Sept. 21, 2025
Sunday Morning Run: Some Badly Need Inspiration From Mitch Albom, the Dalai Lama XIV, and Oprah Winfrey
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Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is Sunday, September the twenty first. Tranquility, happiness, passion, understanding, love. Those are the themes on this Sunday Morning Run. Welcome to this What Inspiration edition of Amy and TJ or Robes Again, give you folk credit. You pull our quotes of the week every week that go in our Monday through Friday morning run, our newscast podcast. They're always doozies, and then we come here and give them more a little more insight and background and what they mean to us. But you always pluck these out from I don't even know where, But this past week you use some that I thought were really really timely given a lot of the conversation that was going on in the country.
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Speaker 2: Look, you get there are obviously plenty of quotes out there to last for years and years and years, but there are the same ones that somehow stand out the most. So, yes, you have to do a little bit of a deeper dive when you do this on a daily But the news has been so dark and heavy. I did try to find some way to maybe take another look at things or what we can do. I think so many of us feel powerless as to what's happening around the world and specifically in our country. So I did try to find ones that maybe could lift us up or empower us as we try to navigate all of this stuff. So the first quote comes from Oprah Winfrey. She says, you get a car, you get a car, You get a car. The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.
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Speaker 1: Talk about that all the time. It seems the simplest thing in the world. But man, it's hard, isn't it. It's simple in theory, very hard in practice.
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Speaker 2: It's very hard in practice because it's easy to have a good attitude when things are growing your way. It's very difficult to have a good attitude when everything's going wrong or falling apart, or not going the way you want it to. So that is the challenge. But when you re I think that I always say this, But the first step is just recognizing. And sometimes you pointed out to me, sometimes I pointed out to you, and sometimes I figure it out on my own. Why am I making myself miserable right now? I'm not changing anything, But what I can change is my attitude. And once you make that decision. It is a decision. It might take a little while, might take a couple of minutes, might even take a couple hours, but suddenly things do start to change.
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Speaker 1: Well, the day was that I had that last week. It was like a message you say, I apologize.
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Speaker 2: Actually no, actually yes, you texted me and you said, I'm sorry that I let my frustration get the best of me. I am working on it. Now you want to go run an errand to try and change I think it was it was something I say, as simple as but it's frustrating when things like wi Fi don't work, or the thing you purchased to extend your WiFi isn't accessible because of some technical glitch. So yes, those are the kinds of things, as mundane as that is, that can set you off if you've already had other things happening, or not enough sleep, et cetera. But yeah, from the small to the large, you just kind of have to sometimes you need a beat.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I to your what it made me think of it when you said you have to recognize it, and when I recognized, okay, I'm not well, I'm frustrated and I'm getting set off by the smallest of things. And this wasn't even a matter of me blowing up. It was just a matter of just you can tell I get quiet or I get very short, and my responses get very direct.
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Speaker 2: And sometimes you let out an expletive do I? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Did I about what?
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Speaker 2: Yeah? Because you were really frustrated. I mean, you weren't saying it at me, you were just saying it in general. Hey, by the way, I'm not against that. Sometimes a cathartic f U c K or s H, I T I guess we're clean. So I was trying not to say that.
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Speaker 1: But not directed at you. You wouldn't want to nod okay, sorry.
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Speaker 2: Ahead, no no, no no. But when you say you stub your toe or you get a parking ticket, sometimes just saying it is a little bit of a release. Maybe do it in your pillow if you have to. But I actually think sometimes that is a cathartic release and then you can move on. You get a let it out, you can't keep it in.
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Speaker 1: But haven't we reported on studies that show that people who don't use profanity have higher levels of.
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Speaker 2: Stress, correct because they're not letting it out. That is a big thing I do think, yes, you need to change your attitude, but sometimes you need to let it out. I actually think you always need to let it out, whether it's on paper. Sometimes you journal. I remember, even as a kid, because I was not allowed to curse, I would go into my pillow and just say all the curse words just to get him out. And I instantly felt better. But no one heard me.
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Speaker 1: God, that sounds like Ava. I can see a little Ava doing it.
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Speaker 2: Well, Little Amy used to do that. Now I just say it out loud.
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Speaker 1: That is so funny.
