Dec. 28, 2025
Who Slid Into DeAnna’s DM’s???
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Is modern dating sliding into the DMs? DeAnna shares about one man who recently got her attention.
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Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of love Tree. This is famously available, been here on famously Available, and as we wind up this year of twenty twenty five, I wanted to get our famously available women together to chat and reflect back on what this year has been for them. So ladies, take it away.
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Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Kathy here with Deanna and Mercedes and we are just here together to have some end of the year girl chat. How are you guys doing today.
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Speaker 3: I'm feeling a little under the weather, but I'm talking to you guys, so it's a good day.
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Speaker 4: I'm doing great. I just listened to the podcast yesterday with Mercedes and Bryce me too. I just like so happy.
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Speaker 3: What'd you guys think?
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Speaker 4: I listen, whether you fall madly in love and run off into the sunset or not. I thought it was a really great first date. And he's a nice guy. Is his episode. I just have mad respect for guys who can show up in that sense. I think it's a lot for all of us to come on here and go on blind dates and then talk about it, for everyone to listen and dissect and tear apart, but for him in particular to come on and date you and then be a part of the podcast and talk about it. And I don't know if you've listened yet, Mercedes, but he only had really wonderful things to say about you. Not shocking, not shocking because you're so great. But I just think that makes a stand up guy. He could have come on and been like, m she ignored me with all her friends and Lula lulit. No, he was a solid dude. He was like, she's gorgeous, she's wonderful.
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Speaker 2: The date was great.
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Speaker 4: I'd love to see her again. He just had really great things to say about you, and I have a lot of respect for that.
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Speaker 2: I've got to echo that. I listened to the podcast, Mercedes, and I was even more adamant. Oh, she's got to give him a second date. She's got to give him a second champion. I really because he when he was talking about the date, and he was saying, you know, there were all these people she had like people, and I had no one. But I made it work. I thought he came across on the podcast a really positive person who's ready to engage to have fun. He thought you were beautiful. He said that if you were in La he would have already had another date with you. He just said, you check a lot of boxes. And I do agree that it's really hard to go on a first date at a concert with when you know no one and the girl you're having to date and knows everyone. I went such a.
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Speaker 4: I'm with Kathy, I think you ought to give him a second chance, even if it's just like a quick drink, if he makes his way to Nashville, because it sounds like he's there quite a bit. Yeah, even if he just makes his way to Nashville and you guys meet for a drink, just to see without anybody else there, without any other noise, if there is anything there. Because I think he's a really great I think he's a really great guy, whether he's yours or not. But I believe that it is worth a second date to just see, to just see if there's any mystery there.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree. I definitely like the first day was. It was good, And it says a lot about his character and who he is that he could just like jump in and do whatever. Do you know, Like not a lot of people can do that, I will say. And we were actually texting the other day and I was like you know, distance is hard, and we both agreed that we were like kind of on the same page as like we were very aware that we live in different cities and like that's really really hard. But he was like, if we ever like find each other in if I'm in Nashville or you're in LA, like let's catch up.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, yeah, but let me let me just say that that sounds sort of fatalistic to me, Like, yeah, it's nice knowing you. You know, if I ever crossed your way again, I think you should be intentional with him about trying to set up a gate that you know, in the next let's just say month, surely you'll be in LA or he'll be in Nashville. And and like Deanna said, get together have a drink, because I really, I mean I only spoken briefly at the concert, and I did feel for him that you knew everyone, he knew no one, plus just chasing you both up and down from the bar and back up the suite again. So I didn't have a whole lot of time, but I really liked what I heard when he was talking to Ben. I really think I think you should do it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I need to I honestly haven't listened to it, so I need to listen to it and then. But no, he's a great guy at the end of the day, and I do think I should give him another date for sure.
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Speaker 4: I think it's quite interesting given we're on the same podcast and we went on the same scenario for two days. Right, I had a different experience, And I think that's why I'm so advocating for you to have a second date, because my scenario was very different. Like the guy that I went on a date with, he really didn't engage with anybody else there. Right, Kathy was there, she knows.
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Speaker 2: Are we talking about the guy at the concert, Deanna? Yeah, unbelievably different vibe.
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Speaker 4: It's night and day my date to Mercedes date.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Bryce was really trying to get to talk to everyone and really trying to engage with all of us and make the best of a situation where, you know what, Dianna's state kind of stood there like a statue and just he didn't even try to engage.
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Speaker 4: Like he was a placeholder. He was there, yes, you know, for for whatever reason he was, I don't know, maybe he's doing somebody a solid and just showing up so I actually had a date. That's what it felt like, do you know what I mean? Or like your date was actually engaging and genuinely interested in you, like that was seen across the room. So I just think that if we're comparing the two and it's not a point of comparison, that's not what I mean. I'm rooting for you to hopefully explore, to see if there is something else there. That's what I'm rooting for. Mine was clear as day that there was nothing there. He did not try to talk to anybody else in the suite, he didn't leave the suite, he left early. He didn't even ask my phone number, Like there was like it was like nothing on.
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Speaker 2: A scale of one to ten, about a minus one.
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Speaker 4: Really, Oh my god, he's a nice guy. There just wasn't anything there.
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Speaker 2: I mean, there was no connection with yeah, Jna or frankly anyone else where Mercedes. I thought. Bryce really tried. I know, he chatted with me, and I did throw him for a loop though, when when I first met him and I said, so, what are you looking for? And he said, you know? And he said this on the on the podcast with Ben and his mother, He said, you know, I'm just looking for a beautiful woman. And then he said, but you know, beautiful looks different different people. I'm looking for someone who has he's intrinsic qualities. Like he he spoke very well about what beauty meant him. But when he said it to me, I thought, is he really like superficial saying I want a beautiful woman?
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Speaker 4: He's not. I feel like there's so he's.
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Speaker 2: Not a different what I'm saying. He has so much more depth.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, for someone who has like been in like a spiritual growth journey and working on myself. I could see that through the things that he was saying. There's a part of it where he's still trying to look cool and attractive, Like I could see that, but there was also I could read between the lines that there is growth in the things that he had to say. And listen, y'all would all be lying if you weren't, like, we want some tall, dark and handsome to show up who's super freaking hot. Like, come, there's a piece of it where we're all really superficial. Of course, he went's a beautiful girl.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So we have to be proud of ourselves. We have put ourselves out there. I went to two Christmas parties this past week, solo, literally solo, and this really good looking guy came up to me and I thought, thank you God, my Christmas is come early. And we were standing and he introduced himself and the minute up in his mouth. I hadn't been at this party forty five minutes and I had another one to go to. So I was honestly finishing my drink, getting ready to leave. And when I tell you drunk, he his tongue with two thick no oh no, and yeah. I just so literally forty five minutes in and he's he's drunk. He said, you know, I don't know anyone here. I'm here. It was from out of town there lies he I would say, he's in the sixties, so you.
