June 6, 2026
Where Is This Relationship Going? Doesn’t Matter. Welcome to “Wildflower” Dating
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Speaker 1: Hey, that evokes it is Saturday, June sixth. Then here we go again. We got another hot new dating trend that's gone viral, they tell me, and it's called wild flowering. With that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ.
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Speaker 2: Now.
00:00:21
Speaker 1: I started this thing off sarcastically because I say it's a brand new thing and it might sound familiar to a lot of folks as the same old thing people have been doing for a long time.
00:00:30
Speaker 3: We just gave it a new name.
00:00:31
Speaker 2: Yes, this is all probably courtesy of TikTok or social media trends, where mostly I feel like these dating trend names are led by zoomers, the gen zers. They like to label things they like to and they were very therapy conscious.
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Speaker 4: They have ways to explain and explore.
00:00:51
Speaker 2: So maybe that's why we're talking about these ad nauseum. But yeah, this trend is nothing new and it's certainly not for everybody.
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Speaker 1: Um because don't we isn't that a big debate? It's going on forever. Once you start dating someone, you want to figure out what are we, what are we.
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Speaker 4: Doing, where are we going? Where are we headed?
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Speaker 3: And all of course are we exclusive?
00:01:19
Speaker 4: This is this my forever person this new.
00:01:22
Speaker 1: Trend, Now, this dating trend gets rid of all those questions because wild flowering is defined as when you let a relationship grow organically without enforcing any timelines or expectations. This is robe supposed to be no expectation dating.
00:01:47
Speaker 3: Sound good.
00:01:50
Speaker 4: In theory, Yes, it's very Buddhist like. It's what we're supposed to be.
00:01:55
Speaker 2: Doing about all of our honestly endeavors and relationships. We're suppose to not have expectations. We're supposed to not be invested in the outcome because when we are, that is, if you think about it, what causes all of our worry and stress? What's going to happen? Does he really love me? Is he gonna stay with me forever? What does he think about me? Like all of these things all are tied to an outcome.
00:02:19
Speaker 1: I'm in a committed relationship and that sounded exhausting. All those things you listed to have to do and what gets in people's heads. So by wild flowering rooms, you have no expectations going into it. Now, when you first started your ends, I kind of stopped and got stuck on one word you use. You said, this works in theory.
00:02:41
Speaker 2: Because I do think if we're being honest. Yes, that sounds wonderful. I wish I could go through.
00:02:46
Speaker 4: My whole life like that. That would be so.
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Speaker 2: Peaceful, truly, like, hey, you do you, I'll do me. When we connect awesome, when we don't awesome. That would be so wonderful to be able to be in that constant state of mind. But the reality is we're not. And I do think the reality is most of us do want to know what's happening, where we're going, what the other person's thinking.
00:03:10
Speaker 4: And what the parameters are of a relationship.
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Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe this wouldn't be for you, and they do warn this isn't for everybody, but the idea, of course, a flower a wild flower, it just blossoms organically, so that's some of the language behind this. But yes, you don't put a label on what you are. There's no timeline on what you should be doing. There is nothing, and like you said, no expectations. We like to say this a lot, and you were probably one of the first to introduced this idea to me. Not being invested in the outcome it drives you mad. You, I mean, just generally people always invested in the outcome. How about dating that way, this is what wild flowering is supposed to be.
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Speaker 2: Look, I think when you're maybe, I could be maybe I'm I'm only just speaking yes through my own lens, of my own experience. I'm imagining when you're younger, it's maybe when you are a gen z or a Zoomer in your twenties, You've got your whole life ahead of you, So why not have some fun explorer, see what you like, see you don't like. Don't hold people to some timeline or your They say that the opposite is a lot of people go when they're very intentional, and that's another style of dating where you actually literally on day date one or day two, start literally doing a marriage questionnaire. How many kids do you want? When do you want to get married? Where you want to live?
00:04:26
Speaker 3: What was that?
00:04:28
Speaker 2: I'll come up with it a second, But yes, so there is the literal mirror opposite of it, which people are doing as well. And I think most dating experts would argue that somewhere in between might be nice.
00:04:37
Speaker 4: But I do think it's kind of cool this concept.
