'm ranting here gentlemen, because I've seen this stuff first hand And I keep seeing it and I think we're going to see more and more of it.

And we might be thinking the likelihood of that ever happening.

Solo.

Maybe I hope so, but I doubt it And and again we we get a little bit, I'm going to be just totally honest here, we get a little bit delusional.

And we start thinking, no, no, I do hard things.

And yeah, my kids, they do hard things but are our reality of what's actually hard is so skewed because our lives have been so easy and so convenient.

We're not even in touch with reality of what hard really is.

And like this, this particular thing came up a lot in the book.

Serious, listen to recently and the the World War Two locations.

We went to, especially the concentration camp and the Warsaw the ghettos and the, the death marches and the things they went through and reading their stories real accounts because we in those museums, you get to read so many personal accounts of what happened.

And the hardest things I've ever done in my life just pale in comparison to the things they had to do.

It's nothing.

My life is easy and cushy and comfortable and I thought I've done some pretty hard things, but when I get a reality check like that, so, wow.

And then I take that and you pass it on the again I get to work.

I get to work with youth and families every single day and across five continents.

And I get a lead trips, so I take families out adults and youth.

I get to see firsthand like how they handle things.

And again, this is this is my lens, right?

I realize I'm looking through a particular lens, but this is the lens.

I get to see up-close, taking Youth, and adults, and putting them in situations where mandate They are struggling or they're not prepared.

The just suck at making good decisions or keeping, you know, or processing their emotions or thinking clearly or their health is just just poor.

Or they're just weak that they just can't handle things.

Physically mentally, emotionally, spiritually, Spiritual is another one right there.

Just have no Foundation.

There they go through the motions.

They might even be very active in their church but real deep Spiritual Development.

It's just missing.

Social skills leadership skills.

Use me and again, I realize I'm talking, I'm inviting you to come up to the 1%, like, chase that go with me there.

That's what, that's what I'm shooting for.

There's no way in the world.

I'm like, yeah, you know, I'm good with like 70%.

I'm raising my kids meet, you know, that, that top 30%, we're good.

Like no way.

I'm shooting for the top and I want to invite you to do the same.

And not just to survive this crap but to thrive and not just to take care of yourself and your family, but have resources enough and capacity enough to help a lot of other people as well.

And and look, I'll be the first to tell you.

I'm not there yet, but I'm going.

And I've been working on it a lot.

And I have my sights on it and so that's why I want to share this.

So I hope I hope you guys can can feel and sense.

What what I'm saying here and how I'm trying to say it how I'm trying to convey it and hopefully I shared a message in an adequately enough that you get what I'm saying?

We have to level up big time and what we thought was preparedness isn't I know that's a bold statement.

But from all I'm seeing and hearing firsthand and across the globe, this isn't just one little isolated area or one little thing.

And a lot of it is, is inside information that isn't shared publicly.

It's people in these fields of military, or, or police, or anti-human trafficking, or drugs, or whatever.

You just talked to guys.

And, and they're not sharing anything that is class.

I shouldn't be shared, but it's not things that are known publicly.

But when you, when you see that and you hear it, and you know what's going on, then man, I just with just total love and concern and genuine desire to help you and your families and my family as well be super prepared.

I just can't emphasize enough what we thought was prepared isn't even close.

And our kids.

We and our kids have to be able to, at a minimum handle emergencies and and real trauma and true stress and chaos and handle the pressure.

The very first love as it when I became an EMT.

Like the first day, they just showed us the most gory pictures they could find and videos because they wanted to get a reaction.

And some people dropped out that the first day of, like, I'm out, I can't even, I can't look at that.

I can't see this to I'm out of here and and they have to filter like that, like, look if you can't even look at a picture, what's going to happen when you roll up on a real scene and their body parts all over, you can keep your own crap together.

Again, you think all will not, you know, it's not going to happen.

I've gone my whole life without seeing things like that.

