Spotify 
Apple Podcasts 
Castro 
RSS Feed 
YouTube April 22, 2021
S2E4: How to Stop Being Passive Aggressive and Start Loving Your Neighbor
Corinna lays down truth that will set you free to love as Christ loves and eliminate the sinful habit of ignoring confrontation and using passive aggressiveness instead. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jenny-marcum/support
1
00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,700
Welcome back to no idea the
podcast where you have no idea
2
00:00:03,700 --> 00:00:06,000
where we're going to talk about
and we have no idea how it's
3
00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,200
going to go.
I'm Jenny back again right at
4
00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:10,200
it.
And guess what?
5
00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,400
I have a very special guest
here.
6
00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,700
I'm very excited to introduce
her because I've been wanting
7
00:00:14,700 --> 00:00:17,700
her to be on this podcast for
quite a while.
8
00:00:18,100 --> 00:00:21,200
Let's say that but um, her name
is Corinna.
9
00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:22,400
We call her.
Winnie.
10
00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,500
No, we don't only some people
call her.
11
00:00:24,500 --> 00:00:28,500
Winnie, it's my favorite thing
to cook but Kareena.
12
00:00:28,700 --> 00:00:33,300
You are 20.
Two beautiful thriving, she's a
13
00:00:33,500 --> 00:00:38,200
30 colored each a lover, but she
also is a student life advisor.
14
00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:42,300
Currently is going to go
overseas to impact and change
15
00:00:42,300 --> 00:00:46,000
the world very soon.
So that's why it was kind of an
16
00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,300
urgent matter for us to get
around this podcast.
17
00:00:48,300 --> 00:00:51,600
Because you're gonna leave and
zoom, but she's one of my
18
00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,900
dearest friends.
I'm very excited that she's in
19
00:00:53,900 --> 00:00:57,400
my life, first of all, but
second of all that, you guys get
20
00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,700
to hear her wisdom because I
hear her wisdom all the time.
21
00:01:00,500 --> 00:01:03,100
And so you guys now get you
experience it.
22
00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:07,400
But Corinna, I have fun fact
question for you.
23
00:01:07,700 --> 00:01:09,600
Yes, tell us a fun fact about
yourself.
24
00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,800
It's very straightforward.
I'm playing.
25
00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,700
Oh wow, thank you for that
intro.
26
00:01:16,500 --> 00:01:19,400
You are a dear friend as well.
Thank you very much.
27
00:01:20,100 --> 00:01:31,300
Fun fact I have A Distillery bar
is high make kombucha in the
28
00:01:31,300 --> 00:01:35,700
basement of our dorm at first.
I was kind of keeping it on the
29
00:01:35,700 --> 00:01:37,300
DL.
So like nobody would know
30
00:01:37,300 --> 00:01:39,400
because I was like, I don't know
if it's okay to have this down
31
00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,300
here, like, but if someone like
gets me in trouble for having
32
00:01:42,300 --> 00:01:44,700
like making kombucha in the
basement, but I realized
33
00:01:44,700 --> 00:01:47,300
somebody told me that credit,
you're literally like the ra of
34
00:01:47,300 --> 00:01:49,600
this floor, like the only person
that would get you in trouble as
35
00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,200
you but exact gonna happen.
Yep.
36
00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:53,900
So it's computers.
Good.
37
00:01:53,900 --> 00:01:56,800
I love kombucha.
I started selling a recently. $5
38
00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,100
everyone, get her leader.
What do we call it?
39
00:01:59,100 --> 00:02:01,500
Corinne's kombuchka.
Yeah.
40
00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:03,600
Yes.
She taught me how to make it
41
00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:05,700
quite recently.
It's pretty simple.
42
00:02:05,700 --> 00:02:08,699
Anyone can learn really?
Yeah, Jamie's taking over my
43
00:02:08,699 --> 00:02:13,100
kombucha operation.
Joanne will now be her child to
44
00:02:13,100 --> 00:02:16,700
look after.
Oh, Joanne Joanne is her scoby.
45
00:02:16,700 --> 00:02:19,000
I just want you to scobie was
like last month.
46
00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:24,600
It's really gross to look out,
but very great to drink from Not
47
00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,200
the actual scope and drink the
juice that it sits in.
48
00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:32,000
Yeah, Joanne's cute.
But when I asked her it on what
49
00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,600
topics you want to talk about,
first of all, we went back and
50
00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,300
forth a couple times.
She's a no simple living, which
51
00:02:37,300 --> 00:02:41,100
is a great topic or maybe
something agricultural, but she
52
00:02:41,100 --> 00:02:43,400
decided that she wanted to talk
about love and passive
53
00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,800
aggressiveness and how those to
do not go together.
54
00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,600
But the way of Love basically is
what she said.
55
00:02:48,900 --> 00:02:52,300
And so Karina, why did you want
to talk specifically about that
56
00:02:52,300 --> 00:02:53,500
topic?
Why is it important?
57
00:02:53,500 --> 00:02:56,000
Orton to you.
Thank you for asking this topic
58
00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,900
means a lot to me because I've
lived in a lot of different
59
00:02:58,900 --> 00:03:02,300
Christian communities.
Both here at school, I also did
60
00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:04,600
a little stint with why Wham?
Which is admission sending
61
00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:08,300
organization as well, as well as
just being in churches and youth
62
00:03:08,300 --> 00:03:12,300
groups and everything and it as
Christians, I do believe that
63
00:03:12,300 --> 00:03:16,800
like we are we are literally so
called to be loving and to walk
64
00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,300
in the way of love, Jesus
himself walked in the way of
65
00:03:19,300 --> 00:03:21,300
love and Paul talks about the
way of love.
66
00:03:22,300 --> 00:03:27,300
And so Yeah, I think this talk
kind of comes from what the
67
00:03:27,300 --> 00:03:30,800
Lord's been teaching me about
love and also kind of stemming
68
00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:33,500
into passive aggressively of
something that is really
69
00:03:33,500 --> 00:03:37,400
accepted in a lot of Christian
circles Christian communities.
70
00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,600
That is just so incredibly
unloving.
71
00:03:41,900 --> 00:03:44,700
Yeah, just really hurtful can
really tear apart, people really
72
00:03:44,700 --> 00:03:49,400
fast and so yeah, wanted to just
kind of like bring bring more
73
00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,700
awareness to this than like I
don't think it's really talked
74
00:03:51,700 --> 00:03:53,400
about enough.
Yeah, it is.
75
00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:55,800
Any more acceptable way of being
aggressive?
76
00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,800
Yeah, being just terrible, not
loving it.
77
00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:03,100
Yeah, yeah, unlovely unloving.
Yeah, yeah.
78
00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,200
Um, so where would you like to
start with this?
79
00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,100
Where does this love that?
We're talking about that we can
80
00:04:09,100 --> 00:04:11,100
walk in every day.
Where does that originated in
81
00:04:11,100 --> 00:04:14,000
come from?
Yeah, that's a great question
82
00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,700
looking through scripture.
I think the two places that were
83
00:04:17,700 --> 00:04:20,000
really highlighted to me, when I
was addressing this topic with
84
00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:25,600
my life group was John 15, and
First, John four, and so in John
85
00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:29,100
15, I might read a couple verses
from.
86
00:04:29,100 --> 00:04:31,800
I'm not going to read the whole
thing and I'm just letting her
87
00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:35,100
Bible.
Flip Flip, Flip, Flip Flop.
88
00:04:36,700 --> 00:04:39,600
So, John 15 is kind of known as
the like abide.
89
00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,400
Passage people like, to quote
has just abide in Jesus lab
90
00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:43,700
lied.
Yeah.
91
00:04:43,700 --> 00:04:46,800
Great passage couple things that
stand out to me.
92
00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:51,000
Verse 4, says, remain in me as I
also remain in you no Branch can
93
00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,000
bear.
Fruit by itself, it must remain
94
00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:53,800
in the Vine.
Fine.
95
00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,300
Neither, can you bear fruit
unless you remain in me?
96
00:04:56,500 --> 00:04:59,100
This is NIV if anybody cares.
Hmm.
97
00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:01,500
Yeah.
So just the idea, fruitfulness
98
00:05:01,500 --> 00:05:05,400
comes from abiding in the Lord
and I'm just going to skip down
99
00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,300
a little bit to verse 10.
It says, if you keep can keep my
100
00:05:08,300 --> 00:05:10,800
commands, you will remain in my
love.
101
00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,200
Just as I have kept my father's
commands and remain in his love
102
00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,400
and then skip down a little
farther to chap their little F.
103
00:05:17,900 --> 00:05:22,400
Same chapter verse 17 says, this
is my command love each other
104
00:05:22,500 --> 00:05:26,300
and so When I was kind of just
meditating on this, passage it
105
00:05:26,300 --> 00:05:29,100
just hit me.
Like we literally do not have
106
00:05:29,100 --> 00:05:32,700
the strength and the capacity to
just love people the way that we
107
00:05:32,700 --> 00:05:36,700
should that fruitfulness.
Like that fruit of actually
108
00:05:36,700 --> 00:05:39,800
loving comes from the Lord
himself and from abiding in him,
109
00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,800
like he didn't love him first.
He loved us first.
110
00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:47,200
And that, that started our
capacity to love and not to be
111
00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,600
cheesy.
I might reference Myra scurvy
112
00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,200
reference.
You can do that.
113
00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,100
Okay, Jimmy like this.
Example.
114
00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:59,700
Yeah, kind of like like a tiny
tiny little scoby forming in
115
00:05:59,700 --> 00:06:03,300
Kombucha the Lord's love life.
You don't notice.
116
00:06:03,300 --> 00:06:06,500
Kobe is just look it up on the
internet, crazy stuff, literally
117
00:06:06,500 --> 00:06:08,800
crazy.
You probably need to know for
118
00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:15,300
this to be efficient.
So anyway the way like love
119
00:06:15,300 --> 00:06:18,000
starts, his God literally
Reveals His love to us and we
120
00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,900
start like this.
Tiny little tiny little scoby of
121
00:06:20,900 --> 00:06:25,900
love in our hearts and we're To
walk in that were called to
122
00:06:25,900 --> 00:06:28,300
actually actively obey and walk
in the love.
123
00:06:28,300 --> 00:06:31,400
That is starting to be produced
in our hearts or and that's kind
124
00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,400
of like fermenting in this unit.
This little more carbonated a
125
00:06:34,408 --> 00:06:38,700
little delicious.
Yeah, we act out in love.
126
00:06:38,700 --> 00:06:42,700
We actively love others and walk
in obedience.
127
00:06:42,700 --> 00:06:44,600
In that end, in that walking
out.
128
00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,600
We just love for the Lord is
like stirred up in our hearts
129
00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:52,300
even more and it's like pouring
and Duty for that murata Camuto.
130
00:06:53,700 --> 00:06:56,700
And yeah, and then it starts all
over our love towards the Lord
131
00:06:56,700 --> 00:06:59,200
grows.
He shows us more of his love and
132
00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:02,300
that in turn creates even
greater love for others that we
133
00:07:02,300 --> 00:07:05,300
then have to choose to walk in
obedience and it really starts
134
00:07:05,300 --> 00:07:08,500
the cycle of loving, God.
And loving others, which brings
135
00:07:08,500 --> 00:07:11,600
me to you first.
John four got a good Flip
136
00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:13,700
flippity.
Flip Flip, Flip flippity Flop,
137
00:07:13,700 --> 00:07:21,600
slot was living in flip-flop.
So Chapter 4, verses 7 through
138
00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:25,000
21 talks, so much about I'm not
going to read the whole thing,
139
00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:29,500
but there is so much in here is
like, you do not love God.
140
00:07:29,500 --> 00:07:32,100
If you do not love others and
you do love God.
141
00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,000
If you love others, you don't
know God.
142
00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,400
Very strong support.
Yeah.
143
00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:39,100
And yeah, it says, it says we
love because he first loved us,
144
00:07:39,100 --> 00:07:42,100
that's kind of that little
little beginning fermentation.
