Aug. 1, 2026
Airport Divorce: “Time To Head To The Airport, Honey…. See You At Baggage Claim”
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RSS Feed This was a shocking headline, apparently more than 25% percent of couples who travel either employ or endorse, airport divorcing their partners come vacation time. Some just part ways through the security lines, others meet up at the gate, but there are some couples who take it to the extreme and don’t meet back up until baggage claim at their destination. We talk through the why’s and the who’s of it all and what the experts say about this growing trend.
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Speaker 1: Hey, the folks, it is Saturday, August first, and of course people in divorce every single day in this country. However, I'm just finding out that a lot of divorces are happening at the airport. And with that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ, where we are all going to learn this together. Because I had no idea there was a such thing as an airport divorce.
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Speaker 2: It's a temporary situation.
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Speaker 1: Temporary. Oh, so you got to go back to your marriage after.
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Speaker 2: Yes, it's just a it's a reprieve. It's a temporary divorce. Airport divorce is not a forever thing. You don't have to sign papers. It doesn't mean that you're never going to see each other again.
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Speaker 1: Now, when you use the word divorce in front of it with anything, it sounds bad, it sounds terrible.
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Speaker 2: It's look, it's not my phrase, but it's a practice that's now been established for the past year. Airport divorce is a thing. And look, we all everyone talks about compromise in a relationship, right, that's what makes relationship work. You don't always get to do things when you want to the way you want to, and that's called marriage, right, called a relationship. Okay, but apparently, yes, that can be beneficial to learn that. But this is a trend where the focus is more on you so that you can do your thing, protect your piece, having an understanding before you begin your vacation that you all like to do things differently, and instead of one person compromising or feeling annoyed by the other, you just separate and then rejoin later at.
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Speaker 3: The air Okay, define this for me.
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Speaker 2: Doesn't this sound like a gen Z thing? I'm sorry not to throw an entire generation under the bus, but it kind of does.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: So you're saying, Okay, is there like a solid definition I'm piecing together. What you're saying is that people go to the airport who are traveling together and are going to the same destination, maybe even vacation, but they split at the airport.
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Speaker 3: I'll see you at the gate, honey.
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Speaker 2: Well, so it's funny you mentioned that because there are varying degrees, some people travel to the airport separately because they like to get there at different times. We'll go through the tiers, but i'll hit them for you. Now we can go into detail. Okay, some people go to the airport separately because someone likes to get there early, someone likes to get there late. Some folks yes travel together to the airport, but then they go to separate lines. Some people are really into their tsa PreCheck and others think it's a waste of money, and so they go into different lines and then meet up, perhaps at the restaurant. Some people say, you know what, I like to walk around and shop. The other one likes to go to the restaurant and have a beer, So they meet at the gate. Then there are people who will meet on the plane because some people like to board early, some people like to board at the last minute. And then there is the extreme couple, which we'll say for the very end.
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Speaker 3: You haven't hit me with the extreme one.
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Speaker 2: Now, the extreme one is that they see you at baggage claim at your destination.
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Speaker 3: You're not in the same way. You don't even take the same flight.
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Speaker 2: You actually sit in different places. Because someone likes to sit in the first class likes to pay for it, and the other person doesn't. There are couples who will take it to the extreme. So my point is there are varying degrees of airport divorce. But then the marriage is rekindled and apparently is better and stronger than before because neither one of you were annoyed at how the other person operates.
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Speaker 1: Okay, now, do we have some expert advice on this or is this supposed to be a positive?
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Speaker 3: Is this supposed to be helpful to a.
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Speaker 1: Relationship by avoiding conflict or avoiding each other? It seems robes I can't tolerate you at a time, or we're supposed to be enjoying an experience together that initially seems.
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Speaker 2: Crazy on its face. Okay, it flies in the face of what you would think. Most therapists or marriage counselors would suggest that you're avoiding difficulty, you're avoiding conflict. But I think they would suggest also from what I have read, that as long as it's mutually agreed upon and it benefits your mental health in an already stressful time. Everyone knows getting to the airport, going through the airport, getting off the plane, getting to back that is oftentimes an extremely stressful situation, but made better if you're with somebody you love and can pass the time with.
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Speaker 3: I mean, so.
