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Send us a text Bill Styskal started his career in law enforcement with the Montclair Police Department in July of 1982 as a Deputy Police Officer. Bill served with the Montclair Police Department for 8 years. In 1990 Bill was hired by the Essex Fells Police Department and attended the Morris County Police Academy where he graduated from the 40th Basic Police Officers Class. Bill served 15 years with Essex Fells rising to the rank of Detective. Bill was assigned as a task force officer with th...

Send us a text Sheri raised in South Jersey by a single mom. Her father left the family when she was 3 and was in her life sporadically until she severed the relationship with him when she was 28. Her family has deep roots in a blue collar, Irish Catholic neighborhood in Southwest Philadelphia. Sheri’s first introduction to trauma was through a relationship she had in her 20’s. She met this man within a year of his return from the first Gulf War where he served on the ground in the Army durin...

Send us a text Alexis Abate is a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Board-Certified Counselor, Psychiatric Clinician in the Emergency Department, and Adjunct Professor of Psychology. Following a profound spiritual awakening and a healing journey through autoimmune illness and mold toxicity, Alexis developed a powerful, integrative approach that blends evidence-based science with spiritual wisdom. Her work centers on helping others uncover the root causes of suffering and reconnect with...

Send us a text Lets talk about the origin of true Suffering and have a honest and open discussion about Jesus Christ. If we think back to the genesis of the show, who would you pick to show what true Suffering embodies and the overcoming of that to be reborn. There are none other that can be thought of other than Jesus Christ. On this episode we talk about what it took for this man to become divine and enter into Legendary status by enduring the ultimate suffering. F...

Send us a text Brian Sizemore is a long-time employee of AT&T and is the founder of Law Enforcements United Crusade Against Suicide-The LUCAS Foundation. The foundation was formed in honor and memory of his son Lucas (an Atlanta Police Officer) who took his own life last year. The LUCAS Foundation works to eradicate law enforcement suicide and Brian currently serves as the foundation’s President/CEO. Brian lives in the suburbs south of Detroit with his wife of 33 years, Marie, and his son...

Send us a text Born and raised in South Florida, Officer Daniel Herrera, M.S.Ed., served his community as an elementary school teacher for five years before starting a career in law enforcement in 2011. He worked in Road Patrol and later as a Detective, before becoming a School Resource Officer in 2017, a role he continues to hold today. His additional responsibilities include serving as a Team Leader on his agency’s Crisis/Hostage Negotiation Team, General Instructor, and Crisis Intervention...

Send us a text Part 1 Guardian angels are all around us and very often they show up when we need them the most. On this episode, we bring back our good friend Keith Shibley as he brings in his guardian angel Jennifer May. Jennifer May is a twenty-three year veteran of law enforcement. She recently retired in December 2024 as a Senior Executive Service member of the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s Counterintelligence Division. Jennifer began her law enforcement career in 2001, graduati...

Send us a text Part 1 Guardian angels are all around us and very often they show up when we need them the most. On this episode, we bring back our good friend Keith Shibley as he brings in his guardian angel Jennifer May. Jennifer May is a twenty-three year veteran of law enforcement. She recently retired in December 2024 as a Senior Executive Service member of the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s Counterintelligence Division. Jennifer began her law enforcement career in 2001, graduati...

Send us a text Vinnie Morelli is a lifelong entrepreneur, husband of 25 years, and proud father of two sons. He started working in IT straight out of high school, then transitioned to a successful career in insurance, helping families and businesses since 2003. In 2016, he followed a passion project making handcrafted mootz (mozzarella) out of his home. Vinnie's journey has been full of ups, downs, and lessons in perseverance — and he brings an open heart and real-world wisdom to every conver...

Send us a text Jonathan Daige is an Army veteran with two deployments to Iraq. A retired Worcester Police officer of 18 years and served 8 years on the SWAT Team as a sniper. Within that time he has battled testicular cancer that spread all over his body from his chest to his brain multiple times. After cycling to heal he began a nonprofit Thin Blue Ride that helps military veterans, first responders and their families when battling cancer. Since 2017 Thin Blue Ride has raised ove...

Send us a text Angel Martin is a content creator, podcast host, and proud Jersey native who has spent over 10 years crafting authentic, engaging content across social media — blending humor, music, and dance to connect with diverse audiences. For the past two and a half years, Angel has brought that same energy and insight to the world of podcasting. You can often catch Angel as a panelist on Get Real with Kim D, where pop culture, trending news, and Bravo TV drama are dissected with equal pa...

Send us a text The boys are back in town!!!!! We are back in the studio to test out our chops on who can rant on a random topic. Join us on this fun, filled journey that promises laughs, tears, information, and ball busting. FocusLab Media Website Find The Suffering Podcast The Suffering Podcast Instagram Kevin Donaldson Instagram Tom Flynn Instagram Apple Podcast Spotify YouTube The Suffering Podcast Family Sherri Allsup Support the show The Suffering Podcast Instagram Kevin Donalds...

