Episodes

A thriving marriage isn’t built on luck, chemistry, or time together. It’s built on five core pillars that determine how safe you feel, how seen you feel, and how deeply connected you become. In this episode, I walk you throu...

Every strong marriage has a rhythm. In this episode, I break down the eight simple habits happy couples practice consistently to stay connected, calm, curious, and close. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re everyday choices ...

Your spouse is sending signals all day long. The question is… are you catching them or walking right past them? Today we dig into bids for attention, why they matter, and how responding to them can completely change the emoti...

Ever notice how a marriage can be full of routines and plans yet feel oddly empty? Like you love each other… but the spark, the pull toward the future, has gone a little dim? This week's episode is a gentle reminder that love...

Ever notice how one sentence can spark an argument and not because of what was said, but how it was heard? In this short episode, we unpack how tone, timing, and emotional state can twist even kind intentions into conflict. Y...

In this honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. Marianna Martinasevic, a psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience to talk about something most people whisper about: medication for anxiety, depression, a...

Struggling couples often wonder if it’s time to quit or if there’s still something worth fighting for. In this gentle yet practical episode, Michelle Hays walks you through four powerful conversations designed to bring clarit...

He needs space to feel safe. She needs connection to feel safe. No wonder you keep missing each other. In this episode, Michelle Hays explores the nervous system wiring that fuels the chase-and-withdraw dance so many couples ...

Love without safety is love you have to perform for—and it will leave you lonely, even in the same room with your partner. In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hayes unpacks why emotional safety has become the modern...

What happens when you love your partner but don’t feel attracted to them anymore? In this episode of Monarch for Love, we peel back the shame and silence around fading desire. You’ll discover why loss of attraction is often a...

In this week's episode, we are unpacking one of the most common myths I hear from couples: “We just fell out of love.” The truth? Love doesn’t vanish—it fades when we stop choosing it. I’ll share how unmet needs, unspoken res...

In this week's episode, I speak to the woman standing at the edge—the one who wonders if walking away is the only way forward. Before you make that decision, I invite you to pause and ask yourself four life-altering questions...

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, I sit down with Psychiatrist, Dr. Mariana Martinasevic, to explore how alcohol and other substances can quietly reshape the fabric of a marriage. From social drinking to dependen...

In this week’s episode, we’re naming something couples rarely admit out loud—feeling lonely in marriage. You said “I do,” you built a life together, and yet sometimes it feels like you’re miles apart under the same roof. Lone...

In this week’s episode, I’m stepping into a season many couples both dread and quietly anticipate—the empty nest. After decades of parenting, the kids are gone, the routines vanish, and the house suddenly feels too quiet. It’...

Think sexy means lingerie and candlelight? Think again. In this feel-good episode, Michelle Hays and positivity powerhouse Instagram sensation Kelli Butterfly spill the tea on how playfulness, laughter, and choosing joy can s...

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, host Michelle Hays gets personal and real about a common but often unnoticed relationship trap—the stories we tell ourselves. Whether it’s “He doesn’t care,” or “She never listen...

In this empowering episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle sits down with Bradley Rausch, host of the Redefining Growth podcast, to explore what it really takes to move from emotional overwhelm to intentional change—especially ...

Let’s face it—talking about sex in marriage can feel awkward, vulnerable, and even risky. But avoiding the topic only creates distance. In this heartfelt episode, Michelle Hays gets real about the fears, miscommunications, an...

In this lighthearted yet deeply insightful episode, Michelle Hays shares a personal story that every couple can relate to—when one partner needs to process out loud and the other retreats into silence. Through her real-life e...

Are your thoughts heavy with resentment? Are you withholding forgiveness? In this week's episode, Michelle Hays talks about how forgiveness lifts the weight and brings hearts back together. Hurting each other is inevitable—bu...

This Week on Monarch for Love Michelle Hays dives into one of the most misunderstood (and underused) relationship skills: validation. You'll learn what it really means to validate your partner—without surrendering your own pe...

This Week on Monarch for Love We’re packing our bags—and maybe a little patience—as we dive into the world of travel and relationships. I’m honored to be joined by luxury travel planner Shari Kavalin, founder of Elegant Escap...

In this week's episode, Michelle Hays explores the six pillars of intimacy that keep love strong, connected, and enduring. From emotional safety to shared vulnerability, you'll discover how to nurture the kind of intimacy tha...