Most episodes have been enlightening to ways our brains work and what that means for us. This episode about “Where Happiness Hides” gave a poignant observation about how people tend to forget pain easily after succeeding to move on - through Lazik in achieving 20/20 to working hard to achieve tenure in academia.
I think that is part of the reason why mankind has been able to continue. Giving birth is no walk in the park. It affects all your hormones while being pregnant, some will suffer morning sickness, some will lose or gain weight, and then the birth itself is nothing like in the movies, where the mother’s water breaks and then she’s in the hospital with a healthy infant cooing as the new mother breast feeds her new member.
I know producing milk kept me from sleep, my midwife in the hospital had to unblock my ducts and sent tears streaming from the sharp pain that sang from my nipples down my private parts.
My C-section wound did not heal as doctor expected and puss started to ooze out and I had 2 premies, since I had twin boys. All this means the first few months of bonding with my brand new sons were terribly painful, hardly got to sleep and had no nutritious food to eat because no one was caring for the mother.
It may be perhaps been harder because it was my first pregnancy. I felt I go run over by a bus and couldn’t even get back up to see what just happened.
With that in mind, this experience has taught be if anything, and that is I’m done having children. But so many people who may not have gone through such an extreme childbirth injury will rebound back, forgot how exhausting it was to have a new born and had to recover quickly to return to work!
There is no way I am going to go through another round of babies crying asking for milk or having to deal with diapers filled so fast with diarrhea, that the soft stool just rose up the babies backs and out their collars!
I’m curious how parents who are “one and done” and “parents of 4 children” differ in how they view happiness.