#43 The Real Man's Commitment to Quality

Gentlemen, welcome to the bee man podcasts.

I'm your host Greg Denny excited to talk today about some some awesome stuff man and it's a great way to start the new year, so it's brand new year.

Happy New Year gentlemen.

And we're over here actually recording today from Riga Latvia.

We're going traveling with my family.

Been traveling through spend a few weeks in.

In Norway which was just off the charts, will come back to that.

We went into Denmark and then Sweden and then fenland actually stopped in the åland islands for a little bit and Finland.

And then to Estonia Tallinn Estonia with amazing man, one of my favorite old towns on the planet right there.

And then now we're in, we are in Latvia and Lithuania, and Poland and on just just out having an epic epic adventures with my family.

And I wanted to share a gentleman today.

Some, some Distinctions so experiences we had, which is awesome.

That's why we love to travel travel.

You know, just awakens the soul.

And it's pretty interesting, you know, as a human race.

We've been nomadic for for Millennia and you get out and travel and it just there's something about as challenging and invigorating and awakens the soul.

But one of the most valuable things we get from travel is the contrast, right?

You get to see different things.

And if, if nothing else, if you got Nothing else from any kind of travel, experience your adventure but the contrast it would be worth it.

So even it like if you live in the city and you just go out to the countryside and you feel the difference, you see the difference, you notice, you pay attention to details.

You'll feel different or if you live in the country and go into the City and notice it just be open to it.

Be curious, open up your curiosity.

And then, especially if you can go to other countries, other cultures other places and we've been in multiple countries.

Now we don't speak.

The language language, isn't anything close to English?

And and in some of the countries like Norway, everyone speaks, perfect English, there was amazing but here in Latvia very, very few people speak English and it was the same in Estonia.

Just fewer and fewer people and especially when you get away from the city's ban is almost nothing but the culture, the history of man we've been just Deep diving in history is so fun to watch my kids, get into it as well.

And, and to love learning about the people in the place and what happened and why it is the way it is, and why the people are the way they are.

It's just so beautiful.

So, take your family out gentleman, and go see the world race.

Raise your children to be Global globally.

Minded children, and to see really across space and time because we're covering space.

But then, as we study history, go back in time, man.

It's so incredible.

And just Pan's the mind so much.

It's such a beautiful experience.

And so we've been out, we've been out for five or six weeks.

Now, we're going to be out for several months as we just kind of wandered around the earth and I know that sounds crazy and it's wild and its unique and rare but it's it's our family dream.

We absolutely love to travel because of the people and the food in the places in the learning, it's a massive educational experience and the chance to connect.

They're good human beings and serve when we can we just love us?

We're living our dream.

I hope that inspires you to live, your unique Family, Dream, whatever that looks like for you to get out there and do it.

But one of the contrasts, we noticed, was extremely palpable.

We went to New York city.

So we left left home went to New York City and spent the whole day there.

And so we took the subway that it's the main Subway from the JFK, which is a gigantic airport into downtown New York and then we walked around Went out on a boat saw Statue of Liberty and then walk through all the town and and went down to Times Square where you get this experience at all.

It was around Christmas.

There was so many people out.

It was crazy.

There's parts of the streets were literally just smashed.

I was holding on to my kids and we were just shoulder-to-shoulder just pressed with humans and it was wild and crazy.

So we're on this.

This train.

The subway train going in, it was rickety.

Noisy.

Yeah.

A couple of times felt like the train was going to come off the tracks.

It was just Rough.

Stop and go and just bouncing all over the place with.

No, he was dirty.

There was, there was graffiti everywhere.

They get into the subway stations and and they were, they were, they were pretty sketch, man.

It's dirty.

Filthy dark.

We're hitting stop after stop at a stop.

And every time, the Sir would say, there is a New York City, police officer on standby, if you need to report something.

So every time I stop so you're hitting all these stops you're going through every time.

Hey, there's a police officer on the platform if you need to report something and you're like well yeah there's a there's a sense of of crime around and then there were a couple going in and coming out there was a couple instances where guys just totally gone.

Someone alcohol someone drugs you tell they were just just high as a kite gone.

And then, if you guys were sitting next, you just screaming screaming profanities and threats and yelling to talk about racism and I'm going to be pretty be one kill.

I'm just going off, just crazy stuff, right?

So there I am with my family.