00:04:39
Speaker 2: The more I was thinking about wildflower wild flowering, you know, I love my gardens. But the whole point about like having a houseplant or even having beautiful flowers in your box is you have to water them. You have to nurture them, you have to fertilize them, you have to love them and pay attention to them. But a wild flower flourishes just by whatever Mother Nature gives, the wind, the rain, the sun, whatever it is.
00:05:04
Speaker 4: It's just what happens.
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Speaker 2: It's not that anyone is deliberately watering and fertilizing and feeding. So look, I think that's amazing if you can be a wildflower. But I think most of us are houseplants.
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Speaker 3: Then we need watering, and.
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Speaker 2: We need fertilizing, we need sustenance, we need nurturing. We need because a garden will not grow, it will not grow on its own. You have to love it. You have to take care of it. You have to prune it. You have to get rid of the things that aren't working. You have to all I love. I love a metaphor, a garden metaphor for loving someone. It's so the wildflower thing is cool too, that that whole concept fascinates me, that these gorgeous things can just spring out of nothing and continue to flourish without any extra care.
00:05:47
Speaker 1: Yes, they were allowed to just be so I guess that's there's something to that. I hadn't heard that were our producer, right, Yes, this is from Sam again SyncE does this, but apparently this came from mumble dating app coined this at some point and they had a survey role I think goes out of the UK, but two out of every three people report it feeling more flirty in the springtime, so that was part of where this came from and the name came from. Aren't there some obvious upsides if you're into this? But babe, you just listed all those things that people obsessed about when they're dating.
00:06:28
Speaker 3: All that goes away. There's no pressure.
00:06:30
Speaker 2: Well, I guess, but here's where I would just say, in theory, it goes away. I mean, I guess that's amazing if you truly can be that person. I just don't know if I know many people who can honestly not be invested in the outcome. But yeah, sure there's no pressure so you can roll with it. And I think, I don't know, is this easier when you're somebody who's playing the field has girlfriends in different cities or different zip codes whatever, or I should say girlfriends boyfriends, too. But the no immediate label I'm totally fine with, I think, but at a certain point, don't people want a label?
00:07:09
Speaker 3: Why do we have labels? Off of the bat? Why are we trying to define what we are?
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Speaker 1: Where you're just let's just be because as soon as you come up with a label, now it comes with a different responsibility or the next thing or the next thing. Let's just organically let this thing happen. Is if we end up in that place, we end up in that place.
00:07:28
Speaker 2: You know what, though, it's so funny because obviously our previous episode, and we've been doing daily episodes on Love Island, that is kind of the theory behind this social experiment where they go in freely and yeah, they couple up, but they're supposed to still be keeping their options open.
00:07:41
Speaker 4: There's no set expectation.
00:07:43
Speaker 2: In fact, they kind of go and flirt around the idea of are we or aren't we something beyond this? But there's always that gnawing question, like in the back of most people's minds, do you think that this is humanly possible to actually exist like this?
00:08:01
Speaker 3: Forever I didn't.
00:08:02
Speaker 1: Make the connection, but this now absolutely goes with the last episode or two of love island robes because after twenty four or up to forty eight hours, they wanted specific labels, labels, timeline expectations were all made within a day.
00:08:23
Speaker 4: Are we exclusive?
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Speaker 1: And as soon as there was any little suggestion that that wasn't the.
00:08:29
Speaker 4: Case, explosion.
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Speaker 2: And let me ask you this, do you think, because I have an opinion, but I want to hear it from a man, do you think men would flourish more in this way of dating? Or would women like who would be better equipped to be a wildflower?
00:08:48
Speaker 1: And this goes with the next section I have about the downside. There is a suggestion that some just use this as an excuse to date around into night.
00:09:00
Speaker 2: Commit correct, because I do think human nature, at least my experience has shown me, it's very easy to have that laissez fair attitude. Let me just play the field and see, and I'm having a little bit of this and a little bit of that. Until you meet that person that makes your heart sing, until you meet that person that you're like, oh my god, I just got knocked off my feet, then it's very hard.
00:09:23
Speaker 4: To have that same laissez faire attitude.