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Speaker 2: That's how I feel. But apparently, look, this is pretty shocking. So fay travel Insurance, I don't know them. It's called Fay Travel Insurance. They actually did a survey. They posted this on TikTok, so everyone's talking about and do you buy this? They say, and look, it's this is a little clever how they phrase this. More than twenty five percent of travelers already divorce at the airport or support it. They support it, they think that's a good idea. A quarter of travelers believe that it's a good idea or they actually practice it. That seems like a high number to me.
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Speaker 3: Twenty five percent already do this right or.
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Speaker 2: Would do it? Yes, wow, that's a lot. But you think about we always talk about people. This is families more more often than couples. But we will see because you don't know if someone's traveling alone, you wouldn't know that they're separate from their spouse. But you will see families walking so far apart from each other in single file because they're annoyed with each other because it's been a tough day of travel. And we do usually get a chuckle out of it, because well, I'll get to the rest of the survey. We're a specif segment of traveling. You and I are yes, Wait, we airport divorce. No, we this is what they say people do at the home. Were the twenty travelers already divorced?
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Speaker 1: Right?
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Speaker 2: Eighteen percent say they enjoy sticking together, but there are ten percent who say they actually treat the airport as date time. And that is what we do.
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Speaker 3: Oh my god.
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Speaker 1: We pick out outfits and shit, we are we go nuts in an airport.
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Speaker 3: We plan it out. Do you remember where that restaurant was?
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Speaker 1: Okay, if we go to the terminal here, then we can get over here in time to see our girl at the bar that we are.
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I never thought of it as a date.
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Speaker 1: You and I absolutely we pick out the car that's gonna pick us up. It's a whole thing. And we do a beautiful dance in the morning. It's a production of how we give you it is and who's gonna make the mimosas and the timing of it all.
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Speaker 3: It's a beautiful dance.
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Speaker 2: We smile on your face right now. Is so genuine and real because it's fun.
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Speaker 3: It's great.
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Speaker 1: So that's why I hear some of what you were saying, and I say, I think, damn, I hate people see a vacation as an opportunity to get away from the person you're in a relationship with.
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Speaker 3: Because robes that first day is all about we're just talking couples.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, family's a different story.
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Speaker 1: Robes that first day to be at the airport, to be able to when you go through hell and TSA officers in the bad mood and shouts at you or whatever. You want to be able to look at your loved one to go, damn, they got you. You want to be able to enjoy and that with somebody. You want a morning momota, you want to sit there by yourself and talk to some business travel who's happy to be away.
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Speaker 3: From his family. No, give me my word. Are you you want to shop? Let's go. Let's go do a little shopping and then we'll hit the bar next to it. That's what I want to do.
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Speaker 2: That's what it is.
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Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you want to provide that for that person and have them provided for you.
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Speaker 3: But you're doing it together, traveling together.
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Speaker 2: Look, but you and I both know that we see a lot of folks and we have I have been in this position as well. If you don't travel, if y'all don't both share that same love of just the excitement, the anticipation, and it helps get through all the stress because you're going somewhere fun together and you're excited to be together. And that's I think the problem. A lot of people aren't excited to be together. We've seen those people, and frankly, I'll be honest, I've been those people. So it is it might be a reflection and I don't want to judge if this works for you and it actually helps your vacation start off better, and that has been the justification in terms of the why you kept asking about the why. They just say this is a way to keep the peace. People have their own ways of handling challenges, and you and I actually do have different ways of handling challenges. But I hope that we offset one another. When I overreact or when you overreact, we soften each other's feelings or moods in that moment. But look, they say, if you do what works for you, you can show up better for your part when you land. Okay, that is one school. If you say it again again, this is a quote. When you do what works for you, you can show up better for your partner, or at least be a little less irritable.
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Speaker 1: That's okay. I mean, that's fine. It's that tough. What is it saying they call it airport divorce? Because this might be folks who are on the way to divorce anyway. What is it about? I am going to Turks, I have a vacation. We haven't had one in eighteen months. I'll see it baggage claim.
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Speaker 2: I know, But we also see those couples pull side with their backs to each other, on their phones and not enjoying their time together.
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Speaker 3: I just okay, and to each his or her own. And that's not a judgment on I don't know. I think about the what do you know what we compromise on.