Well, men, it's naive to think it's going to carry on like that.

You're going to see stuff and if things even, you know, the indications or whether leading if they go anywhere near that were all going to be experiencing stuff like that.

And it's happening in places around the world.

Right now.

It's a reality.

So you can handle violence.

Can you handle malevolence?

Can you can you look in that Abyss?

Can you defend yourself?

Can you protect others?

Can you keep your own crap together your mind in a solid place, your spirit your emotions?

Can you can you handle the emotional demands?

Of real.

Real intensity.

Well, here's an example of how this week the organization I volunteer with their team, went over to help with the the earthquakes in turkey and those were absolutely devastating.

Well over 40,000 confirmed dead and entire city blocks.

Just dropped these Parliament buildings just crumbled.

And go over there and, and find the bodies.

And to be able to be prepared enough to have something to offer again, when I'm talking about preparation, are you prepared for life?

Are you prepare you for the real world?

Do you have serious skills that are make you an asset?

Again, I'm talking about the one percent that do you have something seriously valuable to offer or you're just a good person and and even like Jordan Pederson says like unless you've been tested and tried and really put to the test, you're not you're not good, you're just naive.

It's not good.

It's in.

It's like an he actually says like it's week.

You're just weak.

When you can get in a really truly difficult situation, and keep your crap together, and be an asset and contribute real value, without getting totally messed up with you.

Then you're good, then you're strong.

Until then, it's all just pretend.

And again gentleman like myself included.

I was out of my own a 16 I've seen and experienced horrendous things and still I would say my life has been cushy and easy and comfortable.

Even when I didn't have enough food, didn't have a place to stay.

I've been in some of the roughest places on the planet and still my life has been easy.

And many of you are like that to your lies have been so easy and so again I just want to raise his running voice.

Like we're operating in a like a fairytale reality that's just has never continued on for longer than a short period of time throughout all history.

So why would we think it's going to keep going?

And it makes us like night naive, people?

And people who think is just going to keep being good and everything's going to keep working out.

Those are the most vulnerable people ever.

Those are the ones that are being taken advantage of and the people who are kind of Clueless and kind of naive and kind of defenseless and they're not, you know, really tough and gritty those guys.

I don't know how to emphasize this enough.

Those are the ones who are being victimized, who were being raped, who were being taken into sex trafficking or just any form of human trafficking, Obviously, that's not always the case.

They're they're preying on everybody, but they're looking for vulnerabilities.

They're looking for weaknesses in the most vulnerable are often the most naive.

And includes an unprepared, the less prepared.

We are, the more susceptible we are to be victimized and to be unable to help when when there's real need for help.

Well man, I just get fired up about this stuff because I want I want to be able to myself to be an asset gentlemen.

I want my children to be prepared and to be assets and I still have a lot of work to do and my kids still have a lot of work to do.

And my guess is that you and your children, still have a lot of work to do to and so that's why I wanted to pick this mic up and record.

This podcast was for this very reason to just to genuinely raise a warning voice and be like, let's go.

Let's get serious about this.

Do whatever you need to do, to get ready, holistically, physically, mentally emotionally, spiritually, socially financially, get it all in order and if it never happens fantastic you were prepared.

That's great.

My guess is you'll have opportunities to help others.

But I also suspect that rough times are coming.

It just purely as a historical perspective, just that alone.

If you look at history like oh yeah it's coming.

That pattern is repeated again and again and again and there's no reason to believe that it won't repeat.

So just that historical perspective alone is evidence enough.

That rough times are coming and we need to be repaired and the people who are more prepared do better.

To get through.

So let's, let's get after that again.

This is a lot of stuff.

We cover in the be the man master class in tribe.

We talked about getting the mind, body and spirit, dialed in and your marriage, and your parenting, your family Legacy, getting your finances, dialed in getting your whole life.

Well I call it holistic optimization right whole life optimization because the more optimized we are the better prepared we are for whatever comes along.

And that's what we need most.

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