Episodes

What if you didn’t marry the wrong person… what if you just never learned how to love each other? In this week’s episode, Michelle shares a deeply personal story about loving and leaving her first marriage. She unpacks the painful realization that love can be real and still unsustainable when two people lack the skills, language, and emotional tools to create safety and connection. You will hear what she misunderstood, what she sees clearly now, and why “not feeling loved” is not always the same...

What if her complaints are not attacks, but bids for connection you’ve been missing? In this week’s episode, Michelle and Chuck get practical about what changes the pattern, how men can stop hearing complaints as criticism, why respect and safety work differently for men and women, and how small moments of noticing, validation, and clear requests can prevent “death by a thousand paper cuts.” They also cover why men shut down, how to create emotional safety for an internal processor, and simple l...

Why does it feel like she left “out of nowhere” when she’s been gone emotionally for years? In this weeks episode, Michelle sits down with therapist and men’s relationship coach Chuck Chapman to unpack what walkaway wife syndrome really is and why it happens.They talk about emotional exhaustion, resentment, and the slow drift from connection to silence, plus why many men are blindsided when their wife finally says she’s done. You’ll hear what women are actually asking for when they say “I don’t ...

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays sits down with Kelly Leary, CEO and Founder of Revolution Dating, and Miranda Capparelli, Head Matchmaker, to explore a smarter way to date after divorce. They share why modern dating feels so frustrating, what it really takes to be ready for love again, and how working with a matchmaker can change everything. www.revolutiondating.com Instagram @revolutiondating 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Mon...

Are you thinking about divorce… or are you exhausted, hurt, and trying to escape pain?In this week’s episode, Michelle invites you to slow down one of the biggest decisions of your life. Drawing from her own experience of two divorces, she shares three hard truths most people do not talk about. Divorce does not erase pain, it relocates it. Not feeling loved does not always mean you are unloved. And every decision reshapes more than just two adults, it reshapes an entire family story. You will al...

Why do you feel lonely in your marriage when you are still sharing a life together? In this week’s episode, Michelle slows everything down and names the quiet loneliness that can exist inside a good marriage. You will learn why loneliness does not always mean love is gone, how busyness and mental urgency quietly replace presence, and the small daily moments that help couples feel seen again. You will also get one simple prompt to practice all week, so you can shift connection without forcing a b...

In this week's episode, Michelle sits down with Chris Eaton, military veteran, author, and death doula, for a powerful conversation about self love, emotional steadiness, and the inner work that transforms marriage. They talk about boundaries, breathwork, nervous system regulation, and why peace is not a personality trait, it is a practice. Connect with Chris Eaton here: https://www.facebook.com/chriseaton10x?mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awake...

Why does desire fade in long-term relationships? in this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, Michelle sits down with Courtney Faye Long, creator of Sex Life Makeover. Courtney is TEDx speaker, and master’s-level social worker, and we are talking about what couples are rarely taught about sex, fulfillment, and connection.If you’ve ever wondered how to reignite passion, feel more confident expressing your needs, or rebuild intimacy after distance, this conversation is for you! Follow C...

People pleasing often looks like love, sacrifice, or keeping the peace, but over time it quietly erodes honesty, connection, and trust. In this Monarch for Love episode, we explore how people pleasing shows up in marriage, why it leads to resentment, and how it disconnects you from yourself and your partner.This conversation isn’t about blaming or fixing anyone. It’s about recognizing the patterns that keep couples stuck in exhaustion and emotional distance.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Bo...

Valentine’s Day gets all the attention, but real love isn’t built on one day a year. In this Monarch for Love episode, we talk about why love doesn’t need a holiday to be expressed, protected, or renewed. This conversation is about moving beyond performative romance and into everyday connection. The kind of love that’s felt on ordinary Tuesdays, in quiet moments, and through consistent presence. If Valentine’s Day has ever left you feeling pressured, disappointed, or unseen, this episode offers ...

Somewhere along the way, love can start to feel heavy, expected, or taken for granted. In this episode of Monarch for Love, we reframe one powerful truth: loving your spouse is not a duty, it’s a privilege. A privilege to know someone deeply. A privilege to grow alongside them. A privilege to choose love, even when it’s hard.This conversation invites you to shift out of resentment and back into reverence, not by ignoring pain, but by remembering what it truly means to be chosen and to choose in ...