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Speaker 1: I am a really really early bird when it comes to getting to airport. I I book my car based on in case we get a flat on the way, to make sure I'll have time to get in another car and get to the airports to I plan out that kind of crap. And you know, I am you're you're not a rush person at all, but you don't go as early as I do.
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Speaker 3: And you know what, what we do? We go, okay, baby, what about eight fifteen? You say, okay, well can we do eight twenty five?
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Speaker 2: Well? Just negotiating a compromise. Yeah, do I think we've landed on our sweet spot. It's a little later then you would like to get there, and it's a little earlier than I would like to get there. But we always try to get there one exactly one hour before boarding, and so that gives you time for and that's how we have to form a stake, map it out. Yes, we've come to that compromise. But it took us a little while because if I think at first, you're like, hmm, that's not when I would leave, you know, But you figure it out.
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Speaker 1: But that didn't take away from our experience. We work so much, we're around so many people all the time. The few times where we get to not have a computer in front of us, not have a TV screen in front of us, and we have to just be in an experience together. I love traveling with you.
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Speaker 3: I love it.
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Speaker 1: It is a blast because I am joining being with you.
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Speaker 2: It is a date and I never thought about it that way either.
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Speaker 3: But we're gonna have food, drinks, shopping.
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Speaker 2: Airport dates all right when we come back. I told you some of the scenarios of the varying degrees of how much people divorce at the airport. When we come back, I am going to read for you the extreme example, and I can't wait to get your reaction. Hey there, everybody, Welcome back to Amy and TJ, where we are talking about airport divorces, and I promise to explain the extreme example. I read a couple of articles about this, but this one jumped out at me. This is a woman who has been married to her husband for seventeen.
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Speaker 3: Years, so she's doing something right.
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Speaker 2: Perhaps, yes, She says they travel about five times a year together and it was always stressful. Age Uh Nope, she didn't give an age, but she said they travel together about five times a year and that's a lot. But they said that it had always caused problems, always caused stress, and so they came up with a formula that works for them. So they split up at the airport. So they get out of the uber or whatever, they park their car and they go on their separate ways. They actually started beforehand with a book the same flight, but on different tickets. So she books her her ticket and he books hers his. He doesn't mind sitting and coach and likes the affordability of it. She prefers a different class. So she also sometimes knows that if she's separate from him, because she has so many more points than him, she'll get upgraded. So that's always the goal for her to be in first class, and he's cool with being in coach. Your face already is saying so much, okay, does she have more? She claims that she can't sleep on planes and she needs the live flat and her husband can sleep in ten seconds as soon as he sits down, so he sleeps anyway, so it's not like they would be spending any quality time. So she does that. Then they even say sorry, I said they split up during the air port, correct. They split up during the boarding because she likes to be the first person on the plane and he likes to be the last. She gets stressed out about the overhead bin space and he doesn't care. He doesn't want to sit down because he's going to be sitting down for several hours, so he doesn't care. If his luggage ends up having to be gate checked doesn't matter to him. So they literally split ways the moment they get out of that car. They do their own thing at the airport. She likes to shop, he likes to have a drink. They don't even board together, they don't meet at the gate together, they don't talk to each other on the airplane at all. And they literally meet at either customs or baggage claim. And they say when they meet at baggage claim, they're both refreshed, happy, relaxed, calm. There's been no fighting, there's been no agitation towards one another, and they're ready to start their vacation.
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Speaker 3: So that worked for her, been married seventeen years.
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Speaker 1: Nothing you can take away from that, I mean nothing you can if it works the works for them.
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Speaker 2: I wonder how many couples are hearing that and go, yep, that's us. I've even seen people. Look, you see the couples who want to be together, and they ask people to move seats so that they can sit together. Always sweet, We've done that one or two times. I hate ask me only if it's a aisle for an aisle, that kind of thing, but I have actually when people have asked, said, oh, yeah, it's just my wife. I see her every day, happy to be in a different seat. Like I've heard people make that announcement, and honestly, that's two people who are very comfortable in their relationship, very comfortable in their love and don't mind some private time.
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Speaker 3: You remember, it wasn't too long ago.
