Sept. 26, 2026
Relationship Saturday: 15 Questions To Ask Your Partner To Increase Your Compatibility
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RSS Feed On this relationship Saturday, we have some incredible advice for everyone in any stage of a relationship or life. First, up we have a study out of Psychology Today that shares the science behind the timing of a text. Next up on the feed we will have the seven mistakes most people make when dating again after a breakup or divorce. And finally, for those in a relationship, we share 15 questions you should ask your partner to build connections and help your compatibility grow and thrive.
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Speaker 1: Hey there folks, it is Saturday, September 26th. And do you want more peace, harmony, tranquility in your household? Do you want more compatibility with your significant other? Then you need to ask these 15 questions. And with that, welcome to this Relationship Saturday edition of Amy and TJ Robes. I have not heard these questions myself yet. Am I going to be surprised by them?
00:00:31
Speaker 2: I think you are, but I will be honest here and say I haven't thought about what my answers are. I wrote down these questions, but I deliberately did not give them any thought because I thought we could try to honestly answer them.
00:00:46
Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't know we were doing this.
00:00:47
Speaker 2: We can do it quickly because... I do think it's a cool exercise. So the idea behind this, this is from a couple's therapy page on Instagram. It's called the shift group. I loved their Instagram feed. I just want to say, so this came under the caption, be cute, ask questions. And in a couple of other posts, they talk about compatibility and I liked this concept. People think it's just something you have, right? Oh, you're just compatible or you're not.
00:01:16
Speaker 1: You hit it off. You got chemistry, that whole thing?
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Speaker 2: Right. But this group argues, okay, fine, initially, maybe, but it's something you have to work on. And they say when a relationship ends, it means, it usually means either one or both people have decided to stop doing the work, to be compatible. So they say a lot of times when you ask questions of your partner, it's only about your problems. When you ask questions about your problems, like why did you do this? Or why don't you do this? Or why did you say this? It often just creates more problems. And actually what we don't spend our time asking each other about are the positive moments to build on, to actually analyze. No, we analyze the disconnect. We analyze the problem. We don't ever analyze what's good and what's right. And they say, if you actually take a moment, take a beat in your relationship with your partner, and you actually ask questions that focus on the positive, or you're actually analyzing what's working, that's what none of us do. And when you take the time to do that, it actually helps reinforce the positive and the reason why you guys are actually compatible. Does that make sense?
00:02:34
Speaker 1: Well, it does, except for how do you address problems? In this theory, how do you address problems?
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Speaker 2: In respectful ways. And I think that's another episode because they definitely have a lot about that. But no, it's true. And they actually say it's not what you say, it's how you say it. And I have seen this time and time again. Tone, tone, tone. Because I think it's all about making sure that person knows you're not attacking them. You're curious. You want to understand. It's not about accusing. It's not about winning. It's about understanding and trying to relate. And we oftentimes just focus on why didn't you do this? Why did you say that? Why did you react this way? And we're accusatory and we actually create enemies. Out of the people who we're supposed to be going through life with. So this is an exercise. It's like an opposite exercise. It's an exercise in actually leaning into what's working and getting curious about what's right. I think it's a cool concept. I've never heard of this before and I thought it was really cool.
00:03:37
Speaker 1: We're answering questions here.
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Speaker 2: I mean, we can just keep it light, because there are a lot of questions to get through. But here is the first one.
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Speaker 1: In no order of priority.
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Speaker 2: This is just the order they gave it, so I'm just totally going by their book, the way they ordered this. Number one, what's one of the first moments with me that made you think this could be something special?
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Speaker 1: I should answer that? Yeah. It was for sure on television. on live TV at some point, being in an environment where it was difficult to get sparks and natural reaction from people at times on that set. Oh yeah, that was the first time. And that wasn't a romantic thing, obviously, at all. But that first idea of, ah, this might be my girl.
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Speaker 2: I think for me was sliding up to, um, O'Donohue's with you. It was the bar right next door to the, um, studio. And I just thought, this is such a cool dude who I can just hang with and chill with and talk with. It was nothing romantic. It was just about connecting. So for me, I was like, Ooh, I think we actually have a really cool friendship here. All right. Number two, is there a little routine or habit that we have that you hope never changes?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, our travel. I hope our travel habits and routines never change. I hope our horror movie routines never change. I hope our horror movie theater, horror movie and at home, it sounds nuts that we average a horror movie a night. And there are that many out there to get through. Those, I hope, well, it's not routine. I hope we never stop holding hands. I hope we never stop going to Del Frisco's every Friday and see Sarah. Like there are just some things that are part of our life now that... Yeah, even when we're busy, even when we're stacked, even when we had yesterday, we had all kinds of hell going on on Friday. And I even had something go wrong that cost me time in the morning. It was rough, but we made sure we went to our Friday appointment at our restaurant to see our favorite bartender.
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Speaker 2: I love that you said that because that's what I was going to say. Our Friday... that we basically hold as like nobody can interrupt that. Like anything can happen that week. We can plan a bunch of stuff, but we will hold that lunch date sacred. So how cool is this to kind of go, like think about what we're doing right now. How many couples actually ask each other questions about what's right? This is so cool. I love this.
00:06:13
Speaker 1: I still don't appreciate the temperature you leave the thermostat on.
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Speaker 2: Let's keep it positive. Okay. All right, number three.
00:06:27
Speaker 1: I want to talk about them.
00:06:29
Speaker 2: That's another episode. Number three. What's something I could surprise you with that you'd really enjoy? Keep it clean.
00:06:38
Speaker 1: Keep it clean. Oh, a watch, a dinner, a sweatsuit, a new ceviche restaurant, a trip. Yes.
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Speaker 2: Yes. That's cool. Um, yes. And I would say a night out. No, I actually was going to say like, um, something like, um, a Broadway show tickets that you got a night, you planned like that kind of thing, a date night that I wasn't expecting. Absolutely. Okay. Um, what's something you can't wait to experience together in the future?
00:07:24
Speaker 1: For us to experience together in the future. Oh, my goodness. The family with the girl, everybody, yacht excursion we've been talking about doing, going to Southeast Asia and going to Hawaii. It's all travel related, I guess.
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Speaker 2: Same for me.
00:07:45
Speaker 1: There's a couple of races I can't wait to get in with you two.
