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2:20 "If you haven't played video games in the last 10 years, they have become more addictive." The people who create games, and other media, are strategically using their knowledge of human psychology and neurology in their favor. In schools, competition is being removed and socially discouraged and as a result, many boys are turning to video games.
7:17 Just from your experience, being married, raising boys, and working with boys, what have you perceived, on your own, what boys want and need? Tony Robbins teaches that every human being has 6 basic needs. Boys and men turn to video games to try and fulfill one of their basic needs! As moms, we must be reminded that boys have different desires and motivations than we would. Allow boys to be boys without giving them a pass to be barbarians.
12:34 Boys are turning to video games for a reason, as mothers you need to remember that they are doing it to fulfill a drive or desire that we may not understand, having never been a boy. Boys will get together and prefer to be alone, or with other boys, playing video games more than they prefer to engage with girls.
19:55 What is it that keeps evil at bay? If your needs are being met you are not going to seek out the other vehicle that is unhealthy or immoral, because your needs are being met! The sheep hate the sheepdogs as much as they hate the wolves.
24:50 Certain men have this "will to power" those types of boys/men are more likely to be addicted to video games than they are to engage in a useful career. When you play video games you get a dopamine hit where you feel like you achieved so much, but the reality is all you did was sit on your butt! The REAL pricetag of achieving greatness in the real world is so much more effort than it is in the virtual world.
32:10 Violent video games affect Attention deficit disorder, foolish risk-taking, obesity, changes in personality, and dehumanizing. The connection that video games have with pornography. Non-violent video games. "All we can think about is Minecraft, we don't even want to go outside and play anymore." Not every boy gets addicted to video games but for the ones that do, it is so important to watch out.
42:40 We want our boys to put in the effort to become REAL men! We NEED to put in more effort to create that environment to allow them to develop those skills! Make your boys' life's more fulfilling, adventurous, stimulating, and competitive than video games! Examples: martial arts, sports, trips, adventures, races, camping, fishing and so much more!
46:40 It can be challenging to get your children to want to do those things when they have the option of video games. The kids that can and will spend all day on video games are the ones you need to worry about and invest in the MOST! You need to control the headgates until your children can learn to manage it for themselves! When you take away the video game you need to FILL that void for your children that they are trying to fill with the video games.
55:24 Support the working energy wherever your boys are excited, as long as it's good to work! As they get older you will need to get new strategies! You NEED to invest in your family in BIG ways! Start today to implement the small things and plan today for the big things!