145
00:07:42,900 --> 00:07:45,300
And anyone who loves God must
also love their brother and
146
00:07:45,300 --> 00:07:48,300
sister.
And so we are so called to love
147
00:07:48,300 --> 00:07:50,900
the world were called to love,
non-believers and Believers that
148
00:07:50,900 --> 00:07:54,300
like it is so highlighted, like
as the Body of Christ.
149
00:07:54,300 --> 00:07:56,700
It is so important that we are
loving each other.
150
00:07:56,900 --> 00:07:59,200
I think there's some times an
emphasis on Christians to love
151
00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,700
non-believers in to love them
well and show them the gospel.
152
00:08:02,700 --> 00:08:05,300
It's like man that's great
that's beautiful that's got to
153
00:08:05,300 --> 00:08:07,500
start within own family.
Of God if you can't love your
154
00:08:07,500 --> 00:08:10,800
brother and sister, what example
do you have to anyone else?
155
00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:15,600
And also, scripture says, like,
yeah, even heathens love people
156
00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,900
who love them.
Yeah, but we are called to love
157
00:08:18,900 --> 00:08:21,800
those who do not love us.
Yeah, just heard that Lucas
158
00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,400
morning, that's crazy.
Yeah, Yeah, it's so simple yet
159
00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:30,900
the church misses it so often
and also people will be drawn to
160
00:08:30,900 --> 00:08:34,200
church as a whole if the church
is loving.
161
00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:35,900
Yeah.
And a lot of people have, a lot
162
00:08:35,900 --> 00:08:39,200
of church hurts been bitter.
Like you know, actually the
163
00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,000
church was super unwelcoming to
me and I felt the opposite of
164
00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:43,700
loved you know.
I'm not going to go back.
165
00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:46,000
Yeah.
And so this is something so
166
00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,000
simple.
Yeah.
167
00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,800
And we always forget it like,
oh, we're just have to deepen my
168
00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,800
quiet time.
I just have to serve more at
169
00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:54,700
church.
I just have To do more things.
170
00:08:54,700 --> 00:08:58,800
It's one command, very simple.
He fills us with his love.
171
00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,000
Yeah, which is why it's a
tasting guys comes from.
172
00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:05,700
Yeah, so I have quite a few
examples of this even as I'm
173
00:09:05,700 --> 00:09:09,600
currently working customer
service, but how do we love
174
00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,100
others practically?
Even like when they are very
175
00:09:12,100 --> 00:09:15,500
difficult, people very difficult
people.
176
00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:20,600
That is a great question and I
think something that like Man
177
00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:23,200
something God has been teaching
me recently which I think has
178
00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:26,700
been like changed my mindset and
I think is pretty broad enough
179
00:09:26,700 --> 00:09:28,600
that it can be applied to any
situation.
180
00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:30,500
Actually happened over spring
break.
181
00:09:30,500 --> 00:09:35,100
So, over spring break, I went to
Washington State and myself had.
182
00:09:35,100 --> 00:09:37,800
I cannot wait to go there.
Someday, it's beautiful, do it.
183
00:09:38,300 --> 00:09:39,600
So it was, it was really
beautiful.
184
00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:42,900
I was going to stay with some
friends and I knew that I was
185
00:09:42,900 --> 00:09:45,400
going to be like airports and on
ferries and just a lot of
186
00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,500
traveling by myself.
And sometimes it makes me
187
00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,100
anxious just to be around all
these people.
188
00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:53,300
Don't know.
But man I mean first I think
189
00:09:53,300 --> 00:09:56,500
it's first John four.
I think that's where this person
190
00:09:56,500 --> 00:09:58,500
is this.
Perfect, love casts out.
191
00:09:58,500 --> 00:10:04,200
Yes, that's exactly 4 verse 18.
Whoo School baubles.
192
00:10:06,700 --> 00:10:08,100
Yeah, I think thinking about
that.
193
00:10:08,100 --> 00:10:10,900
It's like, oh, God's perfect
left for me, cast out any fear,
194
00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:15,000
but it's also our our perfect
love enabled by God.
195
00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,200
Cast out fear from loving other
people.
196
00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,300
You know what I'm saying?
Yes, we're able to love other
197
00:10:19,300 --> 00:10:21,100
people that cat.
Without fear from them.
198
00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:24,500
And I was asking God to give me
a mindset of God, how do I love
199
00:10:24,500 --> 00:10:26,800
people that I've just met?
I don't know anything about more
200
00:10:27,100 --> 00:10:31,000
or whatever that may be and he
gave me some good things.
201
00:10:31,300 --> 00:10:36,300
So I'm just going to read one
verse from Genesis 1:27.
202
00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,900
It says so God created Mankind
in his own image.
203
00:10:40,900 --> 00:10:44,400
In the image of God, he created
them male and female, he created
204
00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:50,100
them and Just the idea of like
all of humanity, whether saved
205
00:10:50,100 --> 00:10:53,600
or not saved to some extent
Bears, the image of God, it's
206
00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,600
been broken and distorted by sin
and there is like a regeneration
207
00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,500
in a renewal in being a
Christian and able to walk that
208
00:11:00,500 --> 00:11:02,400
out.
More beautiful and more
209
00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:06,300
perfectly but even non-believers
still bear the image of God and
210
00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:10,600
I really found that in.
Going out out to Washington,
211
00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,900
says actually, staying with a
friend who is not a Believer and
212
00:11:13,900 --> 00:11:19,000
just like Just the beauty of
finding it image of God in her
213
00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,800
and just really, like, excuse
me.
214
00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:28,600
So the butcher is the butcher.
Probably finding the image of
215
00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,700
God in someone like fixating on
the things that are, that are
216
00:11:31,700 --> 00:11:33,600
best about them.
That are lovely, that are
217
00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:37,500
beautiful, that are man, just
like what God sees when he looks
218
00:11:37,500 --> 00:11:40,200
at people, like to ask the Lord,
for his eyes for that.
219
00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,800
And to look for those good
imperfect things about people in
220
00:11:42,808 --> 00:11:45,400
to fixate on them, not to fix it
on that.
221
00:11:45,500 --> 00:11:46,800
Oh my gosh.
This is challenging.
222
00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:49,300
And I really don't like this
about them and I, my gosh, this
223
00:11:49,300 --> 00:11:52,300
is hard and man choosing to have
Grace for those things.
224
00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:56,600
And a lot of this is again, like
I say choosing but it's also
225
00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,900
very prayerfully knowing that I
have to abide in the vine to do
226
00:11:58,900 --> 00:12:01,300
these things.
It's asking for his perspective
227
00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,900
for yeah, foremost because we
cannot do it ourselves.
228
00:12:03,900 --> 00:12:05,400
Yeah.
And like his strength is
229
00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:08,400
sustaining power to do it
because we can do nothing or no.
230
00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:10,700
And we can't bear this fruit of
Love, on our own.
231
00:12:11,300 --> 00:12:13,900
But like, looking for those
beautiful things in each other
232
00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:19,900
with it, I'm going to flip to
Romans 12 flippity, flop.
233
00:12:19,900 --> 00:12:20,900
Flop.
Flip flop.
234
00:12:21,900 --> 00:12:24,700
Flip flop flip.
Last time I open my bible just
235
00:12:24,700 --> 00:12:26,700
opened right to it now,
actually, I feel now it's
236
00:12:26,700 --> 00:12:32,200
broken.
Yeah Romans 12 is a great
237
00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:36,200
chapter.
It it's it really focuses in on
238
00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:39,200
love, even even like the title
of one of those little sections.
239
00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:43,500
Here is like love and action and
I prefer Romans 12 over First
240
00:12:43,500 --> 00:12:45,600
Corinthians 13.
So I know First Corinthians 13.
241
00:12:45,700 --> 00:12:48,700
It is like the iconic love
passenger and it's beautiful.
242
00:12:48,700 --> 00:12:51,800
It's so good.
It kind of says what love is and
243
00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,100
then Romans 12 really puts that
in action of okay?
244
00:12:54,100 --> 00:12:55,800
Well, here's some action of what
love looks like.
245
00:12:56,300 --> 00:12:59,100
So before we jump into that at
all, I want to look at Romans
246
00:12:59,100 --> 00:13:04,800
12:3 through eight words,
talking about the gifts that God
247
00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,700
has given to us and not to think
of ourselves more highly than we
248
00:13:08,700 --> 00:13:12,200
ought.
But in like humility to Value
249
00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,600
others more than ourselves will
harness are actually from
250
00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:19,700
Philippians, but It's all part
of the same Bible what it says,
251
00:13:19,700 --> 00:13:22,000
but rather think of yourself
with sober judgment in
252
00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:25,000
accordance with the faith God
has get got his distributed to
253
00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:27,600
each of you.
And it talks about how just as
254
00:13:27,600 --> 00:13:33,800
we are each a member of God's
like Christ's body to Value each
255
00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:36,800
body part, you know, to Value
each gift that somebody has.
256
00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,400
And so it lists some like pretty
specific gifts here of like
257
00:13:41,100 --> 00:13:43,300
prophecy and giving and
cheerfulness and whatever.
258
00:13:44,300 --> 00:13:46,700
I mean, I think I think when it
comes Comes to specifically the
259
00:13:46,700 --> 00:13:49,300
body of Christ and even even
non-believers we can look for
260
00:13:49,300 --> 00:13:53,600
like these good God traits that
maybe they don't fully know, but
261
00:13:54,300 --> 00:13:56,500
you're looking for these good
guy traits but in believer
262
00:13:56,500 --> 00:13:59,300
specifically like looking for
the gifts, God has given them
263
00:13:59,300 --> 00:14:02,000
calling those things out.
Highlighting them, fixing our
264
00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:05,500
eyes on those things and just
like, it's like glorifying the
265
00:14:05,500 --> 00:14:07,100
Lord, through that person's like
man.
266
00:14:07,100 --> 00:14:09,700
Like Lord.
I see your cheerfulness and just
267
00:14:09,700 --> 00:14:12,300
how joyful this really happy
person is.
268
00:14:12,300 --> 00:14:14,500
Maybe they're so peppy it drives
you crazy sometimes.
269
00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,400
But too, Fix-It to fix your eyes
on their cheerfulness and bagman
270
00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,700
to joy of the Lord.
In this person is evident and
271
00:14:20,700 --> 00:14:25,900
like to really actively love
them for that.
272
00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:27,300
You know, a loving God through
that.
273
00:14:27,300 --> 00:14:29,500
You notice that little little
cycle of Love.
274
00:14:29,900 --> 00:14:31,000
Yeah.
Yeah.
275
00:14:31,500 --> 00:14:33,000
But I answer your question, you
did.
276
00:14:33,900 --> 00:14:35,100
Yeah.
I've been thinking about that a
277
00:14:35,100 --> 00:14:38,600
lot even as I'm helping
different guests who come into
278
00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:43,900
the store I work at and I've
been thinking like I cannot
279
00:14:43,900 --> 00:14:48,200
assume at all.
All as I don't know them.
280
00:14:48,700 --> 00:14:51,600
So like when they walk in I
could be like oh I know this
281
00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:55,300
type of family by just looking
at them but that is really
282
00:14:55,300 --> 00:14:59,500
inherently sinful because I am
like putting a label on them
283
00:14:59,500 --> 00:15:03,200
before I even talk to them or
meet them, I'm not thinking like
284
00:15:03,300 --> 00:15:05,300
Lord give me your perspective of
this family.
285
00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,300
Give you the me, your
perspective of this person who
286
00:15:08,300 --> 00:15:10,000
walks in and what do they need
right now.
287
00:15:10,100 --> 00:15:14,400
And I want to do my best not
just for like a paycheck or not
288
00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:18,600
just for my job.
My job sake but also like I want
289
00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:20,300
to serve the people who walk in
here.
290
00:15:20,700 --> 00:15:22,800
I want to love them as you have
and I want to make their day
291
00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,300
better when they walk in.
Yeah I think we've all had that
292
00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:28,400
moment customer service.
Really that person was so nice
293
00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:30,900
how these are really in.