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Speaker 2: I would love to run a couple of marathons internationally with you. And I know you're not asking on this, but I would love to go to a romantic, sexy safari in South Africa with you. Like that would be super fun. Like I love the stuff with the girls, but I would like to do that. All right. Number five. What do you think has been one of our most important moments together so far?
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Speaker 1: Most important. You know, we were talking about it not too long ago. Um, September of 2023, Arkansas versus Mississippi State football game. You went back to Fayetteville with me for the first time after shit had hit the fan with us. That was our first public outing, if you will. And we went to a place that was home, that was safe, that they embraced you. And we just happened to be talking about this recently because we were back for Arkansas-Georgia game. And so, yeah, that's the first thing coming to mind. I haven't thought about it at all. I love that.
00:08:48
Speaker 2: I think for me, it was getting the okay from Sabine, getting the okay from your parents, getting the okay from my parents, and finally getting all of our daughters on board with our relationship. All of those moments were the most important for me because we got the backing of the people we love the most. That was a huge moment. Number six, what's something small I do that makes you feel loved?
00:09:20
Speaker 1: You make, eh, I don't, eh, I don't know if it makes, no, no, no, I'm saying I like it. I don't know if it makes me feel loved. I'm not sure what it makes me feel.
00:09:30
Speaker 2: No, it's gotta be something that makes you feel loved.
00:09:31
Speaker 1: Well, you make a point to walk in. I'm always awake before you. I'm always working in the studio before you and you walk in and you always, first thing, walk around. You have to make an effort to walk around the table to come give me a hug and a kiss and take a moment. So, you do that every morning.
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Speaker 2: That's good to know that that makes you feel loved. Yes. Um, I think something small that you do that makes me feel loved, Um, it's not small for you to cook a meal. So I don't want to minimize that. I'm trying to think of something like a small, Oh, you know what? When you walk by me, this is the truth. And you kiss me on the back of my neck. Like that changes my day. Like, I don't even know if you know how much of an impact that has on me. So I love that. Or when you hold my hand when I'm walking across the street. That makes me feel loved. It matters.
00:10:22
Speaker 1: You know what? Even if I'm mad at you, if we walk across the street, I still hold your hand.
00:10:27
Speaker 2: And then I know it's okay.
00:10:29
Speaker 1: She's my responsibility still.
00:10:30
Speaker 2: No, don't take away from that. It makes me feel loved. How about this? Is there a song, a place, or a scent that instantly reminds you of us?
00:10:41
Speaker 1: Of course. Oh, my God. Do you remember I used to tell you sometimes I would text you without seeing you anywhere in that big-ass studio, and I'd say, I know you're in the building.
00:10:53
Speaker 2: Because I smell you.
00:10:54
Speaker 1: I can smell you. I had no idea.
00:10:56
Speaker 2: So my perfume.
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Speaker 1: I had no idea.
00:10:59
Speaker 2: Yes.
00:10:59
Speaker 1: There are several places. You can even get very specific.
00:11:04
Speaker 2: There are a lot of them.
00:11:05
Speaker 1: Via del Corso. You can go very specific. Promenade in Nice. Old Town. You can get very specific things. The Red Rooster in Harlem. There's a bunch. We have a bunch of spots. There's some things that just, yeah.
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Speaker 2: That are our places. Yes, Del Frisco's here in New York City instantly reminds me of us. And there's an Ed Sheeran song that reminds me of us. But there's a bunch of songs. The moment I hear them, I think of you.
00:11:38
Speaker 1: Anything Michael Bolton. Yeah.
00:11:41
Speaker 2: I know that sounds crazy, but it's true. All right. What do you miss about me when we aren't together?
00:11:48
Speaker 1: The things get a lot more serious. There is a different energy, joy in the room when you're in it. So when you're not around, again, it's not like I go into depression. That's what I'm saying. But even if, It's just Sabine and I hanging out in the house and you walk out for a little bit. The energy is different when you come back in. So what I miss about you, yeah, that thing is instantly gone. It's not even a matter of your personality.
00:12:23
Speaker 2: Energy, right?
00:12:24
Speaker 1: It's just, yeah, man.
00:12:27
Speaker 2: I miss... I miss your, I mean, you're the funniest person I know. And you have always made me laugh. And I've always said, like, no matter what, no matter how old we get, no matter what we end up looking like and how far we can run or how much we can travel, I know I could be anywhere with you and have a blast.
00:12:46
Speaker 1: Because I amuse you. I amuse you.
00:12:49
Speaker 2: You are the funniest person I know.
00:12:51
Speaker 1: I'm just, I'm like a clown?
00:12:53
Speaker 2: You are an amazing, intelligent comedian.
00:12:55
Speaker 1: Like a clown? I amuse you is what you're saying.
00:12:59
Speaker 2: Okay, Godfather. Where else would I get all my movie quotes from? No, I miss laughing with you when we're not together.
00:13:08
Speaker 1: What number is this?
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Speaker 2: That's number eight. Number nine, what do you think is one of the best things we've taught each other?
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Speaker 1: Taught each other the best things? I don't know.
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
00:13:22
Speaker 1: Taught each other versus you taught me. Uh, or I taught, no, I couldn't, I could never presume what I taught you. Um, best things we've taught each other. I don't know. That was a tough one off the top of the head.
00:13:35
Speaker 2: I would say that we've taught each other how to get through the tough times and to trust each other. And we've taught each other that we can trust one another, that when things get really, really, but no, but we have been tested in the sense that I know you've got my back. And I know that you're my person. Like, you've taught me that I can trust you. And I've learned that through some really tough times.
00:14:06
Speaker 1: You taught me that Stevie Nicks is a woman.
00:14:08
Speaker 2: Okay. That's true.
00:14:09
Speaker 1: You taught me that the Doobie Brothers are actually brothers. You taught me that the Bee Gees was a group of actual men. It was all men.
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Speaker 2: Even though they sing in falsetto.
00:14:18
Speaker 1: You taught me.
00:14:19
Speaker 2: Is that one of the best things I've taught you?
00:14:22
Speaker 1: About white music? Wait, it says best things?
00:14:25
Speaker 2: What is one of the best things we've taught each other?