We have six of our seven kids with us and, you know, the oldest 18, youngest is six.

So I'm two little girls and they're just like, what is going on?

And I've been around rough things.

I I was I grew up in the streets as a teen and been around some rough things and travel all the world and and been in some rough spots but to be there with your family and be around, it was it was it was some serious threats and got to get us some rough spots and then you go to New York City and and it was really disgusting.

We just it's everything is filthy and it's trash.

And and he well, we within some of the nice stores right in the end.

But you see it all like the bling bling is Times Square.

Was like, just all it is just as massive.

Being massive marketing section is really interesting.

I mean, it was fascinating.

I like going to New York is fascinating and just, you know, interacting with people and and the place in the again, the whole experience you're going there for the experience, right?

It was really interesting.

The so then we hop on a flight, we overnight into Oslo Norway and then we land in the airport and its pristine clean quiet.

There was a section of the airport, I walked over there, it was as quiet as a library, and they had these beautiful desk set up where it's cubicles and you can plug in your laptop and there were people there working and some guy, you know, he was, it was quietly watching the World Cup and any he like, shout it out when they scored and everyone looked over like you're making noise, right?

But it was just quiet in an airport International Airport was amazing and it was everything was so clean And neat and quiet respectful in the seats.

There's plenty of seating and it was all like really comfortable seating and then they had like longer ones where you can like, lay down and take a nap, it was incredible.

Then we get off, we take the main Subway from the train from the airport into downtown.

So we're essentially having the same experience.

We just had right?

Going from a major International Airport into downtown.

Now I realize us those much smaller than New York City.

But the train was silent.

Like it was there was no noise.

It was smooth.

The subway stations were just super clean.

Open tons of light.

No graffiti.

The chairs were, were very comfortable, their space r, everybody.

Everyone was cordial and kind and friendly, and helping others, on and courteous or those smashing or pushing or jostling.

There was no foul.

Foul language.

There was nobody screaming or yelling and there was no, no signs the whole time.

I was in Norway and we traveled over the entire country for three weeks, covered thousands of miles.

I didn't see any drugs or drunkenness and I would go out running 200, run all over the cities where we were, we took trains and Subways and boats everywhere flights and we covered some serious ground didn't see any of that.

And my kids my kids point out.

The cart, they felt They're powerful like that we walk on the like.

Wow, look at this train station.

It's so open, and so light, and so beautiful, so clean and we gotta train like, wow, this train is so quiet and so nice and smooth.

The ride was so smooth, made two stops their people on and off quickly and efficiently.

Everything was on time and that you just almost like you just stepped up into luxury.

And the interesting thing was, it was so cheap.

It was a tiny fraction of the cost for us to take Take about the same distance of a train from the main airport to downtown as you know, in both both directions.

But it was a tiny fraction in Oslo as was in New York and it was this contrasting.

You get to the city and saying the city's is actually the whole country.

Wait.

Now he's absolutely the whole family, loved Norway and and we got to check off some serious bucket list, things from dogsledding, which was just magical, and, and reindeer sledding, and feeding, the reindeer, get around them and and Learning about the Sami people than digitus people up there and their culture.

Seeing the northern lights going out on on a cruise in the night in the bay and then cruising through the fjords, taking these Old Scenic trains to the mountain passes and man it was it was just off the charts, the whole trip was absolutely spectacular, but I wanted to lean into this principle of of that contrast there.

And it really when it came out, we were discussing with our family and again, There's a principle, I want to pass along, notice things like this go, I don't have experiences and then discuss them talk about what you see and what you experience with your kids, see what they experience and learn how to glean the principles and the life lessons.

The things we can learn and gain from from all the stuff we see and experience.

Well, what came up in the discussions like, man.

The over here in Norway specialty but it was throughout Scandinavia but particularly stood out in Norway.

It's like there's just this commitment to Quality.

Now, we could talk about all the different, well, they're government this, or this stuff or whatever and there's his, and all these different things, right?

But ultimately, it comes down to, we all have a choice.

And we can choose to do things.

Well, we can choose to do things poorly.

We can choose to tolerate mediocrity from ourselves and others or we can choose to have a standard of Excellence.

We can choose to do things in a shoddy way.

Just you know, cut Corners, just try to get it done, you know, try to hide things sneak things, do whatever, just do the bare minimum, which is what so many people do.

This is like this.

