Lifestyle vs Love

When I started this podcast journey back in 2022, I didn’t realize how many things changed in dating, relationships and marriage. The biggest thing that I have noticed, is how many people today are more interested in getting into to relationships and marriage for lifestyle as compared to love.  It’s almost becoming a transaction. What ever happened to good ole fashion love.  If we just go back a generation or two love was still on the menu for reason why people got together.  What has changed and when did it become so transactional.  Part of the problem is the ease to receive validation on social media platforms.  Since we can reach such a large audience of people who can compliment our looks, how we dress, and how many followers we have, it tends to give us a false sense of security about who we really are. As a result, our expectations are higher than they were just 10 years ago.  I often hear people say I deserve a good woman or I deserve a rich man because look at what I have been through and how far I have come to be where I at.  I deserve the best.  What I find interesting is, if your not the best why do you get the best.  It’s a question we all need to ask ourselves.  How do we fix this or how do we improve this current situation that were in. First I think we need to become more self-aware.  Knowing who we are can help us find what we can get verses what we think we deserve. Next emotional intelligence is something we need to practice from an early age, so that we know how to self regulate and keep our emotions in check.  In closing, we all have the opportunity to have a thriving and wonderful relationship or marriage. However instead of focus on everything we want, we should look for everything we need.