Nov. 9, 2025
Mercedes Hit A Wall
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RSS Feed There's been new developments in Mercedes' love life with Boston Man...so Ben is sitting down for an emergency episode to get all the details!
Has Mercedes found "the one", or is she still famously available??
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Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree. This is famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available with your host Ben. As we follow our famously available women all on their own journeys, we are bound to hit some twists and turns. Last time we talked to Mercedes, are beloved Mercedes.
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Speaker 2: Things were going well.
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Speaker 1: But I'm back for another check in, and honestly, I am unaware of the status.
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Speaker 2: However, I was told.
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Speaker 1: That I needed to get on a call with Mercedes to have an honest and open conversation. And that's why I'm here today. Mercedes, Why are you here?
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Speaker 3: I am here to let you know that me and Boston Man are no more.
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Speaker 1: That's I just like, I don't really, I'm just gonna speak to you like I would any of my other girlfriends who are going through this.
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Speaker 2: I'm bummed.
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Speaker 1: I'm bummed because it felt like things were We're just happy and healthy and like going on their own individual timeline in like the best ways.
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Speaker 2: When we talked to you last, you.
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Speaker 1: Didn't have a plan necessarily to see him next if I remember right, but you were going to like get that scheduled. You're gonna figure that one out.
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Speaker 2: What happened.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I don't really know. I feel like it kind of like just switched one day. On his end, I think he got a job opportunity on top of his full time job, so he's gonna be working a lot. He has to move to a new city, and I think he was just very stressed and I think having someone to like care for and like be in a relationship with zone was just too much for him.
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Speaker 4: So he just was like, yeah, I can't do that.
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Speaker 3: I was like, okay, I'm not gonna like be someone to take me along with them through their life and journeys.
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Speaker 4: So that was that. And yeah, the.
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Speaker 1: I mean it always is sad and hurt, and you know, if you're me, when things end, I kind of go very internal. I ask myself a lot of questions, if that makes sense. What are some of the questions you're asking yourself right now?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's honestly, Like the biggest thing that I've been struggling with is I've like you turned internal and like what did I did I do something? Is there something wrong with me? And it was something that I struggled with for a couple of days and it was just like you know, did.
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Speaker 4: I open enough, like open up.
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Speaker 3: Enough, did I make him feel like the way he was making me feel? Or do I need to be better at communicating my feelings?
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Speaker 4: Like there was a lot of again.
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Speaker 3: Internal questioning, but then I just came to the conclusion that you know, I know who I am, I know the love I give, and I'm worthy of a love that reciprocates that, and it just wasn't him.
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Speaker 1: The There is some things about him, though, that you really appreciated and that obviously drew you to him. When we started this, he was a practice date turned into multiple dates. The reason it turned into multiple dates is because you were intrigued by him and you liked him as you know for the time that you're together. What are some of those qualities now that you've pulled from that that you look for in the future.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely someone who is like very open with the way they feel. I feel like he was the type of guy that just kind of laid it out on the table, which I had never.
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Speaker 4: Really experienced before.
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Speaker 3: And it turns out that I really like that and I like hearing compliments. It's so funny, Ben, Like I used to be like, oh, I don't really like when men compliment me, like it makes me feel like, oh, like I don't know how to take it. But then with him, I like loved it. I'm like, oh, keep them coming. So I think that, you know, I'm a firm believer that every single person or thing that happens to you is either a lesson or you know, you learn something from everyone. And I think that he really like sparked something in me and made me excited about dating again, because before him, I was like, I'm not going on a date with anyone, Like all these men are.
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Speaker 4: Like not it.
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Speaker 3: And now I'm like excited and I'm excited to meet more people. And he showed me that, like I can get excited about someone. So I think that was kind of.
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Speaker 4: His role in my love life.
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Speaker 3: And obviously, like I think he's a great person and I think he truly like I know, he's not a bad person.