00:14:27
Speaker 1: You know what? In all seriousness. I think it's supposed to be a little.
00:14:29
Speaker 2: Bit deeper than that.
00:14:30
Speaker 1: Why does it have to be? That's fine.
00:14:32
Speaker 2: You can be whatever you want to be.
00:14:33
Speaker 1: I have been enlightened by being exposed to culture. That's fine.
00:14:36
Speaker 2: White music. I get that. Okay, number 10. What's a dream you have for us?
00:14:41
Speaker 1: Dream?
00:14:42
Speaker 2: That you haven't shared yet.
00:14:43
Speaker 1: Oh, I haven't shared. Kids. You shared it repeatedly. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
00:14:50
Speaker 2: You say it all the time. What's a dream that you haven't shared yet for us?
00:14:57
Speaker 1: Haven't? I don't know. We are together so much.
00:15:02
Speaker 2: We talk about our future a lot.
00:15:03
Speaker 1: I feel like you, yeah, that I haven't shared something I want us to do that I haven't expressed.
00:15:11
Speaker 2: A dream for us. A dream for us.
00:15:13
Speaker 1: Actually, to stop working hard. Earlier than we've discussed.
00:15:18
Speaker 2: Oh, I like that.
00:15:19
Speaker 1: Like really, really soon. I'm on board with that. Like really, really soon.
00:15:23
Speaker 2: I have a dream that we die within a day of each other. I've never shared that with you. I don't want to be around if you're not here. No, it's actually beautiful. I don't want to be here if you're not here.
00:15:32
Speaker 1: Okay.
00:15:33
Speaker 2: That's my dream that I haven't shared with you yet.
00:15:35
Speaker 1: What if it's, if I go tomorrow, I don't want you to go on Monday.
00:15:38
Speaker 2: I don't either, but.
00:15:39
Speaker 1: That kind of a thing. That's true. So now you take it back.
00:15:43
Speaker 2: For my daughters.
00:15:44
Speaker 1: Yeah. See what I'm dealing with, folks.
00:15:47
Speaker 2: Yes. See.
00:15:48
Speaker 1: But I do.
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Speaker 2: It is my dream that I haven't shared with you that we die just a day apart. All right. When we come back, we've got the next five questions. Isn't this cute, though? I love this.
00:15:59
Speaker 1: It used to be until that last question. You told me.
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Speaker 2: You spend so much time having these serious talks and these questions about all this tough, dark stuff. Why not have these same conversations again? when you're talking about love and fun stuff. So when we come back, the next five questions you need to ask your partner. Welcome back everyone to Amy and TJ. It is Relationship Saturday. And if you are in a serious relationship, we spend way too much time talking about all the serious, uncomfortable stuff. And I'm not discounting that. We're not saying you shouldn't have those conversations, but why not also have this type of a conversation where you actually get deep and talk about what you like about each other, what you love about each other. And so number 11 on the list of questions you should ask your partner to just lean into your compatibility. What is something you've learned about love through being with me? Be kind.
00:17:12
Speaker 1: I've learned about love.
00:17:14
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:17:19
Speaker 1: I recognize it. I recognize it through experience, through pain, through hardship, through decades, actually, of what you could argue is failure in relationships.
00:17:37
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:17:37
Speaker 1: I know what it looks like, and I know what friendship looks like. I know.
00:17:43
Speaker 1: Man, if we start relationship workshops, man, friendship is the foundation.
00:17:48
Speaker 2: Isn't it though? That is, so you just nailed what I was going to say. That is the thing I have learned. I have never truly been best friends with my partner. And you and I had that foundation to begin with. And I now believe, and it is what I have learned, babe, when we are not doing well as a romantic partners, I can lean into our friendship and say, I trust this man. I know this man. I like this man. And even if I'm angry with him right now, I respect him because he's my friend and I know who he is and I know what he stands for. And even if I don't agree with him right now, having that foundation of friendship creates a level of respect that I've never experienced before. And that is everything. So you have absolutely... taught me that. Our love has taught me that.
00:18:45
Speaker 1: We say that all the time on these dating show, 90 Day or Married at First Sight. You need to have a foundation to trust somebody with some of the stuff that's going to come up. I've known you for two weeks. There's no way some of the stuff that comes up in relationship, you do not have a foundation enough of trust to work that out.
00:19:05
Speaker 2: And there's too much... ego and too much just insecurity that we all deal with an ego to, to get through it. If you don't have that foundation.
00:19:15
Speaker 1: All right.
00:19:16
Speaker 2: Number 12, what's a random thing you've noticed about me that makes you smile?
00:19:23
Speaker 1: Random thing I've noticed about you that makes you smile, makes me smile. Um, random.
00:19:30
Speaker 2: Like some random thing I do that makes you smile.
00:19:32
Speaker 1: Man, that's weird. You know what? I'm, I'm, it's not a cop out. So nothing about you is random anymore. We've not just known each other now for 12 years. We have for the past four plus years have been... up under each other almost every day.
00:19:52
Speaker 2: Right, so there's got to be some random thing I do that makes you smile.
00:19:56
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm saying it's not. Okay, a random thing. I'm sorry. I'm thinking of it the wrong way. Yeah. It's a new thing.
00:20:00
Speaker 2: No, yeah. Think about like.
00:20:01
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry. Random thing. She still runs through the house with her socks and slides.
00:20:05
Speaker 2: I was waiting for you to say that. Oh, that's easy.
00:20:07
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry. I was thinking of it the wrong way. Sorry, sorry, sorry. I was like a new thing. No, no, no.
00:20:12
Speaker 2: Yes.
00:20:12
Speaker 1: You still run across the hardwoods with socks on sliding. Nobody has to be around. She's not racing somebody and she's not jumping into your arms. She just does it for shits and giggles just for herself.
00:20:26
Speaker 2: Um, and I, when I come in in the morning, you have your AirPods on and you are rocking and it's so cute because you so love music and just, just your whole body is just like moving and rocking and your legs are going. And I like, I can't hear a thing you're hearing, but I think it's so cute how much you love music and how it moves you. I, it makes me smile.
00:20:51
Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, I'm starting a DJing career.
00:20:52
Speaker 2: I know. I can't wait. I'm going to be your fan girl.
00:20:56
Speaker 1: I would hope so. Yeah. All right.