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Speaker 1: I you, me and Sabine, and I gave Sabine my first class seat and I was sitting in the back.
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Speaker 3: Yes, it was a tough flight.
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Speaker 2: It was.
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Speaker 1: It was a long flight because I wasn't sitting with you and enjoying that experience. It's just what we're used to and what we do. If it doesn't work for other folks. It just from my perspective that lady I don't want to. I have no criticism of her methods because they work for her.
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Speaker 3: That is just awful to think about.
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Speaker 2: I just think, you know what look and I agree with you. Everyone's relationship and we've learned this throughout our many relationships and our lived experiences. But knowing what it can be, I think in the experience we have together and how much we love and cherish that time where we get to be on an adventure together and get through some hard things together and figure things out together. And yeah, I'm sure I've pissed you off and you've pissed me off with how we operate, but you learn to do things and tackle problems and challenges together. Yeah, yeah, it's just happening while we're traveling. But yes, and look, it's not I want to say, it's not like we've always had these like like sometimes yeah, we're not in great moods, or we've we had a rough night the night before. But it's so funny because I feel like the forced to travel and the tackling of problems together kind of makes all of that other stuff go away almost like I know things are gonna be okay because we're gonna get on that plane and we're gonna have a blast. We're not gonna waste the opportunity. It's an opportunity that you rarely get and if you can, I don't know. I'm just it's a suggestion if you can look at it that way and say, I got my teammate here, and we're gonna we're gonna handle everything that this airport throws at us together and we're gonna have a blast, and we're gonna look at it as an opportunity to bond, even if it's trauma. Bonding in the airport with all the issues that are arise.
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Speaker 3: Do you not do it? Most couple?
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Speaker 1: So I maybe not, but shouldn't you relish just in generally speaking, relish the opportunity to be able to sit with your significant other and not have kids of yours needing something, or the phone being able to ring, or sometime not even having a TV. It seems like some private intimate time that we would value, that you would want to have with your loved one. And so yes, it's because we have a different experience now. It's hard to understand someone like saying that my level of comfort or pleasure in how I want to fly trumps.
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Speaker 3: Spending time with you.
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Speaker 1: And that's just kind of it works for other folks, and maybe it's not that deep for a lot of people, but for me, it's just saying, yeah, I want to board first, and you don't mind going into groups two and so nope, by like, I won't even board, like you know, it drives me crazy when our group is going through and we're not in that group and I've had to you're in the bathroom or doing something. I don't go ahead and board. I wait, I let you hear it when you get there. But it's just that experience is ours to have. I think about as running marathons together, we did all the training and now we get to the marathon day and I'm just gonna run ahead or trying to get something. No, we're in this shit together, and that's just it is. It is the best date you will ever have if you think of it that way. Yes, it's flying with your loved one.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I think if we can, and I do think it does help when you've got someone by your side. It does help alleviate stress. And hopefully I don't know, I just sometimes I think it's if you just reframe how you look at things, it can actually change the experience. So how about an airport I don't know, rekindling an airport date, an airport date instead of an airport divorce. Let's try that, everybody, all right, And with that, we always appreciate you listening to us. I'm Amy Robot alongside TJ. Holmes. We'll talk so
Speaker 1: Hey, the folks, it is Saturday, August first, and of course people in divorce every single day in this country. However, I'm just finding out that a lot of divorces are happening at the airport. And with that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ, where we are all going to learn this together. Because I had no idea there was a such thing as an airport divorce.
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Speaker 2: It's a temporary situation.
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Speaker 1: Temporary. Oh, so you got to go back to your marriage after.
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Speaker 2: Yes, it's just a it's a reprieve. It's a temporary divorce. Airport divorce is not a forever thing. You don't have to sign papers. It doesn't mean that you're never going to see each other again.
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Speaker 1: Now, when you use the word divorce in front of it with anything, it sounds bad, it sounds terrible.
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Speaker 2: It's look, it's not my phrase, but it's a practice that's now been established for the past year. Airport divorce is a thing. And look, we all everyone talks about compromise in a relationship, right, that's what makes relationship work. You don't always get to do things when you want to the way you want to, and that's called marriage, right, called a relationship. Okay, but apparently, yes, that can be beneficial to learn that. But this is a trend where the focus is more on you so that you can do your thing, protect your piece, having an understanding before you begin your vacation that you all like to do things differently, and instead of one person compromising or feeling annoyed by the other, you just separate and then rejoin later at.