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Speaker 4: I think he's just really busy with life.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I hear you there, and it does. The hope is this did open up kind of the floodgates to you getting back out there in the dating world. Is this chapter closed for you? I mean, if he takes a few weeks, sits on this and is like, goodness, gracious, I had somebody incredible h in my life and calls you back up.
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Speaker 2: Would you reconsider dating again or trying it again?
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Speaker 4: Probably, but I would have I would be like very reserved.
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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be able to just like jump back into it and be like where we were.
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Speaker 4: You know. I think the way that he I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I don't want to get into too much just out of respect for him, but I think the way that he handled it was a little unconsiderate, where like we didn't like Basically, I was like, do you need some space.
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Speaker 4: For a couple of days to like think?
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Speaker 3: And he was like yes, and I like, which I get, and I gave him a couple of days, but I just like, I don't know. I was like, you literally left me here not knowing like what you were thinking for you.
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Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying. So it was just a little unconsiderate.
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Speaker 3: So I the door's not closed, but I would definitely have my reservations.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that's very fair.
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Speaker 1: When we started this whole thing out, you had a lot of hesitancy towards today's dating culture. You weren't going on dates, you weren't you wanted to go on dates? You didn't really though. It felt like you wanted to go on dates, but you didn't at the same time that you didn't really know how to put yourself out there into the world. You obviously did with this practice date that turned into multiple dates. Dating is very complex. We talked about what you liked about him, but after just a few dates with him, what have you learned about dating? And do you think there's an added complexity since you have been on TV.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like what I've learned about dating is that my the way that I was like viewing dates and how I thought that all men were is not true. You know, he was very respectful of my boundaries. He respected me, He was open and honest. So I think he definitely taught me that I need to be more open and not just have my one.
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Speaker 4: Opinion, closed minded opinion about men.
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Speaker 3: I think that's honestly the most important thing he taught me through you know, however much time we spent.
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Speaker 1: Together, this season of life for you is not only going to be full of these roller coaster rides of emotion, but also very exciting at times. Also because you do get to meet people. But one of the things that was happening in this relationship was it was long distance, which adds another layer of difficulty to relationships but can be very healthy. Has it made you at all stay away from long distance relationships or would you still pursue tho if they're available, I would.
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Speaker 4: Still pursue them.
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Speaker 3: That was like his like main thing on why he didn't want to continue was because of the long distance.
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Speaker 4: But I personally, like, I didn't. I didn't mind it.
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Speaker 3: I mean, obviously it sucks, right, like you like want to like when you're excited about someone and you start dating someone, like you're like, I want.
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Speaker 4: To be with you all the time, Like I want to know everything about you.
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Speaker 3: Like that's normal, and obviously when you live in different cities you can't do that.
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Speaker 4: But honestly, it wasn't bothering me, like I think.
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Speaker 3: You know, if it was for an extended amount of time, obviously that would be really, really tough.
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Speaker 4: But you know, we talked on the phone.
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Speaker 3: We you know, we both gave effort to where it felt like we were still getting to know each other even if we weren't in person. So no, I'm not knocking long distance relationships at all. I think if you both put the effort, then it can work.
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Speaker 1: I agree, And it does make conversations sometimes more intentional because you have to ask questions. You can't just snuggle on the couch and watch a movie. You have to actually communicate. And I do think you can get to know each other even better through you know, just talking to connect instead of anything else, which is beautiful in its own way. Do you I mean long distance and kind of how this started. Do you don't think there was anybody else that he was dating right that came into play here?
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Speaker 4: No? No, I mean it was very abrupt, so I don't know. I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I didn't ask, but I don't think so. I don't think so. I think that he just genuinely was like very stressed with the whole work thing and having to work sixty hours a.
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Speaker 4: Week and you know, moving to a new city, all these things. But at the end of the day, like.
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Speaker 3: It goes back to like if he wanted to, he would like it's not it wasn't impossible to continue to get to know me and date me.
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Speaker 4: But I mean, he just he didn't think he had time. So no, I don't.
