Nov. 7, 2023

How You Do Money is How You Do Life | RR231

How You Do Money is How You Do Life | RR231

In the spotlight today is Kim Curtis, President & CEO of Wealth Legacy Institute. She speaks passionately about the topic of financial literacy. Kim’s story starts with a red paper ticket for school lunches and a heap of student loan debt that began her journey to becoming a CEO of a wealth management firm. She has shared the stage with astronaut Buzz Aldrin and been featured on the jumbotron in Times Square. She has advised State Governors, national TV personalities and even cage-fighting superstars in the UFC.

You’ll love her passion for her award-winning highly personal client-centric planning model, and her holistic approach to integrated wealth management – which she says anyone can learn and adopt.

I know you will enjoy her stories and advice, whether you are just getting started or nearing retirement.

In this episode you will learn:

  • The impact of parental beliefs and early experiences on one's relationship with money
  • The importance of taking control of your financial destiny and the power of self-belief
  • How you do money is how you do life
  • Women's financial roles
  • Transforming a complicated money mindset into a confident one
  • The importance of financial education
  • How to instill healthy money beliefs in the next generation


A little about me:

I began my career as a teacher, was a corporate trainer for many years, and then found my niche training & supporting business owners, entrepreneurs & sales professionals to network at a world-class level. My passion is working with motivated people, who are coachable and who want to build their businesses through relationship marketing and networking (online & offline). I help my clients create retention strategies, grow through referrals, and create loyal customers by staying connected.


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Transcript
Janice Porter:

Hi, everyone, and welcome to this week's episode

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of relationships rule. My special guest today is Kim

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Curtis coming to us from Denver, Colorado. Yes, Denver.

Kim Curtis:

I'm right. Yes, yes, yes.

Janice Porter:

And actually, my daughter is there right now,

Janice Porter:

I've never been to Denver, but I hear it's beautiful. So welcome

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to the show. Kim.

Kim Curtis:

Thank you. Glad to be here.

Janice Porter:

I am quite interested to talk to Kim Kim

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is, is considered one of the world's foremost experts in

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building wealth consciousness, I think, from what I understand,

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and we're gonna get Kim to tell me more. But Kim has a holistic

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approach when it comes to money. And I think is also very

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passionate, I would say about women and money. So if I'm on

Janice Porter:

the right track, Kim, I would just like you to share with my

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audience a little bit about your journey, and you're passionate

Janice Porter:

about that.

Kim Curtis:

Happy to i i am a CEO of a wealth management firm.

Kim Curtis:

However, my journey was nothing like that to get here. It was

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not something in my 20s I thought that I would be doing.

Kim Curtis:

Yeah, you were a lawyer, right? At first, I do have a legal

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background. That's right. But if I were to go a little earlier

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than that, okay, my mom got divorced when I was a teenager.

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And she got full custody of three teenage girls who had no

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employable skills. And so she applied for and received

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government assisted school lunches for us. And it was a red

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paper ticket, kind of like, it looked exactly like those raffle

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tickets that we use today. That was a ticket that I had to hand

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to the cashier. And that shame associated with I'm the poor

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kid, everyone knows I'm the poor kid actually carried through

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into my young adult life. However, my mom had something

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very important to her daughters. And that was the value of

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education. And she would say you make sure you get your education

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because no one can take it away from you. And she said that

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because she got married early because my dad got drafted into

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the war. And by marrying early before she finished high school.

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She and then moved to New York. So that was her journey that she

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put on us. So I, you know, went to undergrad went to law school

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and right out of law school, defaulted on my school loan

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debt. I had no business understanding anything about

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what default meant to my credit report. And today's dollars, it

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was about $92,000. And so I already felt I don't know if

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it's a victim. But I definitely felt that money was not in my

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favor. And that it was for other people. Certainly not me.

Janice Porter:

I hear you. Yes.

Kim Curtis:

So when we think of the listeners and viewers, how

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many of them you feel that way? That money is that that we're

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completely unconscious around money? Not self aware?