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Speaker 2: All right, one last time for you from Oprah Winfrey. The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. All right. The next quote comes to us from Wayne Dyer. I'm a big fan of his work. He says this, with everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.
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Speaker 1: I get it. Gift is tough hard times to see a hard time of difficulty, adversity as a gift. It's hard I realized because everything you I, anybody's ever gone through led you to this other thing right, which was better, which was greater, which was where you should have been. But man, to think that losing a job or getting out of a relationship, or even an accident or a medical diagnosis is a gift, that's an opportunity. It's tough to think that. In the moment.
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Speaker 2: You just named every hard thing that's happened to me and to so many people in the last decade. And yes, people say, why me, how could this have happened to me? You start to feel sorry for yourself, and that is a very common human experience. But I just love what he said, because you until you're willing to turn it around and say, hey, I'm supposed to be here because I'm supposed to learn something. And I will say through all of those moments where I felt sorry for myself and I wished it had never happened, with enough time and perspective, I look back and say, thank God that happened. Like I actually can say that about losing a job. I can say that about a cancer diagnosis. And I can say that because I'm still here and I get that and other people have different experiences, but for the most part, even the things that you think our worst case scenario end up being the most important lesson you'll ever learn and will change you in ways you couldn't have imagined. But in that moment, right, don't say that to somebody, No, I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: For you when you're going through it. I can't imagine how long it took before you considered a cancer diagnosis, or a job change, or a divorce, humiliation, a blessing or a gift. In the moment, it's hard to see it as a gift.
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Speaker 2: And in the moment it's almost impossible to see us again. But I think once you go through enough of these life hardships, and I hope you don't have many, but for those of us who have had quite a few, you can at least anticipate this is going to be something that I am going to look back on and say thank you. And I've actually, after cancer other things that have happened, I've been able to say remember that perspective. My on collegeist said to me, and you doctor, and we love her. She said to me right when I was diagnosed. I know you're never going to believe me, but for every woman who has come back after five ten years. They've said to me, if I could have given back my cancer, I wouldn't because I wouldn't be the person I am today. Here's how my life has changed for the better because I am now aware of things I never was before. I couldn't believe her. I thought it was actually offensive initially when she said that to me, But now I get it. So thank you, doctor Ortz for those wise words that only were understood by me years later.
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Speaker 1: But work on your timing, doctor Ratz dst.
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Speaker 2: She's amazing, and she knew that I was going to be able to reflect on those words later. She knew it all right. Next one, this is from unknown, but all the powerful. Just as much happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like, that whole expectations things.
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Speaker 1: It's every When do you ever get disappointed in somebody only when you have an expectation that they were going to do something else? Isn't that right? Yes? Again, maybe who set the expectation? I don't know, but it's always that thing. Look at your own life. When have you ever been upset about the state of your life because it's not where you expected to be or how you expected it to go.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you feel powerless. You would like just little things. How you expect your partner to react to you in certain moments. How you expect anyone in your life, a friend, a parent, a child, how you expect them to react when they don't do what you think they should or what they're supposed to. That creates so much suffering. And I have been learning that the expectation should simply be placed on myself. I'm responsible for me, I'm responsible for how I feel. I'm responsible for soothing myself and for making myself what I want to be.
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Speaker 1: I can't happy to watch your gross I.
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Speaker 2: Can't put I'm just but how many of us and I am so guilty of this. Somehow put that on other people that they're supposed to do this for me, and that is a recipe for unhappiness.
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Speaker 1: We still kind of pause when we're here, and I get it. It's not the worst thing in the world, but it is sometimes a red flag warning sign. When you hear you make me happy. That's supposed to be an innocuous phrase, this person makes me happy, but I always hesitate a little bit like do they, Because if they make you happy, that means they can take it away. They're in control of your happiness is always a little something I hesitate on. I get what it means, But.
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Speaker 2: How about you contribute to my joy?
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Speaker 1: I'm happy already, you are enhancing it. If there's anybody in your life, if you're happy, that takes away from it exactly.
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Speaker 2: But you also can't put that on someone else and expect someone else to make you happy. I agree so much. I have actually said that to someone before. I can't be the source of your happiness. It's way too much pressure and we're going to crumble.