00:20:59
Speaker 2: Number 13. What do you think has been one of our most important moments together so far?
00:21:05
Speaker 1: Um, one of, damn, I got like a shit. I think I just came up with like 10.
00:21:15
Speaker 2: Right.
00:21:16
Speaker 1: Um, There was that movie we went to last September. There was the first time I went and stayed at your parents' house. There was that first time your parents were on the podcast. There was that day that we severed the relationship with ABC Disney. There was the first time we ran a marathon together. Man, I got stuff. Important for us, yeah, the first trip we took with Sabine, just the three of us, the first time, me, you, Sabine, and Annalise and Ava. I mean, man, babe, we got a bunch.
00:21:58
Speaker 2: I know. I don't even know how to pick which one it would be. I mean, one of the most important moments of our relationship so far, I think... but a bunch, you know what I think at what, like for me, one of the most important moments was when we were at the Chicago marathon and you got critically injured, you ended up in a ambulance.
00:22:24
Speaker 1: I feel like critical in the moment.
00:22:26
Speaker 2: It felt critical. And when you and I were in that ambulance together, I don't know. I just felt bonded to you. Like I've never felt so connected to somebody where like, our outcomes were entangled. Like it wasn't what I did or what you did or, and you've done this every time you've crossed a finish line with me, you finished with me, even though you could have far surpassed me. I think that was the moment where we kind of both each chose each other when we could have chosen ourselves. And that was a moment where we both had made a choice because you made a choice multiple times, not, not to finish first, but you absolutely could have. And I just felt like that was a moment where we both were in it. Like just for, we were a team. It was an us. It wasn't a me or a you. I loved that. Um, all right. Number 14. When was it time you felt especially grateful for our relationship?
00:23:29
Speaker 1: Again, man. I got a list. And some of it could go back to before you and I were ever dating, times when we were still friends. Important times in our relationship where I had to pull you to the side and say I'm struggling, say I'm hurting, and you recommend this reading and this author and this book. And there were those moments plenty throughout. There were, I remember still that phone call calling, right, when we talked after they reached out to me about becoming your co-anchor on GMA3. And I remember that moment of saying, eh, I'm not so sure about this. And how that was meaningful at the time that you understood the level of respect I had for you and your relationship to that show. I thought that was a meaningful conversation.
00:24:25
Speaker 2: It was.
00:24:25
Speaker 1: Right? That showed up later. Robes, I think that when Strahan went to space was a big deal. When the Queen died was a big deal. When the Queen Jubilee happened was a big deal. There were like some significant moments.
00:24:39
Speaker 2: It's funny. Yeah, and you point that out. I think every time I work with you, I'm grateful for our relationship because we trust each other. I've never had that experience. Again, when we were just friends where I could go on the air with someone because that is a very vulnerable place to be in. You are now on live television with a microphone. Anything you say can and will be held against you. And you're going to have a brain fart. You're going to have an issue. You're going to misspeak. You're going to do something. To know you've got somebody on the other side who's got your back, who will help you out, who will pick you up if you fall. And I always knew that you were that person. So I've been grateful for our friendship and our relationship. I think pretty much the moment we got on the air together, I knew I had an ally. And I remain grateful to this day on more tired mornings or days where we're not at our best. We've got each other's back. All right. Number 15. Last question. This is fun, isn't it? We don't do this enough. Couples don't do this enough. I hope everyone listening writes down these questions and does a version of this with their loved one. What is a quirky thing about our relationship that you secretly love?
00:25:53
Speaker 1: I've got mine. quirky thing about our relationship.
00:25:57
Speaker 2: Yep. Quirky.
00:25:58
Speaker 1: Quirky.
00:25:59
Speaker 2: Would you like me to say mine so you can get an idea? Sure.
00:26:02
Speaker 1: Yeah.
00:26:03
Speaker 2: So this is going to sound so weird to everybody listening, but we live in an apartment building and when you get a delivery, your doorman will ring you up or they'll send you an email and say you've got a package or say you ordered DoorDash or Uber Eats or whatever and you've got your food delivery and We're on a higher floor. And so, yeah, you've got to go leave the apartment, get in the elevator, go down. We have just created a habit where when we get any sort of delivery, we go down together.
00:26:37
Speaker 1: Right.
00:26:39
Speaker 2: And it's so quirky that our doorman the other day was like, does one of you not trust the other? Like, why do you guys come down together to get like one small bag, like some little tiny DoorDash bag? And we laughed because we hadn't really thought about it. We're like, I don't know. We just don't want to be apart. It sounds so ridiculous. It's quirky, but I love it. I secretly love it.
00:27:08
Speaker 1: Oh, my boys weren't listening to that. Are you embarrassed? It's routine. We don't give a thought to it. You know what I think this was born of? You and I didn't want to make the other feel obligated to go down. So you don't have to go down. You don't have to go down. I'll go get it. No, I'll go get it. Let's just go get it together.
00:27:30
Speaker 2: Sometimes we take the trash out together.
00:27:32
Speaker 1: And it's just, it became more and more of a thing. Dang, I had something. Damn it.
00:27:37
Speaker 2: Did I ruin it?
00:27:38
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had something.
00:27:39
Speaker 2: Okay, let me ask you the question again and see if it comes back.
00:27:41
Speaker 1: I had, oh, damn it. Go ahead.
00:27:43
Speaker 2: What's a quirky thing about our relationship that you secretly love?
00:27:49
Speaker 1: Is this quirky? Because we did it to, we did Friday.
00:27:54
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:27:55
Speaker 1: And we do it every Friday. Oh, yeah. We go to the same spot for lunch every single Friday at the exact same time.
00:28:02
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:28:03
Speaker 1: But we had to sit inside on Friday versus outside.
00:28:08
Speaker 2: Because it was cold and windy.
00:28:10
Speaker 1: Okay.
00:28:11
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:28:11
Speaker 1: And in doing so, we sat in a booth.
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Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Mm.
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Speaker 1: Now, is that weird or quirky for a couple to sit on the same side of a booth?
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Speaker 2: I think that's a whole episode because I think some people would say yes and some people would say no. But I would say that for somebody, I would think that for a couple who have known each other for 12 years, who have been together romantically for four years, I would say that's probably unusual. And so you could say quirky. But I like to be touching you, and I like to be seeing the same things you're seeing.