Janice Porter:

Yeah, I have a story around money too. And

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it's, it all stemmed from my father. And so I know we all and

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it took me a long time to rid myself of that story. Because I

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actually one of my mentors, the CEO of Send Out Cards, actually,

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he has the saying that stayed with me for so long, that the

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stories in your mind become the stories of your life.

Kim Curtis:

That's so beautiful.

Janice Porter:

And it's so true. Because it's I had this story

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for so long, about money. And it was you know, I mean, I've

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obviously over the years because money was something for me, that

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I a stigma of some sort for me. I've I've talked and read stuff

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about money and talk to people and I've done some work on

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myself around money and so on. I'm still not the best when it

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comes to, you know, I'm a spender, not a saver. And and it

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comes from so many expressions that my father used to say when

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I was a kid. And But ironically, the story is almost similar in

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that, not that my parents divorced, then not not that

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early in my life. But we moved from England to Canada, when I

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was little, and my father with the land of opportunity, and

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starting again and wanting to build from scratch and so on.

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And my mom had gotten married really young to, you know,

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because my father was in the service. And, and so she didn't

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have an education, but neither did he because he had had to go

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to this into the war. And he was very bright and he always used

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to say about the education, you got to get an education. It was

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a very same thing as you but there were other things as well.

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But this isn't about me. This is about you. So but it's I think

Kim Curtis:

it helps the viewers if you're willing to share what

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some of those messages that he would say, oh Have you had cars?

Kim Curtis:

I'm sure we all may have heard the same thing?

Janice Porter:

Well, I'll give you a couple. There was one that

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was, well, there was always the, you know, money doesn't grow on

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trees. But there was also it's not a crime to be poor. It's a

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crime to look poor. That was a scary one. Actually, when you

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think about that, that's a double edge. Yeah, totally. And

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I never forget that. You know, it's not a crime to be poor.

Janice Porter:

It's a crime to look poor. Wow. Well, okay, I'll give you Well,

Janice Porter:

I don't I don't want to say the sun here. I'll tell you later.

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But there was you know, that probably filtering my father's

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story a lot. You know, that that whole thing. But anyway, yes.

Janice Porter:

There's, there's lots of them. But But what's interesting is,

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and I'll segue over to you, because when my father died, and

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he died young, he was 63. My mom didn't know how to write a

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check. She didn't know anything about money, because it had

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always been Don't worry, honey, I'll look after it. That was

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another one. Don't worry, I'll look after it.

Kim Curtis:

Materially as women, whether it was our fathers or

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our husbands?

Janice Porter:

Yes. So that was huge. And, and I think that you

Janice Porter:

must have come across that with, with women as well. Like, okay,

Janice Porter:

so how, how did you go from, you know, the law to was it was it

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because of that debt that you came through that you started to

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find out more about money and wanting to help other people?

Kim Curtis:

It really was, it was the start. But yes. I love

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these stories. And I'm sure there's so many viewers that are

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just feeling what we're describing right now. And so I

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will share my story. And to help maybe the listeners get a better

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understanding of what they may need to do or how to do it, or

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what are some of the steps. So for me, I had an anonymous

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donor, pay $1,000 on my school loan debt. And because I always

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say that if your head is in the sand on money, your head is in

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the sand on other areas of your life. Because how you do money

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is how you do that money is this invisible thread that navigates

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our human existence, on everything we touch. So if our

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if we are unconscious and not aware of money, recognize that

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there are you are walking asleep in other areas as well, whatever

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those other areas may be. So the reason I say that is a fact that

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I opened the statement to notice that the bill went down was

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itself a shock to me. Yes. So. So what I ended up doing because

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it was anonymous, is I had to ask those questions to myself, I

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couldn't go to them. What do you want from me? Or what do you see

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in me that I don't see in myself? Yes. And that really was

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the key question. Because who am I? Who do I want to be? What is

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it that they see that I don't see. And it was almost Janice,

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like a snap, really. And the snap was conscious, like I was

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unconscious, so the snap was awake? Because what I recognized

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at that point of that question, is that, oh, my gosh, someone

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believes in me, why don't I believe in myself? And then who

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do I want to be? And I think it was at that moment that I

