Episodes
April 15, 2024
The Contemplative Heart of Interior Integration
Episode 121 In this episode of Becoming Me, I delve into the contemplative heart of interior integration. I talk about the integration of spirituality, psychology, neuroscience, and other fields as essential in the journey o…
April 8, 2024
3 Spiritual Blocks That Stem From Attachment Trauma
Episode 120 In this episode I highlight three common spiritual blocks: the inability to develop a close and intimate relationship with God, the struggle with being still and silent, and the challenges of discernment and deci…
April 1, 2024
Are You Spiritualising Forgiveness?
Episode 119 In this episode, I discuss the concept of spiritualising forgiveness and its implications in faith and daily life. I talk about how the struggles many people often face in integrating love and forgiveness in thei…
March 25, 2024
The Essential Role of Self-Care In The Interior Journey
Episode 118 In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-care, self-love, and how they relate to spirituality from a Christian perspective. I challenge the common misconception within some Christian circles that self-…
March 18, 2024
Navigating Healing of Relationships In Dysfunctional Families: A Christian Perspective
Episode 117 In this in-depth discussion, I provide a Christian perspective on the journey of healing from complex trauma within a dysfunctional family setting. Six gentle reminders are shared for those trying to manage relat…
March 4, 2024
Primed For Conflict: The Link Between Our Present & Our Past
Episode 116 In this episode I examine the connection between past emotional trauma and present conflicts in relationships. Aided by three personal stories, I illustrate how past familial conflicts have influenced my own inte…
Feb. 26, 2024
Understanding Enmeshment's Impact On Our Faith & Relationships
Episode 115 In this episode I explore the concept of 'enmeshment', a term used in psychology to describe dysfunctional family systems marked by poor boundaries between family members and thus over-dependence (and co-dependen…
Feb. 19, 2024
Recovering From People-Pleasing and Insecure Attachment With God
Episode 114 If you're a people-pleaser, chances are good that you also have an insecure attachment with God and that your understanding of "pleasing God" comes from a place of anxiety rather than confidence. This episode dis…
Feb. 12, 2024
Why Exercising Boundaries Feel "Wrong" When You're Healing
Episode 113 When those of us who never had boundaries start learning to exercise them, it can feel really "wrong" to us and this may keep us second guessing if drawing boundaries is the right thing to do. In this episode I r…
Feb. 5, 2024
How Ignatian Examen Helps Heal Abandonment Wounds
Episode 112 In this episode's deep dive, I explain the vital connection between our senses of identity and security in faith, sharing insights drawn from Catholic tradition, modern psychology, and personal experience. I shar…
Jan. 29, 2024
3 Grounding Tips For When You Are Overwhelmed
Episode 111 Have you experienced feeling overwhelmed while making the interior journey? In this episode I propose three coping strategies for these difficult periods: the understanding that nothing real changes, realising th…
Jan. 22, 2024
Why Conviction Without Integration Doesn't Help Us
Episode 110 Conviction alone can’t get you where you want or need to go. When we don’t do the work of interior integration we often end up hiding behind our convictions to feel safe instead of flourishing because we are root…
Jan. 15, 2024
What Does Interior Integration FEEL Like?
Episode 109 What's the difference that healing and integration makes we get triggered back into old insecurities and anxieties? We often expect that healing will result in the absence of struggles but in reality, the journe…
Jan. 8, 2024
How Learning About Trauma Helped My Spiritual Life
Episode 108 In this episode, I delve into how understanding complex trauma has helped me in my spiritual life. I share how certain challenges I face, such as emotional regulation in stressful environments, couldn't be solved…
Dec. 7, 2023
Coping with Advent Overwhelm: Trauma Recovery and Faith
Episode 107 Do you feel overwhelmed in Advent and more tense than usual? Does that make you feel guilty all the more because it makes you feel like you're not "doing" Advent well? In this bonus episode, I share my personal e…
Nov. 13, 2023
How Dissonance Invites You Home to Your True Self
Episode 106 Have you ever felt that gut-wrenching feeling that something just isn't right in your life, but couldn't quite pinpoint the cause? That sense of dissonance might actually be the key to unlocking a more authentic …
Nov. 9, 2023
What An Interior Integration Coach Is And Why I Am One
Episode 105 “What’s an interior integration coach and why are you one?” I often get asked how what I do is different from spiritual direction, counselling/therapy and life coaching. In this last episode from the 30 day chall…
Nov. 6, 2023
Why You Can't Flourish Without Attunement
Episode 104 Why is it that even when we KNOW what we need to do and when we even try to do “the right things” so few of us truly thrive and flourish? In this episode I share how getting things done (even when they are good t…
Nov. 2, 2023
Authenticity In The Struggle With Childlessness
Episode 103 There is a secret shame and hidden pain for those of us whose community (family/church) value marriage and children when our marriage situation does not match that “ideal”. In this episode I responded to someone …
Oct. 30, 2023
How Healing Changed Me And My Interior Journey
Episode 102 "What real life difference does interior healing make in our day to day living?" "What difference does healing make to the way we see, approach and experience the interior journey?" "What does one need to do to b…
Oct. 26, 2023
Burnout, Imposter Syndrome, Sin and Boundaries
Episode 101 "Does burnout and imposter syndrome always mean we are not doing what we are meant to do?" "If our wounds impact how we respond to others, how and when does sin come in?" "Can trying to practice boundaries make u…
Oct. 23, 2023
Why You Can't Discern Mission Without Healing
Episode 100 So many of us wish to know our gifts and our mission or vocation, but few know that without healing and integration we won’t be able to truly discern or live out our giftings or vocation. In this episode I explai…
Oct. 19, 2023
From People Pleasing to Unapologetic Confidence
Episode 99 I used to appear confident and successful externally but felt so anxious inside. I was a high achiever who felt like an imposter and who feared losing the regard that others had of me because of my achievements. I…
Oct. 16, 2023
Developing Trust & Secure Attachment In Adulthood
Episode 98 How do we begin to develop secure attachment with God and others in adulthood when we have struggled so long with insecurity about our loveableness? In this episode I break this question down from the perspective …