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Speaker 2: Maybe it isn't, but it certainly is for me, it's very easy to say all of this until you meet that person who you just fall head over heels for and.
00:09:35
Speaker 4: What a beautiful, amazing feeling that is.
00:09:38
Speaker 2: But it comes with a lot of neediness, it does emotionally because you feel so much, you're so vulnerable, you care so much.
00:09:45
Speaker 4: And now you just got to be like, eh, who cares what happens? Easy come, easy go. But that's tough to apply to someone you have feelings for.
00:09:54
Speaker 1: My God, well to that point as well, this whole episode should have just been called because every time I try to mention an upside, we end up here.
00:10:03
Speaker 3: But that's the other part.
00:10:04
Speaker 1: Yes, if both folks aren't on the same page, it leads to confusion. Confusion in a relationship leads to possible catastrophe if you're not careful. So yes, you have to make sure you're on the same page in rooms. That's this conversation you're supposed to have right off the top. And I don't know, it's probably a turn off to some people if the first thing you say is I'm not looking for anything serious.
00:10:26
Speaker 2: Yes, And look, people say that all the time, and I think that's such a fair and I actually think That's a really awesome thing to do, because if that is your headspace, you owe it to that person to say it to them. And I think if they're okay with that, they can't then hold you to something different because you've made it clear.
00:10:42
Speaker 1: Okay, is this not I know they have a name for it, and that it's a cute name that works with a hashtag and what not, wild flowering, But this isn't a new trend. I'm saying this is not some brand new dating style now.
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Speaker 2: Right, No, But I do think interestingly when you put a name on it and you have it trending on social media, I do I think it makes people think about their attitude towards dating, and it maybe helps you define what you want and what you don't want. And I think that's super super helpful when you're looking for companionship.
00:11:13
Speaker 1: Well, yes, we said, this is just the latest one. You might have remember not too long back, Robes was hitting me rapid fire with all the new dating trends and all the cute names. A quick reminder when we come backs there, All right, We're back here on Amy and TJ on this Saturday, June sixth, what was it called it?
00:11:42
Speaker 3: Again? All these labels.
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Speaker 1: Now wild flowering is this latest idea of you just letting a relationship blossom naturally, no pressure, just roll with it, no labels, no timeline, no expectations, no promises, no nothing. Let's just see where this thing goes. Now, some ups and some downside to that. But you had me robes recently. I think we did it in one episode. But you hit me with all these new dating trends and all the names shreking, banksing, zip coding, throning, I don't remember what they all meant? Was shreking the one where you pick someone you think is not as attractive.
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Speaker 2: Correct, So you you deliberately pick somebody who you think is not anywhere close to being your level of attractivis in fact, like you're gorgeous and they're not, or yes.
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Speaker 3: They're supposed to be happy to be with you.
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Speaker 2: The idea would be that, yes, you you then pick somebody who is so feels so lucky to be with you that they will basically treat you like a princess. So you've you've picked a shrek, so they'll treat you like princess shere wrecking and so yes, they wouldn't ever be able to get anyone as hot as you, and therefore you get someone to worship you.
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Speaker 4: That is the idea behind trucking.
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Speaker 3: You remember bank seeing? I remember the name, and I remember what bank singing.
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Speaker 4: Hold on bank seeing is?
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Speaker 3: You got zip coding off the top of your head.
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Speaker 2: Well, I thought zip coding was keeping people you're dating from in different zip codes.
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Speaker 4: Bank seeing is this?
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Speaker 2: It's toxic dating, where a partner quietly checks out a relationship, checks out of a relationship emotionally over weeks or months, while pretending everything is completely fine. So banksing, you know, obviously he leaves these you know, writings on the wall and then disappears. So yeah, you basically are kind of planning your exit and you do it suddenly, and you don't give the person any notice that you're doing it.
00:13:41
Speaker 3: And one was the other one I was asking you about. We were trying to come up with.
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Speaker 4: I haven't found it yet. I'm trying.
00:13:49
Speaker 3: You remember throwing then.
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Speaker 4: Was when you want somebody to put you up.
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Speaker 2: Wait, I'm looking at all these other dating trends.
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Speaker 4: This is so funny.