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realized, you know, events happen in our life that we have

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no control over. But we do have control over our responses to

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those events or our choices that we make, and that dictates our

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outcomes. So I think recognizing that I was in control of my

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destiny. And that snap, made me awake, that from that point

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forward, recognize it was a journey. It was a journey. And I

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just kept believing in myself, trust myself, trust myself,

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trust myself. So you know, and the lot of mistakes along the

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way, but that was the start, was I'm I'm going to be awake in

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this area. And I'm going to take ownership for this debt. Okay,

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and I'm going to figure out how to pay it off. And once you're

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awake to it, you can't deny it anymore. Right? Right. And that

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was the start of my journey to get out of debt and to really be

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responsible around money. So it was over a decade later that I

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ended up in finance. Okay, and I ended up in finance from a quiz.

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Okay, so how many of the viewers you know, no people in human

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resources or have taken all of those tests about what is the

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career that would best suit our needs? Um, And so I took those

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quizzes and my friend said, you know, personal finance is an

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area that may be a good place for you. And because I my area

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of expertise and law was negotiation, mediation

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arbitration, I understood how to hold the container for couples

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or people to have conversations that are difficult to get to the

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other side. And when we think about money, and couples, yes,

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it's a skill that works really well. Yeah, and oftentimes

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people come to us, one of the spouses may not feel like they

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have the ability to voice their opinion, or to get what they

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need, and particularly the conversation around money. We

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men created money back in the day for the exchange of goods

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and services. We were not part of that conversation, nor up

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until recently, could we even get a credit card or get a job

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without our spouse's signature?

Janice Porter:

I know, and I read that in your in some of

Janice Porter:

your things that I looked at, and it took me aback, I got

Janice Porter:

married. My starter marriage, I was very young. And I remember

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when I had my first child, and became a stay at home mom, or so

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I thought for it was going to be forever, but the picket fence

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fell down. But I tried to get a credit card when I was on my

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own. This was when the credit Yeah, that's right. When my

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marriage broke up, I tried to get a credit card, and I

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couldn't get one. Because my husband had to sign it or

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something. And we weren't together anymore. I'm like,

Janice Porter:

what? Yeah, I remember that.

Kim Curtis:

Well, when we think of our grandmothers and our

Kim Curtis:

great grandmother's, they had a stash. Yes, yes. Yes. And that

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stash was not for opportunity. Yeah. Yeah, that stash was

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protection.

Janice Porter:

My mother did that. My mother did that, too. I

Janice Porter:

remember because, you know, she got money from for groceries

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every week. Was she take a little bit and put it aside for

Janice Porter:

her?

Kim Curtis:

Yes. Yeah. So when we think of where are we with

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money today, that the idea of the conversation around

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investing is actually not a real touchy, feely, interesting

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topic. So we don't necessarily lean in as women. But we do Lean

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In when we talk about our family, and our aging parents,

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and the education of our children, and the things that

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are most important for the collective of the family. So

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that's why

Janice Porter:

Yeah, no, go ahead. That's why

Kim Curtis:

so so so like, we think of Maslow's hierarchy of

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needs, right? The bottom. So you know, food, clothing, shelter,

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the top is self actualization? Well, if you put that into

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wealth management, or the work that I do, the bottom is people

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come to us for managing their money. Okay, kind of male

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directed. Oftentimes, it is the spouse, the man who are making

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that first introduction, our job on that next rung of four rungs

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is to tie it to a financial plan, tied to goals, things that

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are important to them, that bring the women into the

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conversation. Now, these are sweeping generalizations that

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we're doing gender, but to bring them into the conversation about

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goal achievement. Because if you invest without a plan, it's like

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archery without a target. When the markets go up and down, you

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have no idea what that means to you specifically, unless it's

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tied to a plan. So goal achievement tied to a plan that

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third rung as you go to the four rungs is, wow, I can finally do

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this, I've been saving all my life. And now I could step off

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and live in it. And that moment in time, when someone realizes

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that all the work that they did before allows them to make

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different choices moving forward through retirement is emotional.

