Videos

April 18, 2024

Embracing the Unseen Hands

We often find ourselves grasping tightly, trying to hold it all together. It's ingrained in us, perhaps part of our coping mechanisms. But what if, just for a moment, we let that veil be lifted? In those moments of contemplation, the world expands. Suddenly, we realize we are not meant…

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April 17, 2024

Journeying Towards A More Embodied and Authentic Faith

In this video, I share my personal journey from having a disembodied faith, which was largely intellectual and disconnected from my emotional and physical experiences, to developing an embodied faith that integrates my beliefs with all aspects of my life. I delve into what disembodied faith means, why many of…

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April 15, 2024

Finding the Still Point

In the midst of life's chaos and challenges, there are these fleeting moments, imperceptible yet profound. It's as if a veil is lifted, revealing a reality beyond our suffering. In that space, nothing has changed, yet everything feels different. These are the moments of contemplation, where we're held in the…

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April 11, 2024

Embracing the Journey of Discernment

What does discernment mean to you? It's often about seeking God's will and being open to hearing His voice, right? But why do we sometimes freeze? Why do we feel paralyzed in our decision-making? In this episode, I dive into a personal example of discernment in my personal journey and…

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April 10, 2024

Distinguishing Between Self-Abandonment and Authentic Self-Gift

In this episode, I share my deeply personal reflections on what it means to lay down my life in alignment with Christ, but without feeling lesser for it. Growing up in an enmeshed family system with rigid expectations of selflessness, ingrained through my Catholic upbringing, I faced challenges in understanding…

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April 8, 2024

The Four Layers of Self Knowledge

In this video I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves - Intellectual, Experiential, Affective and Unitive. As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go beyond knowing about ourselves to learning how to attune to our inner selves and knowing how to lead ourselves…

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April 8, 2024

Feeling Stuck during Discernment

Ever felt paralyzed when trying to make a decision? You're not alone. In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcase, we explore the fear of acknowledging our emotions and how it impacts our ability to discern God's will. Our emotions are the raw data for discernment. But what if acknowledging…

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April 4, 2024

Commands Coming from Outside us versus Inside us

Laws and commands, when rooted in love, resonate from within. When we receive them with open hearts, we realize they are not impositions from external forces but echoes of our own inner wisdom. Do we feel the gentle nudging of love within, guiding us towards forgiveness and compassion? Or do…

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April 1, 2024

What does Perfect Forgiveness and Love look like?

The path to integration isn't paved with predetermined outcomes or picture-perfect endings. It's a journey of growth, a process of becoming, guided by our faith and commitment. We may find ourselves captivated by the allure of heroic virtues or the fantasy of perfect love and forgiveness. But let's pause and…

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March 31, 2024

Embracing our Personhood

Personalism teaches us that each of us is precious, deserving of love, respect, and honor. It reminds us that our interactions should be guided by love and compassion, just as St. John Paul II emphasized. On the flipside, with Individualism, could our struggles with excessive individualism stem from a deeper…

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March 25, 2024

Let's Talk Self-Care

There's a common belief that self-care falls into two categories: "healthy" and "unhealthy." The former involves discipline and long-term commitment, while the latter is seen as frivolous and indulgent. But here's the thing: making rigid distinctions between these forms of self-care isn't as helpful as we might think. From an…

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March 22, 2024

Acknowledge the Truth, Prioritize Self-Protection

It's crucial not to downplay the reality of harmful relationships. We're called to love our enemies, yes, but that doesn't mean ignoring the toxicity. Recognize that love in such relationships looks vastly different from healthy ones. When interacting with toxic family members, be aware that you're stepping into a potentially…

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March 18, 2024

Embracing Cultural Awareness & Breaking Harmful Norms

Recognizing toxicity and abuse within our families isn't always easy, especially when it's deeply ingrained in our culture. It's often simpler to spot these issues in others' families than in our own. But it's crucial to develop the eyes to see the harm, even if it's normalized. As disciples of…

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March 7, 2024

Navigating the Depths of Relationships and Self-Awarenes

All the theories in the world fall short if they can't weave into the fabric of our relationships, both with ourselves and others. It's disheartening to witness relationships being caught in various conflicts, where all parties are seemingly unable to see beyond the surface issues. Many times, it's not about…

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March 4, 2024

The Cycles of Conflict within our Families and Relationships

Many of us have the shared experience of feeling frustration at finding ourselves in familiar quarrels, wondering why it feels like déjà vu. We're aware of our actions and their impact, but still, the patterns persist. Do you often ask yourself, "Why am I in this same quarrel again?" It…

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March 1, 2024

Pushing others away from God

Have you ever considered that our eagerness to help might unintentionally become obstacles in others' journeys towards God? It's a realization that hit hard - thinking I was bringing others closer to God, only to see damaged relationships, anger, resentment, and hurt. Often, our sincere attempts to help, rooted in…

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Feb. 26, 2024

Struggling with the Messiah Complex

In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about my struggle with the Messiah Complex. We all view "laying down our life" through our unique lenses, influenced by upbringing and personal perspectives. Even those guiding us in faith may bring their own interpretations. Layers of distortions exist, both…

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Feb. 24, 2024

How Your Clarity Application Is Processed

n this video I share with you the process I use to discern how to respond to the Clarity applications I receive. By sharing this 'behind-the-scenes' process with you I hope to assure you that your best interests are being looked after and give you a deeper insight into how…

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Feb. 23, 2024

Driven by Love, not Fear

When we lay down our lives and seek to please God from a place of abundance, knowing He delights in us just as we are, a profound transformation occurs. No matter how flawed we may be, God's love is unwavering. In the depth of our existence, He continues to love…

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Feb. 22, 2024

Authentic Growth with a Secure Base

In our journey with God, entering the relationship from an insecure base may hinder us from presenting our true selves before Him. It's crucial to grow in love for God beyond seeking what He can do for us. We must recognize the danger of not being aware of where we…

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Feb. 19, 2024

Embracing the Journey with Humility

One of the foundational principles of the spiritual life is to be where we are and to encounter God exactly where we are. It takes humility, a humility that comes from secure attachment. When we know we are loved for who we are, regardless of our successes or failures, it…

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Feb. 17, 2024

Why and How I use MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II in Clarity

In this video I explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration Journey and how the methodology is designed so that these personality tests are leveraged to support the interior journey. For the FULL VIDEO go to https://youtu.be/0GEslII3QCQ

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Feb. 17, 2024

Personality Tests & The Interior Journey

In this video I talk about why Personality Tests are limited in their usefulness for their interior journey and yet can become great assets if we know how to address those limitations. I also explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration…

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Feb. 15, 2024

Navigating Faith with Authenticity

Have you ever encountered someone deeply religious, quoting scriptures and church teachings, yet their presence feels anything but safe? It is possibly a paradox many of us resonate with. Sometimes, the authority others hold can make us question our choices. Faith should be a source of comfort, not fear. It's…

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