00:13:58
Speaker 2: So throning is when the practice of pursuing or staying in a relationship primarily to boost your own social status, reputation.
00:14:08
Speaker 4: Or ego.
00:14:08
Speaker 2: So you pick someone who you can literally wribe their coattails on. Oh that is like you're dating for clout or marrying up kind of a thing.
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Speaker 3: Wow, you're getting throwned baby.
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Speaker 4: Oh I've married up.
00:14:22
Speaker 3: No, I'm doing the throning your tight. Oh man, this is going terrible. See we've been out of the dating game too long. Yeah, the late is it?
00:14:32
Speaker 1: These are always fun and it's always fun to see yay if something new is out there. But actually, just it's kind of cool to see they're finding a new label for it and they're finding a different place to have the conversation, and that, frankly is cool. And you can relate to other folks. Look, folks are sharing experiences now and maybe they're learning from each other. So it is establishing a community of daters.
00:14:56
Speaker 2: I I do like it. I think it gets people talking. I think it gets people thinking.
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Speaker 4: I do think anytime you can be.
00:15:04
Speaker 2: Intentional about what you want, I think it helps you understand yourself and it understands who to look for and what.
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Speaker 4: You want out of a relationship.
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Speaker 2: And I think it's important to know those things before you start dating around and I did finally get the dating trend where you just do the exact opposite of wildflowering.
00:15:23
Speaker 4: It's called hot take dating.
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Speaker 2: So basically, you vet your potential partner immediately on political stances, environmental value, social issues, how you handle money, what your deal breakers are, you talk about children, basically all the things that we tiptoe around trying to figure out if this is a person who we might want to date exclusively.
00:15:44
Speaker 4: They say on a first date. It's called hot take dating.
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Speaker 2: Let's just figure out right now if we even have a shot at going forward.
00:15:51
Speaker 1: And if you are of the wildflower camp and you are going on a first date with a hot take data, that's going to be.
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Speaker 3: A good time.
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Speaker 4: I would watch that show.
00:16:01
Speaker 1: That's gonna be a good time. All right, folks, good luck out there dating. Apparently it's wild out there. With that, we appreciate you. Listen on TJ on behalf of my dear Ammy. Robot will talk to him
Speaker 1: Hey, that evokes it is Saturday, June sixth. Then here we go again. We got another hot new dating trend that's gone viral, they tell me, and it's called wild flowering. With that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ.
00:00:21
Speaker 2: Now.
00:00:21
Speaker 1: I started this thing off sarcastically because I say it's a brand new thing and it might sound familiar to a lot of folks as the same old thing people have been doing for a long time.
00:00:30
Speaker 3: We just gave it a new name.
00:00:31
Speaker 2: Yes, this is all probably courtesy of TikTok or social media trends, where mostly I feel like these dating trend names are led by zoomers, the gen zers. They like to label things they like to and they were very therapy conscious.
00:00:48
Speaker 4: They have ways to explain and explore.
00:00:51
Speaker 2: So maybe that's why we're talking about these ad nauseum. But yeah, this trend is nothing new and it's certainly not for everybody.
00:01:01
Speaker 1: Um because don't we isn't that a big debate? It's going on forever. Once you start dating someone, you want to figure out what are we, what are we.
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Speaker 4: Doing, where are we going? Where are we headed?
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Speaker 3: And all of course are we exclusive?
00:01:19
Speaker 4: This is this my forever person this new.
00:01:22
Speaker 1: Trend, Now, this dating trend gets rid of all those questions because wild flowering is defined as when you let a relationship grow organically without enforcing any timelines or expectations. This is robe supposed to be no expectation dating.
00:01:47
Speaker 3: Sound good.
00:01:50
Speaker 4: In theory, Yes, it's very Buddhist like. It's what we're supposed to be.
00:01:55
Speaker 2: Doing about all of our honestly endeavors and relationships. We're suppose to not have expectations. We're supposed to not be invested in the outcome because when we are, that is, if you think about it, what causes all of our worry and stress? What's going to happen? Does he really love me? Is he gonna stay with me forever? What does he think about me? Like all of these things all are tied to an outcome.
