Cómo usar el arrepentimiento para mejorar tu vida

0:08 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio Palla, ruiz, reader, hard- working and lover of personal development. Today I want to talk to you about the importance of repentance in our lives and how we can raise it from it. Before you start reminding yourself that you have at your disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas and tips on personal development. In my own four books, I leave you the link to each of them. Free, healthy and happy, thirty- one days to improve your life, minimalism for normal people and seven steps to a purposeful life. I leave you their links in the notes of the episode and also since many of you have not asked how and where to train in personal development. I tell you what has worked for me, which is the master' s degree of development people online, from IPP Institute of positive thinking. You know the best training that exists in this field, because they cover depth the six main areas of life, self- knowledge, body and health, emotions, relationships, transcendence and money and professional career. If you want to take a look at your free master class without any commitment. I' ll also link you to the episode notes. Down there, along with my books, and now we' re going to talk about the role of repentance in building a better life. The first thing to say is that repentance is not just a negative

1:42 emotion. Repentance is a moral compass, an inner compass that we all carry and that is capable of orienting our conduct and decisions towards a better life. Repentance is something that allows us to reflect on our actions, it allows us to reflect also on their consequences. And not only the consequences that this action has had for ourselves, but also the consequences that it has had for others. And this reflection not only helps us understand what we have done wrong. It also illuminates the way and tells us what we need to change from now on. When we experience repentance, we feel pain, we feel discomfort.

2:32 We sometimes wish to be able to go back in time to act in a different way. But, on the other hand, that same discomfort is also the one that drives us to change, it is the one that drives us to improve. That is what motivates us to ask forgiveness, It is what leads us to repair what we have damaged. Repentance, therefore, besides being a negative feeling, is a learning. It teaches us the consequences that our actions have had and therefore reinforces the idea that it is very important to live according to values, in accordance with principles. But feeling sorry is not a bad thing. We' re all human, and sooner or later, we make some mistake. The bad thing is not to learn to accept our mistakes without letting ourselves be defined by them. Remember not to learn to accept our mistakes without letting us define ourselves by them. The bad thing is to do over and over again what we regret, without trying to change anything. The bad thing is also to become permanently that of which we repent. What I ' m trying to say is that our imperfection is an opportunity to grow.

3:54 It' s not something we have to resign to. And when you understand this, you turn repentance into a warning signal that moves you to act. Therefore, if our actions have adversely affected others, we usually humbly ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness not only seeks to free the other person from the pain we have caused him. It also seeks to free ourselves from that emotional debt that, if we do not immediately pay, is accumulating within us. To ask forgiveness means to acknowledge the damage we have done, to assume responsibility for our actions and also to commit ourselves not to repeat the same mistake in the future.

4:45 To ask forgiveness is an act of self- love and is also an act of respect for the other person. When we choose to ask forgiveness, we are choosing not to be defined by our mistakes, not to be known by our mistakes, but by our ability to fix them, our ability to amend them. What we are saying to the world when we ask forgiveness is that I am not the punctual error I have made, and that is very good and not only makes it easier to reconcile with others, it also allows us to move forward in our lives with less weight, more clarity and to head without restraint towards that life that is actually what we want. But if we do not settle that debt, if we do not ask forgiveness, when we make a mistake, the same conflict is going to repeat itself over and over again, it is going to return again and again to our life and we are going to be unable to move the focus of the past to the present and to the future. And remember that it is in the present and in the future that there is the real opportunity to live better. So don ' t apologize, either to others or even to ourselves. In short, what you' re putting us in a mental prison. And if you' re already in some way in that mental prison, make sure that the first step to getting out of it is to get to know yourself, is to understand what your deepest motivations are, is to recognize the emotions you feel,

6:20 is to accept what your weak points are. And this can only be done through introspection, reflection, self- exploration. And little by little, if you do this, you' re identifying those patterns of thought or those patterns of behavior that normally lead to repentance. And the next step after that phase of self- exploration is to start living in harmony. And what it means to live in harmony, for it is to live in a way in which our desires, our thoughts, our words and our actions these four things are synchronized that whatever you want you say and do go in the same direction.

7:10 It is this inner congruence that will allow us to live a full life. When we get aligned, these four, these four elements are aligned, then our actions begin to flow from personal truth, not from what I have to do, but do what I am. And when this happens, there is no longer room for repentance. Then repentance has no place anymore. When we come to that state of internal congruence, we begin to live intentionally, we begin to recognize that every action we carry out has consequences. And this perspective allows us to see life differently. It is no longer a series of coincidences, it is no longer a series of unfeeling coincidences. So if we look at it that way, life does not cease to be a path full of opportunities and every experience, whether positive or negative, teaches us a valuable lesson, a lesson that guides us to our true path. Even if it is a negative experience, it helps us to get away from those things that do not lead us on our true path. So living in harmony with ourselves transforms our reality. We become more resilient, open ourselves to life' s experiences and, above all, live in peace, regardless of whether the moments or experiences we experience are easier or more difficult. And despite all this I'

8:46 m telling you there are really very few people in the world living in harmony. We' re surrounded by a lot of distractions, we' re surrounded by a lot of social pressures. And all this diverts us from our true essence, from our purpose in life. Consumerism, the search for immediate gratification, excesses, all these things are symptoms of a society in which one values more the having than the being, of a society that seeks what can only be found within oneself and is looking for it outside. He' s looking for him outside and he can only find him inside. And when that happens, then we move from living to surviving. We move from a full life, from a life in purpose, to a lifestyle that does not feed our soul. And with that, then, obviously, fear comes, it comes to anxiety, it comes to envy, they are only manifestations that we are disconnected from our true essence, from our true values, that we are not living in harmony. The good thing is that the ability to change is within each of us. We' re in. We have come to this world to create, We have come to share knowledge, to work on what we are passionate about. We have come to love others deeply, We have come to offer you the best of ourselves. So start becoming aware of this as

10:20 soon as possible. Limit all these external distractions and focus especially on your personal development. Create spaces for silence, for introspection, for reflection, cultivate gratitude, valuing what you have instead of what you lack, and start doing things in your day to day that reflect your true purpose that will help you reconnect with your essence. He begins to serve others without expecting anything in return, begins to contribute positively to the world. It builds a life around those two pillars that we mentioned in the episode the other day, positive thoughts and good habits. And when you do, you' ll see how you begin to rise unreservedly toward your goals. Whatever they are, so you know, raising the quality of your life is an active process, it' s a conscious process and that process involves making decisions at every moment. Repentance is not just an emotion. Repentance is your personal guide to act and to grow in a certain direction. You have to be aware of what those things are that lead you to repent and once you are aware, you can start changing them and, from there, start living in harmony, that is, that what you want, what you think, what you say and what you do is completely

11:52 aligned and allows you to enjoy a better life. If you liked this episode, please give it to me like, share on social networks or visit three wws ideas to live better. Point com there you can subscribe and download for free, a copy of my latest book. Seven steps to a purposeful life. And if you want to learn much more, if you want to train a personal development with the best experts, then take a look at the free master' s degree in personal development online, from IPP Institute of Positive Thinking. I leave you his link also in the notes of the episode and without further saying goodbye. Thank you very much, as always and until the next