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Yeah, it is really a deep seated feeling that people have on who,

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and that's peace of mind, to know that they could live on a

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certain monthly dollar amount. And when you have peace of mind,

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you could take a big breath for the pinnacle, which is impact

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or, or legacy or fulfillment. But think about it. We're here

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on this planet with our unique gifts and all the things that we

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have to offer the world and most of us are just on this hamster

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wheel trying to save, trying to get out of debt, trying to do

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all these things, when in essence, our job is to be at the

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pinnacle to do our life's work.

Janice Porter:

I've got to say though, it's two things. I've

Janice Porter:

got to ask you about one instead it's much harder today. Right

Janice Porter:

with you know, trying to trying to get to that that goal because

Janice Porter:

everything has gone up so much and it's crazy that but the the

Janice Porter:

piece about women and money. I've met a few young women

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lately who are into real estate development, and there's just a

Janice Porter:

couple that I'm thinking of are like amazing young women who

Janice Porter:

have it all too. Are seemed to have it all together in terms of

Janice Porter:

money and investments and you know, real estate is their

Janice Porter:

thing. But what's your take on these young women today? Because

Janice Porter:

I think it's amazing. They have a completely different take on

Janice Porter:

things. They don't see that, you know, they can't do that,

Janice Porter:

because they're a woman, so to speak.

Kim Curtis:

Yeah, I believe that to be true. Two things to that

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comment. Two thoughts, is, this is the first time that that

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economists are saying that the next generation will not do as

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well as the generation before it. So that's new data. Yes. And

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then second to that, I like to say that if you give me a 20,

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something, I can turn them into a millionaire. Think about that,

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give me a 20 something, and I can turn them into a

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millionaire. What that means is the time value of money, it

Kim Curtis:

means a lot of different things of how to get started early. The

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first though, which is how this whole podcast started, we could

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use the word mindset if we wanted to, or beliefs, or trust.

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But it really is the value of who you are. Ultimately, all of

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this comes down to your self belief of who you are. Do you

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love yourself? Do you respect yourself? That's where it

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starts. Because the women that you're describing, didn't have

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the baggage of our great grandmother's, our grandmothers

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and our moms. I saw my mom. Now she ultimately became a

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successful realtor. So I saw her bust her butt. Yeah, to do well.

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And so I saw hard work. But think of the women today saw the

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boomer moms, and we're like, I don't want to do that. Right. I

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don't want to work for the man, so to speak, climb the corporate

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ladder not be available for their children. So what is an

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opportunity that can give them flexibility of time, and that

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they're in control of their destiny? And that is what you're

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seeing is more side hustles and real estate, which is something

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that they could actually physically see. Yeah, that feels

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a little easier. I personally, because my mom was a six

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successful realtor. I see real estate down the road, not a

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first thing. The first thing if you wanted to own a home, and a

Kim Curtis:

lot of them don't want homeownership for the residents,

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primary residence, they want the flexibility of travel. Yeah,

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yeah. And yet, historically, homeownership has been the

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creation of wealth, for the lion's share of we'll talk about

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just in the US, because in other countries, it's not as easy or

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it may not have appreciated as much, or homeownership is not

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really part of their culture.

Janice Porter:

Mm hmm. Well, we include Canada, because I'm from

Janice Porter:

Canada. Yes. Yes. So there's something else I want to ask

Janice Porter:

you. Because I also noticed that you, you're a bit of a celebrity

Janice Porter:

I saw, I saw news footage of you on so you are the expert on so

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many traditional, you know, cameras, not commercials, but

Janice Porter:

new spots on TV, you are the expert that they call on

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different places. You've shared the stage with Buzz Aldrin, I

Janice Porter:

actually met him at a Science Center in California. And, and

Janice Porter:

you've been on the Jumbotron in Times Square, you have worked

Janice Porter:

with celebrities, and leaders and high level people. And I

Janice Porter:

want to know, I'm curious, I'm curious, but I'm also a

Janice Porter:

celebrity hound in a sense, like I'm, I love when pop culture and

Janice Porter:

things like that. But what interests me is okay, did you?

