FRESH EPISODE: The highs and lows of being a Sandwich Generation parent.

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April 18, 2023

Relationships and sex: how young is too young?

39: Most first world countries agree that the age of consent is around sixteen, but teenagers don't suddenly awake to their sexuality on their sixteenth birthday. Sexual feelings and interest can start much younger, well befo...

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March 27, 2023

Teachers: how, and why, we should talk to our teenager's teachers.

38: We all want our kids to do well at school, but when they become teenagers there's a tendency for both schools and parents to ease back on communication. The schools tend to be much bigger and our teens are trying desperat...

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March 17, 2023

Over-reactions: How to not overreact.

37: Nobody likes blowing a fuse when their teen does something that triggers them, but we all do it at some point. Nicky asked us to discuss this topic after she felt she'd overreacted to bad feedback from her son's teachers....

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March 3, 2023

Stress: Dealing with the pressures of parenting, and techniques that help reduce the stress.

36: The stress of parenting doesn’t go away when they’re teenagers, it just changes. We may have more physical space, but finding mental space can often feel impossible. In this episode we talk about the tools we can use to m...

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Feb. 23, 2023

Vaping teens: A new epidemic of nicotine use is here. How to educate and discourage your teenagers.

35: Nicotine is considered highly addictive, and sales of vapes to teens are illegal, but the numbers of teens vaping nicotine in countries around the world are causing great concern. In America, the FDA called it an epidemic...

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Feb. 8, 2023

School avoidance: what to do if your teen is missing school.

34: The 'social contract' between families and schools has been broken during the pandemic, and ongoing absence of kids is a 'deep and concerning problem' according to Amanda Spielman, chief of the UK schools watchdog. Rates ...

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Feb. 3, 2023

Role models: Andrew Tate, misogyny, red pills, and the manosphere.

33: We've been asked by a listener to discuss how we talk to our boys about influential online figures like Andrew Tate, who act both as an inspiration to achieve great things, and a lightning rod for disgruntled men who blam...

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Jan. 26, 2023

Rules: Consequences, and the teen who doesn't seem to care.

32: Having kids can seem like a non-stop obstacle/crash course in how you get another living being to do things, whether for their own good or our own sanity. Some of us are lucky enough to have grown up in a family structure...

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Jan. 19, 2023

31: New year changes that stick. How to make resolutions that actually work.

We've all done it; new year, new me. By January the 11th the lustre has rubbed off our shiny resolutions and we're back to our old habits. The reality is that making resolutions and getting them to stick is harder than we'd l...

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Dec. 15, 2022

30: Christmas and other family gatherings with teens. Magic or misery?

We all have traditional times when our extended families come together to celebrate, give thanks, and share the warmth of mutual love. In the UK, December is a non-stop reel of songs about 'Simply having a wonderful Christmas...

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Dec. 12, 2022

29: Step-children. Coping, and thriving, with a blended family.

Having your own child can feel like an overwhelming responsibility at times, but when you become a step-parent it's even more complicated. The child may feel resentful because they didn't ask for a new parent, their biologica...

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Dec. 7, 2022

Parties for teens and tweens. Invitations, gatecrashers and alcohol.

28: Parties can be life-enhancing, joyous, and a wonderful chance to meet new people, but when it's for a teenager it can have a touch of the wild west about it. For parents who understand the risks it can feel easier to say ...

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Nov. 28, 2022

27: Christmas presents: ungrateful teens, why are they like that, and what to do about gifts?

Christmas is marketed as a time of magic and joy, but when it comes to your teenagers does it feel more like pressure - to deliver expensive gifts - and disappointment? One of our regular listeners has asked us to research an...

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Nov. 11, 2022

Friendships: How to support your ‘generation isolation’ teens to build their social skills.

26: Our teens have been dubbed Generation Isolation by the UK charity OnSide. It follows a poll which showed that 77% of young people spend most of their free time at home and 73% spend most of their free time on screens. Th...

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Nov. 9, 2022

Entitled teens: How do I stop my teenager from being entitled?

25: 'Today's teenagers are far more hopeless than anything humanity has ever produced before,' according to Jeremy Clarkson, former presenter of Top Gear. He's talking about generation Z, which is the label for those born bet...

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Oct. 14, 2022

Identity crisis? Why identity is such an issue for teenagers. Also, stinky teens and what we can do about it.

24: We've all heard about the phenomenon of a midlife crisis, but it's the teenage years when we first really become aware of our identity. For some, the sense of who we are beneath the roles we play is never a big issue. For...

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Oct. 2, 2022

Empty nest? How to cope when your teen moves out. Also, manners; what are they and what should we telling our teens about them?

23: Just under half a million teenagers will start university this autumn in the UK alone. Whilst it might be an exciting time for the teenager, the family left behind can be left reeling with a sense of grief and loss. We t...

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Sept. 22, 2022

22: Girl's clothes, and how to talk to teen about them, also talking with your teen about a change in your finances.

Can you imagine a TV presenter wearing the same blue suit on-screen for 12 months and nobody noticing, or commenting? Well in Australia, Karl Stefanovic did exactly this to make a point about the different standards men and ...

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Sept. 9, 2022

Differing parenting styles, and future careers: Parenting together when you can't agree on a parenting style, also how to talk to your teen about their future career.

21: In all honesty, very few of us thought about our partner's possible parenting style when we began dating them. I know that I didn't. It's mostly romance and blind hope at that stage. By the time the subject really comes i...

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Aug. 27, 2022

Drugs. How to talk to my teenager about drugs, and how to deal with a teenager who says they don't want to stay with the other divorced parent.

20: Drugs are everywhere; whether they are being peddled by pharmaceutical companies to fix medical problems, used as performance enhancers, or just for kicks, there's a really high chance that our teens will be offered them ...

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July 25, 2022

19: The overwhelming load of parenting work that’s never done; we talk about mom guilt and the motherhood myth. Don’t like your teenager's friends? Here’s how to approach it.

As a parent, have you ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer size of your job and the range of the responsibilities it involves? Do you ever feel like you've done enough, or are you always suffering with the nagging feeling that ...

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July 6, 2022

Lying teenagers, and teens who complain that they've got it harder than their siblings.

18: Have you ever caught your teenager lying to you? Let's face it, lying is part of everyday life. In fact an entire film was made on the premise of a lawyer incapable of telling a lie for 24 hours. The result is comedy, bu...

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June 23, 2022

Favourite parent; and how to respond when teenagers want to ‘express’ themselves? Blue hair? Tattoos anyone?

17: Do you have a teen at home who's all sweet and loving with one parent, but treats the other like they're a bad smell? Karen says she feels like running away because she's walking on eggshells in her own house, with a daug...

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June 16, 2022

Boy friendships, and supporting our sons in forming positive friendships. Also what the %#*!😳 we should do about swearing?

16: When we covered the issues of friendship groups, with girls in mind, we had a massive reaction from parents who have been struggling to understand what's going on. Now it's the turn of boys. When friendships work, they ar...

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