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Speaker 3: The air Okay, define this for me.
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Speaker 2: Doesn't this sound like a gen Z thing? I'm sorry not to throw an entire generation under the bus, but it kind of does.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: So you're saying, Okay, is there like a solid definition I'm piecing together. What you're saying is that people go to the airport who are traveling together and are going to the same destination, maybe even vacation, but they split at the airport.
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Speaker 3: I'll see you at the gate, honey.
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Speaker 2: Well, so it's funny you mentioned that because there are varying degrees, some people travel to the airport separately because they like to get there at different times. We'll go through the tiers, but i'll hit them for you. Now we can go into detail. Okay, some people go to the airport separately because someone likes to get there early, someone likes to get there late. Some folks yes travel together to the airport, but then they go to separate lines. Some people are really into their tsa PreCheck and others think it's a waste of money, and so they go into different lines and then meet up, perhaps at the restaurant. Some people say, you know what, I like to walk around and shop. The other one likes to go to the restaurant and have a beer, So they meet at the gate. Then there are people who will meet on the plane because some people like to board early, some people like to board at the last minute. And then there is the extreme couple, which we'll say for the very end.
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Speaker 3: You haven't hit me with the extreme one.
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Speaker 2: Now, the extreme one is that they see you at baggage claim at your destination.
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Speaker 3: You're not in the same way. You don't even take the same flight.
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Speaker 2: You actually sit in different places. Because someone likes to sit in the first class likes to pay for it, and the other person doesn't. There are couples who will take it to the extreme. So my point is there are varying degrees of airport divorce. But then the marriage is rekindled and apparently is better and stronger than before because neither one of you were annoyed at how the other person operates.
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Speaker 1: Okay, now, do we have some expert advice on this or is this supposed to be a positive?
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Speaker 3: Is this supposed to be helpful to a.
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Speaker 1: Relationship by avoiding conflict or avoiding each other? It seems robes I can't tolerate you at a time, or we're supposed to be enjoying an experience together that initially seems.
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Speaker 2: Crazy on its face. Okay, it flies in the face of what you would think. Most therapists or marriage counselors would suggest that you're avoiding difficulty, you're avoiding conflict. But I think they would suggest also from what I have read, that as long as it's mutually agreed upon and it benefits your mental health in an already stressful time. Everyone knows getting to the airport, going through the airport, getting off the plane, getting to back that is oftentimes an extremely stressful situation, but made better if you're with somebody you love and can pass the time with.
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Speaker 3: I mean, so.
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Speaker 2: That's how I feel. But apparently, look, this is pretty shocking. So fay travel Insurance, I don't know them. It's called Fay Travel Insurance. They actually did a survey. They posted this on TikTok, so everyone's talking about and do you buy this? They say, and look, it's this is a little clever how they phrase this. More than twenty five percent of travelers already divorce at the airport or support it. They support it, they think that's a good idea. A quarter of travelers believe that it's a good idea or they actually practice it. That seems like a high number to me.
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Speaker 3: Twenty five percent already do this right or.
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Speaker 2: Would do it? Yes, wow, that's a lot. But you think about we always talk about people. This is families more more often than couples. But we will see because you don't know if someone's traveling alone, you wouldn't know that they're separate from their spouse. But you will see families walking so far apart from each other in single file because they're annoyed with each other because it's been a tough day of travel. And we do usually get a chuckle out of it, because well, I'll get to the rest of the survey. We're a specif segment of traveling. You and I are yes, Wait, we airport divorce. No, we this is what they say people do at the home. Were the twenty travelers already divorced?
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Speaker 1: Right?
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Speaker 2: Eighteen percent say they enjoy sticking together, but there are ten percent who say they actually treat the airport as date time. And that is what we do.
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Speaker 3: Oh my god.
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Speaker 1: We pick out outfits and shit, we are we go nuts in an airport.
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Speaker 3: We plan it out. Do you remember where that restaurant was?
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Speaker 1: Okay, if we go to the terminal here, then we can get over here in time to see our girl at the bar that we are.