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Speaker 1: And I took it to heart. I did.
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Speaker 2: I did not say that to you, all right. The next one. Wow, we needed some words of wisdom from the Dali Lama this week, and I do appreciate what the Dalai Lama has had to say.
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Speaker 1: Isn't this the one you keep saying, Let's just do a week of Dali Lama? Yes?
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Speaker 2: I should do it because Dhali Lama is just remarkable. Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.
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Speaker 1: Damn, just compassion and understanding for others. We should just we should include that in every podcast we do, just a compassion and understanding for others.
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Speaker 2: And I appreciate that he used the word development of because we're not always it's not right there. You don't always feel compassion or understanding for someone who you vehemently oppose or disagree with. So I like the idea of just, hey, just try and develop the compassion and understanding for others. The development of where works in progress. So don't beat yourself up if you jump to feeling angry or even you know, extreme anger towards someone who you disagree with, But recognize that what is it in me that feels so threatened or so triggered? That word everybody uses now, And instead of putting it on the other person for having a different belief, ask yourself why you feel so angry, And then you have to develop compassion, You have to develop understanding. It doesn't necessarily come naturally to a lot of us. In terms of self preservation. Our ego takes over and we need to be right and they need to be wrong. And that's how you feel safe and good because you're protecting your values, your beliefs. But it's compassion and understanding. That's the only thing that's going to set us free and give us peace. Thank you, Dali Lama. All right, all right, Mitch album. Does that name ring a bell to you? Oh?
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Speaker 1: Yes?
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Speaker 2: Tuesdays with Maury What an amazing book. I haven't read that in forever, but obviously people love him and I loved this quote. One day spent with someone you love can change everything. Look, we're not meant to be alone. I've talked about self empowerment and of course working on ourselves and not relying on other people to bring us joy. But my god, aren't we here to love? And that's just not ourselves, but to love other people? And so yeah, to spend a day with someone you love can change everything. And of course he wrote a lot about death and someone specifically dying Tuesdays with Maury and recognizing how precious time is and how precious that is and we should be spending it loving one another.
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Speaker 1: You know, I get into trouble with the quote, is spending time with someone you love? And I would not correcting or trying to any way take away from his quote. I just always think about spending the time and being in the moment with that person, and there's so much chaos, so much always going on, and we do, we try to make a conscious effort to be present, in particular with the kids. We got so much going on that when the kids here, they need attention. Sometimes if they don't have analyst runs off with her friends, being can run off with her friends. But when they're with us, they are with us, and it does you have to make an effort to be there and be present with that person you love in addition to not just being around them.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've had to work on that and I'm still working on not being on my phone. I know my girls have absolutely complained about that with me, more so than me complaining that about them.
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Speaker 1: That's I know.
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Speaker 2: I'm admitting that right now, But I am working on that, because yes, that's all your kids really need, that's all your partner really needs. They just need your time and your attention.
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Speaker 1: Complain about that with you all the time, you do.
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Speaker 2: I know, it's it's I am, and I am working on it.
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Speaker 1: I say, not you. I think it's us, and not even so much the phone, the matter of us sitting right next to each other and not interacting like we're so into work. I know it's work time, but there have been mornings you'll come out, sit down, and next thing, I know, an hour and a half going by. I say hi, you'll say good morning. Oh yeah. We just don't interact as if we know each other.
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Speaker 2: Right, we're colleagues.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll sit in the living room in my robe with my colleagues. You want to come, Trump's love all right?
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Speaker 2: When we come back, We've got your bonus quote for you of the weekend. It's short, it's simple, but it's powerful. Welcome back everyone to your Sunday morning run where we go over our quotes of the week. A little inspiration for all of us on this Sunday as we get our heads on straight and prep for another work week. As we begin our Sundays. This bonus quote comes to us from someone I don't know, a name I didn't recognize, Philip Pullman. He's a British author. He wrote a trilogy, a very successful trilogy. I don't know the name. No, no, But the point being, I love when I So many of these inspirational quotes come to us from authors. I guess it makes a lot of sense. They write for a living. But so many of them who I didn't ever know before, and now I'm kind of interested in reading their books because their quotes are so incredible. Now I tease ahead that this one is short and simple, but I just loved its message you cannot change what you are, only what you do what you are, because I think a lot of us are trying to change ourselves, like I want to be something different. I want to I want to have like even something as I don't want to say narcissistic, but as silly as I wish I had curlier hair or straight or hair. I wish that I was taller. I wish that I, you know, had a better job. I wish that I I wish I looked different. I wish all of those things that you cannot change. Like you are who you are. And I think a big message that I've been trying to send to myself and to my daughters is that acceptance, acceptance of what you are things you cannot change.