Janice Porter:

Did you have a desire to be famous, so to speak? to famous

Janice Porter:

people, right? Or did you just fall into that? Or was it?

Janice Porter:

There's no such thing as luck? I mean, there's no coincidence.

Janice Porter:

There's, there's hard work to get to it, too. So that's why

Janice Porter:

I'm asking how did that part of it come to be?

Kim Curtis:

Your the first person that asked me that

Kim Curtis:

question. So I appreciate that question. I would have to say

Kim Curtis:

that I fell into it. Okay. So I, to the extent of of my

Kim Curtis:

expertise. Yes. And my legal background, made it easier for

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me to show up in certain places to help people that were in

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need, or needed a course correction that elaborate a

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little bit. Yeah, like governors of states. When they get out of

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office. They're actually starting over a little bit.

Kim Curtis:

There's a lot that goes into what they are involved in as

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they exit their office, probably

Janice Porter:

getting into it too. And then they probably have

Janice Porter:

to dive, divest themselves and so on. If they were

Kim Curtis:

people a little bit or payback people, they they all

Kim Curtis:

these friends and people that supported them during their

Kim Curtis:

terms. They then have to make sure that that you do the right

Kim Curtis:

thing. And so there's lots of different steps that are Hold on

Kim Curtis:

that and then I just happened to understand that and I happen to

Kim Curtis:

be available for making that happen for a few people.

Janice Porter:

So it was okay, but let's just without I'm not

Janice Porter:

trying to be rude, but I'm just curious to say, okay, it didn't

Janice Porter:

just happen in the sense that I believe, and I'm gonna guess

Janice Porter:

it's not what you it's partly what you know, but it's also who

Janice Porter:

you know.

Kim Curtis:

Of course. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, that is part

Kim Curtis:

of it. And then the other is name recognition. I mean, you

Kim Curtis:

know, the UFC, you know, cage fighting superstars. That's a

Kim Curtis:

little different, you know, like, how did you know what

Kim Curtis:

happened there? And that was really a referral. That allowed

Kim Curtis:

and they have different and each one is very different. They have

Kim Curtis:

sponsors that support them the way they have sponsors.

Janice Porter:

So just elaborate a little bit that you helped

Janice Porter:

what that you worked with them?

Kim Curtis:

You know, cage fighting superstars in the UFC?

Kim Curtis:

Yeah, you know, because they have sponsors, and they get a

Kim Curtis:

fixed monthly amount of money, and yet they have to train and

Kim Curtis:

they get injured. And so how do you navigate that monthly dollar

Kim Curtis:

amount so that they can actually have a lifestyle that's

Kim Curtis:

appropriate, and be able to take care of themselves? Personally?

Kim Curtis:

Yeah. Interesting. So very different. Yes. The governor?

Kim Curtis:

Yeah. To us. Yeah. Latson Buzz Aldrin. I mean, he's, he's so

Kim Curtis:

funny. I mean, he is a really funny guy.

Janice Porter:

He's a character I.

Kim Curtis:

That's a great word to describe him. And you know

Kim Curtis:

what, quite frankly, he's remarkable that he's still

Kim Curtis:

showing up and still doing things related to you know, you

Kim Curtis:

said he often makes a joke that he was the first one to take a

Kim Curtis:

selfie. That was on the moon, you know, that famous pic iconic

Kim Curtis:

picture of him. You were the reflection of him in the camera?

Kim Curtis:

Is his first selfie. So? Yeah, like really a great guy.

Janice Porter:

What would you say is your proudest moment in

Janice Porter:

your career?

Kim Curtis:

You know, when I talked about the pyramid? Yes,

Kim Curtis:

we call that the planning for life pyramid pyramid. Because

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that's our process called Planning for life. I would have

Kim Curtis:

to say that when I see clients at that place, that when we

Kim Curtis:

finally when they see the plan, they finally see where they're

Kim Curtis:

at. And they finally ask bigger questions of themselves. I could

Kim Curtis:

cry.

Janice Porter:

Yeah. So how, how long a process does it is it

Janice Porter:

normally to get people there? Is it a few months? Is it does it

Janice Porter:

take a year to get

Kim Curtis:

depends on availability of time, but

Kim Curtis:

generally within six weeks that that is answered,

Janice Porter:

okay. Now, are you still doing that work?