I love you” matters, but when it’s said on repeat without meaning, it can lose its power. In this episode of Monarch for Love, I share why adding one simple word changes everything: because. When you say “I love you because…” you don’t just express love, you help your partner feel seen. You remind them why they matter, what you notice, and how they impact your life.If your marriage feels a little flat or distant, this is a small shift that can create an instant connetction.🔗 Website: www.monarch...

Some words in marriage hurt loudly. Others hurt quietly. In this episode, Michelle Hays breaks down why the word “whatever” is one of the most dangerous in a relationship. You’ll learn how this small word acts as emotional shutdown, why it makes your partner feel unimportant, and how repeated moments of disengagement erode connection over time. Michelle also shares practical tools to replace “whatever” with language that creates emotional safety, repair, and closeness.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlo...

If you’ve ever thought, “I know we love each other, but it doesn’t feel like love anymore,” this episode is for you. Michelle Hays unpacks the real reasons marriages feel loveless, from emotional neglect to negative assumptions and unspoken resentment. You’ll hear why loveless does not mean hopeless, and how rebuilding emotional safety and connection can quietly revive love again.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlov...

A handwritten love letter might seem old-fashioned, but its impact is timeless. In this episode, we explore why putting your feelings into words can heal resentments, deepen emotional safety, and bring back the softness couples often lose along the way. I’ll share how to write a letter that actually lands, what to say when you don’t know where to start, and why this simple act can change the entire tone of your marriage.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagr...

We start each year full of hope, and somehow in a blink of an eye we fall into routine and distance. In this episode, Michelle Hays shares a simple but powerful truth. Love does not stay alive on autopilot. It is built through small, daily decisions to listen, soften, and stay connected. If your marriage feels good but fragile, or distant but not broken, this conversation will gently remind you what really keeps love alive.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Inst...

This holiday season, we’re talking about the one gift that changes everything in a marriage — forgiveness. Not the “pretend it didn’t hurt” kind, but the kind that softens resentment, quiets scorekeeping, and makes room for joy again. In this episode, I share why couples secretly keep “naughty lists,” how those quiet tallies slowly chip away at connection, and why choosing forgiveness can turn even the smallest moments into unexpected intimacy. I’ll walk you through a personal story with Brian, ...

A thriving marriage isn’t built on luck, chemistry, or time together. It’s built on five core pillars that determine how safe you feel, how seen you feel, and how deeply connected you become. In this episode, I walk you through the five foundations every strong marriage is built on, why they matter, and how to strengthen each one in simple, doable ways. If your marriage feels good but could feel great, this is the blueprint you’ve been missing.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awaken...

Every strong marriage has a rhythm. In this episode, I break down the eight simple habits happy couples practice consistently to stay connected, calm, curious, and close. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re everyday choices that keep love alive, resentment low, and emotional safety high. If you want your marriage to feel lighter and more loving, this is where you start.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Your spouse is sending signals all day long. The question is… are you catching them or walking right past them? Today we dig into bids for attention, why they matter, and how responding to them can completely change the emotional temperature of your marriage.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Ever notice how a marriage can be full of routines and plans yet feel oddly empty? Like you love each other… but the spark, the pull toward the future, has gone a little dim? This week's episode is a gentle reminder that love needs more than commitment and calendars... it needs a horizon. Shared dreams. Tiny sparks of “someday” that make the “everyday” feel meaningful again. If your marriage feels like it’s running on routine, this conversation will remind you there’s more waiting.. not in the p...

Ever notice how one sentence can spark an argument and not because of what was said, but how it was heard? In this short episode, we unpack how tone, timing, and emotional state can twist even kind intentions into conflict. You’ll learn how to slow the moment, mirror what your partner says, and hear beneath the words, past the defenses, into the heart. Because most love isn’t lost in the speaking… it’s lost in the translation. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com ...

In this honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. Marianna Martinasevic, a psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience to talk about something most people whisper about: medication for anxiety, depression, and emotional health. We unpack the biggest misconceptions around “needing meds,” the shame that too often surrounds taking them, and the truth about side effects that social media loves to exaggerate. This isn’t a sales pitch for pills... it’s an invitation to drop the judgme...

Struggling couples often wonder if it’s time to quit or if there’s still something worth fighting for. In this gentle yet practical episode, Michelle Hays walks you through four powerful conversations designed to bring clarity: naming the fears you avoid, exploring changing needs, releasing past hurts, and reimagining your future together. These talks won’t solve everything overnight, but they will uncover honesty, hope, and direction. If you’re in the messy middle, this episode is your guide to...