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I never thought of it as a date.
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Speaker 1: You and I absolutely we pick out the car that's gonna pick us up. It's a whole thing. And we do a beautiful dance in the morning. It's a production of how we give you it is and who's gonna make the mimosas and the timing of it all.
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Speaker 3: It's a beautiful dance.
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Speaker 2: We smile on your face right now. Is so genuine and real because it's fun.
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Speaker 3: It's great.
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Speaker 1: So that's why I hear some of what you were saying, and I say, I think, damn, I hate people see a vacation as an opportunity to get away from the person you're in a relationship with.
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Speaker 3: Because robes that first day is all about we're just talking couples.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, family's a different story.
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Speaker 1: Robes that first day to be at the airport, to be able to when you go through hell and TSA officers in the bad mood and shouts at you or whatever. You want to be able to look at your loved one to go, damn, they got you. You want to be able to enjoy and that with somebody. You want a morning momota, you want to sit there by yourself and talk to some business travel who's happy to be away.
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Speaker 3: From his family. No, give me my word. Are you you want to shop? Let's go. Let's go do a little shopping and then we'll hit the bar next to it. That's what I want to do.
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Speaker 2: That's what it is.
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Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you want to provide that for that person and have them provided for you.
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Speaker 3: But you're doing it together, traveling together.
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Speaker 2: Look, but you and I both know that we see a lot of folks and we have I have been in this position as well. If you don't travel, if y'all don't both share that same love of just the excitement, the anticipation, and it helps get through all the stress because you're going somewhere fun together and you're excited to be together. And that's I think the problem. A lot of people aren't excited to be together. We've seen those people, and frankly, I'll be honest, I've been those people. So it is it might be a reflection and I don't want to judge if this works for you and it actually helps your vacation start off better, and that has been the justification in terms of the why you kept asking about the why. They just say this is a way to keep the peace. People have their own ways of handling challenges, and you and I actually do have different ways of handling challenges. But I hope that we offset one another. When I overreact or when you overreact, we soften each other's feelings or moods in that moment. But look, they say, if you do what works for you, you can show up better for your part when you land. Okay, that is one school. If you say it again again, this is a quote. When you do what works for you, you can show up better for your partner, or at least be a little less irritable.
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Speaker 1: That's okay. I mean, that's fine. It's that tough. What is it saying they call it airport divorce? Because this might be folks who are on the way to divorce anyway. What is it about? I am going to Turks, I have a vacation. We haven't had one in eighteen months. I'll see it baggage claim.
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Speaker 2: I know, But we also see those couples pull side with their backs to each other, on their phones and not enjoying their time together.
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Speaker 3: I just okay, and to each his or her own. And that's not a judgment on I don't know. I think about the what do you know what we compromise on.
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Speaker 1: I am a really really early bird when it comes to getting to airport. I I book my car based on in case we get a flat on the way, to make sure I'll have time to get in another car and get to the airports to I plan out that kind of crap. And you know, I am you're you're not a rush person at all, but you don't go as early as I do.
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Speaker 3: And you know what, what we do? We go, okay, baby, what about eight fifteen? You say, okay, well can we do eight twenty five?
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Speaker 2: Well? Just negotiating a compromise. Yeah, do I think we've landed on our sweet spot. It's a little later then you would like to get there, and it's a little earlier than I would like to get there. But we always try to get there one exactly one hour before boarding, and so that gives you time for and that's how we have to form a stake, map it out. Yes, we've come to that compromise. But it took us a little while because if I think at first, you're like, hmm, that's not when I would leave, you know, But you figure it out.
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Speaker 1: But that didn't take away from our experience. We work so much, we're around so many people all the time. The few times where we get to not have a computer in front of us, not have a TV screen in front of us, and we have to just be in an experience together. I love traveling with you.
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Speaker 3: I love it.
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Speaker 1: It is a blast because I am joining being with you.
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Speaker 2: It is a date and I never thought about it that way either.
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Speaker 3: But we're gonna have food, drinks, shopping.