You just walk out you here a
294
00:15:30,900 --> 00:15:37,000
little bit ago work at Walmart
so good.
295
00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,900
So what are some examples of
loving well?
296
00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:44,100
And then, what are some examples
of not so well, I'll fix that.
297
00:15:44,100 --> 00:15:45,900
Yeah, we'll look at well first.
Yeah.
298
00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:48,600
Do that first.
So go back to Romans 12.
299
00:15:48,900 --> 00:15:52,000
So now just like the second half
of Romans 12, which is kind of
300
00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:55,100
cool that talks about the gifts
of everybody and then goes into
301
00:15:55,100 --> 00:15:58,800
love and action.
So Romans 9 through Romans
302
00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:02,600
chapter 12, thwarted me go nine
through 21.
303
00:16:02,700 --> 00:16:05,100
I'm going to just read through
portions of it and just kind of
304
00:16:05,100 --> 00:16:06,900
like listen for some of these
action words.
305
00:16:06,900 --> 00:16:10,000
OK, I'll close my eyes.
Okay, so much, you're better.
306
00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,900
Yes, I'm just going to start
reading in verse 19.
307
00:16:14,900 --> 00:16:19,800
Oh my gosh. 12:9.
So just listen to some of these
308
00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,400
like action words as we go
along.
309
00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:26,200
So first starts with love, must
be sincere, hate what is evil
310
00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:29,700
cling to what is good, be
devoted to one another in love
311
00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,100
honor.
One another above yourselves,
312
00:16:32,300 --> 00:16:35,100
never be lacking in Zeal, but
keep your spiritual fervor
313
00:16:35,100 --> 00:16:39,000
serving the lord be joyful in.
Hope, patient in Affliction
314
00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:42,300
faithful in prayer.
Share with the Lord's people who
315
00:16:42,300 --> 00:16:45,400
are in need in practice.
Hospitality bless those who
316
00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:49,400
persecute It, you bless and do
not curse Rejoice with those who
317
00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,100
rejoice and mourn with those who
mourn live in harmony with one
318
00:16:53,100 --> 00:16:55,500
another.
Do not be proud but be willing
319
00:16:55,500 --> 00:16:57,900
to associate with people of low
position.
320
00:16:58,300 --> 00:17:01,800
Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for
321
00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,599
evil, but be careful to do what
is right in the eyes of
322
00:17:04,599 --> 00:17:09,300
everyone, if it is possible, as
far as it depends on you, live
323
00:17:09,300 --> 00:17:12,900
at peace with everyone do not
take revenge my dear friends,
324
00:17:12,900 --> 00:17:15,200
but leave room for God's Wrath
for it is written.
325
00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:17,900
It is mine to avenge.
And I will repay says the Lord
326
00:17:18,300 --> 00:17:20,900
on the contrary, if your enemy
is hungry, feed him.
327
00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,599
If he is thirsty, give him
something to drink and this is
328
00:17:24,599 --> 00:17:26,900
Andrew, so you'll keep burning
coals on his head.
329
00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:33,300
Whoo, so funny not stop and just
finishes do not be overcome by
330
00:17:33,300 --> 00:17:35,200
evil, but overcome evil with
good, mmm-hmm.
331
00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,100
So I think just like good
examples in there, that really
332
00:17:39,100 --> 00:17:44,300
like, stand out to me our
devotion and honor Harmony
333
00:17:44,300 --> 00:17:50,600
humility, like and even like not
seeking revenge and not trying
334
00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:54,100
to like this is kind of getting
it to the bad example to of
335
00:17:54,100 --> 00:17:59,200
passive-aggressive any, but not
trying to like take revenge or
336
00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,700
try to have your own way or just
not being self-seeking.
337
00:18:02,700 --> 00:18:05,400
Like I think love is really just
the opposite of being self
338
00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:09,000
seeking but it's rejoicing in
another person rejoicing with
339
00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:12,100
them morning with them.
I've heard it's a lot easier to
340
00:18:12,100 --> 00:18:14,600
mourn with those who mourn that
it is to Rejoice with those who
341
00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:16,300
rejoice when you're not
rejoicing.
342
00:18:16,900 --> 00:18:20,200
You know, let's say your friend
is this is this is not how I
343
00:18:20,208 --> 00:18:24,000
feel towards you.
Your friends getting married and
344
00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,000
you're just bitter about it
because you're still single.
345
00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:30,200
It's just so hard to Rejoice.
It's easier to be kind of angry
346
00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,400
towards that person almost in
your heart and this is where
347
00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:35,000
passive-aggressively can start
seeping into your life.
348
00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:36,500
Yes, I'm so excited to get into
that party.
349
00:18:37,300 --> 00:18:41,400
I just can't wait to.
We're just at this example, just
350
00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,800
came to me, but that's where
that bitterness starts taking
351
00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:45,800
into your heart and you almost
are being passive-aggressive
352
00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:48,900
towards that person yet, but you
never address your true feelings
353
00:18:48,900 --> 00:18:52,000
of how you're feeling or how the
other person is affected.
354
00:18:52,100 --> 00:18:55,300
Acting that.
But I mean, in that example, I
355
00:18:55,300 --> 00:18:57,300
mean, it has nothing to do with
the other person, you know, has
356
00:18:57,300 --> 00:18:59,600
nothing to do with their Joy
with you were called, literally,
357
00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:01,500
you and your comparison?
Yeah.
358
00:19:01,500 --> 00:19:04,700
And your own, your own sin that
you need to deal with and you're
359
00:19:04,700 --> 00:19:06,500
in your call to Rejoice with
that person.
360
00:19:06,500 --> 00:19:09,500
You know, you're called to lift
them up and honor them and still
361
00:19:09,500 --> 00:19:13,700
be devoted to them in love and
get just too full on jump into
362
00:19:13,700 --> 00:19:16,000
the opposite of love.
Yeah, passive-aggressive.
363
00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:19,700
It is so simple because it's
just tears people apart and it
364
00:19:19,700 --> 00:19:23,000
like it just causes you to
fixate on Yourself and see
365
00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:24,900
things just from your point of
view, okay?
366
00:19:24,900 --> 00:19:27,400
You know, because you're never
addressing anything with anyone
367
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,600
else.
You see things, you interpret
368
00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:31,300
them your way and then you
respond.
369
00:19:31,300 --> 00:19:35,200
But never in a very, not
confrontational enough.
370
00:19:35,300 --> 00:19:36,600
Yeah.
That somebody could be like,
371
00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,700
hey, like I'm sorry that I made
you feel this way because of
372
00:19:39,700 --> 00:19:42,500
that, like, let's talk about it,
you know, it doesn't start a
373
00:19:42,508 --> 00:19:45,000
conversation, it starts, it
starts fights.
374
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,300
You know, that little bit of
like starts that that feeling in
375
00:19:48,300 --> 00:19:51,600
your chest that you're like not
this is not right.
376
00:19:52,100 --> 00:19:54,300
Between us is not the same and
not write.
377
00:19:54,300 --> 00:19:57,300
It builds tension and builds
walls between people rather than
378
00:19:57,300 --> 00:20:00,500
like tearing down those walls in
mining like, common ground and
379
00:20:00,500 --> 00:20:08,500
Reconciliation.
Reconcile is one of those things
380
00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:12,100
that is so accepted in Christian
circles because it's kind of
381
00:20:12,100 --> 00:20:15,200
silly, it's kind of it comes
across in a lot of like witty
382
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,100
sarcastic comments that are
actually tearing people down
383
00:20:18,100 --> 00:20:22,000
rather than building them up.
And I've seen that a lot even
384
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:26,500
Like Justin, like in leadership.
Sometimes you see that more like
385
00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:29,700
the people like that you're
leaving, it's so easy to see it
386
00:20:29,700 --> 00:20:32,300
there but then it's hard to
almost check your heart and see
387
00:20:32,300 --> 00:20:33,900
it with your peers.
You know what I'm saying?
388
00:20:33,900 --> 00:20:36,900
Is like, if it's somebody who's
being passive-aggressive
389
00:20:37,300 --> 00:20:40,500
passive-aggressive to you as a
peer, sometimes it's hard to
390
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,800
address that with them because
you're like why are you like
391
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,100
sometimes?
Like all of a sudden this
392
00:20:45,100 --> 00:20:46,300
tension between you and your
friend?
393
00:20:46,300 --> 00:20:48,800
And you're like, I wonder why
they're being this way towards
394
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:52,000
me but there's never really
something done.
395
00:20:52,100 --> 00:20:55,400
That you could be like, hey like
you left me in a Walmart parking
396
00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:56,600
lot like what was that about,
you know.
397
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,900
Yeah but it comes across these
like snippy comments that you're
398
00:20:59,900 --> 00:21:02,400
never able really to fully
address with the person.
399
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:07,400
And yeah I've personally just
started like like calling it out
400
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:08,900
a little more.
Like if people are passive
401
00:21:08,900 --> 00:21:12,900
aggressive to me, not responding
in that same manner because
402
00:21:12,900 --> 00:21:15,400
that's what feels it is.
Someone is passive aggressive
403
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,900
toward you says something kind
of shady kind of didn't feel
404
00:21:18,900 --> 00:21:23,000
right.
Place of Love Now, But not
405
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:24,800
responding in the language
because that's that's the
406
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:26,700
trigger.
You get triggered to be like oh
407
00:21:26,700 --> 00:21:29,400
I need to have a like a little
sassy kind of witty little bit
408
00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:33,300
hurtful, scathing comment back
and so easy to want to do that
409
00:21:33,300 --> 00:21:35,500
because that's like cool.
That's trendy to be like oh
410
00:21:35,500 --> 00:21:38,400
who's the wittiest?
Most sarcastic, funny person.
411
00:21:39,500 --> 00:21:43,000
And yet and instead, you know be
like, hey, did you really mean
412
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,700
that?
You know, like if someone says
413
00:21:44,700 --> 00:21:46,100
something were there, I see
that.
414
00:21:46,100 --> 00:21:48,400
A lot where someone will pretend
to be angry about something
415
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:52,500
that's not a big deal, but a
yellow key are angry about Other
416
00:21:52,500 --> 00:21:55,000
things maybe.
Yeah, like I think sitting with
417
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,600
each other.
Here's an example.
418
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:58,900
Give me sitting with each other.
Yes.
419
00:21:58,900 --> 00:22:01,500
So say you're sitting.
We're going to say Chapel.
420
00:22:01,500 --> 00:22:04,300
This is not a real scenario.
Anyone from our school who may
421
00:22:04,300 --> 00:22:07,300
be listening, not a real
example, but just something that
422
00:22:07,300 --> 00:22:09,400
I feel could be a very real
example.
423
00:22:09,900 --> 00:22:12,200
Say you're sitting in Chapel,
you're sitting next to some
424
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:16,300
friends and you are expecting
your friend to come sit with
425
00:22:16,300 --> 00:22:18,300
you, but they're just go sit
with another friend because
426
00:22:18,300 --> 00:22:20,400
their friends are sitting
another spot and it literally
427
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,000
means nothing but after Will you
go up to them?
428
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,500
And like so you didn't sit with
me and like I had like no like
429
00:22:26,500 --> 00:22:28,400
wow like or whatever.
You know like kind of.
430
00:22:28,500 --> 00:22:30,600
Wow.
Thought we were friends.
431
00:22:30,900 --> 00:22:32,800
Yeah, we were friends know.
I'm black.
432
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:39,300
I smell like uncomfortable.
It's like skating like trying to
433
00:22:39,300 --> 00:22:41,500
get at each other for something
so stupid and Petty.
434
00:22:41,500 --> 00:22:43,800
Like that's really what
passive-aggressively gets out to
435
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:47,300
get such Petty things.
It's like Let It Go, man, like
436
00:22:47,300 --> 00:22:50,200
literally Let It Go.
That's not mature, that's not
437
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:54,200
loving, that's not kind like Let
that childishness go.
438
00:22:54,500 --> 00:22:58,100
I feel like I'm just like, man,
coughing it up like your child
439
00:22:58,100 --> 00:23:01,100
is pettiness.