Send us a text Dr. Novitskie's career has spanned two decades largely within clinical-forensic and outpatient settings. She has provided assessment and clinical care to clients across the lifespan, ranging from early childhood to those faced with end-of-life difficulties. Dr. Novitskie has extensive training and experience in conducting clinical and forensic mental health evaluations, focused on addressing various psycho-legal issues. She has specialty training in clinical, diagnostic, and se...

Send us a text Adam Blevins is a former Virginia State Trooper and currently serves as the Operations Director for the Virginia Law Enforcement Assistance Program (VALEAP), where he leads statewide efforts in peer support, trauma response, and first responder wellness. He is also an auxiliary police officer with the Saltville Police Department and a licensed resident in counseling at Rivers of Hope Counseling, LLC, where he provides therapy with a focus on trauma, grief, and emotional resilie...

Send us a text Stephanie Niemiec was raised in Fairfield, NJ. Stephanie graduated from West Essex High School and earned her bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Fairleigh Dickinson University and Thomas Edison State University. Her personal journey has been shaped by significant loss, having experienced the deaths of several close family members from a young age. These experiences have profoundly influenced her commitment to emergency medicine and her resilience in the face of trauma. Stepha...

Send us a text Dr. Courtney is a bestselling author, divorce recovery specialist, and writing coach with a DNP (Doctorate in Nursing). She blends science, soul, and sass to uncage her clients to become CEOs, girl bosses, and happily ever after game-changers in a space that desperately needs disruption. Dr. Court is the founder of The Ever After Collective—A powerhouse space where divorce recovery, stepmom mentoring, and truth-telling come together in a raw, unfiltered process of reclaiming on...

Send us a text "Loomis" Perluke was born in 1981 in the Wilkes/Scranton area of Pennsylvania. Loomis found himself in the depths of addiction in his early 20's. 17 treatment centers and countless detoxes Loomis finally pulled himself out of addiction and changed his life at the age of 40. He is now out there telling his story to help others who battle with addiction. He is also working on a big project with The Bufalino Family. Loomis's message is about telling others no matter how down and out...

Send us a text Eric Crafton is a decorated army national guard member, committed law enforcement officer with a Masters of Administrative Science – Law Enforcement Administration, and mental health advocate who values dedication, service, and excellence. With a combined 24 years of exemplary public service and mental health advocacy, Eric is proud to lead the New Jersey Veteran Support Alliance. Serving in the Army National Guard added a new layer of urgency to Eric’s mission to serve his c...

Send us a text Tonight we take a look into the lives of those silent heroes. Those that live with a partner that has endured lifelong trauma. We focus our attention on the person who has had unspeakable pain but that pain often radiates through to the ones who are brave enough to stand by and weather the storm. In studio tonight we welcome Trisha Donaldson and Garry Allsup. Two people who have watched their partners live in agony and pain but were often helpless in giv...

Send us a text Sherrie is Back Sherrie Allsup is an international speaker, educator, and subject matter expert with lived experience. She speaks on topics such as sexual assault, sexual abuse, trauma, and suicide. Sherrie is a survivor of long-term sexual abuse, trauma, and suicide attempts. After much hard work and healing she became the founder and CEO of Courage Starts With You. For victims, Courage means telling someone and reaching out for help. For law enforcement, Courage means looking b...

Send us a text Kenny Dubman is a battle-tested rock and roll veteran, coming up through the club circuit right out of high school, and forging through 3 major label releases with New Jersey melodic rock faves Prophet. After walking away from writing and recording for over 20 years, he's back with a vengeance, writing guitar-driven American rock music with deep reaching, thought provoking lyrics that cut straight to the heart and mind. While top notch guitar playing is still very much his M.O., w...

Send us a text Get ready for a lighter mood in the studio as Kevin Donaldson sits down with Bobby Crudele and Tom Flynn once again to see who can rant with efficiency. The wit and wisdom of the men who enter the studio on a consistent basis will be highlighted tonight in the no-holds-barred episode. You never know who will say what, to whom, and in what context. Tune in to see who has the chops and the sharp tongue to go head to head with the best in the business. Find Tom Flynn Instagram Faceb...

Send us a text Get ready for the creation of space to vent, heal, and have a new understanding of the regret and guilt of two men. Bobby Crudele and Kevin Donaldson sit down to discuss the pain and loss of a dear friend, Mike Failace. While they know that very little could’ve been done to halt the tragic events that took place on May 9th, 2024 when Mike took his life, both men struggle with the guilt, pain, and doubt of could more have been done. Find Bobby Crudele Instagram Find The Suffering...

Send us a text Our scheduled guest tonight canceled, this episode would have been the most difficult discussion to have and record. With the level of importance on the topic, and the push-back we could potentially receive, we were well aware of the potential downsides of doing such a show. It did not work out the way we anticipated but Tom and Kevin sit down to discuss the ins and out of why this episode was so important. The potential guest had an offense so egregious that we dare not say what ...