00:02:19
Speaker 1: I'm in a committed relationship and that sounded exhausting. All those things you listed to have to do and what gets in people's heads. So by wild flowering rooms, you have no expectations going into it. Now, when you first started your ends, I kind of stopped and got stuck on one word you use. You said, this works in theory.
00:02:41
Speaker 2: Because I do think if we're being honest. Yes, that sounds wonderful. I wish I could go through.
00:02:46
Speaker 4: My whole life like that. That would be so.
00:02:49
Speaker 2: Peaceful, truly, like, hey, you do you, I'll do me. When we connect awesome, when we don't awesome. That would be so wonderful to be able to be in that constant state of mind. But the reality is we're not. And I do think the reality is most of us do want to know what's happening, where we're going, what the other person's thinking.
00:03:10
Speaker 4: And what the parameters are of a relationship.
00:03:12
Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe this wouldn't be for you, and they do warn this isn't for everybody, but the idea, of course, a flower a wild flower, it just blossoms organically, so that's some of the language behind this. But yes, you don't put a label on what you are. There's no timeline on what you should be doing. There is nothing, and like you said, no expectations. We like to say this a lot, and you were probably one of the first to introduced this idea to me. Not being invested in the outcome it drives you mad. You, I mean, just generally people always invested in the outcome. How about dating that way, this is what wild flowering is supposed to be.
00:03:51
Speaker 2: Look, I think when you're maybe, I could be maybe I'm I'm only just speaking yes through my own lens, of my own experience. I'm imagining when you're younger, it's maybe when you are a gen z or a Zoomer in your twenties, You've got your whole life ahead of you, So why not have some fun explorer, see what you like, see you don't like. Don't hold people to some timeline or your They say that the opposite is a lot of people go when they're very intentional, and that's another style of dating where you actually literally on day date one or day two, start literally doing a marriage questionnaire. How many kids do you want? When do you want to get married? Where you want to live?
00:04:26
Speaker 3: What was that?
00:04:28
Speaker 2: I'll come up with it a second, But yes, so there is the literal mirror opposite of it, which people are doing as well. And I think most dating experts would argue that somewhere in between might be nice.
00:04:37
Speaker 4: But I do think it's kind of cool this concept.
00:04:39
Speaker 2: The more I was thinking about wildflower wild flowering, you know, I love my gardens. But the whole point about like having a houseplant or even having beautiful flowers in your box is you have to water them. You have to nurture them, you have to fertilize them, you have to love them and pay attention to them. But a wild flower flourishes just by whatever Mother Nature gives, the wind, the rain, the sun, whatever it is.
00:05:04
Speaker 4: It's just what happens.
00:05:06
Speaker 2: It's not that anyone is deliberately watering and fertilizing and feeding. So look, I think that's amazing if you can be a wildflower. But I think most of us are houseplants.
00:05:16
Speaker 3: Then we need watering, and.
00:05:18
Speaker 2: We need fertilizing, we need sustenance, we need nurturing. We need because a garden will not grow, it will not grow on its own. You have to love it. You have to take care of it. You have to prune it. You have to get rid of the things that aren't working. You have to all I love. I love a metaphor, a garden metaphor for loving someone. It's so the wildflower thing is cool too, that that whole concept fascinates me, that these gorgeous things can just spring out of nothing and continue to flourish without any extra care.
00:05:47
Speaker 1: Yes, they were allowed to just be so I guess that's there's something to that. I hadn't heard that were our producer, right, Yes, this is from Sam again SyncE does this, but apparently this came from mumble dating app coined this at some point and they had a survey role I think goes out of the UK, but two out of every three people report it feeling more flirty in the springtime, so that was part of where this came from and the name came from. Aren't there some obvious upsides if you're into this? But babe, you just listed all those things that people obsessed about when they're dating.
00:06:28
Speaker 3: All that goes away. There's no pressure.
00:06:30
Speaker 2: Well, I guess, but here's where I would just say, in theory, it goes away. I mean, I guess that's amazing if you truly can be that person. I just don't know if I know many people who can honestly not be invested in the outcome. But yeah, sure there's no pressure so you can roll with it. And I think, I don't know, is this easier when you're somebody who's playing the field has girlfriends in different cities or different zip codes whatever, or I should say girlfriends boyfriends, too. But the no immediate label I'm totally fine with, I think, but at a certain point, don't people want a label?
