Counseling Episodes

Forgiveness does not mean you become a doormat. Many Christians get confused when setting boundaries, feeling like they're being unforgiving, rude, or unchristlike. In this episode, Dr. Ray Self will unravel this dilemma and discuss how we can forgive and still set healthy boundaries.

In this show, you will learn as a Christian how to set healthy boundaries and remain a loving, forgiving, and merciful believer in Christ.

As Christians, we often face pressure to avoid getting angry. In this crucial episode, Dr. Self discusses how anger is a normal emotion created by God.

In this replay of a popular episode of Self Talk With Dr. Ray Self, Dr. Self discusses the Christian response to toxic people or toxic relationships.

There will always be people at your present level who will try to hinder you from moving to the next level. Often, these people may take action to discourage you.  Dr.  Ray discusses this principle, how to deal with it, how to move forward, and what God has called you to do.

In this episode of Self Talk With Dr. Ray Self, you will receive tips and advice on navigating relationships when people are living and believing deceptive lies. Although it may be frustrating and disheartening, there is always hope.

In a marriage relationship, we must understand the needs of our spouse. In this vital show, Dr Ray discusses the primary needs and desires of a woman and a man, as God wisely points out in Scripture. In the show, you can learn how to have a more fulfilling and loving marriage and resolve conflict h…

It is unfortunate, but almost everyone has at least one toxic relative. This is the kind of relative who harms your spirit and grieves your soul, and you wish you did not have to be around them. But it is the holidays, and they are family, so you are required to spend time with them. In this crucia…

Dr. Ray Self discusses in this vital episode the significance of integration in bringing peace to our lives. We need to integrate different aspects of our being to attain inner harmony. As believers, we have the Holy Spirit dwelling within us, but we also have natural tendencies or "flesh," as the …

The story of Nehemiah, a prophet, can still be relevant to our lives today. In a significant episode, Dr. Ray Self discusses how examining your past can lead to healing and a prosperous future for both you and your family.

In this episode, Dr. Self addresses the difficulties faced by Christians who find themselves in unhealthy relationships. While forgiveness and turning the other cheek are biblical values, navigating day-to-day life in such situations can be...

In this episode of Self Talk, Dr. Ray Self addresses a vital issue that affects all of us.  1 Cor 13:12  For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully...

Dr. Self discusses how conflict can build respect IF it is handled in a healthy way. Unfortunately, most people do not manage conflict very well. In this episode, you will learn about the four ways people fight. Hint -three of the ways are not good....

Today, Dr. Ray Self explains how a familiar spirit will cause you to be overlooked or taken for granted. God's people should be celebrated, but we are only tolerated much too often. Sometimes being just tolerated comes from those closest to you. But...

The Christmas season can be challenging for those who are lonely, depressed, or in unhealthy relationships. However, there are choices we can make, things we can do, and prayers we can say to get through this time in a healthy, fulfilling manner. This...

Depression is a horrible disease and is often misunderstood by the church. Many Christians suffer this disease in silence and not receiving the help from the church that they need. Sadly, some Christians feel condemnation and shame, believing they are...

Why is the problem of being unequally yoked such a stern warning in the Bible? (2 Cor. 6:14) What exactly does that mean? Jesus said His yoke was easy and His burden was light (Matt 11:30), but God tells us not to be unequally yoked. Understanding the...

Human trafficking is a horrible problem, and closer to your home than you realize. Dr. Ray Self interviews Jim and Dawn Hamm about their ministry to help young girls victimized by sex trafficking get their lives restored through the love of God and...

In today's episode, Dr. Ray Self interviews Dr. Steve Wittmann, the author of the book, Unchained and Undercover (available at Amazon.com), about the vicious attacks of the Jezebel spirit on local church pastors. This episode covers how to recognize...

Dr. Ray Self discusses the vicious attacks of the Spirit of Jezebel against pastors. Jesus warned us that Jezebel would lead us into immorality. Unfortunately, this scheme has been causing the downfall of many pastors across our nation. We cannot...

Dr. Ray Self interviews a former pastor's wife about the pain of divorce and the many difficulties divorce creates being a church leader. In this transparent and honest interview, you will hear a truthful conversation about the horrible pain of...

You have heard about how Jezebel will attack the prophets for a long time. (1 Kings 18:4) The spirit of Jezebel especially loves to target prophetic ministers. Unfortunately, sometimes the spirit of Jezebel works through people closest to us. Dr. Ray...

Dr. Ray Self interviews Heidi Mortensen, the author of the book – The Brave Encourager: How the Power of Encouragement Changes the World. (Available on Amazon.com) Heid says, "There is still a path to joy in this broken world. Encouragement is an...

All of us go through hard moments. It could be a loss of a relationship, concern over a family member, loss of income, or health. In those problematic times, we need to hear from God more than any other time. In this episode, Dr. Ray Self discusses...