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm getting caught upon what you are versus who you are.
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Speaker 2: Oh well, I think you can change what you do. You can't change what you are, which is you. You are a black male who is six feet tall like those are things you cannot change. And I think a lot of people spend time wishing they were in someone else's steam, wishing they look different, wishing they had a different they were born into a different family, or born into a different financial situation. A lot of folks harp on what they cannot change what they are.
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Speaker 1: I was, you know, I was thinking about My mind went to character like to characteristics, what you are I want to change? When you said black, that makes sense to me. Now. People want to change who they are, want to be more of a this, They want to be more of a that. It's like a who thing, like who are you in that question? And I often hear people say you can't change who you are. You are who you are kind of a thing. And to hear the what threw me off from.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what or who? And maybe this was a he's a little bit older, So maybe this is even semantics from a different time or a different generation. But I do think that that is something that everyone struggles with. If you're being honest, how many times if you thought and I wish I looked like this, or was born into this, or had a different experience. Some people, you know, want to be lots of different things that they cannot change, and you're so focused on what you can't change that you don't even think about what you can change. So I like this again, all of these quotes are so empowering. You cannot change what you are, only what you do. And really, truly, the bodies that we were given to do what we do should matter a lot less than our actions because our actions, our words, our thoughts, all of that have the impact on potentially changing the world, changing ourselves, making our lives and the people around ours better. And it's by our actions, not by what we look like or the body that we were given. And I just thought that was a cool reminder from Philip Pullman. So thank you Philip Pullman for those words of wisdom. And with that everyone, thank you for listening to us on this Sunday morning run. I made me Roebuck alongside DJ Holmes. We will be talking to you very soon.
Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is Sunday, September the twenty first. Tranquility, happiness, passion, understanding, love. Those are the themes on this Sunday Morning Run. Welcome to this What Inspiration edition of Amy and TJ or Robes Again, give you folk credit. You pull our quotes of the week every week that go in our Monday through Friday morning run, our newscast podcast. They're always doozies, and then we come here and give them more a little more insight and background and what they mean to us. But you always pluck these out from I don't even know where, But this past week you use some that I thought were really really timely given a lot of the conversation that was going on in the country.
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Speaker 2: Look, you get there are obviously plenty of quotes out there to last for years and years and years, but there are the same ones that somehow stand out the most. So, yes, you have to do a little bit of a deeper dive when you do this on a daily But the news has been so dark and heavy. I did try to find some way to maybe take another look at things or what we can do. I think so many of us feel powerless as to what's happening around the world and specifically in our country. So I did try to find ones that maybe could lift us up or empower us as we try to navigate all of this stuff. So the first quote comes from Oprah Winfrey. She says, you get a car, you get a car, You get a car. The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.
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Speaker 1: Talk about that all the time. It seems the simplest thing in the world. But man, it's hard, isn't it. It's simple in theory, very hard in practice.
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Speaker 2: It's very hard in practice because it's easy to have a good attitude when things are growing your way. It's very difficult to have a good attitude when everything's going wrong or falling apart, or not going the way you want it to. So that is the challenge. But when you re I think that I always say this, But the first step is just recognizing. And sometimes you pointed out to me, sometimes I pointed out to you, and sometimes I figure it out on my own. Why am I making myself miserable right now? I'm not changing anything, But what I can change is my attitude. And once you make that decision. It is a decision. It might take a little while, might take a couple of minutes, might even take a couple hours, but suddenly things do start to change.
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Speaker 1: Well, the day was that I had that last week. It was like a message you say, I apologize.