00:07:09
Speaker 3: Why do we have labels? Off of the bat? Why are we trying to define what we are?
00:07:14
Speaker 1: Where you're just let's just be because as soon as you come up with a label, now it comes with a different responsibility or the next thing or the next thing. Let's just organically let this thing happen. Is if we end up in that place, we end up in that place.
00:07:28
Speaker 2: You know what, though, it's so funny because obviously our previous episode, and we've been doing daily episodes on Love Island, that is kind of the theory behind this social experiment where they go in freely and yeah, they couple up, but they're supposed to still be keeping their options open.
00:07:41
Speaker 4: There's no set expectation.
00:07:43
Speaker 2: In fact, they kind of go and flirt around the idea of are we or aren't we something beyond this? But there's always that gnawing question, like in the back of most people's minds, do you think that this is humanly possible to actually exist like this?
00:08:01
Speaker 3: Forever I didn't.
00:08:02
Speaker 1: Make the connection, but this now absolutely goes with the last episode or two of love island robes because after twenty four or up to forty eight hours, they wanted specific labels, labels, timeline expectations were all made within a day.
00:08:23
Speaker 4: Are we exclusive?
00:08:25
Speaker 1: And as soon as there was any little suggestion that that wasn't the.
00:08:29
Speaker 4: Case, explosion.
00:08:32
Speaker 2: And let me ask you this, do you think, because I have an opinion, but I want to hear it from a man, do you think men would flourish more in this way of dating? Or would women like who would be better equipped to be a wildflower?
00:08:48
Speaker 1: And this goes with the next section I have about the downside. There is a suggestion that some just use this as an excuse to date around into night.
00:09:00
Speaker 2: Commit correct, because I do think human nature, at least my experience has shown me, it's very easy to have that laissez fair attitude. Let me just play the field and see, and I'm having a little bit of this and a little bit of that. Until you meet that person that makes your heart sing, until you meet that person that you're like, oh my god, I just got knocked off my feet, then it's very hard.
00:09:23
Speaker 4: To have that same laissez faire attitude.
00:09:27
Speaker 2: Maybe it isn't, but it certainly is for me, it's very easy to say all of this until you meet that person who you just fall head over heels for and.
00:09:35
Speaker 4: What a beautiful, amazing feeling that is.
00:09:38
Speaker 2: But it comes with a lot of neediness, it does emotionally because you feel so much, you're so vulnerable, you care so much.
00:09:45
Speaker 4: And now you just got to be like, eh, who cares what happens? Easy come, easy go. But that's tough to apply to someone you have feelings for.
00:09:54
Speaker 1: My God, well to that point as well, this whole episode should have just been called because every time I try to mention an upside, we end up here.
00:10:03
Speaker 3: But that's the other part.
00:10:04
Speaker 1: Yes, if both folks aren't on the same page, it leads to confusion. Confusion in a relationship leads to possible catastrophe if you're not careful. So yes, you have to make sure you're on the same page in rooms. That's this conversation you're supposed to have right off the top. And I don't know, it's probably a turn off to some people if the first thing you say is I'm not looking for anything serious.
00:10:26
Speaker 2: Yes, And look, people say that all the time, and I think that's such a fair and I actually think That's a really awesome thing to do, because if that is your headspace, you owe it to that person to say it to them. And I think if they're okay with that, they can't then hold you to something different because you've made it clear.
00:10:42
Speaker 1: Okay, is this not I know they have a name for it, and that it's a cute name that works with a hashtag and what not, wild flowering, But this isn't a new trend. I'm saying this is not some brand new dating style now.
00:10:54
Speaker 2: Right, No, But I do think interestingly when you put a name on it and you have it trending on social media, I do I think it makes people think about their attitude towards dating, and it maybe helps you define what you want and what you don't want. And I think that's super super helpful when you're looking for companionship.
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Speaker 1: Well, yes, we said, this is just the latest one. You might have remember not too long back, Robes was hitting me rapid fire with all the new dating trends and all the cute names. A quick reminder when we come backs there, All right, We're back here on Amy and TJ on this Saturday, June sixth, what was it called it?