It goes, it's more accepted in
440
00:23:01,100 --> 00:23:04,000
Christian circles.
Yeah, because we know that being
441
00:23:04,700 --> 00:23:06,600
flat out aggressive is not
loving.
442
00:23:06,700 --> 00:23:09,800
Yeah, it's an obvious thing and
we don't know how to do conflict
443
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,400
resolutions for so scared of it.
You know, we're scared to be
444
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,200
confrontational.
It's real like that's not smell.
445
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:19,400
Very sweet and christianly but
this is nice pretty.
446
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:20,500
It's the most loving thing.
Yeah.
447
00:23:20,500 --> 00:23:23,500
There's sometimes.
But you have it.
448
00:23:23,500 --> 00:23:26,600
No sir in those circumstances
like say someone was to be mad
449
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,100
at me for not sitting with them
or that season pass aggressive
450
00:23:29,100 --> 00:23:31,000
things.
Be like, are you actually upset
451
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,100
that I didn't sit with you and
you should people be it?
452
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,200
Oh no, I wasn't.
Actually that said be like, hey,
453
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,000
actually your comments, made it
really come across.
454
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:41,000
Like, you were, like, I didn't
say with you because I wanted to
455
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,500
sit with this friend and like I
didn't realize that you were
456
00:23:44,500 --> 00:23:46,000
like her by that.
You know are saying like
457
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,100
actually addressing it or
something else that you're mad
458
00:23:49,100 --> 00:23:50,000
at me about.
Yeah.
459
00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:52,100
Did I do anything to upset you?
Yeah.
460
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,500
A different time.
And trust me that will shut
461
00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:57,300
down.
And they'll be like, oh, so I
462
00:23:57,300 --> 00:24:00,400
can't get away with this here.
I can't get away with my
463
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:04,400
childish, behavior.
How do I function?
464
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:08,200
How do I function?
Yeah, no, I think, I think, too.
465
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,700
You have to have to be careful
to do that in a loving way to,
466
00:24:10,700 --> 00:24:13,300
not to just call somebody out.
In the huge group of you're
467
00:24:13,300 --> 00:24:22,500
being passive-aggressive, and
number one challenge, Shaming
468
00:24:22,500 --> 00:24:25,200
them in front of people.
But you are almost kind of like
469
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,200
is talking about in chapter 12
where it talks about like
470
00:24:28,700 --> 00:24:30,600
keeping those burning coals of
Shame.
471
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,600
What's up of like calling them
out of like me and your actions
472
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:36,900
are actually wrong.
Like oh I didn't know you're
473
00:24:36,900 --> 00:24:39,000
actually upset about that.
Like let's talk about that that
474
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,600
kind of starts that like almost
kind of ashamed of like oh my
475
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,100
gosh I literally have been
acting so petty about this
476
00:24:45,100 --> 00:24:46,800
thing.
It wasn't a big deal that you
477
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,600
didn't sit with me.
I'm not mad about it.
478
00:24:48,900 --> 00:24:52,000
Why the heck did I make such a
beam actually just upset because
479
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,600
Has my day actually before.
That was terrible for some
480
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,300
reason or I just wanted
attention.
481
00:24:56,300 --> 00:25:00,100
Yeah so passive-aggressive T
usually comes out from a place
482
00:25:00,100 --> 00:25:04,100
of wanting attention and being
seen and wanting to be whatever.
483
00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:09,400
Yeah.
Yeah as Karina and I are both
484
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,400
Student Life advisor.
Currently we had a special guest
485
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:16,300
at our life group, the other
night and this lady is so wise.
486
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,200
She's in her 60s.
Yeah, no.
487
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,300
She just turned 70.
She did.
488
00:25:21,300 --> 00:25:24,100
Yeah, she did.
June. 7th is a lot of wisdom and
489
00:25:24,100 --> 00:25:27,500
she said she was like, I just
want to call out that I've
490
00:25:27,500 --> 00:25:31,300
noticed around campus and around
Christian circles that there
491
00:25:31,300 --> 00:25:36,200
just seems to be this need to
need to be the wittiest person
492
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,900
at the table and have the final
say, have the smartest comment
493
00:25:39,900 --> 00:25:41,900
at the end.
She's like, and that's just not
494
00:25:41,900 --> 00:25:44,000
lovely.
And it was so cool that she
495
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,500
said, lovely because in
Philippians 4:8, when Paul
496
00:25:47,500 --> 00:25:51,100
lists, all these things that we
should dwell on with our minds
497
00:25:51,300 --> 00:25:54,000
he's like whatever is True Noble
pure, right?
498
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,800
He includes lovely in that list
which we just barely hear that
499
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,200
word anymore.
It's like our is what we're
500
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,500
thinking.
Lovely if we're thinking, like
501
00:26:02,700 --> 00:26:05,400
I'm so jealous of my friend
who's getting married and I am
502
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,000
so bitter that I'm still single.
Why isn't this working out or
503
00:26:08,008 --> 00:26:09,500
something?
That's coming from a place of
504
00:26:09,500 --> 00:26:12,100
insecurity and it will not come
out.
505
00:26:12,100 --> 00:26:14,200
Lovely is what your dwelling on?
Lovely.
506
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,600
So that's good.
That's Stevie Wonder song.
507
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:33,900
Isn't She Lovely?
Then see what wonderful exactly
508
00:26:33,900 --> 00:26:40,600
goes is.
That making one is nothing, is
509
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,900
she?
Oh, it's crazy.
510
00:26:44,900 --> 00:26:46,600
He calls his daughter.
Lovely.
511
00:26:46,700 --> 00:26:50,400
And he's never seen her
loveliness isn't about site.
512
00:26:50,400 --> 00:27:05,000
It's about being
I remember when we were talking
513
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:09,100
about this, you said that
especially within teams and
514
00:27:09,100 --> 00:27:12,400
churches, like we just need to
Value being a part of the group
515
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,500
and not want this lust, for
being in a certain position in
516
00:27:16,500 --> 00:27:21,800
the group, the best or the
smartest, or the wittiest, or
517
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,500
the one.
Always has something to say,
518
00:27:23,500 --> 00:27:26,200
like, we just need to Value
being a part of the group.
519
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:27,800
Yeah.
And just doing what your created
520
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:29,900
to do.
Like all those gifts that Paul
521
00:27:29,900 --> 00:27:33,600
lists in Romans 12.
So, touch on that, a little bit.
522
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:37,400
Yeah, go ahead in our inter
inter cultural Ministry prep
523
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,600
class.
They touched on being a good
524
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,100
follower and how we are not
taught.
525
00:27:42,100 --> 00:27:44,100
Especially in America, we're
never taught what?
526
00:27:44,100 --> 00:27:46,000
It's what it's like to be a good
follower.
527
00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:48,200
It's always about being a leader
being the one that's leading
528
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:50,900
being the one in charge, like
leaving, well, all these things,
529
00:27:50,900 --> 00:27:54,200
but man to be a Good follower
like lifts up those who are
530
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:55,800
leaving you?
Yes, enjoy them.
531
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,500
Yeah.
You're an important valuable
532
00:27:57,500 --> 00:28:00,200
part of it, you just not getting
the recognition and the
533
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,600
attention of the person in
leadership and that's okay.
534
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,100
You know like we're sometimes
called to follow to submit to
535
00:28:06,100 --> 00:28:09,300
that leadership or even like
like in a group like something
536
00:28:09,300 --> 00:28:13,300
as like as unstructured as just
a friend group say you've got
537
00:28:13,300 --> 00:28:17,500
like you're just most
charismatic friend that you feel
538
00:28:17,500 --> 00:28:20,400
like you're competing with the.
Some extent of like I want to be
539
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,000
charismatic.
I want to be the most like
540
00:28:22,300 --> 00:28:23,800
Funding.
And all of this again is
541
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,700
subconscious.
You're not always aware of all
542
00:28:25,700 --> 00:28:29,700
of this happening but being
willing to like to just laugh at
543
00:28:29,700 --> 00:28:33,100
their joke without a comeback
and just like appreciate that
544
00:28:33,100 --> 00:28:34,800
about them that they are
signing.
545
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,600
And I love that they're shining
Rejoice with those who Rejoice,
546
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:41,500
you know, and lift them up, lift
up their gifts and like if
547
00:28:41,500 --> 00:28:43,800
that's the culture you're
building in your community and
548
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,600
in your friendships like that is
what will come back to you as
549
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,800
well, you know what I'm saying?
Like, you reap what?
550
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,200
You sow?
Yes.
551
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,100
Yes.
What you?
552
00:28:51,100 --> 00:29:00,700
So glad Coco Go.
I was made for this life.
553
00:29:00,700 --> 00:29:05,600
She said she didn't say she was
nervous at all guys, most people
554
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,200
when they're on the I'm a little
nervous At first.
555
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:08,500
She wasn't nervous.
She was nervous.
556
00:29:08,500 --> 00:29:12,300
I'm talking to a phone and an
engine in her car.
557
00:29:12,300 --> 00:29:14,900
Yeah, I got a windy Lake.
Yeah, it's very beautiful.
558
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:18,500
Yeah, go push like a bush.
Like, well, what is the last
559
00:29:18,500 --> 00:29:20,000
challenge?
You would give to the people
560
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,000
listening of like, wow.
How do I apply this?
561
00:29:22,100 --> 00:29:25,700
My life now.
Yeah, well I think definitely
562
00:29:25,700 --> 00:29:29,000
reflecting and taking that time
with the Lord and surrender.
563
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,600
So what I did with my life group
is we took time and went through
564
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,200
all of the passages that I
mentioned.
565
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:39,800
So John 15 first John four
Romans 12 and I guess Genesis
566
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,600
1:27 but it's just that one
verse.
567
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,600
But really spend time in that
second part of Romans, 12 of
568
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:50,200
looking at the things that are
love and action and even find
569
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,900
your own love pass.
Passages in the Bible.
570
00:29:52,900 --> 00:29:56,600
And there's lots of them in the
New Testament and just allowing
571
00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,900
the spirit to convict and show
you where you are being immature
572
00:30:00,900 --> 00:30:02,500
and not loving well and your
life.
573
00:30:02,500 --> 00:30:05,900
Those places that need
strengthening and growth and
574
00:30:05,900 --> 00:30:10,000
need to be weeded and pruned and
are find how your bod.
575
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,100
Yeah.
And to surrender those areas to
576
00:30:12,100 --> 00:30:15,700
the Lord, you know, to to to
abide in the Lord and to ask him
577
00:30:15,700 --> 00:30:18,200
to cover those weaknesses
because you can't just be like,
578
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,300
wow, I'm extremely passive
aggressive.
579
00:30:20,300 --> 00:30:21,800
I'm just going to stop being
passive.
580
00:30:22,500 --> 00:30:24,800
Yeah, that's probably warmer
executable.
581
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,500
That's a terrible way to go
about it.
582
00:30:26,900 --> 00:30:29,300
But to repent of that you known
to be specific.
583
00:30:29,300 --> 00:30:32,500
If it's if it's to specific
people, you need to repent,
584
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:37,300
being being open to do that.
But repenting with the Lord just
585
00:30:37,300 --> 00:30:39,800
coming before him in confession
and in humility.
586
00:30:40,100 --> 00:30:42,800
And in surrender surrendering
that those areas to him,
587
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:47,300
trusting that he will supply the
strength, he will supply the
588
00:30:47,300 --> 00:30:51,000
ability to have the fruit of
love in areas where you're not
589
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,400
loving very well.
That's so good.
590
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,600
So so good.
Thank you for sharing all that.
591
00:30:56,900 --> 00:31:00,600
Yes, I'm so glad you were
finally on this body before you
592
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:04,000
fly off.
But wow, thank you for sharing.
593
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,800
I know everyone who listens to.
This will also love it because
594
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,700
this is a message that the
church needs to hear more often.
595
00:31:10,300 --> 00:31:11,700
So thank you so much for
sharing.
596
00:31:12,300 --> 00:31:14,400
So we're going to be signing off
here.
597
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,600
This is no idea podcast with
Renny.