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Speaker 4: Know, you know enough to know better.
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Speaker 2: You're appropriate for me and a really good looking guy, but so drunk. And so I said to him, uh, you know, he said, you're you know, you're beautiful. I mean it was bad. So I said, you know, I wish I hope you have a great holiday. I got to run out the door. Oh my god. But I was proud of myself that I did it. I went by myself and I went from there to the next party, which was a much younger crowd, uh, but still lots of fun. And you know, I put myself out there. That's that's what we got to do.
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Speaker 4: That's really awesome, Kathy. You know, as someone who does not drink anymore, the drunkenness I cannot tolerate. I don't mind dating someone who drinks. That doesn't bother me, but I cannot tolerate like drunkenness, like slurring your words, not remembering it.
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Speaker 2: Is never I don't care what you say drinking, you know, getting a buzz on whatever you want to call it, giving your confidence, all that stuff. Here's what I have seen people do. They get drunk and then they use alcohols and excuse for bad behavior, and it's never an excuse for bad pain.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, or people will get like too drunks because they're nervous, and then it's just like you're ruining it for yourself right before you even talk to someone, Like get a good buzz, but like getting too drunk is like it's very good thing.
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Speaker 4: Even when I did drink, I don't feel like I went on a first date and got too drunk. Do you know what I mean like I still wanted to be able to make sure I liked someone and to be able to read the room correctly, but even more so now that I don't drink. For me, it feels like a solid lesson, Like mind your p's and q's. We still want to show up and impress someone. Don't be sloppy on a first or second or third date. Don't be sloppy in general.
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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say, I think good rule of thumb is don't ever get slapped with alcohols. I mean, if you're with a bunch of girls on a girl's weekend, yeah great, but I'm dating Uh.
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Speaker 4: No, No, it's just not cute. It's not a good look. Don't show up that way. Don't show up. I too went to a Christmas party, but I did not have the same experience Kathy. It was all women. I know, I didn't I know.
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Speaker 2: But still that you know, I mean, honestly, I'm I'm going to give you kudos, Deanna, because I find it difficult sometimes to go out, even with a bunch of I was out with girls last night. Sometimes it's hard to get the clothes on, get the makeup on, to show up just because it's hard. Even if it's with girls. You know, there's lots of questions, what are you doing? Are you're dating? It's always the same kind of stuff, So I find that difficult as well. Sometimes.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I think I've learned to show up in certain ways and it's so hard. And I know you both understand this having been on television and you know. Not to take it back to Bryce, but he said when I was listening to the conversation between you and Bryce and I was there, Mercedes, he made the comment of, like, you guys not going to know each other beforehand because you don't want to preconceived notion. And I feel that for myself. I have a really hard time going to parties or making new friends or dating in general because if they know who I am or they have Googled me, that is a turnoff because then they have a preconceived notion of who they think that I am. And my experience, I have found that people don't truly want to get to know me. They want to get to know that person that they saw on TV. They think they know that person, so they don't try to get to know me. They just think that they know this person and that's hard. Like in dating general, that feels really hard for me.
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Speaker 3: I think that's my least favorite thing about dating like today is because social media is so in the center of our world and Google and all these things that like you and especially like you said us being on TV, we're really easy to find and before and I'm I do this too. I will say, like I am the type of girl before a date. I'm like looking at your social media, like you know, like I've definitely been that girl. So like going on blind dates. I think it's really cool because yeah, you're not able to do that and you have no you don't know.
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Speaker 2: This person like you're literally just it's like, so here's something, here's something for you both to look forward to when you get to be my age. Men my age and really even five and ten years younger, they don't they're not on social media Facebook.
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Speaker 4: Maybe that is so attractive to me. Nice, it is so attractive.
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Speaker 2: It is. Uh, But to your point, Deanna, I've had a few guys that have found me through Facebook or whatever, or friends have set me up, but they have done the research once they know no, Yep.
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Speaker 4: It's an itch for me, it's an inch for me. To for me for them to show up and say, oh, I know who you are. I watched your show however, long time, long ago. That's that's unattractive for me. When someone walks up and they're like, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't watch your show. I'm like, no, please, No.
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Speaker 3: I love when people say that.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so attractive to me. If you come up and you're like, oh no, no, no, I know you may sound this on Instagram, it's a hard pass for me. It is immediately a turn off. It's hard for me to move.
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Speaker 2: All right, Wait, do you guys really be You said it's a turn off that they're checking out your social media, But would either of you really want a guy who has no social media?
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Speaker 4: No, I want him to have social media so that I can go down the rabbit hole was I was messaging you guys last week because this guy reached out to me on Instagram and said that he listens to the podcast, and one of his friends told him that he should message me, and he messaged our producer Heather as well, well listen, I'm keeping my options open. So I immediately go to this guy's profile, but it's private, and I'm like, oh, who has a private profile these days, and I couldn't get a solid picture of him. So it allows me to be a little bit of a detective to try and find things out to see because there has to be some piece.
00:13:43
Speaker 2: Has he reached out to you yet?
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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, we've had a full on conversation on Instagram. But I need like a wow, he doesn't even live here, you guys, he lives like in northern California. He doesn't even live here.
00:13:55
Speaker 2: Don't let distance get in your way.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not letting it get in my way. But I am completely acknowledging that my free time is very minimum. Okay, so I have a set schedule with my kids. So say if I have a stretch of five days where I don't have the kids, am I really flying to northern California to spend.
00:14:15
Speaker 2: The hour with a guy said he's going to fly to you.
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Speaker 4: He has kids too, that's the thing. So he has young kids too. So I just from the get go, before there is any attachment made or any feelings or anything that happens, I'm immediately like, uh, this is probably not going to work. He has his children are younger than mine. Just listen, I'm running this whole scenario out just from what I see on his social media. His children look to be younger than mine. But I immediately am like, well, it's probably not going to work. How much time could I truly invest?