Kim Curtis:

Yes. Yes, we still and I am still doing that work.

Kim Curtis:

Although I did just get back from Beverly Hills. And I did a

Kim Curtis:

red carpet, which was so much fun. Oh, that was I've never

Kim Curtis:

done that before. And that was with my collaboration. In my

Kim Curtis:

book with Jack Canfield. He is the CO creator of Chicken Soup

Kim Curtis:

for the Soul. He's amazing. Yes. And I wrote a chapter in the

Kim Curtis:

most recent book that came out in July of keys to authenticity

Kim Curtis:

is the book. And I wrote a chapter in there called Money is

Kim Curtis:

looking for

Janice Porter:

you. Oh, I love it. Okay, and so

Kim Curtis:

the red carpet was a result of that book hitting

Kim Curtis:

bestseller status. Oh,

Janice Porter:

fantastic. Who where was it? Where was it? One

Janice Porter:

of the hotels?

Kim Curtis:

Yeah. The Beverly Hills Hilton. Oh, iconic. Is

Kim Curtis:

that? Yeah.

Janice Porter:

Yep. My parents used to live right near there.

Janice Porter:

Oh, yeah. And we used to I think it was the was it the Hilton is?

Janice Porter:

Is that the one where they have the Golden Globes? Yes. Yes. So

Janice Porter:

my dad and I, this is many, many years ago, we used to walk up

Janice Porter:

Wilshire to the Beverly Hilton when the Golden Globes are on

Janice Porter:

and just hover in the hobby and lobby so we could just start

Janice Porter:

star gaze, our gaze. Yeah, that was fun. Back in the day, but ya

Janice Porter:

know, that's so that's so congratulations. That's

Kim Curtis:

Thank you. The award was called the Quilly. Award,

Kim Curtis:

which the same people that make the award for the Golden Globes

Kim Curtis:

and the Oscars do the Quilly.

Janice Porter:

Okay, cool. So the feather pen Aquila. Yeah,

Kim Curtis:

I don't know if you could see it in my screen behind

Kim Curtis:

me. I just, yes. I just got it last week. So it's like, where

Kim Curtis:

do I put it?

Janice Porter:

Yeah. Perfect. Yeah. Move it. Move it

Kim Curtis:

more this

Janice Porter:

bit this way? Yeah. But it's very cool.

Janice Porter:

Congratulations. So cool. Thank you. So a couple more questions

Janice Porter:

for you. One is that you, you do talk about and I don't know

Janice Porter:

whether you want to go through the six steps but that you look

Janice Porter:

at six steps to change one's relationship with money so that

Janice Porter:

they go and I liked this piece from complex cated to come to

Janice Porter:

confident. So maybe just highlight what, what are the

Janice Porter:

biggest pieces that that help someone go from complicated with

Janice Porter:

money from complicated to confident?

Kim Curtis:

You know, I think the number most important one is

Kim Curtis:

to not be afraid of the languaging. We didn't create it,

Kim Curtis:

but to embrace the curiosity around it. And what I mean about

Kim Curtis:

that is educate yourself around money. And probably the very

Kim Curtis:

first thing which we talked about is be awake. Yeah, don't

Kim Curtis:

let someone else take the reins of money with you just trusting

Kim Curtis:

that. It is a collaborative effort.

Janice Porter:

That just took me right back, right back to my

Janice Porter:

father saying, Don't worry, we'll look after it. I'll look

Janice Porter:

after it. Right. I just took me right. Because that has haunted

Janice Porter:

me throughout my life.

Kim Curtis:

So if you have if you are working with a financial

Kim Curtis:

planner, or advisor, and your spouse is showing up, and you're

Kim Curtis:

not, that's a mistake. You need to go to those meetings. And

Kim Curtis:

when they say, oh, it's boring, you don't need to go. Yes, you

Kim Curtis:

do. Yeah. Yeah. And on the tax return, you need to look at the

Kim Curtis:

tax return. And be a part of that conversation and meet with

Kim Curtis:

the CPA, so that you understand what's going on in the

Kim Curtis:

household.

