Episodes

The Four Layers of Self-Knowledge

Nov. 29, 2022

EPISODE 62 In this final episode of the series on interior life and leadership, I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves. As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go bey…

Self-Leadership: Scripts, Temperament & Motivational Design

Nov. 15, 2022

EPISODE 61 What does it look like to use what we learn about our scripts, temperament and motivational design to help us show up as our best and also most authentic selves? In this episode I illustrate what this process can …

Leveraging our Gifts and Honouring our Limits in Leadership

Nov. 1, 2022

EPISODE 60 How can we bring the best that we can offer as a leader through leveraging our areas of giftedness and honouring our limits? What can we do to increase our effectiveness and impact without burning out and without …

Dealing with Our Insecurities in Leadership

Oct. 18, 2022

EPISODE 59 What do we do when our insecurity rears its head? When we feel vulnerable and exposed, incompetent but we still have to lead? Denying, suppressing or bypassing our insecurities may give us short-term relief but w…

The Perils of Leadership (with Timothy Khoo)

Oct. 4, 2022

EPISODE 58 In this special episode of the Leadership series, I share a conversation with a fellow interior pilgrim who had tasted the heights of success in leadership but found himself tumbling into the search for authentici…

Guest: Timothy Khoo

Leadership: Role vs. Core Identity

Sept. 20, 2022

EPISODE 57 Have you ever been so identified with a role that you lose touch with who you are apart from it? Playing an important leadership role can occupy so much of our lives that we forget that our True Self is so much de…

What Your Leadership Script Is & Why It Matters

Sept. 6, 2022

EPISODE 56 Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our action which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which…

Interior Life & Leadership

Aug. 16, 2022

EPISODE 55 We all know how important good leadership is, and many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to ap…

3 Reasons You Can't Find Your Calling

Aug. 2, 2022

EPISODE 54 If you have been searching for your calling or personal vocation and still feel that you lack clarity, have you wondered how you can help yourself gain clarity in this process? In this episode I talk about three …

Season 4 Round-up & A Leader's Spirituality

July 5, 2022

EPISODE 53 In this final episode to Season 4, I review what we've covered and once again provide an over-arching view of the thematic arcs of this podcast. I also talk about A Leader's Spirituality (ALS) , an online course t…

Performing vs Living Life Fully

June 28, 2022

EPISODE 52 (BONUS) When we are in performance mode we expect to be assessed, evaluated and we seek to impress. There are times when we need to be in performance mode but what if that's how we approach our whole life? We end…

Freedom from the Shame that Binds You

June 14, 2022

EPISODE 51 Many of us don't realise how much of a hold shame - specifically toxic shame - has over us. When shame is 'toxic', we don't just feel shame over what we do but we experience deep shame over WHO WE ARE. Toxic sha…

Building Inner Resilience in Stressful Times

May 31, 2022

EPISODE 50 Being our real selves can be difficult even when we are not under duress. How do we build the inner resilience to still act with authenticity even in times of stress and adversity? In this episode I discuss three…

Inner Child Healing & Healthy Relationships

May 17, 2022

EPISODE 49 When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well . In this episode …

Loving Much vs Loving Well

May 3, 2022

EPISODE 48 Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions? Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ours…

Inner Child Reparenting: Healing My Relationship with God & Self

April 19, 2022

EPISODE 47 Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn…

How Inner Child Healing Transformed Me

April 5, 2022

EPISODE 46 Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capac…

Inner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 3

March 29, 2022

EPISODE 45 In this third and final part of the series on Inner Child Healing with Dr Jean Cheng, we talk about: - How do we begin to heal our inner child? What is inner child reparenting? - How does healing our relationship …

Inner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 2

March 15, 2022

EPISODE 44 How did we learn to distrust our emotions? Or to disconnect from our inner knowing about our needs in order to keep pushing through to deliver what is expected of us, even if it harms us? In this second part of my…

Inner Child Healing (with Dr. Jean Cheng): Part 1

March 1, 2022

EPISODE 43 Who or what is my inner child? What is inner child healing and how does it help me in my interior journey? In this three part series on Inner Child Healing, clinical psychologist Dr. Jean Cheng and I delve into ho…

Enlarging Our Capacity for Authenticity

Feb. 15, 2022

EPISODE 42 Many of us long to be more authentic than we are able to be. We feel that our ability to be authentic is constrained by a lack of acceptance from other people. But what if we can increase our internal capacity to …

Authenticity & Integrity in Times of Scandal

Feb. 8, 2022

EPISODE 41 (BONUS) How do we maintain our course towards greater authenticity and integrity when our Church is rocked by scandal? In this podcast I talk about how important it is to acknowledge and include our emotions in ou…

Grounding Tips for Surviving Chinese New Year

Jan. 30, 2022

EPISODE 40 (BONUS) Are you stressed during Chinese New Year? Hate the feeling of having to give a "progress report" of your life to relatives who want to know about your marital/family status, work, studies etc? Here are so…

Thematic Arcs of Becoming Me (Getting ready for 2022)

Jan. 6, 2022

EPISODE 39 (BONUS) In this bonus episode I give a big picture overview of the thematic arcs in the Becoming Me Podcast and how they relate to the interior journey into authenticity. I also talk about what theme to expect in…