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Speaker 2: I will say I to be fair. When you have young children, Deanna and Anyonheen you're dating has young children, and you've got you know, divorce, You've got their dads or whatever it is, You've got the mechanics, it's complicated to set up to set up.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, in a dream scenario, I'd love to find someone here in Los Angeles, you know, and given that that's long distance as it is, I mean, it could take me twenty minutes to get to someone's house for four hours, right, you know what I mean? I would ideally love to find someone here in Los Angeles so that it's like, hey, let's meet up on Thursday night and drive down and be able to sleep in my own bed at night and drive back.
00:15:21
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
00:15:21
Speaker 4: That would be an ideal scenario for me because I am not in a position realistically that if I met someone back home in Georgia, I'm not moving home for another ten years at least. Yeah, so what does that really look like?
00:15:35
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it is different. I really hadn't given that serious thought. It is true I have kids here, but I've made it very clear that I will move if.
00:15:46
Speaker 4: I but your children are older.
00:15:48
Speaker 2: That's right I'm saying. I'm saying that I absolutely give a lot of credence to that whole thought. Now that you have young kids, you can't just pack up and.
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Speaker 4: I can't pack up and move and somebody else and he probably he can't, so it goes just it's back to the whole thing. Like I I it's a love hate relationship with social media. If they're posting shirtless, come get ready with me, that's an ick for me. But it's so it's so bad something where I can go down the rabbit hole to see if they're attractive or not. I enjoy that.
00:16:20
Speaker 3: I don't know.
00:16:21
Speaker 4: What do you think, Mercedes?
00:16:22
Speaker 3: I always say like a man with under a thousand followers is my type of man. Like with social media. You know, like they have social media. It's not like they're like against it, but they're not like they're not making it their life, do you know what I'm saying? Like they're not Again, the get readies with me, or like the gym shirtless picks.
00:16:40
Speaker 4: I'm like, look what's in my coffee?
00:16:41
Speaker 3: Yeah?
00:16:42
Speaker 4: Thank you? No?
00:16:43
Speaker 2: Thanks? Can I give you something to look forward to?
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Speaker 3: Yes?
00:16:47
Speaker 2: When you? When the guys did are on social media that think it's really hot to post pictures themselves with baseball caps on backwards.
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Speaker 4: I love that.
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Speaker 2: Wait in bathrooms, any any combination of this scenario in bathrooms, shirtless sitting on the sofa with the beer, or a dead fish hanging from a hook on a boat. I mean it's all the same. It's like, really, you think that's attractive?
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Speaker 3: No? Yeah, yeah, no, it's not my vibe. Again, a man was under a thousand followers. That doesn't make it his whole personality. That's that's the dream social media man.
00:17:24
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:17:25
Speaker 4: I don't walk around with my phone out all the time trying to take pictures and videos of everything and putting it on social media. That's not who I am. So I for sure don't want to date a guy who is like that. I just can't have that be his pride.
00:17:35
Speaker 2: I think women do it more than men, though.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
00:17:38
Speaker 2: Women just post more more more about their lives and what they're doing, and I think at least that's been my experience.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I like that. I don't. I don't mind that as long as it's not the whole world, and there is something to say for guys who just make it like their entire it's their life, it's their livelihood. I don't want that. That's not the kind of life I want.
00:18:00
Speaker 3: Also, I will say one thing, and this is so me. If a man follows me and they like are on social media or whatever, I automatically go to who they follow, and if they are following like girl, girl gro girl, like, I just think it says so much about that person who they're following. And if it's a whole bunch of random girls, I'm like, yeah, I'm not following you back, like I'm just another girl in the book that you're just trying to you know. So I always pay attention to who they follow.
00:18:30
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna have to make a note of that. I don't do very much like diving in Instagram, So I don't do very much well. We've talked about this before and I'm pretty sure I've said it to Kathy. People don't slide into my DMS. I don't know if that happens to you, Mercedes, But that doesn't happen to me. I get a lot of women who message me just say they followed me since the Bachelorette, or they listen to our podcast, or they like my mom tips or my freaking elf tips. These stupid elves leaving soon, thank goodness. But I don't get a lot of men who slide into my dms who are like, it doesn't happen. So this one guy, this one guy messaging me, I was like, okay, bold, I appreciate it. I at least appreciate it. But I don't that doesn't happen to me. I don't get people who slide into my dms and message me at all. So even just this this guy doing that, I was like, hey, this is bold. I really appreciate it. Like way to go I did. I told him that. I was like, I appreciate it, and then he sent me his phone number, and I was like, let's let's stile it back a bit. Let's just you know, slow down. I listened to way too many crime podcasts. I'm not trying to you know, so like, do.
00:19:32
Speaker 2: You know the solution to that? Wait, I'm going to be your mother here for a minute. I my kids gave me this idea. I wasn't that smart myself. I got a Google phone number and a Google phone number. I'm telling you I've turned more people onto this again. My kids have to get the credit to You cannot trace if you give someone your mobile phone. Believe me, they can find out your address, pretty much everything they want to know about you. But a Google phone number is untraceable. And I will tell you my sign of can I trust a guy when I give And I've had it happen twice where I gave him my Google number and it comes through as a random number. It's weird how they dealt. But when they dial you, they have to say who they are and then it rings and you can accept or deny the call. I've had two guys say to me, why are you doing that? I said, because I'm concerned about safety and I don't know you. And if they take that badly, if they don't like that. Out most men that when I've talked to them, they're like, oh my god, that's so smart. I'm glad that you care about your safety. So that's what I do. And then they you know, so that's something you might try, or you can also do calls through Instagram, Facebook. I don't know if those are traceable though, I just don't.
00:20:53
Speaker 4: I don't know either, but that's a really good tip. Thank you for telling me that, because I'm not tech savvy. And I also have this dream that I'm going to walk in the Whole Foods and be perusing the asparagus and be blown off my socks. You know what I mean. That's I'm dreaming that I'm going to meet some man in the wild and I was in the airport.
00:21:10
Speaker 2: He's not going to be in the asparagus isle. The guy that, you know, the hot, the cool dude is gonna be I know. But the hot cool dudes are going to be in the side of B file. You know, they're gonna be in the Ribbi steak section.
00:21:23
Speaker 3: Yes, I always think I'm gonna My dream is like in an airport. I'm like, so every time I'm at the airport, I'm like fantasizing my life. I'm like, oh, when's my husband?