598
00:31:17,700 --> 00:31:21,900
I'm just kidding, Corinna.
Yeah, pardon me and Jenny sign.
599
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,100
In off, see you around.
00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,700
Welcome back to no idea the
podcast where you have no idea
2
00:00:03,700 --> 00:00:06,000
where we're going to talk about
and we have no idea how it's
3
00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,200
going to go.
I'm Jenny back again right at
4
00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:10,200
it.
And guess what?
5
00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,400
I have a very special guest
here.
6
00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,700
I'm very excited to introduce
her because I've been wanting
7
00:00:14,700 --> 00:00:17,700
her to be on this podcast for
quite a while.
8
00:00:18,100 --> 00:00:21,200
Let's say that but um, her name
is Corinna.
9
00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:22,400
We call her.
Winnie.
10
00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,500
No, we don't only some people
call her.
11
00:00:24,500 --> 00:00:28,500
Winnie, it's my favorite thing
to cook but Kareena.
12
00:00:28,700 --> 00:00:33,300
You are 20.
Two beautiful thriving, she's a
13
00:00:33,500 --> 00:00:38,200
30 colored each a lover, but she
also is a student life advisor.
14
00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:42,300
Currently is going to go
overseas to impact and change
15
00:00:42,300 --> 00:00:46,000
the world very soon.
So that's why it was kind of an
16
00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,300
urgent matter for us to get
around this podcast.
17
00:00:48,300 --> 00:00:51,600
Because you're gonna leave and
zoom, but she's one of my
18
00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,900
dearest friends.
I'm very excited that she's in
19
00:00:53,900 --> 00:00:57,400
my life, first of all, but
second of all that, you guys get
20
00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,700
to hear her wisdom because I
hear her wisdom all the time.
21
00:01:00,500 --> 00:01:03,100
And so you guys now get you
experience it.
22
00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:07,400
But Corinna, I have fun fact
question for you.
23
00:01:07,700 --> 00:01:09,600
Yes, tell us a fun fact about
yourself.
24
00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,800
It's very straightforward.
I'm playing.
25
00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,700
Oh wow, thank you for that
intro.
26
00:01:16,500 --> 00:01:19,400
You are a dear friend as well.
Thank you very much.
27
00:01:20,100 --> 00:01:31,300
Fun fact I have A Distillery bar
is high make kombucha in the
28
00:01:31,300 --> 00:01:35,700
basement of our dorm at first.
I was kind of keeping it on the
29
00:01:35,700 --> 00:01:37,300
DL.
So like nobody would know
30
00:01:37,300 --> 00:01:39,400
because I was like, I don't know
if it's okay to have this down
31
00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,300
here, like, but if someone like
gets me in trouble for having
32
00:01:42,300 --> 00:01:44,700
like making kombucha in the
basement, but I realized
33
00:01:44,700 --> 00:01:47,300
somebody told me that credit,
you're literally like the ra of
34
00:01:47,300 --> 00:01:49,600
this floor, like the only person
that would get you in trouble as
35
00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,200
you but exact gonna happen.
Yep.
36
00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:53,900
So it's computers.
Good.
37
00:01:53,900 --> 00:01:56,800
I love kombucha.
I started selling a recently. $5
38
00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,100
everyone, get her leader.
What do we call it?
39
00:01:59,100 --> 00:02:01,500
Corinne's kombuchka.
Yeah.
40
00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:03,600
Yes.
She taught me how to make it
41
00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:05,700
quite recently.
It's pretty simple.
42
00:02:05,700 --> 00:02:08,699
Anyone can learn really?
Yeah, Jamie's taking over my
43
00:02:08,699 --> 00:02:13,100
kombucha operation.
Joanne will now be her child to
44
00:02:13,100 --> 00:02:16,700
look after.
Oh, Joanne Joanne is her scoby.
45
00:02:16,700 --> 00:02:19,000
I just want you to scobie was
like last month.
46
00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:24,600
It's really gross to look out,
but very great to drink from Not
47
00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,200
the actual scope and drink the
juice that it sits in.
48
00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:32,000
Yeah, Joanne's cute.
But when I asked her it on what
49
00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,600
topics you want to talk about,
first of all, we went back and
50
00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,300
forth a couple times.
She's a no simple living, which
51
00:02:37,300 --> 00:02:41,100
is a great topic or maybe
something agricultural, but she
52
00:02:41,100 --> 00:02:43,400
decided that she wanted to talk
about love and passive
53
00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,800
aggressiveness and how those to
do not go together.
54
00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,600
But the way of Love basically is
what she said.
55
00:02:48,900 --> 00:02:52,300
And so Karina, why did you want
to talk specifically about that
56
00:02:52,300 --> 00:02:53,500
topic?
Why is it important?
57
00:02:53,500 --> 00:02:56,000
Orton to you.
Thank you for asking this topic
58
00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,900
means a lot to me because I've
lived in a lot of different
59
00:02:58,900 --> 00:03:02,300
Christian communities.
Both here at school, I also did
60
00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:04,600
a little stint with why Wham?
Which is admission sending
61
00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:08,300
organization as well, as well as
just being in churches and youth
62
00:03:08,300 --> 00:03:12,300
groups and everything and it as
Christians, I do believe that
63
00:03:12,300 --> 00:03:16,800
like we are we are literally so
called to be loving and to walk
64
00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,300
in the way of love, Jesus
himself walked in the way of
65
00:03:19,300 --> 00:03:21,300
love and Paul talks about the
way of love.
66
00:03:22,300 --> 00:03:27,300
And so Yeah, I think this talk
kind of comes from what the
67
00:03:27,300 --> 00:03:30,800
Lord's been teaching me about
love and also kind of stemming
68
00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:33,500
into passive aggressively of
something that is really
69
00:03:33,500 --> 00:03:37,400
accepted in a lot of Christian
circles Christian communities.
70
00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,600
That is just so incredibly
unloving.
71
00:03:41,900 --> 00:03:44,700
Yeah, just really hurtful can
really tear apart, people really
72
00:03:44,700 --> 00:03:49,400
fast and so yeah, wanted to just
kind of like bring bring more
73
00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,700
awareness to this than like I
don't think it's really talked
74
00:03:51,700 --> 00:03:53,400
about enough.
Yeah, it is.
75
00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:55,800
Any more acceptable way of being
aggressive?
76
00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,800
Yeah, being just terrible, not
loving it.
77
00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:03,100
Yeah, yeah, unlovely unloving.
Yeah, yeah.
78
00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,200
Um, so where would you like to
start with this?
79
00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,100
Where does this love that?
We're talking about that we can
80
00:04:09,100 --> 00:04:11,100
walk in every day.
Where does that originated in
81
00:04:11,100 --> 00:04:14,000
come from?
Yeah, that's a great question
82
00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,700
looking through scripture.
I think the two places that were
83
00:04:17,700 --> 00:04:20,000
really highlighted to me, when I
was addressing this topic with
84
00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:25,600
my life group was John 15, and
First, John four, and so in John
85
00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:29,100
15, I might read a couple verses
from.
86
00:04:29,100 --> 00:04:31,800
I'm not going to read the whole
thing and I'm just letting her
87
00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:35,100
Bible.
Flip Flip, Flip, Flip Flop.
88
00:04:36,700 --> 00:04:39,600
So, John 15 is kind of known as
the like abide.
89
00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,400
Passage people like, to quote
has just abide in Jesus lab
90
00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:43,700
lied.
Yeah.
91
00:04:43,700 --> 00:04:46,800
Great passage couple things that
stand out to me.
92
00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:51,000
Verse 4, says, remain in me as I
also remain in you no Branch can
93
00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,000
bear.
Fruit by itself, it must remain
94
00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:53,800
in the Vine.
Fine.
95
00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,300
Neither, can you bear fruit
unless you remain in me?
96
00:04:56,500 --> 00:04:59,100
This is NIV if anybody cares.
Hmm.
97
00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:01,500
Yeah.
So just the idea, fruitfulness
98
00:05:01,500 --> 00:05:05,400
comes from abiding in the Lord
and I'm just going to skip down
99
00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,300
a little bit to verse 10.
It says, if you keep can keep my
100
00:05:08,300 --> 00:05:10,800
commands, you will remain in my
love.
101
00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,200
Just as I have kept my father's
commands and remain in his love
102
00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,400
and then skip down a little
farther to chap their little F.
103
00:05:17,900 --> 00:05:22,400
Same chapter verse 17 says, this
is my command love each other
104
00:05:22,500 --> 00:05:26,300
and so When I was kind of just
meditating on this, passage it
105
00:05:26,300 --> 00:05:29,100
just hit me.
Like we literally do not have
106
00:05:29,100 --> 00:05:32,700
the strength and the capacity to
just love people the way that we
107
00:05:32,700 --> 00:05:36,700
should that fruitfulness.
Like that fruit of actually
108
00:05:36,700 --> 00:05:39,800
loving comes from the Lord
himself and from abiding in him,
109
00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,800
like he didn't love him first.
He loved us first.
110
00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:47,200
And that, that started our
capacity to love and not to be
111
00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,600
cheesy.
I might reference Myra scurvy
112
00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,200
reference.
You can do that.
113
00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,100
Okay, Jimmy like this.
Example.
114
00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:59,700
Yeah, kind of like like a tiny
tiny little scoby forming in
115
00:05:59,700 --> 00:06:03,300
Kombucha the Lord's love life.
You don't notice.
116
00:06:03,300 --> 00:06:06,500
Kobe is just look it up on the
internet, crazy stuff, literally
117
00:06:06,500 --> 00:06:08,800
crazy.
You probably need to know for
118
00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:15,300
this to be efficient.
So anyway the way like love
119
00:06:15,300 --> 00:06:18,000
starts, his God literally
Reveals His love to us and we
120
00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,900
start like this.
Tiny little tiny little scoby of
121
00:06:20,900 --> 00:06:25,900
love in our hearts and we're To
walk in that were called to
122
00:06:25,900 --> 00:06:28,300
actually actively obey and walk
in the love.
123
00:06:28,300 --> 00:06:31,400
That is starting to be produced
in our hearts or and that's kind
124
00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,400
of like fermenting in this unit.
This little more carbonated a
125
00:06:34,408 --> 00:06:38,700
little delicious.
Yeah, we act out in love.
126
00:06:38,700 --> 00:06:42,700
We actively love others and walk
in obedience.
127
00:06:42,700 --> 00:06:44,600
In that end, in that walking
out.
128
00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,600
We just love for the Lord is
like stirred up in our hearts
129
00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:52,300
even more and it's like pouring
and Duty for that murata Camuto.
130
00:06:53,700 --> 00:06:56,700
And yeah, and then it starts all
over our love towards the Lord
131
00:06:56,700 --> 00:06:59,200
grows.
He shows us more of his love and
132
00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:02,300
that in turn creates even
greater love for others that we
133
00:07:02,300 --> 00:07:05,300
then have to choose to walk in
obedience and it really starts
134
00:07:05,300 --> 00:07:08,500
the cycle of loving, God.
And loving others, which brings
135
00:07:08,500 --> 00:07:11,600
me to you first.
John four got a good Flip
136
00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:13,700
flippity.
Flip Flip, Flip flippity Flop,
137
00:07:13,700 --> 00:07:21,600
slot was living in flip-flop.
So Chapter 4, verses 7 through
138
00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:25,000
21 talks, so much about I'm not
going to read the whole thing,
139
00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:29,500
but there is so much in here is
like, you do not love God.
140
00:07:29,500 --> 00:07:32,100
If you do not love others and
you do love God.
141
00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,000
If you love others, you don't
know God.
142
00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,400
Very strong support.
Yeah.
143
00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:39,100
And yeah, it says, it says we
love because he first loved us,
144
00:07:39,100 --> 00:07:42,100
that's kind of that little
little beginning fermentation.
145
00:07:42,900 --> 00:07:45,300
And anyone who loves God must
also love their brother and
146
00:07:45,300 --> 00:07:48,300
sister.