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Speaker 1: Wait, but there are two different camps out there. Forget how long anybody's been together. Some people like to look at each other. Okay, but do the people who like to look at each other think the people who are sitting on the same side? I used to think that was weird.
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Speaker 2: I think we're annoying.
00:29:04
Speaker 1: No, I used to think that was really weird. I don't think I see that that much, baby.
00:29:09
Speaker 2: It's strange. It's quirky. It's quirky, for sure. But I know that I like it because, A, we usually are holding hands. Cause we're so annoying or we're touching, but then we like see the same things and we can talk about the same things. I know it's, it's a little, but look, this was fun. And I do think after this type of conversation where you actually ask questions about your love and what you love about each other, what you like about each other, what makes you and your relationship unique, you really, remember and you acknowledge why you're together versus we tend to have these deep conversations about the tough stuff. Try and have a deep conversation about the fun stuff. How about that? And with that, everyone, we always appreciate you listening to us. I'm Amy Robach alongside TJ Holmes. We'll talk soon.
Speaker 1: Hey there folks, it is Saturday, September 26th. And do you want more peace, harmony, tranquility in your household? Do you want more compatibility with your significant other? Then you need to ask these 15 questions. And with that, welcome to this Relationship Saturday edition of Amy and TJ Robes. I have not heard these questions myself yet. Am I going to be surprised by them?
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Speaker 2: I think you are, but I will be honest here and say I haven't thought about what my answers are. I wrote down these questions, but I deliberately did not give them any thought because I thought we could try to honestly answer them.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't know we were doing this.
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Speaker 2: We can do it quickly because... I do think it's a cool exercise. So the idea behind this, this is from a couple's therapy page on Instagram. It's called the shift group. I loved their Instagram feed. I just want to say, so this came under the caption, be cute, ask questions. And in a couple of other posts, they talk about compatibility and I liked this concept. People think it's just something you have, right? Oh, you're just compatible or you're not.
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Speaker 1: You hit it off. You got chemistry, that whole thing?
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Speaker 2: Right. But this group argues, okay, fine, initially, maybe, but it's something you have to work on. And they say when a relationship ends, it means, it usually means either one or both people have decided to stop doing the work, to be compatible. So they say a lot of times when you ask questions of your partner, it's only about your problems. When you ask questions about your problems, like why did you do this? Or why don't you do this? Or why did you say this? It often just creates more problems. And actually what we don't spend our time asking each other about are the positive moments to build on, to actually analyze. No, we analyze the disconnect. We analyze the problem. We don't ever analyze what's good and what's right. And they say, if you actually take a moment, take a beat in your relationship with your partner, and you actually ask questions that focus on the positive, or you're actually analyzing what's working, that's what none of us do. And when you take the time to do that, it actually helps reinforce the positive and the reason why you guys are actually compatible. Does that make sense?
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Speaker 1: Well, it does, except for how do you address problems? In this theory, how do you address problems?
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Speaker 2: In respectful ways. And I think that's another episode because they definitely have a lot about that. But no, it's true. And they actually say it's not what you say, it's how you say it. And I have seen this time and time again. Tone, tone, tone. Because I think it's all about making sure that person knows you're not attacking them. You're curious. You want to understand. It's not about accusing. It's not about winning. It's about understanding and trying to relate. And we oftentimes just focus on why didn't you do this? Why did you say that? Why did you react this way? And we're accusatory and we actually create enemies. Out of the people who we're supposed to be going through life with. So this is an exercise. It's like an opposite exercise. It's an exercise in actually leaning into what's working and getting curious about what's right. I think it's a cool concept. I've never heard of this before and I thought it was really cool.
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Speaker 1: We're answering questions here.
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Speaker 2: I mean, we can just keep it light, because there are a lot of questions to get through. But here is the first one.
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Speaker 1: In no order of priority.
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Speaker 2: This is just the order they gave it, so I'm just totally going by their book, the way they ordered this. Number one, what's one of the first moments with me that made you think this could be something special?
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Speaker 1: I should answer that? Yeah. It was for sure on television. on live TV at some point, being in an environment where it was difficult to get sparks and natural reaction from people at times on that set. Oh yeah, that was the first time. And that wasn't a romantic thing, obviously, at all. But that first idea of, ah, this might be my girl.
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Speaker 2: I think for me was sliding up to, um, O'Donohue's with you. It was the bar right next door to the, um, studio. And I just thought, this is such a cool dude who I can just hang with and chill with and talk with. It was nothing romantic. It was just about connecting. So for me, I was like, Ooh, I think we actually have a really cool friendship here. All right. Number two, is there a little routine or habit that we have that you hope never changes?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, our travel. I hope our travel habits and routines never change. I hope our horror movie routines never change. I hope our horror movie theater, horror movie and at home, it sounds nuts that we average a horror movie a night. And there are that many out there to get through. Those, I hope, well, it's not routine. I hope we never stop holding hands. I hope we never stop going to Del Frisco's every Friday and see Sarah. Like there are just some things that are part of our life now that... Yeah, even when we're busy, even when we're stacked, even when we had yesterday, we had all kinds of hell going on on Friday. And I even had something go wrong that cost me time in the morning. It was rough, but we made sure we went to our Friday appointment at our restaurant to see our favorite bartender.
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Speaker 2: I love that you said that because that's what I was going to say. Our Friday... that we basically hold as like nobody can interrupt that. Like anything can happen that week. We can plan a bunch of stuff, but we will hold that lunch date sacred. So how cool is this to kind of go, like think about what we're doing right now. How many couples actually ask each other questions about what's right? This is so cool. I love this.
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Speaker 1: I still don't appreciate the temperature you leave the thermostat on.
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Speaker 2: Let's keep it positive. Okay. All right, number three.
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Speaker 1: I want to talk about them.
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Speaker 2: That's another episode. Number three. What's something I could surprise you with that you'd really enjoy? Keep it clean.
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Speaker 1: Keep it clean. Oh, a watch, a dinner, a sweatsuit, a new ceviche restaurant, a trip. Yes.