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Speaker 3: Think that there was someone else, but I mean, I guess I didn't ask the question.
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Speaker 4: So I don't know for sure.
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Speaker 1: And we talked about it last time you're on here. You hadn't really had that conversation yet, so if there was, it's not like he was doing anything yeah wrong, just would be surprising, maybe because of how you were feeling at the time about him. You have a great group of friends around you, some from the show, some not from the show. What was their response when you told him.
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Speaker 2: It was over?
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Speaker 4: They were like, I mean, they were obviously on my side.
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Speaker 3: They were like, yeah, he was love Bomby like a bunch of stuff, you know, just try you know how girls are like HiPE each other up or like he's a weirdo loser. Yeah, but no, I think that they thought the same as me. They're like, he's not like a posy and we all know that. And I know that he's a good guy, he's a good family like he has good values morals.
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Speaker 4: I just think it was.
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Speaker 3: A timing thing and they were like if what I forget what friends said this, but they're like, think of how great he was, Like think of how like amazing and like when you actually meet like the love of your life or you're like your husband, the person you're gonna spend forever with, Like that's gonna feel like make this feel like nothing. And I'm like, that's so exciting, you know, Like I got so excited over him that like, when I actually meet someone, it's like, for real, how exciting it'll be.
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Speaker 1: Oh, And that's completely true. It doesn't disregard past relationships. It doesn't make those less meaningful. I think that would be unfair to that season and time that you spent. But it's it's only natural to, at at least at the beginning, to compare. And it's just incredible when you meet the one and when you know you know, and you'll never feel anything like it you know before, and you're like, goodness, gracious. But then the fear, Mercedes is if this ends, I am broken, like broken, But it's the best thing ever and also the scariest thing of your life.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's worth it so great. Do you think he's gonna listen to this episode?
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Speaker 4: I don't know. I hope not.
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Speaker 3: He he listened to the first one and I told him, I said, you're not allowed to listen to it, and he's like, why and I'm like, because you're getting like the inside of my brain.
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Speaker 4: I'm like, that's not fair.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't.
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Speaker 3: Know if he'll listen to it or not. To be honest, I hope he doesn't. But if he does, I mean I'm just being honest and truthful. And he also like I told him everything on the phone too. When we did have like the conversation, I was just like, I.
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Speaker 4: Told you where I was at.
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Speaker 3: If you feel this way, like, there's nothing I can do about it. So hope was she's best? You know, like I wasn't like the type of girl where it's like, well, I'm like, you know, really her by this.
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Speaker 4: I didn't do all that.
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Speaker 3: I was just like, Okay, if that's that's what you want to do, that's what you want to do, have fun, see you.
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Speaker 4: Thanks for chat like.
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Speaker 3: Life.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, and it's fair if he does listen to this. Is there anything you.
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Speaker 2: Haven't said so far that you would want him to hear?
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Speaker 3: No?
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Speaker 4: Not really.
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Speaker 1: Well I guess the question is out there right now? Are you ready to date more?
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Speaker 4: Yes? I am.
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Speaker 1: I'm excited sneaking up on us and talking to anybody else right now.
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Speaker 3: There's a few people in the dms, but nothing like, nothing significant.
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Speaker 2: There's like some flirty dms going back and forth.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, which is so unlike me.
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Speaker 3: Boston Man literally opened up all different side of me. So a few flirty dms but nothing nothing serious.
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Speaker 1: Well, Mercedes is having fun. At some point, I want to go through an episode and talk about the flirted dms and what you've said back and forth to each other. I want to know how you flirt these days.
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Speaker 2: That's all much.
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Speaker 1: That's something I'm very curious about, is how flirting happens in this dating culture. Well, I don't want to give too many details to you right now, but we do have someone we're going to be setting you up with very soon. I hear, and I'm going to know more here in just a bit, but I hear this man is very attractive and he is in the right age range. Okay, so that's going to be happening if you agree to let us do this.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm literally so down. I'm literally I'm saying yes to every day. Every date is a practice date until we find the one.