They have a commitment to do the bare minimum, as little as little as possible.

Or you can choose to walk this higher Road.

Yes, it's more work, but it's absolutely more reward.

And you can do it in every area of your life.

I know I said a conversation with a friend of mine who has a big company and, and he was talking about how he went out with one of his workers, and he was talking to him and he's like, hey, what are you guys working on?

And I like, what we have all these we have a certain number of jobs, he's like a, well, when you get to get those done, he's like, well, they don't have to be done until, you know, the end of February.

So we have a couple months so it will get them done.

I was like wait a minute, but I thought you told me before that your capacity is to do twice as many in like a week and a half or two weeks.

And ours is a much much shorter time.

He's like, well, yeah, we can but we're and he's like, why are you?

He's like, well, because it doesn't have to be done and he just it was just a simple mindset of like, well I could do all of that work in two weeks, but since it doesn't have to be done for eight weeks, we'll just spread it out over the eight weeks, right?

Things like, wait a minute, why don't you just get it, all the work done and then move on to something else, more project, more Revenue, more more things you can do.

Like, let's move on and those kind of things pop up all the time.

Time that our life and all kinds of different aspects.

So my invitation today and there's the brief episode is just to look through every area of your life and say, where, where could I improve with a commitment to Excellence?

and I think you guys, you guys know this is a great group of men and and you've been doing some things really well in your life and I think for the most part as I work with people all over the world it's usually they do a few things really well, they have some kind of commitment but then they let other things slide They'll have one aspect of our life is like been everything's clean and neat.

And orderly and Excellence is all dialed in and organize and put on effective and then other areas like yeah, yeah, I didn't get to that.

It's almost like, they don't care.

They don't want to be bothered by that or they just haven't put the effort in there and of course there's some that just kind of a little bit shoddy or sloppy or mediocre and everything.

But in like gentleman, like I say all the time in life, you get what you tolerate from yourself and from others, from your environment, from everything. and if we would all just commit, To Quality commit to Quality.

And I know that this started with me because I didn't grow up like this.

But to start with me of like going through gear or tools, or equipment, you'd buy some because you want to save a little money and so you buy something but then it just breaks and see.

I'm trying to see that just breaks about anybody and get anybody to get in by you.

It actually so cheap becomes really expensive because it keeps breaking and it's frustrating to irritate doesn't work.

Doesn't do what it's supposed to do, right?

And so finally, I got to try some some higher quality gear.

And I think I actually ended up getting some used here for cheap somewhere and that was my like, first exposure experience to really expensive.

Good gear and I was like, whoa, this is a totally new level of awesome.

And so then we slowly it was unfortunately was a long transition which right out of Mentor, a coach to say, look know the sooner you invest in quality like the longer it lasts the better.

It'll be.

So then I started buying quality things.

And I still, I still have things I bought in my early twenties like especially like outdoor gear Adventure Gear, backpacking, gear camping gear, things like that, just super high quality and it still works great.

And I still use all the time.

I might all-time favorite sleeping bag.

I think I bought when I was Manna was I think it was 19, man. 19 or 20 and it's a fully down.

Sleeping bag that is like 800 fills.

Still my favorite bag and I still use it.

My kids love is their favorite baits.

Amazing.

And so and I have a belt I'm wearing a leather belt that I bought like 20 years ago.

So when I realized how you started investing in quality and and it's worth it and so we started investing in nicer things.

And then we started doing things that are started.

Keeping things, nicer started everything we wanted in our life, we would do with better quality.

So the invitation today is I want you to do is just go through every aspect of your life.

Mind, Body Spirit, relationships finances, whatever, take your car or your desk, your, your physical appearance, your whole body inside, and out your clothes shoes, your closet, your bedroom, your bed, your.

So, even this like, you're going to spend a third of your life, in your bed is worth investing in a great mattress, and a great pillow.

And then, like everything to like down to the, even the deodorant, right?

My deodorant is like 12 or $13 for stick of deodorant because we get the best stuff is natural with no chemicals in it.

And the same with our soaps and shampoos, we don't, you know, okay, here's a perfect example of vegetable oils, and like canola oil, I mean, those CEOs, they're the worst worst thing for your body there so poisonous and toxic.

And they're crazy cheap.

There's just every grocery store has his idols of them and it's so toxic so cheap, but if you want to get like compare that with like coconut oil, right?