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Speaker 3: Again? All these labels.
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Speaker 1: Now wild flowering is this latest idea of you just letting a relationship blossom naturally, no pressure, just roll with it, no labels, no timeline, no expectations, no promises, no nothing. Let's just see where this thing goes. Now, some ups and some downside to that. But you had me robes recently. I think we did it in one episode. But you hit me with all these new dating trends and all the names shreking, banksing, zip coding, throning, I don't remember what they all meant? Was shreking the one where you pick someone you think is not as attractive.
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Speaker 2: Correct, So you you deliberately pick somebody who you think is not anywhere close to being your level of attractivis in fact, like you're gorgeous and they're not, or yes.
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Speaker 3: They're supposed to be happy to be with you.
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Speaker 2: The idea would be that, yes, you you then pick somebody who is so feels so lucky to be with you that they will basically treat you like a princess. So you've you've picked a shrek, so they'll treat you like princess shere wrecking and so yes, they wouldn't ever be able to get anyone as hot as you, and therefore you get someone to worship you.
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Speaker 4: That is the idea behind trucking.
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Speaker 3: You remember bank seeing? I remember the name, and I remember what bank singing.
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Speaker 4: Hold on bank seeing is?
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Speaker 3: You got zip coding off the top of your head.
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Speaker 2: Well, I thought zip coding was keeping people you're dating from in different zip codes.
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Speaker 4: Bank seeing is this?
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Speaker 2: It's toxic dating, where a partner quietly checks out a relationship, checks out of a relationship emotionally over weeks or months, while pretending everything is completely fine. So banksing, you know, obviously he leaves these you know, writings on the wall and then disappears. So yeah, you basically are kind of planning your exit and you do it suddenly, and you don't give the person any notice that you're doing it.
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Speaker 3: And one was the other one I was asking you about. We were trying to come up with.
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Speaker 4: I haven't found it yet. I'm trying.
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Speaker 3: You remember throwing then.
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Speaker 4: Was when you want somebody to put you up.
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Speaker 2: Wait, I'm looking at all these other dating trends.
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Speaker 4: This is so funny.
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Speaker 2: So throning is when the practice of pursuing or staying in a relationship primarily to boost your own social status, reputation.
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Speaker 4: Or ego.
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Speaker 2: So you pick someone who you can literally wribe their coattails on. Oh that is like you're dating for clout or marrying up kind of a thing.
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Speaker 3: Wow, you're getting throwned baby.
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Speaker 4: Oh I've married up.
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Speaker 3: No, I'm doing the throning your tight. Oh man, this is going terrible. See we've been out of the dating game too long. Yeah, the late is it?
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Speaker 1: These are always fun and it's always fun to see yay if something new is out there. But actually, just it's kind of cool to see they're finding a new label for it and they're finding a different place to have the conversation, and that, frankly is cool. And you can relate to other folks. Look, folks are sharing experiences now and maybe they're learning from each other. So it is establishing a community of daters.
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Speaker 2: I I do like it. I think it gets people talking. I think it gets people thinking.
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Speaker 4: I do think anytime you can be.
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Speaker 2: Intentional about what you want, I think it helps you understand yourself and it understands who to look for and what.
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Speaker 4: You want out of a relationship.
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Speaker 2: And I think it's important to know those things before you start dating around and I did finally get the dating trend where you just do the exact opposite of wildflowering.
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Speaker 4: It's called hot take dating.
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Speaker 2: So basically, you vet your potential partner immediately on political stances, environmental value, social issues, how you handle money, what your deal breakers are, you talk about children, basically all the things that we tiptoe around trying to figure out if this is a person who we might want to date exclusively.
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Speaker 4: They say on a first date. It's called hot take dating.
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Speaker 2: Let's just figure out right now if we even have a shot at going forward.
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Speaker 1: And if you are of the wildflower camp and you are going on a first date with a hot take data, that's going to be.
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Speaker 3: A good time.
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Speaker 4: I would watch that show.
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Speaker 1: That's gonna be a good time. All right, folks, good luck out there dating. Apparently it's wild out there. With that, we appreciate you. Listen on TJ on behalf of my dear Ammy. Robot will talk to him