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Speaker 1: Be careful because your DMS might get even busier. We're going to bring you back on here very soon to give the details about this date kind of leading up to it, and then we'll talk to you night of the date, before and after the date happens. It's great and if the date goes well, amazing. If it doesn't go well, then we just put Deanna in with a therapist to talk to her.
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Speaker 4: After a day she needed a therapist.
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Speaker 1: No, I think it just was like a good added benefit to the show as you get free therapy and you get to talk through all this stuff. You just have to do it in front of a national audience. But that also is an option available to you if this date doesn't go well and you feel like you need some tuning up in life, So just keep in mind. Mercedes again, I am sorry that this one didn't work out, but I am happy that there's a smile on your face and that it sounds like you took some great things from this little, you know, talking relationship and also learn some things about yourself and also put your footback out there to date again, and we can't wait to be a part of it. I'm bummed then never got to meet him. I was excited to do that. Maybe that's what scared him away. If it is, I will never offer that up again. That is that was my mistake.
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Speaker 3: I honestly, yeah, we didn't even because like the day I was gonna tell him was the day that like things started being weird.
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Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, today's day I do it.
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Speaker 3: So we didn't even know.
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Speaker 4: So it wasn't you.
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Speaker 2: Okay, good Mercedes.
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Speaker 1: We'll have you back on here very soon to talk about some very exciting things that we have planned for you. It will be fun, it will be awesome. Uh and I cannot wait to hear more about it until next time. This has been famously available. We're talking to Mercedes a day about the ending of the relationship with Boston man. Uh. And we will continue to put Mercedes back out there into the world because somebody out there deserves Mercedes, and Mercedes deserves somebody great.
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Speaker 2: So we'll be back soon. Stay tuned.
Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree. This is famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available with your host Ben. As we follow our famously available women all on their own journeys, we are bound to hit some twists and turns. Last time we talked to Mercedes, are beloved Mercedes.
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Speaker 2: Things were going well.
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Speaker 1: But I'm back for another check in, and honestly, I am unaware of the status.
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Speaker 2: However, I was told.
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Speaker 1: That I needed to get on a call with Mercedes to have an honest and open conversation. And that's why I'm here today. Mercedes, Why are you here?
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Speaker 3: I am here to let you know that me and Boston Man are no more.
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Speaker 1: That's I just like, I don't really, I'm just gonna speak to you like I would any of my other girlfriends who are going through this.
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Speaker 2: I'm bummed.
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Speaker 1: I'm bummed because it felt like things were We're just happy and healthy and like going on their own individual timeline in like the best ways.
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Speaker 2: When we talked to you last, you.
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Speaker 1: Didn't have a plan necessarily to see him next if I remember right, but you were going to like get that scheduled. You're gonna figure that one out.
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Speaker 2: What happened.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I don't really know. I feel like it kind of like just switched one day. On his end, I think he got a job opportunity on top of his full time job, so he's gonna be working a lot. He has to move to a new city, and I think he was just very stressed and I think having someone to like care for and like be in a relationship with zone was just too much for him.
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Speaker 4: So he just was like, yeah, I can't do that.
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Speaker 3: I was like, okay, I'm not gonna like be someone to take me along with them through their life and journeys.
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Speaker 4: So that was that. And yeah, the.
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Speaker 1: I mean it always is sad and hurt, and you know, if you're me, when things end, I kind of go very internal. I ask myself a lot of questions, if that makes sense. What are some of the questions you're asking yourself right now?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's honestly, Like the biggest thing that I've been struggling with is I've like you turned internal and like what did I did I do something? Is there something wrong with me? And it was something that I struggled with for a couple of days and it was just like you know, did.
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Speaker 4: I open enough, like open up.
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Speaker 3: Enough, did I make him feel like the way he was making me feel? Or do I need to be better at communicating my feelings?