Coconut oil is a great, a great product and it's so much more expensive.

And but it's worth, right that there's that investment in quality.

So it's the quality of your food and it's the quality of the work you do every where every little thing and it's like James, Alan pointed.

I was like, look, if you're not, if you're not willing to do, do great work in small things, you do things with high quality then then you'll never have the opportunity to do great work in the big things.

And so it has to start and that's been my experience in life.

The more I've been committed to Quality, everything else is starting to change because people notice from the way, you carry yourself to the way you speak, right?

What's the quality of your language?

So you just foul mouth and just speak about whatever of the Spanish where you grill said he has been like just just for whatever just foul gross things.

But it's the quality of your music.

It's the quality of your, the movies, you watch, quality of books, quality of Because everything you're doing, right?

And so come to your life, go through your marriage, your each of your relationships with your kids, how you spend your time, the quality of the apps you have on your phone, the quality of the conversations you have with family or friends or colleagues, the quality of your treatment, with your patients, your commitment to Quality in, how you deliver the goods, with whatever it is, you do.

Your commitment to Quality with your financial situation so you can take an assess everything right.

The whole triple Trifecta that I talk to guys about like the whole backbone of the be the man movement, the masterclass, the tribe.

Everything is built on this triple Trifecta so you can go through Mind Body Spirit which is the first one and where you fit and you committed to Quality.

In your mind, quality mind and quality education, quality thinking, quality mindsets are you committed to Quality in your spirit?

And your spiritual connection and your practices and your values like high high quality values gentleman.

Are you committed to Quality with every aspect your body like I just mentioned then the second Trifecta is family and that's your marriage, your parenting, your family Legacy.

Are you committed to Absolute quality in your marriage, they examine that examine.

Every aspect of that, How you interact with each other, how you serve each other, how you understand each other yourself and your marriage?

Are you dating and courting and serving and loving your patient and tolerant helpful?

Are you studying it?

Or are you going out?

Regular you guys have, you know, you're getting away.

Like I have already on our calendar for this year.

We have a romantic getaways for my birthday in Warsaw and for our anniversary in I think we're going to be in where we going to be.

It's, I think either.

Yeah, we're going to be in Istanbul and then for our anniversary I think we'll be in Jerusalem and then we have a family trip to Scott, Scotland.

I mean so how do you have already have three or four romantic getaways plan with my wife?

And we get away all the time and we go on dates all the time.

Like, I try to do two dates a week if we can iterate or more, right?

But like are you committed to that?

Raishin in the causal relationship, with each of your kids, I'm talking real true quality not checking the boxes, not going through the motions, not, you know, a little bit better than the neighbor but, like, genuine true quality.

Are you committed to that, and does it show?

Is it palpable?

Is it obvious to everyone who you and they, and everyone sees it.

Notice like, man.

That's a commitment to Quality and your family Legacy.

Do you have are you committed to Quality in your family Legacy or you just kind of doing what you've always done in doing what your parents did or doing what the people around you do?

And don't do not base your life and your family Legacy on what most people do because what most people are doing is is another manifestation and definition of mediocrity is doing what most people do.

It's average.

Right?

And you do not want to have Rich results, especially the family Legacy.

Are you committed to Quality and your family Legacy and then third trifectas finances.

It's your income you committed to Quality with your income.

Your expenses, are you committed to Quality with, where your money goes and how you manage it and Investments are you committed to Quality in your Investments and in the quality of each investment but also the quality of life in the whole thing of investing.

Saving and investing like are you moving your life forward and your legacy forward financially with high quality and your friendships and get all of your interactions?

Your engagements online.

How are you online?

Some people get online, their absolute monsters.

So see if they have some kind of alien sir, some kind of you know, they can hide behind some fake name or something they don't, they just are absolute.

Trolls mean, it's terrible.

And it's embarrassing.

And it's pathetic.

That is pathetic.

What about your engagements in your commitment quality?

With, with all your interactions, this with strangers?

Okay, here's the next level Phyllis How you handle difficult people?

Are you committed to quality of your in a gastro when things are challenging or how about gentlemen, when it's inconvenient and uncomfortable?

See, that's that's the real Mark of Manliness right there.

It's not anyone can can do things well when it's easy and comfortable and convenient.

But only a real man.

Keeps his commitment to Quality when it's tough when it's difficult to do when it's challenging frustrating, entertainers.