And so we are so called to love
147
00:07:48,300 --> 00:07:50,900
the world were called to love,
non-believers and Believers that
148
00:07:50,900 --> 00:07:54,300
like it is so highlighted, like
as the Body of Christ.
149
00:07:54,300 --> 00:07:56,700
It is so important that we are
loving each other.
150
00:07:56,900 --> 00:07:59,200
I think there's some times an
emphasis on Christians to love
151
00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,700
non-believers in to love them
well and show them the gospel.
152
00:08:02,700 --> 00:08:05,300
It's like man that's great
that's beautiful that's got to
153
00:08:05,300 --> 00:08:07,500
start within own family.
Of God if you can't love your
154
00:08:07,500 --> 00:08:10,800
brother and sister, what example
do you have to anyone else?
155
00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:15,600
And also, scripture says, like,
yeah, even heathens love people
156
00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,900
who love them.
Yeah, but we are called to love
157
00:08:18,900 --> 00:08:21,800
those who do not love us.
Yeah, just heard that Lucas
158
00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,400
morning, that's crazy.
Yeah, Yeah, it's so simple yet
159
00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:30,900
the church misses it so often
and also people will be drawn to
160
00:08:30,900 --> 00:08:34,200
church as a whole if the church
is loving.
161
00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:35,900
Yeah.
And a lot of people have, a lot
162
00:08:35,900 --> 00:08:39,200
of church hurts been bitter.
Like you know, actually the
163
00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,000
church was super unwelcoming to
me and I felt the opposite of
164
00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:43,700
loved you know.
I'm not going to go back.
165
00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:46,000
Yeah.
And so this is something so
166
00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,000
simple.
Yeah.
167
00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,800
And we always forget it like,
oh, we're just have to deepen my
168
00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,800
quiet time.
I just have to serve more at
169
00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:54,700
church.
I just have To do more things.
170
00:08:54,700 --> 00:08:58,800
It's one command, very simple.
He fills us with his love.
171
00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,000
Yeah, which is why it's a
tasting guys comes from.
172
00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:05,700
Yeah, so I have quite a few
examples of this even as I'm
173
00:09:05,700 --> 00:09:09,600
currently working customer
service, but how do we love
174
00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,100
others practically?
Even like when they are very
175
00:09:12,100 --> 00:09:15,500
difficult, people very difficult
people.
176
00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:20,600
That is a great question and I
think something that like Man
177
00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:23,200
something God has been teaching
me recently which I think has
178
00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:26,700
been like changed my mindset and
I think is pretty broad enough
179
00:09:26,700 --> 00:09:28,600
that it can be applied to any
situation.
180
00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:30,500
Actually happened over spring
break.
181
00:09:30,500 --> 00:09:35,100
So, over spring break, I went to
Washington State and myself had.
182
00:09:35,100 --> 00:09:37,800
I cannot wait to go there.
Someday, it's beautiful, do it.
183
00:09:38,300 --> 00:09:39,600
So it was, it was really
beautiful.
184
00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:42,900
I was going to stay with some
friends and I knew that I was
185
00:09:42,900 --> 00:09:45,400
going to be like airports and on
ferries and just a lot of
186
00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,500
traveling by myself.
And sometimes it makes me
187
00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,100
anxious just to be around all
these people.
188
00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:53,300
Don't know.
But man I mean first I think
189
00:09:53,300 --> 00:09:56,500
it's first John four.
I think that's where this person
190
00:09:56,500 --> 00:09:58,500
is this.
Perfect, love casts out.
191
00:09:58,500 --> 00:10:04,200
Yes, that's exactly 4 verse 18.
Whoo School baubles.
192
00:10:06,700 --> 00:10:08,100
Yeah, I think thinking about
that.
193
00:10:08,100 --> 00:10:10,900
It's like, oh, God's perfect
left for me, cast out any fear,
194
00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:15,000
but it's also our our perfect
love enabled by God.
195
00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,200
Cast out fear from loving other
people.
196
00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,300
You know what I'm saying?
Yes, we're able to love other
197
00:10:19,300 --> 00:10:21,100
people that cat.
Without fear from them.
198
00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:24,500
And I was asking God to give me
a mindset of God, how do I love
199
00:10:24,500 --> 00:10:26,800
people that I've just met?
I don't know anything about more
200
00:10:27,100 --> 00:10:31,000
or whatever that may be and he
gave me some good things.
201
00:10:31,300 --> 00:10:36,300
So I'm just going to read one
verse from Genesis 1:27.
202
00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,900
It says so God created Mankind
in his own image.
203
00:10:40,900 --> 00:10:44,400
In the image of God, he created
them male and female, he created
204
00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:50,100
them and Just the idea of like
all of humanity, whether saved
205
00:10:50,100 --> 00:10:53,600
or not saved to some extent
Bears, the image of God, it's
206
00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,600
been broken and distorted by sin
and there is like a regeneration
207
00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,500
in a renewal in being a
Christian and able to walk that
208
00:11:00,500 --> 00:11:02,400
out.
More beautiful and more
209
00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:06,300
perfectly but even non-believers
still bear the image of God and
210
00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:10,600
I really found that in.
Going out out to Washington,
211
00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,900
says actually, staying with a
friend who is not a Believer and
212
00:11:13,900 --> 00:11:19,000
just like Just the beauty of
finding it image of God in her
213
00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,800
and just really, like, excuse
me.
214
00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:28,600
So the butcher is the butcher.
Probably finding the image of
215
00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,700
God in someone like fixating on
the things that are, that are
216
00:11:31,700 --> 00:11:33,600
best about them.
That are lovely, that are
217
00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:37,500
beautiful, that are man, just
like what God sees when he looks
218
00:11:37,500 --> 00:11:40,200
at people, like to ask the Lord,
for his eyes for that.
219
00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,800
And to look for those good
imperfect things about people in
220
00:11:42,808 --> 00:11:45,400
to fixate on them, not to fix it
on that.
221
00:11:45,500 --> 00:11:46,800
Oh my gosh.
This is challenging.
222
00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:49,300
And I really don't like this
about them and I, my gosh, this
223
00:11:49,300 --> 00:11:52,300
is hard and man choosing to have
Grace for those things.
224
00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:56,600
And a lot of this is again, like
I say choosing but it's also
225
00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,900
very prayerfully knowing that I
have to abide in the vine to do
226
00:11:58,900 --> 00:12:01,300
these things.
It's asking for his perspective
227
00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,900
for yeah, foremost because we
cannot do it ourselves.
228
00:12:03,900 --> 00:12:05,400
Yeah.
And like his strength is
229
00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:08,400
sustaining power to do it
because we can do nothing or no.
230
00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:10,700
And we can't bear this fruit of
Love, on our own.
231
00:12:11,300 --> 00:12:13,900
But like, looking for those
beautiful things in each other
232
00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:19,900
with it, I'm going to flip to
Romans 12 flippity, flop.
233
00:12:19,900 --> 00:12:20,900
Flop.
Flip flop.
234
00:12:21,900 --> 00:12:24,700
Flip flop flip.
Last time I open my bible just
235
00:12:24,700 --> 00:12:26,700
opened right to it now,
actually, I feel now it's
236
00:12:26,700 --> 00:12:32,200
broken.
Yeah Romans 12 is a great
237
00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:36,200
chapter.
It it's it really focuses in on
238
00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:39,200
love, even even like the title
of one of those little sections.
239
00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:43,500
Here is like love and action and
I prefer Romans 12 over First
240
00:12:43,500 --> 00:12:45,600
Corinthians 13.
So I know First Corinthians 13.
241
00:12:45,700 --> 00:12:48,700
It is like the iconic love
passenger and it's beautiful.
242
00:12:48,700 --> 00:12:51,800
It's so good.
It kind of says what love is and
243
00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,100
then Romans 12 really puts that
in action of okay?
244
00:12:54,100 --> 00:12:55,800
Well, here's some action of what
love looks like.
245
00:12:56,300 --> 00:12:59,100
So before we jump into that at
all, I want to look at Romans
246
00:12:59,100 --> 00:13:04,800
12:3 through eight words,
talking about the gifts that God
247
00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,700
has given to us and not to think
of ourselves more highly than we
248
00:13:08,700 --> 00:13:12,200
ought.
But in like humility to Value
249
00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,600
others more than ourselves will
harness are actually from
250
00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:19,700
Philippians, but It's all part
of the same Bible what it says,
251
00:13:19,700 --> 00:13:22,000
but rather think of yourself
with sober judgment in
252
00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:25,000
accordance with the faith God
has get got his distributed to
253
00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:27,600
each of you.
And it talks about how just as
254
00:13:27,600 --> 00:13:33,800
we are each a member of God's
like Christ's body to Value each
255
00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:36,800
body part, you know, to Value
each gift that somebody has.
256
00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,400
And so it lists some like pretty
specific gifts here of like
257
00:13:41,100 --> 00:13:43,300
prophecy and giving and
cheerfulness and whatever.
258
00:13:44,300 --> 00:13:46,700
I mean, I think I think when it
comes Comes to specifically the
259
00:13:46,700 --> 00:13:49,300
body of Christ and even even
non-believers we can look for
260
00:13:49,300 --> 00:13:53,600
like these good God traits that
maybe they don't fully know, but
261
00:13:54,300 --> 00:13:56,500
you're looking for these good
guy traits but in believer
262
00:13:56,500 --> 00:13:59,300
specifically like looking for
the gifts, God has given them
263
00:13:59,300 --> 00:14:02,000
calling those things out.
Highlighting them, fixing our
264
00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:05,500
eyes on those things and just
like, it's like glorifying the
265
00:14:05,500 --> 00:14:07,100
Lord, through that person's like
man.
266
00:14:07,100 --> 00:14:09,700
Like Lord.
I see your cheerfulness and just
267
00:14:09,700 --> 00:14:12,300
how joyful this really happy
person is.
268
00:14:12,300 --> 00:14:14,500
Maybe they're so peppy it drives
you crazy sometimes.
269
00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,400
But too, Fix-It to fix your eyes
on their cheerfulness and bagman
270
00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,700
to joy of the Lord.
In this person is evident and
271
00:14:20,700 --> 00:14:25,900
like to really actively love
them for that.
272
00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:27,300
You know, a loving God through
that.
273
00:14:27,300 --> 00:14:29,500
You notice that little little
cycle of Love.
274
00:14:29,900 --> 00:14:31,000
Yeah.
Yeah.
275
00:14:31,500 --> 00:14:33,000
But I answer your question, you
did.
276
00:14:33,900 --> 00:14:35,100
Yeah.
I've been thinking about that a
277
00:14:35,100 --> 00:14:38,600
lot even as I'm helping
different guests who come into
278
00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:43,900
the store I work at and I've
been thinking like I cannot
279
00:14:43,900 --> 00:14:48,200
assume at all.
All as I don't know them.
280
00:14:48,700 --> 00:14:51,600
So like when they walk in I
could be like oh I know this
281
00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:55,300
type of family by just looking
at them but that is really
282
00:14:55,300 --> 00:14:59,500
inherently sinful because I am
like putting a label on them
283
00:14:59,500 --> 00:15:03,200
before I even talk to them or
meet them, I'm not thinking like
284
00:15:03,300 --> 00:15:05,300
Lord give me your perspective of
this family.
285
00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,300
Give you the me, your
perspective of this person who
286
00:15:08,300 --> 00:15:10,000
walks in and what do they need
right now.
287
00:15:10,100 --> 00:15:14,400
And I want to do my best not
just for like a paycheck or not
288
00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:18,600
just for my job.
My job sake but also like I want
289
00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:20,300
to serve the people who walk in
here.
290
00:15:20,700 --> 00:15:22,800
I want to love them as you have
and I want to make their day
291
00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,300
better when they walk in.
Yeah I think we've all had that
292
00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:28,400
moment customer service.
Really that person was so nice
293
00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:30,900
how these are really in.
You just walk out you here a
294
00:15:30,900 --> 00:15:37,000
little bit ago work at Walmart
so good.
295
00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,900
So what are some examples of
loving well?
296
00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:44,100
And then, what are some examples
of not so well, I'll fix that.