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Speaker 4: Like there was a lot of again.
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Speaker 3: Internal questioning, but then I just came to the conclusion that you know, I know who I am, I know the love I give, and I'm worthy of a love that reciprocates that, and it just wasn't him.
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Speaker 1: The There is some things about him, though, that you really appreciated and that obviously drew you to him. When we started this, he was a practice date turned into multiple dates. The reason it turned into multiple dates is because you were intrigued by him and you liked him as you know for the time that you're together. What are some of those qualities now that you've pulled from that that you look for in the future.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely someone who is like very open with the way they feel. I feel like he was the type of guy that just kind of laid it out on the table, which I had never.
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Speaker 4: Really experienced before.
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Speaker 3: And it turns out that I really like that and I like hearing compliments. It's so funny, Ben, Like I used to be like, oh, I don't really like when men compliment me, like it makes me feel like, oh, like I don't know how to take it. But then with him, I like loved it. I'm like, oh, keep them coming. So I think that, you know, I'm a firm believer that every single person or thing that happens to you is either a lesson or you know, you learn something from everyone. And I think that he really like sparked something in me and made me excited about dating again, because before him, I was like, I'm not going on a date with anyone, Like all these men are.
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Speaker 4: Like not it.
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Speaker 3: And now I'm like excited and I'm excited to meet more people. And he showed me that, like I can get excited about someone. So I think that was kind of.
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Speaker 4: His role in my love life.
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Speaker 3: And obviously, like I think he's a great person and I think he truly like I know, he's not a bad person.
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Speaker 4: I think he's just really busy with life.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I hear you there, and it does. The hope is this did open up kind of the floodgates to you getting back out there in the dating world. Is this chapter closed for you? I mean, if he takes a few weeks, sits on this and is like, goodness, gracious, I had somebody incredible h in my life and calls you back up.
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Speaker 2: Would you reconsider dating again or trying it again?
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Speaker 4: Probably, but I would have I would be like very reserved.
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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be able to just like jump back into it and be like where we were.
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Speaker 4: You know. I think the way that he I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I don't want to get into too much just out of respect for him, but I think the way that he handled it was a little unconsiderate, where like we didn't like Basically, I was like, do you need some space.
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Speaker 4: For a couple of days to like think?
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Speaker 3: And he was like yes, and I like, which I get, and I gave him a couple of days, but I just like, I don't know. I was like, you literally left me here not knowing like what you were thinking for you.
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Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying. So it was just a little unconsiderate.
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Speaker 3: So I the door's not closed, but I would definitely have my reservations.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that's very fair.
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Speaker 1: When we started this whole thing out, you had a lot of hesitancy towards today's dating culture. You weren't going on dates, you weren't you wanted to go on dates? You didn't really though. It felt like you wanted to go on dates, but you didn't at the same time that you didn't really know how to put yourself out there into the world. You obviously did with this practice date that turned into multiple dates. Dating is very complex. We talked about what you liked about him, but after just a few dates with him, what have you learned about dating? And do you think there's an added complexity since you have been on TV.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like what I've learned about dating is that my the way that I was like viewing dates and how I thought that all men were is not true. You know, he was very respectful of my boundaries. He respected me, He was open and honest. So I think he definitely taught me that I need to be more open and not just have my one.
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Speaker 4: Opinion, closed minded opinion about men.
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Speaker 3: I think that's honestly the most important thing he taught me through you know, however much time we spent.
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Speaker 1: Together, this season of life for you is not only going to be full of these roller coaster rides of emotion, but also very exciting at times. Also because you do get to meet people. But one of the things that was happening in this relationship was it was long distance, which adds another layer of difficulty to relationships but can be very healthy. Has it made you at all stay away from long distance relationships or would you still pursue tho if they're available, I would.
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Speaker 4: Still pursue them.
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Speaker 3: That was like his like main thing on why he didn't want to continue was because of the long distance.
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Speaker 4: But I personally, like, I didn't. I didn't mind it.