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Speaker 2: Actually no, actually yes, you texted me and you said, I'm sorry that I let my frustration get the best of me. I am working on it. Now you want to go run an errand to try and change I think it was it was something I say, as simple as but it's frustrating when things like wi Fi don't work, or the thing you purchased to extend your WiFi isn't accessible because of some technical glitch. So yes, those are the kinds of things, as mundane as that is, that can set you off if you've already had other things happening, or not enough sleep, et cetera. But yeah, from the small to the large, you just kind of have to sometimes you need a beat.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I to your what it made me think of it when you said you have to recognize it, and when I recognized, okay, I'm not well, I'm frustrated and I'm getting set off by the smallest of things. And this wasn't even a matter of me blowing up. It was just a matter of just you can tell I get quiet or I get very short, and my responses get very direct.
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Speaker 2: And sometimes you let out an expletive do I? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Did I about what?
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Speaker 2: Yeah? Because you were really frustrated. I mean, you weren't saying it at me, you were just saying it in general. Hey, by the way, I'm not against that. Sometimes a cathartic f U c K or s H, I T I guess we're clean. So I was trying not to say that.
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Speaker 1: But not directed at you. You wouldn't want to nod okay, sorry.
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Speaker 2: Ahead, no no, no no. But when you say you stub your toe or you get a parking ticket, sometimes just saying it is a little bit of a release. Maybe do it in your pillow if you have to. But I actually think sometimes that is a cathartic release and then you can move on. You get a let it out, you can't keep it in.
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Speaker 1: But haven't we reported on studies that show that people who don't use profanity have higher levels of.
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Speaker 2: Stress, correct because they're not letting it out. That is a big thing I do think, yes, you need to change your attitude, but sometimes you need to let it out. I actually think you always need to let it out, whether it's on paper. Sometimes you journal. I remember, even as a kid, because I was not allowed to curse, I would go into my pillow and just say all the curse words just to get him out. And I instantly felt better. But no one heard me.
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Speaker 1: God, that sounds like Ava. I can see a little Ava doing it.
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Speaker 2: Well, Little Amy used to do that. Now I just say it out loud.
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Speaker 1: That is so funny.
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Speaker 2: All right, one last time for you from Oprah Winfrey. The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. All right. The next quote comes to us from Wayne Dyer. I'm a big fan of his work. He says this, with everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.
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Speaker 1: I get it. Gift is tough hard times to see a hard time of difficulty, adversity as a gift. It's hard I realized because everything you I, anybody's ever gone through led you to this other thing right, which was better, which was greater, which was where you should have been. But man, to think that losing a job or getting out of a relationship, or even an accident or a medical diagnosis is a gift, that's an opportunity. It's tough to think that. In the moment.
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Speaker 2: You just named every hard thing that's happened to me and to so many people in the last decade. And yes, people say, why me, how could this have happened to me? You start to feel sorry for yourself, and that is a very common human experience. But I just love what he said, because you until you're willing to turn it around and say, hey, I'm supposed to be here because I'm supposed to learn something. And I will say through all of those moments where I felt sorry for myself and I wished it had never happened, with enough time and perspective, I look back and say, thank God that happened. Like I actually can say that about losing a job. I can say that about a cancer diagnosis. And I can say that because I'm still here and I get that and other people have different experiences, but for the most part, even the things that you think our worst case scenario end up being the most important lesson you'll ever learn and will change you in ways you couldn't have imagined. But in that moment, right, don't say that to somebody, No, I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: For you when you're going through it. I can't imagine how long it took before you considered a cancer diagnosis, or a job change, or a divorce, humiliation, a blessing or a gift. In the moment, it's hard to see it as a gift.
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Speaker 2: And in the moment it's almost impossible to see us again. But I think once you go through enough of these life hardships, and I hope you don't have many, but for those of us who have had quite a few, you can at least anticipate this is going to be something that I am going to look back on and say thank you. And I've actually, after cancer other things that have happened, I've been able to say remember that perspective. My on collegeist said to me, and you doctor, and we love her. She said to me right when I was diagnosed. I know you're never going to believe me, but for every woman who has come back after five ten years. They've said to me, if I could have given back my cancer, I wouldn't because I wouldn't be the person I am today. Here's how my life has changed for the better because I am now aware of things I never was before. I couldn't believe her. I thought it was actually offensive initially when she said that to me, But now I get it. So thank you, doctor Ortz for those wise words that only were understood by me years later.