00:21:30
Speaker 2: Good?
00:21:31
Speaker 4: I did get hit on in an airport once. I did. Love that I did, and again I was like bold and me he was I call him a kid. He was like I don't know. This was like when I first got divorced. So I was like, oh my god, I'm so got hot mom vibes. But he was like, I don't know. He must have been twelve or thirteen years younger than me. And he was on my flight, like he sat like two rows back, and I obviously was eyeballing him, but I was with my kids, so it was not on the forefront of my mind. And we had been on the same connection flights and ultimately, in the last airport he did, he totally came running over and was like, Hey, I'm gonna shoot my shot, Like, here's my phone number. I think you're hot. I'd love to I'd love.
00:22:10
Speaker 2: To talk to you, and he did.
00:22:15
Speaker 3: I love that.
00:22:16
Speaker 4: He was so attractive to me. It ultimately didn't go anywhere, and he lives like twenty minutes from me. We ended up seeing each other a couple of times and kept in touch. But it just the age difference. To you, guys, I just cannot Our lives are so different. But for me, those bold moves like speak wonders like shoot your shot?
00:22:34
Speaker 2: Why not? So here's something We're coming to the close of the year. Everyone we've been shooting our shots all year, but I want to know or trying to shoot our stats. I want to know it's not working, it's not working. But what is one word that you would use to describe your twenty twenty five.
00:23:06
Speaker 4: I'm going to go with rebirth. I've had it's a good one, such a tough year with the headlines to prove it that, I just am ready to be like, wash me clean, make me new, wash me clean, and make me new. I want to put all of that stuff to to rest and I am ready to just like live my best life and not be followed by the grips of my past and my divorce.
00:23:35
Speaker 2: Oh I love that.
00:23:37
Speaker 3: I love that too.
00:23:38
Speaker 2: That's a. That's a I'm going to blow a candle out make a wish for that for you too, Deanna. What about you, Mercedes?
00:23:45
Speaker 3: I feel like transformative. I feel like it's a good word for me. I feel like I've really in my year of being twenty seven, twenty twenty five, I feel like I've really just like been okay with just being me, and so because of that, my standards have raised. I can say like, no, this is what I believe, and I have to feel like I have to over explain myself to people. So I feel like I've just yeah, I feel like I've really just been I've transformed into my own self and I'm finally like, this is me and if you don't like it, then see it, you know.
00:24:21
Speaker 4: So that's huge, such a good place to be in. I'm not apologetically you, especially your age.
00:24:27
Speaker 2: I mean, most people take they're older when they come to that conclusion that I am who I am, take me or leave me. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, all those things that we hear. That's amazing. Yah you Mercedes.
00:24:38
Speaker 4: Yeah, Kathy, I is just going to say the same thing like it took me years Mercedes to get to that point. I was still people pleasing at your age. So I think that's that's so awesome. I am so so proud of you.
00:24:49
Speaker 3: Thank you.
00:24:50
Speaker 2: My word is nothing compared to you, guys. My word is grateful.
00:24:56
Speaker 4: That's wonderful one though.
00:24:57
Speaker 2: Well, it's it's how I am. Just I'm so grateful for my health, for all of you, truly, for the whole iHeart Bachelor, the whole community, the wonderful people I've met, my kids, my grandkids. I mean, I know that we're supposed to be grateful. But every day I wake up and I try to find one thing to start the day off, something I'm grateful about the first thing that I can, you know, come up with. But I think we just, at least for me, I've gotten into this habit of until this year thinking Okay, this is this is just what's supposed to happen. And this year I really realized no intentionally thanking God and being grateful for all the blessings in my life.
00:25:46
Speaker 4: Mm hmm, that's so beautiful.
00:25:48
Speaker 3: I love that.
00:25:48
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that. I love nothing more than to have like a full and grieful heart. And I make them I'm such a mom. But like I was going to say, I make my kids do that. When I pick them up from school, I'm like, hey, how your day, and like good, And I'm like, m you got to tell me something good, you know what I mean? We practice a rose and a thorn. They get to tell me something good.
00:26:08
Speaker 2: My son does highs and loves at dinner every time. I love that.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we do a rose and a thorn and then every once in a while they throw in a bud which is something that they're looking forward to. Yeah, And it's a good practice, right, because I think that in general, we have to be taught those things. You know, I don't believe that we're born with all of these gifts communication. That is a learned skill. To have a full grateful heart. I think that is a learned skill. Like I am a glass half empty person. I think that's who I naturally am. So I have to wake up and make a point to be like, oh, yeah, look at this like I have, I have a roof over my head, I can pay my bills.
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Speaker 2: To me, Deana, you do not give up that vibe at all.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would agree not to make.
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Speaker 2: You come of as a beautiful, assured somebody who's working hard on herself to build a strong family, who loves her kids. Quite to the opposite, I look at you as someone who's class more than half full. I mean, not him.
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Speaker 4: Thanks, Kathy. I'm grateful you guys got to meet me this year. No, I just you know, I just don't believe that I was always that way, and.
00:27:16
Speaker 2: I am thank you for saying that progress.
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Speaker 4: That's exactly right. I love that, Kathy grateful. That's really really awesome to be grateful for, And like.
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Speaker 3: I feel like whenever I am like when I'm because I go through seasons, right, Like, there's some seasons where I'm like so grateful, I'm always grateful, but there's some seasons where like I do maybe get down the dumps about things. But when I am like grateful and make myself like Kathy said, every morning, like being like thank God for this, like thank you for everything, it actually changes everything about your life. It is insane when you are truly, truly, truly grateful, how many good things come into your life as.
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Speaker 2: Well, and you're looking for them, you see them and it doesn't have to be a big thing. I was grateful. You're gonna laugh. I had a doctor's this morning. I was like, am I going to get back in time? All literally the traffic lights were green, the doctor was early. I literally said the whole way, thank you for those green lights. God, thank you for getting me. I mean, and I just like my day it started out great because I got green lights.
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Speaker 4: You know, Yes, you're a fucking catch, Kathy, you two Mercedes. I do the same thing when I joked around with you guys that when I got up, I get up extra early because I need to get my mind right before with anybody else. And that's the first thing I do. I wake up and I pray and I meditate. I've got to get my mind right. I've I've got to put myself in the right position to show up for anyone else who has to be around me, which.