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Speaker 3: I mean, obviously it sucks, right, like you like want to like when you're excited about someone and you start dating someone, like you're like, I want.
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Speaker 4: To be with you all the time, Like I want to know everything about you.
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Speaker 3: Like that's normal, and obviously when you live in different cities you can't do that.
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Speaker 4: But honestly, it wasn't bothering me, like I think.
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Speaker 3: You know, if it was for an extended amount of time, obviously that would be really, really tough.
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Speaker 4: But you know, we talked on the phone.
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Speaker 3: We you know, we both gave effort to where it felt like we were still getting to know each other even if we weren't in person. So no, I'm not knocking long distance relationships at all. I think if you both put the effort, then it can work.
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Speaker 1: I agree, And it does make conversations sometimes more intentional because you have to ask questions. You can't just snuggle on the couch and watch a movie. You have to actually communicate. And I do think you can get to know each other even better through you know, just talking to connect instead of anything else, which is beautiful in its own way. Do you I mean long distance and kind of how this started. Do you don't think there was anybody else that he was dating right that came into play here?
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Speaker 4: No? No, I mean it was very abrupt, so I don't know. I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I didn't ask, but I don't think so. I don't think so. I think that he just genuinely was like very stressed with the whole work thing and having to work sixty hours a.
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Speaker 4: Week and you know, moving to a new city, all these things. But at the end of the day, like.
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Speaker 3: It goes back to like if he wanted to, he would like it's not it wasn't impossible to continue to get to know me and date me.
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Speaker 4: But I mean, he just he didn't think he had time. So no, I don't.
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Speaker 3: Think that there was someone else, but I mean, I guess I didn't ask the question.
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Speaker 4: So I don't know for sure.
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Speaker 1: And we talked about it last time you're on here. You hadn't really had that conversation yet, so if there was, it's not like he was doing anything yeah wrong, just would be surprising, maybe because of how you were feeling at the time about him. You have a great group of friends around you, some from the show, some not from the show. What was their response when you told him.
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Speaker 2: It was over?
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Speaker 4: They were like, I mean, they were obviously on my side.
00:10:45
Speaker 3: They were like, yeah, he was love Bomby like a bunch of stuff, you know, just try you know how girls are like HiPE each other up or like he's a weirdo loser. Yeah, but no, I think that they thought the same as me. They're like, he's not like a posy and we all know that. And I know that he's a good guy, he's a good family like he has good values morals.
00:11:07
Speaker 4: I just think it was.
00:11:08
Speaker 3: A timing thing and they were like if what I forget what friends said this, but they're like, think of how great he was, Like think of how like amazing and like when you actually meet like the love of your life or you're like your husband, the person you're gonna spend forever with, Like that's gonna feel like make this feel like nothing. And I'm like, that's so exciting, you know, Like I got so excited over him that like, when I actually meet someone, it's like, for real, how exciting it'll be.
00:11:37
Speaker 1: Oh, And that's completely true. It doesn't disregard past relationships. It doesn't make those less meaningful. I think that would be unfair to that season and time that you spent. But it's it's only natural to, at at least at the beginning, to compare. And it's just incredible when you meet the one and when you know you know, and you'll never feel anything like it you know before, and you're like, goodness, gracious. But then the fear, Mercedes is if this ends, I am broken, like broken, But it's the best thing ever and also the scariest thing of your life.
00:12:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's worth it so great. Do you think he's gonna listen to this episode?
00:12:22
Speaker 4: I don't know. I hope not.
00:12:24
Speaker 3: He he listened to the first one and I told him, I said, you're not allowed to listen to it, and he's like, why and I'm like, because you're getting like the inside of my brain.
00:12:32
Speaker 4: I'm like, that's not fair.
00:12:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't.
00:12:35
Speaker 3: Know if he'll listen to it or not. To be honest, I hope he doesn't. But if he does, I mean I'm just being honest and truthful. And he also like I told him everything on the phone too. When we did have like the conversation, I was just like, I.