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Speaker 1: But work on your timing, doctor Ratz dst.
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Speaker 2: She's amazing, and she knew that I was going to be able to reflect on those words later. She knew it all right. Next one, this is from unknown, but all the powerful. Just as much happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like, that whole expectations things.
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Speaker 1: It's every When do you ever get disappointed in somebody only when you have an expectation that they were going to do something else? Isn't that right? Yes? Again, maybe who set the expectation? I don't know, but it's always that thing. Look at your own life. When have you ever been upset about the state of your life because it's not where you expected to be or how you expected it to go.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you feel powerless. You would like just little things. How you expect your partner to react to you in certain moments. How you expect anyone in your life, a friend, a parent, a child, how you expect them to react when they don't do what you think they should or what they're supposed to. That creates so much suffering. And I have been learning that the expectation should simply be placed on myself. I'm responsible for me, I'm responsible for how I feel. I'm responsible for soothing myself and for making myself what I want to be.
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Speaker 1: I can't happy to watch your gross I.
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Speaker 2: Can't put I'm just but how many of us and I am so guilty of this. Somehow put that on other people that they're supposed to do this for me, and that is a recipe for unhappiness.
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Speaker 1: We still kind of pause when we're here, and I get it. It's not the worst thing in the world, but it is sometimes a red flag warning sign. When you hear you make me happy. That's supposed to be an innocuous phrase, this person makes me happy, but I always hesitate a little bit like do they, Because if they make you happy, that means they can take it away. They're in control of your happiness is always a little something I hesitate on. I get what it means, But.
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Speaker 2: How about you contribute to my joy?
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Speaker 1: I'm happy already, you are enhancing it. If there's anybody in your life, if you're happy, that takes away from it exactly.
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Speaker 2: But you also can't put that on someone else and expect someone else to make you happy. I agree so much. I have actually said that to someone before. I can't be the source of your happiness. It's way too much pressure and we're going to crumble.
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Speaker 1: And I took it to heart. I did.
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Speaker 2: I did not say that to you, all right. The next one. Wow, we needed some words of wisdom from the Dali Lama this week, and I do appreciate what the Dalai Lama has had to say.
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Speaker 1: Isn't this the one you keep saying, Let's just do a week of Dali Lama? Yes?
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Speaker 2: I should do it because Dhali Lama is just remarkable. Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.
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Speaker 1: Damn, just compassion and understanding for others. We should just we should include that in every podcast we do, just a compassion and understanding for others.
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Speaker 2: And I appreciate that he used the word development of because we're not always it's not right there. You don't always feel compassion or understanding for someone who you vehemently oppose or disagree with. So I like the idea of just, hey, just try and develop the compassion and understanding for others. The development of where works in progress. So don't beat yourself up if you jump to feeling angry or even you know, extreme anger towards someone who you disagree with, But recognize that what is it in me that feels so threatened or so triggered? That word everybody uses now, And instead of putting it on the other person for having a different belief, ask yourself why you feel so angry, And then you have to develop compassion, You have to develop understanding. It doesn't necessarily come naturally to a lot of us. In terms of self preservation. Our ego takes over and we need to be right and they need to be wrong. And that's how you feel safe and good because you're protecting your values, your beliefs. But it's compassion and understanding. That's the only thing that's going to set us free and give us peace. Thank you, Dali Lama. All right, all right, Mitch album. Does that name ring a bell to you? Oh?
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Speaker 1: Yes?
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Speaker 2: Tuesdays with Maury What an amazing book. I haven't read that in forever, but obviously people love him and I loved this quote. One day spent with someone you love can change everything. Look, we're not meant to be alone. I've talked about self empowerment and of course working on ourselves and not relying on other people to bring us joy. But my god, aren't we here to love? And that's just not ourselves, but to love other people? And so yeah, to spend a day with someone you love can change everything. And of course he wrote a lot about death and someone specifically dying Tuesdays with Maury and recognizing how precious time is and how precious that is and we should be spending it loving one another.