00:28:36
Speaker 2: Is why your glasses half full, because you do.
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Speaker 1: Thanks been jumping back in here. This has been such a great conversation. You've all been so vulnerable during this pod, which is great. We've got more to chat about with these women to come. Bubb will end here for now. I've been ben
Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of love Tree. This is famously available, been here on famously Available, and as we wind up this year of twenty twenty five, I wanted to get our famously available women together to chat and reflect back on what this year has been for them. So ladies, take it away.
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Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Kathy here with Deanna and Mercedes and we are just here together to have some end of the year girl chat. How are you guys doing today.
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Speaker 3: I'm feeling a little under the weather, but I'm talking to you guys, so it's a good day.
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Speaker 4: I'm doing great. I just listened to the podcast yesterday with Mercedes and Bryce me too. I just like so happy.
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Speaker 3: What'd you guys think?
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Speaker 4: I listen, whether you fall madly in love and run off into the sunset or not. I thought it was a really great first date. And he's a nice guy. Is his episode. I just have mad respect for guys who can show up in that sense. I think it's a lot for all of us to come on here and go on blind dates and then talk about it, for everyone to listen and dissect and tear apart, but for him in particular to come on and date you and then be a part of the podcast and talk about it. And I don't know if you've listened yet, Mercedes, but he only had really wonderful things to say about you. Not shocking, not shocking because you're so great. But I just think that makes a stand up guy. He could have come on and been like, m she ignored me with all her friends and Lula lulit. No, he was a solid dude. He was like, she's gorgeous, she's wonderful.
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Speaker 2: The date was great.
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Speaker 4: I'd love to see her again. He just had really great things to say about you, and I have a lot of respect for that.
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Speaker 2: I've got to echo that. I listened to the podcast, Mercedes, and I was even more adamant. Oh, she's got to give him a second date. She's got to give him a second champion. I really because he when he was talking about the date, and he was saying, you know, there were all these people she had like people, and I had no one. But I made it work. I thought he came across on the podcast a really positive person who's ready to engage to have fun. He thought you were beautiful. He said that if you were in La he would have already had another date with you. He just said, you check a lot of boxes. And I do agree that it's really hard to go on a first date at a concert with when you know no one and the girl you're having to date and knows everyone. I went such a.
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Speaker 4: I'm with Kathy, I think you ought to give him a second chance, even if it's just like a quick drink, if he makes his way to Nashville, because it sounds like he's there quite a bit. Yeah, even if he just makes his way to Nashville and you guys meet for a drink, just to see without anybody else there, without any other noise, if there is anything there. Because I think he's a really great I think he's a really great guy, whether he's yours or not. But I believe that it is worth a second date to just see, to just see if there's any mystery there.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree. I definitely like the first day was. It was good, And it says a lot about his character and who he is that he could just like jump in and do whatever. Do you know, Like not a lot of people can do that, I will say. And we were actually texting the other day and I was like you know, distance is hard, and we both agreed that we were like kind of on the same page as like we were very aware that we live in different cities and like that's really really hard. But he was like, if we ever like find each other in if I'm in Nashville or you're in LA, like let's catch up.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, yeah, but let me let me just say that that sounds sort of fatalistic to me, Like, yeah, it's nice knowing you. You know, if I ever crossed your way again, I think you should be intentional with him about trying to set up a gate that you know, in the next let's just say month, surely you'll be in LA or he'll be in Nashville. And and like Deanna said, get together have a drink, because I really, I mean I only spoken briefly at the concert, and I did feel for him that you knew everyone, he knew no one, plus just chasing you both up and down from the bar and back up the suite again. So I didn't have a whole lot of time, but I really liked what I heard when he was talking to Ben. I really think I think you should do it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I need to I honestly haven't listened to it, so I need to listen to it and then. But no, he's a great guy at the end of the day, and I do think I should give him another date for sure.
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Speaker 4: I think it's quite interesting given we're on the same podcast and we went on the same scenario for two days. Right, I had a different experience, And I think that's why I'm so advocating for you to have a second date, because my scenario was very different. Like the guy that I went on a date with, he really didn't engage with anybody else there. Right, Kathy was there, she knows.
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Speaker 2: Are we talking about the guy at the concert, Deanna? Yeah, unbelievably different vibe.
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Speaker 4: It's night and day my date to Mercedes date.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Bryce was really trying to get to talk to everyone and really trying to engage with all of us and make the best of a situation where, you know what, Dianna's state kind of stood there like a statue and just he didn't even try to engage.
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Speaker 4: Like he was a placeholder. He was there, yes, you know, for for whatever reason he was, I don't know, maybe he's doing somebody a solid and just showing up so I actually had a date. That's what it felt like, do you know what I mean? Or like your date was actually engaging and genuinely interested in you, like that was seen across the room. So I just think that if we're comparing the two and it's not a point of comparison, that's not what I mean. I'm rooting for you to hopefully explore, to see if there is something else there. That's what I'm rooting for. Mine was clear as day that there was nothing there. He did not try to talk to anybody else in the suite, he didn't leave the suite, he left early. He didn't even ask my phone number, Like there was like it was like nothing on.
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Speaker 2: A scale of one to ten, about a minus one.
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Speaker 4: Really, Oh my god, he's a nice guy. There just wasn't anything there.
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Speaker 2: I mean, there was no connection with yeah, Jna or frankly anyone else where Mercedes. I thought. Bryce really tried. I know, he chatted with me, and I did throw him for a loop though, when when I first met him and I said, so, what are you looking for? And he said, you know? And he said this on the on the podcast with Ben and his mother, He said, you know, I'm just looking for a beautiful woman. And then he said, but you know, beautiful looks different different people. I'm looking for someone who has he's intrinsic qualities. Like he he spoke very well about what beauty meant him. But when he said it to me, I thought, is he really like superficial saying I want a beautiful woman?
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Speaker 4: He's not. I feel like there's so he's.