00:12:49
Speaker 4: Told you where I was at.
00:12:50
Speaker 3: If you feel this way, like, there's nothing I can do about it. So hope was she's best? You know, like I wasn't like the type of girl where it's like, well, I'm like, you know, really her by this.
00:13:01
Speaker 4: I didn't do all that.
00:13:02
Speaker 3: I was just like, Okay, if that's that's what you want to do, that's what you want to do, have fun, see you.
00:13:07
Speaker 4: Thanks for chat like.
00:13:12
Speaker 3: Life.
00:13:13
Speaker 1: I don't know, and it's fair if he does listen to this. Is there anything you.
00:13:19
Speaker 2: Haven't said so far that you would want him to hear?
00:13:22
Speaker 3: No?
00:13:23
Speaker 4: Not really.
00:13:24
Speaker 1: Well I guess the question is out there right now? Are you ready to date more?
00:13:31
Speaker 4: Yes? I am.
00:13:32
Speaker 1: I'm excited sneaking up on us and talking to anybody else right now.
00:13:38
Speaker 3: There's a few people in the dms, but nothing like, nothing significant.
00:13:44
Speaker 2: There's like some flirty dms going back and forth.
00:13:47
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is so unlike me.
00:13:50
Speaker 3: Boston Man literally opened up all different side of me. So a few flirty dms but nothing nothing serious.
00:13:58
Speaker 1: Well, Mercedes is having fun. At some point, I want to go through an episode and talk about the flirted dms and what you've said back and forth to each other. I want to know how you flirt these days.
00:14:08
Speaker 2: That's all much.
00:14:09
Speaker 1: That's something I'm very curious about, is how flirting happens in this dating culture. Well, I don't want to give too many details to you right now, but we do have someone we're going to be setting you up with very soon. I hear, and I'm going to know more here in just a bit, but I hear this man is very attractive and he is in the right age range. Okay, so that's going to be happening if you agree to let us do this.
00:14:38
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm literally so down. I'm literally I'm saying yes to every day. Every date is a practice date until we find the one.
00:14:47
Speaker 1: Be careful because your DMS might get even busier. We're going to bring you back on here very soon to give the details about this date kind of leading up to it, and then we'll talk to you night of the date, before and after the date happens. It's great and if the date goes well, amazing. If it doesn't go well, then we just put Deanna in with a therapist to talk to her.
00:15:15
Speaker 4: After a day she needed a therapist.
00:15:17
Speaker 1: No, I think it just was like a good added benefit to the show as you get free therapy and you get to talk through all this stuff. You just have to do it in front of a national audience. But that also is an option available to you if this date doesn't go well and you feel like you need some tuning up in life, So just keep in mind. Mercedes again, I am sorry that this one didn't work out, but I am happy that there's a smile on your face and that it sounds like you took some great things from this little, you know, talking relationship and also learn some things about yourself and also put your footback out there to date again, and we can't wait to be a part of it. I'm bummed then never got to meet him. I was excited to do that. Maybe that's what scared him away. If it is, I will never offer that up again. That is that was my mistake.
00:16:07
Speaker 3: I honestly, yeah, we didn't even because like the day I was gonna tell him was the day that like things started being weird.
00:16:13
Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, today's day I do it.
00:16:16
Speaker 3: So we didn't even know.
00:16:17
Speaker 4: So it wasn't you.
00:16:18
Speaker 2: Okay, good Mercedes.
00:16:21
Speaker 1: We'll have you back on here very soon to talk about some very exciting things that we have planned for you. It will be fun, it will be awesome. Uh and I cannot wait to hear more about it until next time. This has been famously available. We're talking to Mercedes a day about the ending of the relationship with Boston man. Uh. And we will continue to put Mercedes back out there into the world because somebody out there deserves Mercedes, and Mercedes deserves somebody great.
00:16:48
Speaker 2: So we'll be back soon. Stay tuned.