And especially when there's unexpected setbacks and obstacles Will you maintain your equipment commitment?

Quality?

Will you be consistent?

See, very few people are consistent.

Very few.

People are committed to Quality and if those few even fewer will stay committed when it gets hard. and of those very, very few Well, maintained that course and hold that high standard and commitment to Quality.

When it's tough. but that my friends is my invitation for all of us that we look through every aspect of what we do and commit, To do it with quality.

And again, you get what you tolerate.

So if you talk, if you tolerate, like pathetic things, then that's what you get.

If, if that light switch has been broken forever, if the sinks been leaking, if the garage door squeaks and barely opens, or doesn't open it all or or there's that little thumping sound in your car.

The stain, you never you, you've been talking about, cleaning it up, or whatever, or that old shirt is needs to be gone because it looks ridiculous, like, whatever it is.

Just do it.

Pick, my guess, is you probably got a few things, right?

I bet there's a few things in your life.

Whether it's at the office, or at home, or just in your attitude, or behavior, maybe.

And maybe it's even like, you just been angry, your explosive, you have a temper or you're just Snappy or you've just been kind of doing shoddy work, you just just doing the bare minimum Whatever it is.

I bet there's a few things, you know, right away like you know not I either you a you haven't yet committed to Quality or you let your commitment go.

So my invitation today gentleman be the man Level up that commitment to Quality.

Take the things in your life that are important and do them well.

And yes, they matter if it's in your life.

Well, you better examine whether it's worth keeping in your life.

Everything that's in your life.

Ought to have a very dang good reason for being there.

A very good one, if it doesn't have a phenomenal reason for being your life, and get rid of it, because life is too precious.

And to limited actually to have all kinds unlimited, crap, trash low-quality things in your life.

So if it's in your life, it ought to be quality, it ought to be worth it.

And it's worth maintaining that commitment to Quality a, my promise to you is that as you begin to level up from the inside out, right?

It's all about the inside job.

You commit.

First inside is that the inside work in your head, and your heart, your soul.

So and then it creates that outward manifestation, Watch What Happens, it starts to have that Cascade beautiful, beautiful, Cascade effect.

Every other part of your life, people notice opportunity start showing up things start working out and seemingly miraculous ways and Heaven and Earth moves in your favor and awesome things.

Just happen.

That is so fantastic.

So, that's my assessment is part of being a real man is being committed to high-quality in every way.

So let's make that happen gentleman.

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We can we can and again you see this contrast all over the world I was traveling with was with a friend one time in Guatemala.

And he just posed this question because it's such a beautiful landscape, but there's just garbage everywhere and things are done shoddy.

And he said, man, I wonder what the Germans are, the Swiss would do with this, right?

And it was such a cool contrast.

Every time I go back to Guatemala, I think of that, like, man, the, the Swiss live up in the mountains.

And if you took all the Swiss people and you transplant them to Guatemala Guatemala, would be an absolute Paradise.

It would look like a postcard within just a few years.

And if you took Guatemalans and you took him over to Switzerland.

Unfortunately.

Sadly, Switzerland would look like a trash hole and just a few years or less.

And it's, and again, I am not faulting a lot of them because they don't know any better is literally lack of education, but somebody's got to say, hey, let's raise the quality of education.

So it raises the people and raises the standard, and people have to step on be Community leaders and say, hey, we're not going to tolerate this everyone here in this neighborhood.

We all need.

Speak.

Well, and treat each other nice.

We all need to pay up our houses.

Make it look nice and nobody's going to throw trash around here because we're all gonna have, there's going to be consequences for that.

And we live better than that.

We're going to raise our standards.

So we lead out and we lift and lift and lift.

We raise standards.

That's not you don't do it.

Like, stinking HOA, you guys know this about me hate HOH because they're doing it the wrong way, right?

It's just somebody just anal and upset and honoree and doesn't have any real purpose or meaning in their life.

And Running around my arm and just and they're finding people and pilot.

It's just, it's wrong way to do it.

It's not a commitment to Quality, right?

So there's a way about going down as you lead with this when yourself and your family and your team lead the right way.

Lead.

Don't don't don't manage no beat and don't punish her manipulate set it by example and inspire people.

So they ought.

So everybody wants those things.

They want excellence in Hire them to commit to a high-quality.

Let's make this happen.

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