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Speaker 2: Not a different what I'm saying. He has so much more depth.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, for someone who has like been in like a spiritual growth journey and working on myself. I could see that through the things that he was saying. There's a part of it where he's still trying to look cool and attractive, Like I could see that, but there was also I could read between the lines that there is growth in the things that he had to say. And listen, y'all would all be lying if you weren't, like, we want some tall, dark and handsome to show up who's super freaking hot. Like, come, there's a piece of it where we're all really superficial. Of course, he went's a beautiful girl.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So we have to be proud of ourselves. We have put ourselves out there. I went to two Christmas parties this past week, solo, literally solo, and this really good looking guy came up to me and I thought, thank you God, my Christmas is come early. And we were standing and he introduced himself and the minute up in his mouth. I hadn't been at this party forty five minutes and I had another one to go to. So I was honestly finishing my drink, getting ready to leave. And when I tell you drunk, he his tongue with two thick no oh no, and yeah. I just so literally forty five minutes in and he's he's drunk. He said, you know, I don't know anyone here. I'm here. It was from out of town there lies he I would say, he's in the sixties, so you.
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Speaker 4: Know, you know enough to know better.
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Speaker 2: You're appropriate for me and a really good looking guy, but so drunk. And so I said to him, uh, you know, he said, you're you know, you're beautiful. I mean it was bad. So I said, you know, I wish I hope you have a great holiday. I got to run out the door. Oh my god. But I was proud of myself that I did it. I went by myself and I went from there to the next party, which was a much younger crowd, uh, but still lots of fun. And you know, I put myself out there. That's that's what we got to do.
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Speaker 4: That's really awesome, Kathy. You know, as someone who does not drink anymore, the drunkenness I cannot tolerate. I don't mind dating someone who drinks. That doesn't bother me, but I cannot tolerate like drunkenness, like slurring your words, not remembering it.
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Speaker 2: Is never I don't care what you say drinking, you know, getting a buzz on whatever you want to call it, giving your confidence, all that stuff. Here's what I have seen people do. They get drunk and then they use alcohols and excuse for bad behavior, and it's never an excuse for bad pain.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, or people will get like too drunks because they're nervous, and then it's just like you're ruining it for yourself right before you even talk to someone, Like get a good buzz, but like getting too drunk is like it's very good thing.
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Speaker 4: Even when I did drink, I don't feel like I went on a first date and got too drunk. Do you know what I mean like I still wanted to be able to make sure I liked someone and to be able to read the room correctly, but even more so now that I don't drink. For me, it feels like a solid lesson, Like mind your p's and q's. We still want to show up and impress someone. Don't be sloppy on a first or second or third date. Don't be sloppy in general.
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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say, I think good rule of thumb is don't ever get slapped with alcohols. I mean, if you're with a bunch of girls on a girl's weekend, yeah great, but I'm dating Uh.
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Speaker 4: No, No, it's just not cute. It's not a good look. Don't show up that way. Don't show up. I too went to a Christmas party, but I did not have the same experience Kathy. It was all women. I know, I didn't I know.
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Speaker 2: But still that you know, I mean, honestly, I'm I'm going to give you kudos, Deanna, because I find it difficult sometimes to go out, even with a bunch of I was out with girls last night. Sometimes it's hard to get the clothes on, get the makeup on, to show up just because it's hard. Even if it's with girls. You know, there's lots of questions, what are you doing? Are you're dating? It's always the same kind of stuff, So I find that difficult as well. Sometimes.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I think I've learned to show up in certain ways and it's so hard. And I know you both understand this having been on television and you know. Not to take it back to Bryce, but he said when I was listening to the conversation between you and Bryce and I was there, Mercedes, he made the comment of, like, you guys not going to know each other beforehand because you don't want to preconceived notion. And I feel that for myself. I have a really hard time going to parties or making new friends or dating in general because if they know who I am or they have Googled me, that is a turnoff because then they have a preconceived notion of who they think that I am. And my experience, I have found that people don't truly want to get to know me. They want to get to know that person that they saw on TV. They think they know that person, so they don't try to get to know me. They just think that they know this person and that's hard. Like in dating general, that feels really hard for me.
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Speaker 3: I think that's my least favorite thing about dating like today is because social media is so in the center of our world and Google and all these things that like you and especially like you said us being on TV, we're really easy to find and before and I'm I do this too. I will say, like I am the type of girl before a date. I'm like looking at your social media, like you know, like I've definitely been that girl. So like going on blind dates. I think it's really cool because yeah, you're not able to do that and you have no you don't know.
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Speaker 2: This person like you're literally just it's like, so here's something, here's something for you both to look forward to when you get to be my age. Men my age and really even five and ten years younger, they don't they're not on social media Facebook.
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Speaker 4: Maybe that is so attractive to me. Nice, it is so attractive.
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Speaker 2: It is. Uh, But to your point, Deanna, I've had a few guys that have found me through Facebook or whatever, or friends have set me up, but they have done the research once they know no, Yep.
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Speaker 4: It's an itch for me, it's an inch for me. To for me for them to show up and say, oh, I know who you are. I watched your show however, long time, long ago. That's that's unattractive for me. When someone walks up and they're like, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't watch your show. I'm like, no, please, No.
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Speaker 3: I love when people say that.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so attractive to me. If you come up and you're like, oh no, no, no, I know you may sound this on Instagram, it's a hard pass for me. It is immediately a turn off. It's hard for me to move.
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Speaker 2: All right, Wait, do you guys really be You said it's a turn off that they're checking out your social media, But would either of you really want a guy who has no social media?
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Speaker 4: No, I want him to have social media so that I can go down the rabbit hole was I was messaging you guys last week because this guy reached out to me on Instagram and said that he listens to the podcast, and one of his friends told him that he should message me, and he messaged our producer Heather as well, well listen, I'm keeping my options open. So I immediately go to this guy's profile, but it's private, and I'm like, oh, who has a private profile these days, and I couldn't get a solid picture of him. So it allows me to be a little bit of a detective to try and find things out to see because there has to be some piece.
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Speaker 2: Has he reached out to you yet?
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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, we've had a full on conversation on Instagram. But I need like a wow, he doesn't even live here, you guys, he lives like in northern California. He doesn't even live here.
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Speaker 2: Don't let distance get in your way.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not letting it get in my way. But I am completely acknowledging that my free time is very minimum. Okay, so I have a set schedule with my kids. So say if I have a stretch of five days where I don't have the kids, am I really flying to northern California to spend.
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Speaker 2: The hour with a guy said he's going to fly to you.
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Speaker 4: He has kids too, that's the thing. So he has young kids too. So I just from the get go, before there is any attachment made or any feelings or anything that happens, I'm immediately like, uh, this is probably not going to work. He has his children are younger than mine. Just listen, I'm running this whole scenario out just from what I see on his social media. His children look to be younger than mine. But I immediately am like, well, it's probably not going to work. How much time could I truly invest?