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Speaker 1: You know, I get into trouble with the quote, is spending time with someone you love? And I would not correcting or trying to any way take away from his quote. I just always think about spending the time and being in the moment with that person, and there's so much chaos, so much always going on, and we do, we try to make a conscious effort to be present, in particular with the kids. We got so much going on that when the kids here, they need attention. Sometimes if they don't have analyst runs off with her friends, being can run off with her friends. But when they're with us, they are with us, and it does you have to make an effort to be there and be present with that person you love in addition to not just being around them.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've had to work on that and I'm still working on not being on my phone. I know my girls have absolutely complained about that with me, more so than me complaining that about them.
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Speaker 1: That's I know.
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Speaker 2: I'm admitting that right now, But I am working on that, because yes, that's all your kids really need, that's all your partner really needs. They just need your time and your attention.
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Speaker 1: Complain about that with you all the time, you do.
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Speaker 2: I know, it's it's I am, and I am working on it.
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Speaker 1: I say, not you. I think it's us, and not even so much the phone, the matter of us sitting right next to each other and not interacting like we're so into work. I know it's work time, but there have been mornings you'll come out, sit down, and next thing, I know, an hour and a half going by. I say hi, you'll say good morning. Oh yeah. We just don't interact as if we know each other.
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Speaker 2: Right, we're colleagues.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll sit in the living room in my robe with my colleagues. You want to come, Trump's love all right?
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Speaker 2: When we come back, We've got your bonus quote for you of the weekend. It's short, it's simple, but it's powerful. Welcome back everyone to your Sunday morning run where we go over our quotes of the week. A little inspiration for all of us on this Sunday as we get our heads on straight and prep for another work week. As we begin our Sundays. This bonus quote comes to us from someone I don't know, a name I didn't recognize, Philip Pullman. He's a British author. He wrote a trilogy, a very successful trilogy. I don't know the name. No, no, But the point being, I love when I So many of these inspirational quotes come to us from authors. I guess it makes a lot of sense. They write for a living. But so many of them who I didn't ever know before, and now I'm kind of interested in reading their books because their quotes are so incredible. Now I tease ahead that this one is short and simple, but I just loved its message you cannot change what you are, only what you do what you are, because I think a lot of us are trying to change ourselves, like I want to be something different. I want to I want to have like even something as I don't want to say narcissistic, but as silly as I wish I had curlier hair or straight or hair. I wish that I was taller. I wish that I, you know, had a better job. I wish that I I wish I looked different. I wish all of those things that you cannot change. Like you are who you are. And I think a big message that I've been trying to send to myself and to my daughters is that acceptance, acceptance of what you are things you cannot change.
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm getting caught upon what you are versus who you are.
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Speaker 2: Oh well, I think you can change what you do. You can't change what you are, which is you. You are a black male who is six feet tall like those are things you cannot change. And I think a lot of people spend time wishing they were in someone else's steam, wishing they look different, wishing they had a different they were born into a different family, or born into a different financial situation. A lot of folks harp on what they cannot change what they are.
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Speaker 1: I was, you know, I was thinking about My mind went to character like to characteristics, what you are I want to change? When you said black, that makes sense to me. Now. People want to change who they are, want to be more of a this, They want to be more of a that. It's like a who thing, like who are you in that question? And I often hear people say you can't change who you are. You are who you are kind of a thing. And to hear the what threw me off from.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what or who? And maybe this was a he's a little bit older, So maybe this is even semantics from a different time or a different generation. But I do think that that is something that everyone struggles with. If you're being honest, how many times if you thought and I wish I looked like this, or was born into this, or had a different experience. Some people, you know, want to be lots of different things that they cannot change, and you're so focused on what you can't change that you don't even think about what you can change. So I like this again, all of these quotes are so empowering. You cannot change what you are, only what you do. And really, truly, the bodies that we were given to do what we do should matter a lot less than our actions because our actions, our words, our thoughts, all of that have the impact on potentially changing the world, changing ourselves, making our lives and the people around ours better. And it's by our actions, not by what we look like or the body that we were given. And I just thought that was a cool reminder from Philip Pullman. So thank you Philip Pullman for those words of wisdom. And with that everyone, thank you for listening to us on this Sunday morning run. I made me Roebuck alongside DJ Holmes. We will be talking to you very soon.