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Speaker 2: Yes. That's cool. Um, yes. And I would say a night out. No, I actually was going to say like, um, something like, um, a Broadway show tickets that you got a night, you planned like that kind of thing, a date night that I wasn't expecting. Absolutely. Okay. Um, what's something you can't wait to experience together in the future?
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Speaker 1: For us to experience together in the future. Oh, my goodness. The family with the girl, everybody, yacht excursion we've been talking about doing, going to Southeast Asia and going to Hawaii. It's all travel related, I guess.
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Speaker 2: Same for me.
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Speaker 1: There's a couple of races I can't wait to get in with you two.
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Speaker 2: I would love to run a couple of marathons internationally with you. And I know you're not asking on this, but I would love to go to a romantic, sexy safari in South Africa with you. Like that would be super fun. Like I love the stuff with the girls, but I would like to do that. All right. Number five. What do you think has been one of our most important moments together so far?
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Speaker 1: Most important. You know, we were talking about it not too long ago. Um, September of 2023, Arkansas versus Mississippi State football game. You went back to Fayetteville with me for the first time after shit had hit the fan with us. That was our first public outing, if you will. And we went to a place that was home, that was safe, that they embraced you. And we just happened to be talking about this recently because we were back for Arkansas-Georgia game. And so, yeah, that's the first thing coming to mind. I haven't thought about it at all. I love that.
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Speaker 2: I think for me, it was getting the okay from Sabine, getting the okay from your parents, getting the okay from my parents, and finally getting all of our daughters on board with our relationship. All of those moments were the most important for me because we got the backing of the people we love the most. That was a huge moment. Number six, what's something small I do that makes you feel loved?
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Speaker 1: You make, eh, I don't, eh, I don't know if it makes, no, no, no, I'm saying I like it. I don't know if it makes me feel loved. I'm not sure what it makes me feel.
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Speaker 2: No, it's gotta be something that makes you feel loved.
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Speaker 1: Well, you make a point to walk in. I'm always awake before you. I'm always working in the studio before you and you walk in and you always, first thing, walk around. You have to make an effort to walk around the table to come give me a hug and a kiss and take a moment. So, you do that every morning.
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Speaker 2: That's good to know that that makes you feel loved. Yes. Um, I think something small that you do that makes me feel loved, Um, it's not small for you to cook a meal. So I don't want to minimize that. I'm trying to think of something like a small, Oh, you know what? When you walk by me, this is the truth. And you kiss me on the back of my neck. Like that changes my day. Like, I don't even know if you know how much of an impact that has on me. So I love that. Or when you hold my hand when I'm walking across the street. That makes me feel loved. It matters.
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Speaker 1: You know what? Even if I'm mad at you, if we walk across the street, I still hold your hand.
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Speaker 2: And then I know it's okay.
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Speaker 1: She's my responsibility still.
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Speaker 2: No, don't take away from that. It makes me feel loved. How about this? Is there a song, a place, or a scent that instantly reminds you of us?
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Speaker 1: Of course. Oh, my God. Do you remember I used to tell you sometimes I would text you without seeing you anywhere in that big-ass studio, and I'd say, I know you're in the building.
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Speaker 2: Because I smell you.
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Speaker 1: I can smell you. I had no idea.
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Speaker 2: So my perfume.
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Speaker 1: I had no idea.
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Speaker 2: Yes.
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Speaker 1: There are several places. You can even get very specific.
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Speaker 2: There are a lot of them.
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Speaker 1: Via del Corso. You can go very specific. Promenade in Nice. Old Town. You can get very specific things. The Red Rooster in Harlem. There's a bunch. We have a bunch of spots. There's some things that just, yeah.
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Speaker 2: That are our places. Yes, Del Frisco's here in New York City instantly reminds me of us. And there's an Ed Sheeran song that reminds me of us. But there's a bunch of songs. The moment I hear them, I think of you.
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Speaker 1: Anything Michael Bolton. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I know that sounds crazy, but it's true. All right. What do you miss about me when we aren't together?
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Speaker 1: The things get a lot more serious. There is a different energy, joy in the room when you're in it. So when you're not around, again, it's not like I go into depression. That's what I'm saying. But even if, It's just Sabine and I hanging out in the house and you walk out for a little bit. The energy is different when you come back in. So what I miss about you, yeah, that thing is instantly gone. It's not even a matter of your personality.
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Speaker 2: Energy, right?
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Speaker 1: It's just, yeah, man.
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Speaker 2: I miss... I miss your, I mean, you're the funniest person I know. And you have always made me laugh. And I've always said, like, no matter what, no matter how old we get, no matter what we end up looking like and how far we can run or how much we can travel, I know I could be anywhere with you and have a blast.
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Speaker 1: Because I amuse you. I amuse you.
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Speaker 2: You are the funniest person I know.
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Speaker 1: I'm just, I'm like a clown?
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Speaker 2: You are an amazing, intelligent comedian.
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Speaker 1: Like a clown? I amuse you is what you're saying.
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Speaker 2: Okay, Godfather. Where else would I get all my movie quotes from? No, I miss laughing with you when we're not together.
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Speaker 1: What number is this?
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Speaker 2: That's number eight. Number nine, what do you think is one of the best things we've taught each other?
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Speaker 1: Taught each other the best things? I don't know.
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: Taught each other versus you taught me. Uh, or I taught, no, I couldn't, I could never presume what I taught you. Um, best things we've taught each other. I don't know. That was a tough one off the top of the head.
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Speaker 2: I would say that we've taught each other how to get through the tough times and to trust each other. And we've taught each other that we can trust one another, that when things get really, really, but no, but we have been tested in the sense that I know you've got my back. And I know that you're my person. Like, you've taught me that I can trust you. And I've learned that through some really tough times.
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Speaker 1: You taught me that Stevie Nicks is a woman.
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Speaker 2: Okay. That's true.
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Speaker 1: You taught me that the Doobie Brothers are actually brothers. You taught me that the Bee Gees was a group of actual men. It was all men.
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Speaker 2: Even though they sing in falsetto.
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Speaker 1: You taught me.
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Speaker 2: Is that one of the best things I've taught you?
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Speaker 1: About white music? Wait, it says best things?
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Speaker 2: What is one of the best things we've taught each other?
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Speaker 1: You know what? In all seriousness. I think it's supposed to be a little.
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Speaker 2: Bit deeper than that.