Janice Porter:

Yeah, it says all of that stuff, right. And then,

Janice Porter:

and then I mean, I can see I have two daughters, ones like

Janice Porter:

me, ones like her dad, once a safer one. suspender is just is

Janice Porter:

that personality, that's got to be partly personality?

Kim Curtis:

Well, there is something innate about that,

Kim Curtis:

however, money we created, and it has no value other than the

Kim Curtis:

value we give it. So I think it's more values driven, then

Kim Curtis:

perhaps innate, yeah, that makes sense. Because our values evolve

Kim Curtis:

over time. So if you think about, that money is looking for

Kim Curtis:

you. Instead of I need money, I need money, no money need you

Kim Curtis:

because it has no power other than the power we give it, I

Kim Curtis:

love

Janice Porter:

this money is looking for you.

Kim Curtis:

So if you think about that, as women, we're

Kim Curtis:

generally the ones doing the budget in the household. So we

Kim Curtis:

we know what we're spending Yeah, we just are not embracing

Kim Curtis:

the investment side of the longer term objectives, we think

Kim Curtis:

that that should be someone else's job. And we think that

Kim Curtis:

they're capable of doing it, they're absolutely not

Kim Curtis:

necessarily capable of doing it. They just feel like it's their

Kim Curtis:

job to like mowing the lawn or whatever. And they don't know

Kim Curtis:

any better. They really don't know any better. So it's really

Kim Curtis:

important that you don't put that burden on that person.

Kim Curtis:

Right. And you share the burden, not only of that, but then share

Kim Curtis:

the burden of the household expenses be so that you don't

Kim Curtis:

get blamed for spending too much. They probably have no idea

Kim Curtis:

how much really is spent in the household.

Janice Porter:

Right? So let me ask you this, just this just

Janice Porter:

came to me because I have a little four year old

Janice Porter:

granddaughter who's the light of my life, and yeah, what's the

Janice Porter:

message I should give her about money?

Kim Curtis:

Oh, it's all about empowerment. That money, money

Kim Curtis:

is good. That what you do with money allows you to do good

Kim Curtis:

things for others. And really, the myth out there of what our

Kim Curtis:

parents or grandparents or others may have said tied to

Kim Curtis:

beliefs that are not true. And the more that there is girl

Kim Curtis:

empowerment around money and choices, the stronger she will

Kim Curtis:

be, which is what we talked about with the 20 Somethings.

Kim Curtis:

Yeah, they already got it. Most of them.

Janice Porter:

It's funny, because she had two incidents.

Janice Porter:

Last week when we went we had a garage sale in the neighborhood.

Janice Porter:

And she she came over to visit and and she said, Oh Grandma,

Janice Porter:

why don't you have your garage open? And you know, I said,

Janice Porter:

because I didn't want to do that. But would you like to go

Janice Porter:

to the garage sale? I said, here's $2 Let's go we'll go

Janice Porter:

shopping and see what you can find. And so that was one and

Janice Porter:

then the other one she found some money on the playground.

Janice Porter:

And so I told her to to we washed it because I wash it and

Janice Porter:

then we have I said why don't you put it in your piggy bank

Janice Porter:

but at for it's not doesn't mean anything at this point. But you

Janice Porter:

know, a little bit of spending a little bit of saving, trying to

Janice Porter:

know a little bit of both. So I thought that was kind of fun.

Janice Porter:

And you know about it.

Kim Curtis:

When I have a daughter and son they're young

Kim Curtis:

adults 25 and 23. But when my son he played lacrosse and what

Kim Curtis:

I we would go to a secondhand store and you would see a lot of

Kim Curtis:

lacrosse helmets. And those helmets go for over 100 bucks.

Kim Curtis:

And they would be at Goodwill or whatever aarC for five bucks.