297
00:15:44,100 --> 00:15:45,900
Yeah, we'll look at well first.
Yeah.
298
00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:48,600
Do that first.
So go back to Romans 12.
299
00:15:48,900 --> 00:15:52,000
So now just like the second half
of Romans 12, which is kind of
300
00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:55,100
cool that talks about the gifts
of everybody and then goes into
301
00:15:55,100 --> 00:15:58,800
love and action.
So Romans 9 through Romans
302
00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:02,600
chapter 12, thwarted me go nine
through 21.
303
00:16:02,700 --> 00:16:05,100
I'm going to just read through
portions of it and just kind of
304
00:16:05,100 --> 00:16:06,900
like listen for some of these
action words.
305
00:16:06,900 --> 00:16:10,000
OK, I'll close my eyes.
Okay, so much, you're better.
306
00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,900
Yes, I'm just going to start
reading in verse 19.
307
00:16:14,900 --> 00:16:19,800
Oh my gosh. 12:9.
So just listen to some of these
308
00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,400
like action words as we go
along.
309
00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:26,200
So first starts with love, must
be sincere, hate what is evil
310
00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:29,700
cling to what is good, be
devoted to one another in love
311
00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,100
honor.
One another above yourselves,
312
00:16:32,300 --> 00:16:35,100
never be lacking in Zeal, but
keep your spiritual fervor
313
00:16:35,100 --> 00:16:39,000
serving the lord be joyful in.
Hope, patient in Affliction
314
00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:42,300
faithful in prayer.
Share with the Lord's people who
315
00:16:42,300 --> 00:16:45,400
are in need in practice.
Hospitality bless those who
316
00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:49,400
persecute It, you bless and do
not curse Rejoice with those who
317
00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,100
rejoice and mourn with those who
mourn live in harmony with one
318
00:16:53,100 --> 00:16:55,500
another.
Do not be proud but be willing
319
00:16:55,500 --> 00:16:57,900
to associate with people of low
position.
320
00:16:58,300 --> 00:17:01,800
Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for
321
00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,599
evil, but be careful to do what
is right in the eyes of
322
00:17:04,599 --> 00:17:09,300
everyone, if it is possible, as
far as it depends on you, live
323
00:17:09,300 --> 00:17:12,900
at peace with everyone do not
take revenge my dear friends,
324
00:17:12,900 --> 00:17:15,200
but leave room for God's Wrath
for it is written.
325
00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:17,900
It is mine to avenge.
And I will repay says the Lord
326
00:17:18,300 --> 00:17:20,900
on the contrary, if your enemy
is hungry, feed him.
327
00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,599
If he is thirsty, give him
something to drink and this is
328
00:17:24,599 --> 00:17:26,900
Andrew, so you'll keep burning
coals on his head.
329
00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:33,300
Whoo, so funny not stop and just
finishes do not be overcome by
330
00:17:33,300 --> 00:17:35,200
evil, but overcome evil with
good, mmm-hmm.
331
00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,100
So I think just like good
examples in there, that really
332
00:17:39,100 --> 00:17:44,300
like, stand out to me our
devotion and honor Harmony
333
00:17:44,300 --> 00:17:50,600
humility, like and even like not
seeking revenge and not trying
334
00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:54,100
to like this is kind of getting
it to the bad example to of
335
00:17:54,100 --> 00:17:59,200
passive-aggressive any, but not
trying to like take revenge or
336
00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,700
try to have your own way or just
not being self-seeking.
337
00:18:02,700 --> 00:18:05,400
Like I think love is really just
the opposite of being self
338
00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:09,000
seeking but it's rejoicing in
another person rejoicing with
339
00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:12,100
them morning with them.
I've heard it's a lot easier to
340
00:18:12,100 --> 00:18:14,600
mourn with those who mourn that
it is to Rejoice with those who
341
00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:16,300
rejoice when you're not
rejoicing.
342
00:18:16,900 --> 00:18:20,200
You know, let's say your friend
is this is this is not how I
343
00:18:20,208 --> 00:18:24,000
feel towards you.
Your friends getting married and
344
00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,000
you're just bitter about it
because you're still single.
345
00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:30,200
It's just so hard to Rejoice.
It's easier to be kind of angry
346
00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,400
towards that person almost in
your heart and this is where
347
00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:35,000
passive-aggressively can start
seeping into your life.
348
00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:36,500
Yes, I'm so excited to get into
that party.
349
00:18:37,300 --> 00:18:41,400
I just can't wait to.
We're just at this example, just
350
00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,800
came to me, but that's where
that bitterness starts taking
351
00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:45,800
into your heart and you almost
are being passive-aggressive
352
00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:48,900
towards that person yet, but you
never address your true feelings
353
00:18:48,900 --> 00:18:52,000
of how you're feeling or how the
other person is affected.
354
00:18:52,100 --> 00:18:55,300
Acting that.
But I mean, in that example, I
355
00:18:55,300 --> 00:18:57,300
mean, it has nothing to do with
the other person, you know, has
356
00:18:57,300 --> 00:18:59,600
nothing to do with their Joy
with you were called, literally,
357
00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:01,500
you and your comparison?
Yeah.
358
00:19:01,500 --> 00:19:04,700
And your own, your own sin that
you need to deal with and you're
359
00:19:04,700 --> 00:19:06,500
in your call to Rejoice with
that person.
360
00:19:06,500 --> 00:19:09,500
You know, you're called to lift
them up and honor them and still
361
00:19:09,500 --> 00:19:13,700
be devoted to them in love and
get just too full on jump into
362
00:19:13,700 --> 00:19:16,000
the opposite of love.
Yeah, passive-aggressive.
363
00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:19,700
It is so simple because it's
just tears people apart and it
364
00:19:19,700 --> 00:19:23,000
like it just causes you to
fixate on Yourself and see
365
00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:24,900
things just from your point of
view, okay?
366
00:19:24,900 --> 00:19:27,400
You know, because you're never
addressing anything with anyone
367
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,600
else.
You see things, you interpret
368
00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:31,300
them your way and then you
respond.
369
00:19:31,300 --> 00:19:35,200
But never in a very, not
confrontational enough.
370
00:19:35,300 --> 00:19:36,600
Yeah.
That somebody could be like,
371
00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,700
hey, like I'm sorry that I made
you feel this way because of
372
00:19:39,700 --> 00:19:42,500
that, like, let's talk about it,
you know, it doesn't start a
373
00:19:42,508 --> 00:19:45,000
conversation, it starts, it
starts fights.
374
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,300
You know, that little bit of
like starts that that feeling in
375
00:19:48,300 --> 00:19:51,600
your chest that you're like not
this is not right.
376
00:19:52,100 --> 00:19:54,300
Between us is not the same and
not write.
377
00:19:54,300 --> 00:19:57,300
It builds tension and builds
walls between people rather than
378
00:19:57,300 --> 00:20:00,500
like tearing down those walls in
mining like, common ground and
379
00:20:00,500 --> 00:20:08,500
Reconciliation.
Reconcile is one of those things
380
00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:12,100
that is so accepted in Christian
circles because it's kind of
381
00:20:12,100 --> 00:20:15,200
silly, it's kind of it comes
across in a lot of like witty
382
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,100
sarcastic comments that are
actually tearing people down
383
00:20:18,100 --> 00:20:22,000
rather than building them up.
And I've seen that a lot even
384
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:26,500
Like Justin, like in leadership.
Sometimes you see that more like
385
00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:29,700
the people like that you're
leaving, it's so easy to see it
386
00:20:29,700 --> 00:20:32,300
there but then it's hard to
almost check your heart and see
387
00:20:32,300 --> 00:20:33,900
it with your peers.
You know what I'm saying?
388
00:20:33,900 --> 00:20:36,900
Is like, if it's somebody who's
being passive-aggressive
389
00:20:37,300 --> 00:20:40,500
passive-aggressive to you as a
peer, sometimes it's hard to
390
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,800
address that with them because
you're like why are you like
391
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,100
sometimes?
Like all of a sudden this
392
00:20:45,100 --> 00:20:46,300
tension between you and your
friend?
393
00:20:46,300 --> 00:20:48,800
And you're like, I wonder why
they're being this way towards
394
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:52,000
me but there's never really
something done.
395
00:20:52,100 --> 00:20:55,400
That you could be like, hey like
you left me in a Walmart parking
396
00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:56,600
lot like what was that about,
you know.
397
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,900
Yeah but it comes across these
like snippy comments that you're
398
00:20:59,900 --> 00:21:02,400
never able really to fully
address with the person.
399
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:07,400
And yeah I've personally just
started like like calling it out
400
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:08,900
a little more.
Like if people are passive
401
00:21:08,900 --> 00:21:12,900
aggressive to me, not responding
in that same manner because
402
00:21:12,900 --> 00:21:15,400
that's what feels it is.
Someone is passive aggressive
403
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,900
toward you says something kind
of shady kind of didn't feel
404
00:21:18,900 --> 00:21:23,000
right.
Place of Love Now, But not
405
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:24,800
responding in the language
because that's that's the
406
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:26,700
trigger.
You get triggered to be like oh
407
00:21:26,700 --> 00:21:29,400
I need to have a like a little
sassy kind of witty little bit
408
00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:33,300
hurtful, scathing comment back
and so easy to want to do that
409
00:21:33,300 --> 00:21:35,500
because that's like cool.
That's trendy to be like oh
410
00:21:35,500 --> 00:21:38,400
who's the wittiest?
Most sarcastic, funny person.
411
00:21:39,500 --> 00:21:43,000
And yet and instead, you know be
like, hey, did you really mean
412
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,700
that?
You know, like if someone says
413
00:21:44,700 --> 00:21:46,100
something were there, I see
that.
414
00:21:46,100 --> 00:21:48,400
A lot where someone will pretend
to be angry about something
415
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:52,500
that's not a big deal, but a
yellow key are angry about Other
416
00:21:52,500 --> 00:21:55,000
things maybe.
Yeah, like I think sitting with
417
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,600
each other.
Here's an example.
418
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:58,900
Give me sitting with each other.
Yes.
419
00:21:58,900 --> 00:22:01,500
So say you're sitting.
We're going to say Chapel.
420
00:22:01,500 --> 00:22:04,300
This is not a real scenario.
Anyone from our school who may
421
00:22:04,300 --> 00:22:07,300
be listening, not a real
example, but just something that
422
00:22:07,300 --> 00:22:09,400
I feel could be a very real
example.
423
00:22:09,900 --> 00:22:12,200
Say you're sitting in Chapel,
you're sitting next to some
424
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:16,300
friends and you are expecting
your friend to come sit with
425
00:22:16,300 --> 00:22:18,300
you, but they're just go sit
with another friend because
426
00:22:18,300 --> 00:22:20,400
their friends are sitting
another spot and it literally
427
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,000
means nothing but after Will you
go up to them?
428
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,500
And like so you didn't sit with
me and like I had like no like
429
00:22:26,500 --> 00:22:28,400
wow like or whatever.
You know like kind of.
430
00:22:28,500 --> 00:22:30,600
Wow.
Thought we were friends.
431
00:22:30,900 --> 00:22:32,800
Yeah, we were friends know.
I'm black.
432
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:39,300
I smell like uncomfortable.
It's like skating like trying to
433
00:22:39,300 --> 00:22:41,500
get at each other for something
so stupid and Petty.
434
00:22:41,500 --> 00:22:43,800
Like that's really what
passive-aggressively gets out to
435
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:47,300
get such Petty things.
It's like Let It Go, man, like
436
00:22:47,300 --> 00:22:50,200
literally Let It Go.
That's not mature, that's not
437
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:54,200
loving, that's not kind like Let
that childishness go.
438
00:22:54,500 --> 00:22:58,100
I feel like I'm just like, man,
coughing it up like your child
439
00:22:58,100 --> 00:23:01,100
is pettiness.
It goes, it's more accepted in
440
00:23:01,100 --> 00:23:04,000
Christian circles.
Yeah, because we know that being
441
00:23:04,700 --> 00:23:06,600
flat out aggressive is not
loving.