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Speaker 1: Why does it have to be? That's fine.
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Speaker 2: You can be whatever you want to be.
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Speaker 1: I have been enlightened by being exposed to culture. That's fine.
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Speaker 2: White music. I get that. Okay, number 10. What's a dream you have for us?
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Speaker 1: Dream?
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Speaker 2: That you haven't shared yet.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I haven't shared. Kids. You shared it repeatedly. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
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Speaker 2: You say it all the time. What's a dream that you haven't shared yet for us?
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Speaker 1: Haven't? I don't know. We are together so much.
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Speaker 2: We talk about our future a lot.
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Speaker 1: I feel like you, yeah, that I haven't shared something I want us to do that I haven't expressed.
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Speaker 2: A dream for us. A dream for us.
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Speaker 1: Actually, to stop working hard. Earlier than we've discussed.
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Speaker 2: Oh, I like that.
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Speaker 1: Like really, really soon. I'm on board with that. Like really, really soon.
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Speaker 2: I have a dream that we die within a day of each other. I've never shared that with you. I don't want to be around if you're not here. No, it's actually beautiful. I don't want to be here if you're not here.
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Speaker 1: Okay.
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Speaker 2: That's my dream that I haven't shared with you yet.
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Speaker 1: What if it's, if I go tomorrow, I don't want you to go on Monday.
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Speaker 2: I don't either, but.
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Speaker 1: That kind of a thing. That's true. So now you take it back.
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Speaker 2: For my daughters.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. See what I'm dealing with, folks.
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Speaker 2: Yes. See.
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Speaker 1: But I do.
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Speaker 2: It is my dream that I haven't shared with you that we die just a day apart. All right. When we come back, we've got the next five questions. Isn't this cute, though? I love this.
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Speaker 1: It used to be until that last question. You told me.
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Speaker 2: You spend so much time having these serious talks and these questions about all this tough, dark stuff. Why not have these same conversations again? when you're talking about love and fun stuff. So when we come back, the next five questions you need to ask your partner. Welcome back everyone to Amy and TJ. It is Relationship Saturday. And if you are in a serious relationship, we spend way too much time talking about all the serious, uncomfortable stuff. And I'm not discounting that. We're not saying you shouldn't have those conversations, but why not also have this type of a conversation where you actually get deep and talk about what you like about each other, what you love about each other. And so number 11 on the list of questions you should ask your partner to just lean into your compatibility. What is something you've learned about love through being with me? Be kind.
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Speaker 1: I've learned about love.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I recognize it. I recognize it through experience, through pain, through hardship, through decades, actually, of what you could argue is failure in relationships.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I know what it looks like, and I know what friendship looks like. I know.
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Speaker 1: Man, if we start relationship workshops, man, friendship is the foundation.
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Speaker 2: Isn't it though? That is, so you just nailed what I was going to say. That is the thing I have learned. I have never truly been best friends with my partner. And you and I had that foundation to begin with. And I now believe, and it is what I have learned, babe, when we are not doing well as a romantic partners, I can lean into our friendship and say, I trust this man. I know this man. I like this man. And even if I'm angry with him right now, I respect him because he's my friend and I know who he is and I know what he stands for. And even if I don't agree with him right now, having that foundation of friendship creates a level of respect that I've never experienced before. And that is everything. So you have absolutely... taught me that. Our love has taught me that.
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Speaker 1: We say that all the time on these dating show, 90 Day or Married at First Sight. You need to have a foundation to trust somebody with some of the stuff that's going to come up. I've known you for two weeks. There's no way some of the stuff that comes up in relationship, you do not have a foundation enough of trust to work that out.
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Speaker 2: And there's too much... ego and too much just insecurity that we all deal with an ego to, to get through it. If you don't have that foundation.
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Speaker 1: All right.
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Speaker 2: Number 12, what's a random thing you've noticed about me that makes you smile?
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Speaker 1: Random thing I've noticed about you that makes you smile, makes me smile. Um, random.
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Speaker 2: Like some random thing I do that makes you smile.
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Speaker 1: Man, that's weird. You know what? I'm, I'm, it's not a cop out. So nothing about you is random anymore. We've not just known each other now for 12 years. We have for the past four plus years have been... up under each other almost every day.
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Speaker 2: Right, so there's got to be some random thing I do that makes you smile.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm saying it's not. Okay, a random thing. I'm sorry. I'm thinking of it the wrong way. Yeah. It's a new thing.
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Speaker 2: No, yeah. Think about like.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry. Random thing. She still runs through the house with her socks and slides.
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Speaker 2: I was waiting for you to say that. Oh, that's easy.
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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry. I was thinking of it the wrong way. Sorry, sorry, sorry. I was like a new thing. No, no, no.
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Speaker 2: Yes.
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Speaker 1: You still run across the hardwoods with socks on sliding. Nobody has to be around. She's not racing somebody and she's not jumping into your arms. She just does it for shits and giggles just for herself.
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Speaker 2: Um, and I, when I come in in the morning, you have your AirPods on and you are rocking and it's so cute because you so love music and just, just your whole body is just like moving and rocking and your legs are going. And I like, I can't hear a thing you're hearing, but I think it's so cute how much you love music and how it moves you. I, it makes me smile.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, I'm starting a DJing career.
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Speaker 2: I know. I can't wait. I'm going to be your fan girl.
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Speaker 1: I would hope so. Yeah. All right.
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Speaker 2: Number 13. What do you think has been one of our most important moments together so far?
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Speaker 1: Um, one of, damn, I got like a shit. I think I just came up with like 10.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 1: Um, There was that movie we went to last September. There was the first time I went and stayed at your parents' house. There was that first time your parents were on the podcast. There was that day that we severed the relationship with ABC Disney. There was the first time we ran a marathon together. Man, I got stuff. Important for us, yeah, the first trip we took with Sabine, just the three of us, the first time, me, you, Sabine, and Annalise and Ava. I mean, man, babe, we got a bunch.
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Speaker 2: I know. I don't even know how to pick which one it would be. I mean, one of the most important moments of our relationship so far, I think... but a bunch, you know what I think at what, like for me, one of the most important moments was when we were at the Chicago marathon and you got critically injured, you ended up in a ambulance.
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Speaker 1: I feel like critical in the moment.