Kim Curtis:

Yes. And I would have him get that and then he would take it

Kim Curtis:

to the the second hand store in the high end neighborhood. Uh

Kim Curtis:

huh. To get money for it. So it would maybe it would sell for 75

Kim Curtis:

bucks. Wow. And he would get half the price of that from that

Kim Curtis:

from that store. So he learned how to do something like that,

Kim Curtis:

where the opportunity is. And there's a little work and doing

Kim Curtis:

it. But he learned that that work was important for him to do

Kim Curtis:

so that he had some spending money. So things like that are

Kim Curtis:

really important to demonstrate. And in the beginning, we have to

Kim Curtis:

show them how to do it. Yeah. Whether it be Facebook

Kim Curtis:

marketplace, or whatever, to show them, that making or

Kim Curtis:

earning money is relatively easy. And that's the lesson they

Kim Curtis:

need to learn.

Janice Porter:

And that's yes, that's a great idea. Because the

Janice Porter:

first lesson we've learned as we've given away to somebody

Janice Porter:

else, then because she's got these bikes that she's grown out

Janice Porter:

of, we gave the Strider bike away, so someone else could use

Janice Porter:

it and learn how to ride the bike. But the next one, we

Janice Porter:

probably should sell. Because it's worth more. And that would

Janice Porter:

be a really good. You know, we're trying to teach her that,

Janice Porter:

you know, yeah, she wants to keep them both, so she can ride

Janice Porter:

them both. Well, one's too small for her. Right. So yeah, so it's

Janice Porter:

it's all lessons anyway, this is just fun. But this has been

Janice Porter:

amazing. I have to ask you one last question or two last

Janice Porter:

questions online. One is my curiosity question, because I

Janice Porter:

love to do that curiosity. And we've talked about this, that

Janice Porter:

word has come up in our conversation. So it's my

Janice Porter:

favorite word. I love curiosity. And that's what I think spurs me

Janice Porter:

on with my podcast being curious. So do you believe that

Janice Porter:

curiosity is innate, or learned? And part two? What are you most

Janice Porter:

curious about these days?

Kim Curtis:

I think it's learned. Okay. I think it's

Kim Curtis:

learned anyone can be curious. So And what am I curious about

Kim Curtis:

today? I am curious about so many things. I think curiosity

Kim Curtis:

is the key to success, the more that you don't think you have

Kim Curtis:

the answer, and you're curious about learning more, the more

Kim Curtis:

you'll grow, and being a lifelong learner is part of that

Kim Curtis:

success ticket. So I am really curious about where we will end

Kim Curtis:

up as it relates to capitalism, and conscious capitalism, and

Kim Curtis:

how we will change the conversation about corporations

Kim Curtis:

just focusing on profit for the shareholders, versus focusing on

Kim Curtis:

sustainability and adding back to the earth and the things that

Kim Curtis:

are important to our planet. Because we're all connected.

Kim Curtis:

We're all one. And the more we learn to understand that,

Kim Curtis:

outside of our rugged individualism in this country,

Kim Curtis:

and Canada, we kind of have the same culture is really will be

Kim Curtis:

an interesting thing to unfold.

Janice Porter:

Thank you. And any last words for the audience?

Kim Curtis:

Love yourself. Learn to love yourself. Learn to trust

Kim Curtis:

your instinct. Learn to trust who you are. And once you know

Kim Curtis:

that you're already enough. Everything else falls into

Kim Curtis:

place. Believe me.

Janice Porter:

I love it. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank

Janice Porter:

you for your wisdom. Thank you for sharing some fun things with

Janice Porter:

us as well. And you were a delight to have on the show. I'd

Janice Porter:

much appreciate you being here. And to my audience, thank you

Janice Porter:

for being here. And being loyal. Please. If you love what you

Janice Porter:

heard, please leave a review and let us know. I will leave Kim's

Janice Porter:

info and her books and how you may get ahold of her I'm sure I

Janice Porter:

know. Kim's on LinkedIn for sure. And her wealth sorry,

Janice Porter:

wealth

Kim Curtis:

legacy Institute,

Janice Porter:

the wealth legacy Institute. I'm so sorry. If

Janice Porter:

you're in the United States, you might want to check it out. So

Janice Porter:

thank you so much. And remember to stay connected and be

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remembered. One