442
00:23:06,700 --> 00:23:09,800
Yeah, it's an obvious thing and
we don't know how to do conflict
443
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,400
resolutions for so scared of it.
You know, we're scared to be
444
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,200
confrontational.
It's real like that's not smell.
445
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:19,400
Very sweet and christianly but
this is nice pretty.
446
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:20,500
It's the most loving thing.
Yeah.
447
00:23:20,500 --> 00:23:23,500
There's sometimes.
But you have it.
448
00:23:23,500 --> 00:23:26,600
No sir in those circumstances
like say someone was to be mad
449
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,100
at me for not sitting with them
or that season pass aggressive
450
00:23:29,100 --> 00:23:31,000
things.
Be like, are you actually upset
451
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,100
that I didn't sit with you and
you should people be it?
452
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,200
Oh no, I wasn't.
Actually that said be like, hey,
453
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,000
actually your comments, made it
really come across.
454
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:41,000
Like, you were, like, I didn't
say with you because I wanted to
455
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,500
sit with this friend and like I
didn't realize that you were
456
00:23:44,500 --> 00:23:46,000
like her by that.
You know are saying like
457
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,100
actually addressing it or
something else that you're mad
458
00:23:49,100 --> 00:23:50,000
at me about.
Yeah.
459
00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:52,100
Did I do anything to upset you?
Yeah.
460
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,500
A different time.
And trust me that will shut
461
00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:57,300
down.
And they'll be like, oh, so I
462
00:23:57,300 --> 00:24:00,400
can't get away with this here.
I can't get away with my
463
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:04,400
childish, behavior.
How do I function?
464
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:08,200
How do I function?
Yeah, no, I think, I think, too.
465
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,700
You have to have to be careful
to do that in a loving way to,
466
00:24:10,700 --> 00:24:13,300
not to just call somebody out.
In the huge group of you're
467
00:24:13,300 --> 00:24:22,500
being passive-aggressive, and
number one challenge, Shaming
468
00:24:22,500 --> 00:24:25,200
them in front of people.
But you are almost kind of like
469
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,200
is talking about in chapter 12
where it talks about like
470
00:24:28,700 --> 00:24:30,600
keeping those burning coals of
Shame.
471
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,600
What's up of like calling them
out of like me and your actions
472
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:36,900
are actually wrong.
Like oh I didn't know you're
473
00:24:36,900 --> 00:24:39,000
actually upset about that.
Like let's talk about that that
474
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,600
kind of starts that like almost
kind of ashamed of like oh my
475
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,100
gosh I literally have been
acting so petty about this
476
00:24:45,100 --> 00:24:46,800
thing.
It wasn't a big deal that you
477
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,600
didn't sit with me.
I'm not mad about it.
478
00:24:48,900 --> 00:24:52,000
Why the heck did I make such a
beam actually just upset because
479
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,600
Has my day actually before.
That was terrible for some
480
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,300
reason or I just wanted
attention.
481
00:24:56,300 --> 00:25:00,100
Yeah so passive-aggressive T
usually comes out from a place
482
00:25:00,100 --> 00:25:04,100
of wanting attention and being
seen and wanting to be whatever.
483
00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:09,400
Yeah.
Yeah as Karina and I are both
484
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,400
Student Life advisor.
Currently we had a special guest
485
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:16,300
at our life group, the other
night and this lady is so wise.
486
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,200
She's in her 60s.
Yeah, no.
487
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,300
She just turned 70.
She did.
488
00:25:21,300 --> 00:25:24,100
Yeah, she did.
June. 7th is a lot of wisdom and
489
00:25:24,100 --> 00:25:27,500
she said she was like, I just
want to call out that I've
490
00:25:27,500 --> 00:25:31,300
noticed around campus and around
Christian circles that there
491
00:25:31,300 --> 00:25:36,200
just seems to be this need to
need to be the wittiest person
492
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,900
at the table and have the final
say, have the smartest comment
493
00:25:39,900 --> 00:25:41,900
at the end.
She's like, and that's just not
494
00:25:41,900 --> 00:25:44,000
lovely.
And it was so cool that she
495
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,500
said, lovely because in
Philippians 4:8, when Paul
496
00:25:47,500 --> 00:25:51,100
lists, all these things that we
should dwell on with our minds
497
00:25:51,300 --> 00:25:54,000
he's like whatever is True Noble
pure, right?
498
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,800
He includes lovely in that list
which we just barely hear that
499
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:00,200
word anymore.
It's like our is what we're
500
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,500
thinking.
Lovely if we're thinking, like
501
00:26:02,700 --> 00:26:05,400
I'm so jealous of my friend
who's getting married and I am
502
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,000
so bitter that I'm still single.
Why isn't this working out or
503
00:26:08,008 --> 00:26:09,500
something?
That's coming from a place of
504
00:26:09,500 --> 00:26:12,100
insecurity and it will not come
out.
505
00:26:12,100 --> 00:26:14,200
Lovely is what your dwelling on?
Lovely.
506
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,600
So that's good.
That's Stevie Wonder song.
507
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:33,900
Isn't She Lovely?
Then see what wonderful exactly
508
00:26:33,900 --> 00:26:40,600
goes is.
That making one is nothing, is
509
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,900
she?
Oh, it's crazy.
510
00:26:44,900 --> 00:26:46,600
He calls his daughter.
Lovely.
511
00:26:46,700 --> 00:26:50,400
And he's never seen her
loveliness isn't about site.
512
00:26:50,400 --> 00:27:05,000
It's about being
I remember when we were talking
513
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:09,100
about this, you said that
especially within teams and
514
00:27:09,100 --> 00:27:12,400
churches, like we just need to
Value being a part of the group
515
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,500
and not want this lust, for
being in a certain position in
516
00:27:16,500 --> 00:27:21,800
the group, the best or the
smartest, or the wittiest, or
517
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,500
the one.
Always has something to say,
518
00:27:23,500 --> 00:27:26,200
like, we just need to Value
being a part of the group.
519
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:27,800
Yeah.
And just doing what your created
520
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:29,900
to do.
Like all those gifts that Paul
521
00:27:29,900 --> 00:27:33,600
lists in Romans 12.
So, touch on that, a little bit.
522
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:37,400
Yeah, go ahead in our inter
inter cultural Ministry prep
523
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,600
class.
They touched on being a good
524
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,100
follower and how we are not
taught.
525
00:27:42,100 --> 00:27:44,100
Especially in America, we're
never taught what?
526
00:27:44,100 --> 00:27:46,000
It's what it's like to be a good
follower.
527
00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:48,200
It's always about being a leader
being the one that's leading
528
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:50,900
being the one in charge, like
leaving, well, all these things,
529
00:27:50,900 --> 00:27:54,200
but man to be a Good follower
like lifts up those who are
530
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:55,800
leaving you?
Yes, enjoy them.
531
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,500
Yeah.
You're an important valuable
532
00:27:57,500 --> 00:28:00,200
part of it, you just not getting
the recognition and the
533
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,600
attention of the person in
leadership and that's okay.
534
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,100
You know like we're sometimes
called to follow to submit to
535
00:28:06,100 --> 00:28:09,300
that leadership or even like
like in a group like something
536
00:28:09,300 --> 00:28:13,300
as like as unstructured as just
a friend group say you've got
537
00:28:13,300 --> 00:28:17,500
like you're just most
charismatic friend that you feel
538
00:28:17,500 --> 00:28:20,400
like you're competing with the.
Some extent of like I want to be
539
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,000
charismatic.
I want to be the most like
540
00:28:22,300 --> 00:28:23,800
Funding.
And all of this again is
541
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,700
subconscious.
You're not always aware of all
542
00:28:25,700 --> 00:28:29,700
of this happening but being
willing to like to just laugh at
543
00:28:29,700 --> 00:28:33,100
their joke without a comeback
and just like appreciate that
544
00:28:33,100 --> 00:28:34,800
about them that they are
signing.
545
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,600
And I love that they're shining
Rejoice with those who Rejoice,
546
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:41,500
you know, and lift them up, lift
up their gifts and like if
547
00:28:41,500 --> 00:28:43,800
that's the culture you're
building in your community and
548
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,600
in your friendships like that is
what will come back to you as
549
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,800
well, you know what I'm saying?
Like, you reap what?
550
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,200
You sow?
Yes.
551
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,100
Yes.
What you?
552
00:28:51,100 --> 00:29:00,700
So glad Coco Go.
I was made for this life.
553
00:29:00,700 --> 00:29:05,600
She said she didn't say she was
nervous at all guys, most people
554
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,200
when they're on the I'm a little
nervous At first.
555
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:08,500
She wasn't nervous.
She was nervous.
556
00:29:08,500 --> 00:29:12,300
I'm talking to a phone and an
engine in her car.
557
00:29:12,300 --> 00:29:14,900
Yeah, I got a windy Lake.
Yeah, it's very beautiful.
558
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:18,500
Yeah, go push like a bush.
Like, well, what is the last
559
00:29:18,500 --> 00:29:20,000
challenge?
You would give to the people
560
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,000
listening of like, wow.
How do I apply this?
561
00:29:22,100 --> 00:29:25,700
My life now.
Yeah, well I think definitely
562
00:29:25,700 --> 00:29:29,000
reflecting and taking that time
with the Lord and surrender.
563
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,600
So what I did with my life group
is we took time and went through
564
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,200
all of the passages that I
mentioned.
565
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:39,800
So John 15 first John four
Romans 12 and I guess Genesis
566
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,600
1:27 but it's just that one
verse.
567
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,600
But really spend time in that
second part of Romans, 12 of
568
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:50,200
looking at the things that are
love and action and even find
569
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,900
your own love pass.
Passages in the Bible.
570
00:29:52,900 --> 00:29:56,600
And there's lots of them in the
New Testament and just allowing
571
00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,900
the spirit to convict and show
you where you are being immature
572
00:30:00,900 --> 00:30:02,500
and not loving well and your
life.
573
00:30:02,500 --> 00:30:05,900
Those places that need
strengthening and growth and
574
00:30:05,900 --> 00:30:10,000
need to be weeded and pruned and
are find how your bod.
575
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,100
Yeah.
And to surrender those areas to
576
00:30:12,100 --> 00:30:15,700
the Lord, you know, to to to
abide in the Lord and to ask him
577
00:30:15,700 --> 00:30:18,200
to cover those weaknesses
because you can't just be like,
578
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,300
wow, I'm extremely passive
aggressive.
579
00:30:20,300 --> 00:30:21,800
I'm just going to stop being
passive.
580
00:30:22,500 --> 00:30:24,800
Yeah, that's probably warmer
executable.
581
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,500
That's a terrible way to go
about it.
582
00:30:26,900 --> 00:30:29,300
But to repent of that you known
to be specific.
583
00:30:29,300 --> 00:30:32,500
If it's if it's to specific
people, you need to repent,
584
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:37,300
being being open to do that.
But repenting with the Lord just
585
00:30:37,300 --> 00:30:39,800
coming before him in confession
and in humility.
586
00:30:40,100 --> 00:30:42,800
And in surrender surrendering
that those areas to him,
587
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:47,300
trusting that he will supply the
strength, he will supply the
588
00:30:47,300 --> 00:30:51,000
ability to have the fruit of
love in areas where you're not
589
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,400
loving very well.
That's so good.
590
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,600
So so good.
Thank you for sharing all that.
591
00:30:56,900 --> 00:31:00,600
Yes, I'm so glad you were
finally on this body before you
592
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:04,000
fly off.
But wow, thank you for sharing.
593
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,800
I know everyone who listens to.
This will also love it because
594
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,700
this is a message that the
church needs to hear more often.
595
00:31:10,300 --> 00:31:11,700
So thank you so much for
sharing.
596
00:31:12,300 --> 00:31:14,400
So we're going to be signing off
here.
597
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,600
This is no idea podcast with
Renny.
598
00:31:17,700 --> 00:31:21,900
I'm just kidding, Corinna.
Yeah, pardon me and Jenny sign.
599
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,100
In off, see you around.