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Speaker 2: It felt critical. And when you and I were in that ambulance together, I don't know. I just felt bonded to you. Like I've never felt so connected to somebody where like, our outcomes were entangled. Like it wasn't what I did or what you did or, and you've done this every time you've crossed a finish line with me, you finished with me, even though you could have far surpassed me. I think that was the moment where we kind of both each chose each other when we could have chosen ourselves. And that was a moment where we both had made a choice because you made a choice multiple times, not, not to finish first, but you absolutely could have. And I just felt like that was a moment where we both were in it. Like just for, we were a team. It was an us. It wasn't a me or a you. I loved that. Um, all right. Number 14. When was it time you felt especially grateful for our relationship?
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Speaker 1: Again, man. I got a list. And some of it could go back to before you and I were ever dating, times when we were still friends. Important times in our relationship where I had to pull you to the side and say I'm struggling, say I'm hurting, and you recommend this reading and this author and this book. And there were those moments plenty throughout. There were, I remember still that phone call calling, right, when we talked after they reached out to me about becoming your co-anchor on GMA3. And I remember that moment of saying, eh, I'm not so sure about this. And how that was meaningful at the time that you understood the level of respect I had for you and your relationship to that show. I thought that was a meaningful conversation.
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Speaker 2: It was.
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Speaker 1: Right? That showed up later. Robes, I think that when Strahan went to space was a big deal. When the Queen died was a big deal. When the Queen Jubilee happened was a big deal. There were like some significant moments.
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Speaker 2: It's funny. Yeah, and you point that out. I think every time I work with you, I'm grateful for our relationship because we trust each other. I've never had that experience. Again, when we were just friends where I could go on the air with someone because that is a very vulnerable place to be in. You are now on live television with a microphone. Anything you say can and will be held against you. And you're going to have a brain fart. You're going to have an issue. You're going to misspeak. You're going to do something. To know you've got somebody on the other side who's got your back, who will help you out, who will pick you up if you fall. And I always knew that you were that person. So I've been grateful for our friendship and our relationship. I think pretty much the moment we got on the air together, I knew I had an ally. And I remain grateful to this day on more tired mornings or days where we're not at our best. We've got each other's back. All right. Number 15. Last question. This is fun, isn't it? We don't do this enough. Couples don't do this enough. I hope everyone listening writes down these questions and does a version of this with their loved one. What is a quirky thing about our relationship that you secretly love?
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Speaker 1: I've got mine. quirky thing about our relationship.
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Speaker 2: Yep. Quirky.
00:25:58
Speaker 1: Quirky.
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Speaker 2: Would you like me to say mine so you can get an idea? Sure.
00:26:02
Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So this is going to sound so weird to everybody listening, but we live in an apartment building and when you get a delivery, your doorman will ring you up or they'll send you an email and say you've got a package or say you ordered DoorDash or Uber Eats or whatever and you've got your food delivery and We're on a higher floor. And so, yeah, you've got to go leave the apartment, get in the elevator, go down. We have just created a habit where when we get any sort of delivery, we go down together.
00:26:37
Speaker 1: Right.
00:26:39
Speaker 2: And it's so quirky that our doorman the other day was like, does one of you not trust the other? Like, why do you guys come down together to get like one small bag, like some little tiny DoorDash bag? And we laughed because we hadn't really thought about it. We're like, I don't know. We just don't want to be apart. It sounds so ridiculous. It's quirky, but I love it. I secretly love it.
00:27:08
Speaker 1: Oh, my boys weren't listening to that. Are you embarrassed? It's routine. We don't give a thought to it. You know what I think this was born of? You and I didn't want to make the other feel obligated to go down. So you don't have to go down. You don't have to go down. I'll go get it. No, I'll go get it. Let's just go get it together.
00:27:30
Speaker 2: Sometimes we take the trash out together.
00:27:32
Speaker 1: And it's just, it became more and more of a thing. Dang, I had something. Damn it.
00:27:37
Speaker 2: Did I ruin it?
00:27:38
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had something.
00:27:39
Speaker 2: Okay, let me ask you the question again and see if it comes back.
00:27:41
Speaker 1: I had, oh, damn it. Go ahead.
00:27:43
Speaker 2: What's a quirky thing about our relationship that you secretly love?
00:27:49
Speaker 1: Is this quirky? Because we did it to, we did Friday.
00:27:54
Speaker 2: Okay.
00:27:55
Speaker 1: And we do it every Friday. Oh, yeah. We go to the same spot for lunch every single Friday at the exact same time.
00:28:02
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:28:03
Speaker 1: But we had to sit inside on Friday versus outside.
00:28:08
Speaker 2: Because it was cold and windy.
00:28:10
Speaker 1: Okay.
00:28:11
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:28:11
Speaker 1: And in doing so, we sat in a booth.
00:28:13
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Mm.
00:28:15
Speaker 1: Now, is that weird or quirky for a couple to sit on the same side of a booth?
00:28:24
Speaker 2: I think that's a whole episode because I think some people would say yes and some people would say no. But I would say that for somebody, I would think that for a couple who have known each other for 12 years, who have been together romantically for four years, I would say that's probably unusual. And so you could say quirky. But I like to be touching you, and I like to be seeing the same things you're seeing.
00:28:52
Speaker 1: Wait, but there are two different camps out there. Forget how long anybody's been together. Some people like to look at each other. Okay, but do the people who like to look at each other think the people who are sitting on the same side? I used to think that was weird.
00:29:03
Speaker 2: I think we're annoying.
00:29:04
Speaker 1: No, I used to think that was really weird. I don't think I see that that much, baby.
00:29:09
Speaker 2: It's strange. It's quirky. It's quirky, for sure. But I know that I like it because, A, we usually are holding hands. Cause we're so annoying or we're touching, but then we like see the same things and we can talk about the same things. I know it's, it's a little, but look, this was fun. And I do think after this type of conversation where you actually ask questions about your love and what you love about each other, what you like about each other, what makes you and your relationship unique, you really, remember and you acknowledge why you're together versus we tend to have these deep conversations about the tough stuff. Try and have a deep conversation about the fun stuff. How about that? And with that, everyone, we always appreciate you listening to us. I'm Amy Robach alongside TJ Holmes. We'll talk soon.