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Speaker 2: I will say I to be fair. When you have young children, Deanna and Anyonheen you're dating has young children, and you've got you know, divorce, You've got their dads or whatever it is, You've got the mechanics, it's complicated to set up to set up.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, in a dream scenario, I'd love to find someone here in Los Angeles, you know, and given that that's long distance as it is, I mean, it could take me twenty minutes to get to someone's house for four hours, right, you know what I mean? I would ideally love to find someone here in Los Angeles so that it's like, hey, let's meet up on Thursday night and drive down and be able to sleep in my own bed at night and drive back.
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Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
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Speaker 4: That would be an ideal scenario for me because I am not in a position realistically that if I met someone back home in Georgia, I'm not moving home for another ten years at least. Yeah, so what does that really look like?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it is different. I really hadn't given that serious thought. It is true I have kids here, but I've made it very clear that I will move if.
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Speaker 4: I but your children are older.
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Speaker 2: That's right I'm saying. I'm saying that I absolutely give a lot of credence to that whole thought. Now that you have young kids, you can't just pack up and.
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Speaker 4: I can't pack up and move and somebody else and he probably he can't, so it goes just it's back to the whole thing. Like I I it's a love hate relationship with social media. If they're posting shirtless, come get ready with me, that's an ick for me. But it's so it's so bad something where I can go down the rabbit hole to see if they're attractive or not. I enjoy that.
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Speaker 3: I don't know.
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Speaker 4: What do you think, Mercedes?
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Speaker 3: I always say like a man with under a thousand followers is my type of man. Like with social media. You know, like they have social media. It's not like they're like against it, but they're not like they're not making it their life, do you know what I'm saying? Like they're not Again, the get readies with me, or like the gym shirtless picks.
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Speaker 4: I'm like, look what's in my coffee?
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Speaker 3: Yeah?
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Speaker 4: Thank you? No?
00:16:43
Speaker 2: Thanks? Can I give you something to look forward to?
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Speaker 3: Yes?
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Speaker 2: When you? When the guys did are on social media that think it's really hot to post pictures themselves with baseball caps on backwards.
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Speaker 4: I love that.
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Speaker 2: Wait in bathrooms, any any combination of this scenario in bathrooms, shirtless sitting on the sofa with the beer, or a dead fish hanging from a hook on a boat. I mean it's all the same. It's like, really, you think that's attractive?
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Speaker 3: No? Yeah, yeah, no, it's not my vibe. Again, a man was under a thousand followers. That doesn't make it his whole personality. That's that's the dream social media man.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: I don't walk around with my phone out all the time trying to take pictures and videos of everything and putting it on social media. That's not who I am. So I for sure don't want to date a guy who is like that. I just can't have that be his pride.
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Speaker 2: I think women do it more than men, though.
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Speaker 3: For sure.
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Speaker 2: Women just post more more more about their lives and what they're doing, and I think at least that's been my experience.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I like that. I don't. I don't mind that as long as it's not the whole world, and there is something to say for guys who just make it like their entire it's their life, it's their livelihood. I don't want that. That's not the kind of life I want.
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Speaker 3: Also, I will say one thing, and this is so me. If a man follows me and they like are on social media or whatever, I automatically go to who they follow, and if they are following like girl, girl gro girl, like, I just think it says so much about that person who they're following. And if it's a whole bunch of random girls, I'm like, yeah, I'm not following you back, like I'm just another girl in the book that you're just trying to you know. So I always pay attention to who they follow.
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Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna have to make a note of that. I don't do very much like diving in Instagram, So I don't do very much well. We've talked about this before and I'm pretty sure I've said it to Kathy. People don't slide into my DMS. I don't know if that happens to you, Mercedes, But that doesn't happen to me. I get a lot of women who message me just say they followed me since the Bachelorette, or they listen to our podcast, or they like my mom tips or my freaking elf tips. These stupid elves leaving soon, thank goodness. But I don't get a lot of men who slide into my dms who are like, it doesn't happen. So this one guy, this one guy messaging me, I was like, okay, bold, I appreciate it. I at least appreciate it. But I don't that doesn't happen to me. I don't get people who slide into my dms and message me at all. So even just this this guy doing that, I was like, hey, this is bold. I really appreciate it. Like way to go I did. I told him that. I was like, I appreciate it, and then he sent me his phone number, and I was like, let's let's stile it back a bit. Let's just you know, slow down. I listened to way too many crime podcasts. I'm not trying to you know, so like, do.
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Speaker 2: You know the solution to that? Wait, I'm going to be your mother here for a minute. I my kids gave me this idea. I wasn't that smart myself. I got a Google phone number and a Google phone number. I'm telling you I've turned more people onto this again. My kids have to get the credit to You cannot trace if you give someone your mobile phone. Believe me, they can find out your address, pretty much everything they want to know about you. But a Google phone number is untraceable. And I will tell you my sign of can I trust a guy when I give And I've had it happen twice where I gave him my Google number and it comes through as a random number. It's weird how they dealt. But when they dial you, they have to say who they are and then it rings and you can accept or deny the call. I've had two guys say to me, why are you doing that? I said, because I'm concerned about safety and I don't know you. And if they take that badly, if they don't like that. Out most men that when I've talked to them, they're like, oh my god, that's so smart. I'm glad that you care about your safety. So that's what I do. And then they you know, so that's something you might try, or you can also do calls through Instagram, Facebook. I don't know if those are traceable though, I just don't.
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Speaker 4: I don't know either, but that's a really good tip. Thank you for telling me that, because I'm not tech savvy. And I also have this dream that I'm going to walk in the Whole Foods and be perusing the asparagus and be blown off my socks. You know what I mean. That's I'm dreaming that I'm going to meet some man in the wild and I was in the airport.
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Speaker 2: He's not going to be in the asparagus isle. The guy that, you know, the hot, the cool dude is gonna be I know. But the hot cool dudes are going to be in the side of B file. You know, they're gonna be in the Ribbi steak section.
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Speaker 3: Yes, I always think I'm gonna My dream is like in an airport. I'm like, so every time I'm at the airport, I'm like fantasizing my life. I'm like, oh, when's my husband?
00:21:30
Speaker 2: Good?
00:21:31
Speaker 4: I did get hit on in an airport once. I did. Love that I did, and again I was like bold and me he was I call him a kid. He was like I don't know. This was like when I first got divorced. So I was like, oh my god, I'm so got hot mom vibes. But he was like, I don't know. He must have been twelve or thirteen years younger than me. And he was on my flight, like he sat like two rows back, and I obviously was eyeballing him, but I was with my kids, so it was not on the forefront of my mind. And we had been on the same connection flights and ultimately, in the last airport he did, he totally came running over and was like, Hey, I'm gonna shoot my shot, Like, here's my phone number. I think you're hot. I'd love to I'd love.
00:22:10
Speaker 2: To talk to you, and he did.
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Speaker 3: I love that.
00:22:16
Speaker 4: He was so attractive to me. It ultimately didn't go anywhere, and he lives like twenty minutes from me. We ended up seeing each other a couple of times and kept in touch. But it just the age difference. To you, guys, I just cannot Our lives are so different. But for me, those bold moves like speak wonders like shoot your shot?
00:22:34
Speaker 2: Why not? So here's something We're coming to the close of the year. Everyone we've been shooting our shots all year, but I want to know or trying to shoot our stats. I want to know it's not working, it's not working. But what is one word that you would use to describe your twenty twenty five.
00:23:06
Speaker 4: I'm going to go with rebirth. I've had it's a good one, such a tough year with the headlines to prove it that, I just am ready to be like, wash me clean, make me new, wash me clean, and make me new. I want to put all of that stuff to to rest and I am ready to just like live my best life and not be followed by the grips of my past and my divorce.
00:23:35
Speaker 2: Oh I love that.
00:23:37
Speaker 3: I love that too.
00:23:38
Speaker 2: That's a. That's a I'm going to blow a candle out make a wish for that for you too, Deanna. What about you, Mercedes?
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Speaker 3: I feel like transformative. I feel like it's a good word for me. I feel like I've really in my year of being twenty seven, twenty twenty five, I feel like I've really just like been okay with just being me, and so because of that, my standards have raised. I can say like, no, this is what I believe, and I have to feel like I have to over explain myself to people. So I feel like I've just yeah, I feel like I've really just been I've transformed into my own self and I'm finally like, this is me and if you don't like it, then see it, you know.
00:24:21
Speaker 4: So that's huge, such a good place to be in. I'm not apologetically you, especially your age.
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Speaker 2: I mean, most people take they're older when they come to that conclusion that I am who I am, take me or leave me. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, all those things that we hear. That's amazing. Yah you Mercedes.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, Kathy, I is just going to say the same thing like it took me years Mercedes to get to that point. I was still people pleasing at your age. So I think that's that's so awesome. I am so so proud of you.
00:24:49
Speaker 3: Thank you.
00:24:50
Speaker 2: My word is nothing compared to you, guys. My word is grateful.
00:24:56
Speaker 4: That's wonderful one though.
00:24:57
Speaker 2: Well, it's it's how I am. Just I'm so grateful for my health, for all of you, truly, for the whole iHeart Bachelor, the whole community, the wonderful people I've met, my kids, my grandkids. I mean, I know that we're supposed to be grateful. But every day I wake up and I try to find one thing to start the day off, something I'm grateful about the first thing that I can, you know, come up with. But I think we just, at least for me, I've gotten into this habit of until this year thinking Okay, this is this is just what's supposed to happen. And this year I really realized no intentionally thanking God and being grateful for all the blessings in my life.
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Speaker 4: Mm hmm, that's so beautiful.
00:25:48
Speaker 3: I love that.
00:25:48
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that. I love nothing more than to have like a full and grieful heart. And I make them I'm such a mom. But like I was going to say, I make my kids do that. When I pick them up from school, I'm like, hey, how your day, and like good, And I'm like, m you got to tell me something good, you know what I mean? We practice a rose and a thorn. They get to tell me something good.
00:26:08
Speaker 2: My son does highs and loves at dinner every time. I love that.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we do a rose and a thorn and then every once in a while they throw in a bud which is something that they're looking forward to. Yeah, And it's a good practice, right, because I think that in general, we have to be taught those things. You know, I don't believe that we're born with all of these gifts communication. That is a learned skill. To have a full grateful heart. I think that is a learned skill. Like I am a glass half empty person. I think that's who I naturally am. So I have to wake up and make a point to be like, oh, yeah, look at this like I have, I have a roof over my head, I can pay my bills.
00:26:46
Speaker 2: To me, Deana, you do not give up that vibe at all.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would agree not to make.
00:26:53
Speaker 2: You come of as a beautiful, assured somebody who's working hard on herself to build a strong family, who loves her kids. Quite to the opposite, I look at you as someone who's class more than half full. I mean, not him.
00:27:07
Speaker 4: Thanks, Kathy. I'm grateful you guys got to meet me this year. No, I just you know, I just don't believe that I was always that way, and.
00:27:16
Speaker 2: I am thank you for saying that progress.
00:27:18
Speaker 4: That's exactly right. I love that, Kathy grateful. That's really really awesome to be grateful for, And like.
00:27:25
Speaker 3: I feel like whenever I am like when I'm because I go through seasons, right, Like, there's some seasons where I'm like so grateful, I'm always grateful, but there's some seasons where like I do maybe get down the dumps about things. But when I am like grateful and make myself like Kathy said, every morning, like being like thank God for this, like thank you for everything, it actually changes everything about your life. It is insane when you are truly, truly, truly grateful, how many good things come into your life as.
00:27:52
Speaker 2: Well, and you're looking for them, you see them and it doesn't have to be a big thing. I was grateful. You're gonna laugh. I had a doctor's this morning. I was like, am I going to get back in time? All literally the traffic lights were green, the doctor was early. I literally said the whole way, thank you for those green lights. God, thank you for getting me. I mean, and I just like my day it started out great because I got green lights.
00:28:15
Speaker 4: You know, Yes, you're a fucking catch, Kathy, you two Mercedes. I do the same thing when I joked around with you guys that when I got up, I get up extra early because I need to get my mind right before with anybody else. And that's the first thing I do. I wake up and I pray and I meditate. I've got to get my mind right. I've I've got to put myself in the right position to show up for anyone else who has to be around me, which.
00:28:36
Speaker 2: Is why your glasses half full, because you do.
00:28:38
Speaker 1: Thanks been jumping back in here. This has been such a great conversation. You've all been so vulnerable during this pod, which is great. We've got more to chat about with these women to come. Bubb will end here for now. I've been ben