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Speaker 2: Airport dates all right when we come back. I told you some of the scenarios of the varying degrees of how much people divorce at the airport. When we come back, I am going to read for you the extreme example, and I can't wait to get your reaction. Hey there, everybody, Welcome back to Amy and TJ, where we are talking about airport divorces, and I promise to explain the extreme example. I read a couple of articles about this, but this one jumped out at me. This is a woman who has been married to her husband for seventeen.
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Speaker 3: Years, so she's doing something right.
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Speaker 2: Perhaps, yes, She says they travel about five times a year together and it was always stressful. Age Uh Nope, she didn't give an age, but she said they travel together about five times a year and that's a lot. But they said that it had always caused problems, always caused stress, and so they came up with a formula that works for them. So they split up at the airport. So they get out of the uber or whatever, they park their car and they go on their separate ways. They actually started beforehand with a book the same flight, but on different tickets. So she books her her ticket and he books hers his. He doesn't mind sitting and coach and likes the affordability of it. She prefers a different class. So she also sometimes knows that if she's separate from him, because she has so many more points than him, she'll get upgraded. So that's always the goal for her to be in first class, and he's cool with being in coach. Your face already is saying so much, okay, does she have more? She claims that she can't sleep on planes and she needs the live flat and her husband can sleep in ten seconds as soon as he sits down, so he sleeps anyway, so it's not like they would be spending any quality time. So she does that. Then they even say sorry, I said they split up during the air port, correct. They split up during the boarding because she likes to be the first person on the plane and he likes to be the last. She gets stressed out about the overhead bin space and he doesn't care. He doesn't want to sit down because he's going to be sitting down for several hours, so he doesn't care. If his luggage ends up having to be gate checked doesn't matter to him. So they literally split ways the moment they get out of that car. They do their own thing at the airport. She likes to shop, he likes to have a drink. They don't even board together, they don't meet at the gate together, they don't talk to each other on the airplane at all. And they literally meet at either customs or baggage claim. And they say when they meet at baggage claim, they're both refreshed, happy, relaxed, calm. There's been no fighting, there's been no agitation towards one another, and they're ready to start their vacation.
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Speaker 3: So that worked for her, been married seventeen years.
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Speaker 1: Nothing you can take away from that, I mean nothing you can if it works the works for them.
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Speaker 2: I wonder how many couples are hearing that and go, yep, that's us. I've even seen people. Look, you see the couples who want to be together, and they ask people to move seats so that they can sit together. Always sweet, We've done that one or two times. I hate ask me only if it's a aisle for an aisle, that kind of thing, but I have actually when people have asked, said, oh, yeah, it's just my wife. I see her every day, happy to be in a different seat. Like I've heard people make that announcement, and honestly, that's two people who are very comfortable in their relationship, very comfortable in their love and don't mind some private time.
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Speaker 3: You remember, it wasn't too long ago.
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Speaker 1: I you, me and Sabine, and I gave Sabine my first class seat and I was sitting in the back.
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Speaker 3: Yes, it was a tough flight.
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Speaker 2: It was.
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Speaker 1: It was a long flight because I wasn't sitting with you and enjoying that experience. It's just what we're used to and what we do. If it doesn't work for other folks. It just from my perspective that lady I don't want to. I have no criticism of her methods because they work for her.
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Speaker 3: That is just awful to think about.
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Speaker 2: I just think, you know what look and I agree with you. Everyone's relationship and we've learned this throughout our many relationships and our lived experiences. But knowing what it can be, I think in the experience we have together and how much we love and cherish that time where we get to be on an adventure together and get through some hard things together and figure things out together. And yeah, I'm sure I've pissed you off and you've pissed me off with how we operate, but you learn to do things and tackle problems and challenges together. Yeah, yeah, it's just happening while we're traveling. But yes, and look, it's not I want to say, it's not like we've always had these like like sometimes yeah, we're not in great moods, or we've we had a rough night the night before. But it's so funny because I feel like the forced to travel and the tackling of problems together kind of makes all of that other stuff go away almost like I know things are gonna be okay because we're gonna get on that plane and we're gonna have a blast. We're not gonna waste the opportunity. It's an opportunity that you rarely get and if you can, I don't know. I'm just it's a suggestion if you can look at it that way and say, I got my teammate here, and we're gonna we're gonna handle everything that this airport throws at us together and we're gonna have a blast, and we're gonna look at it as an opportunity to bond, even if it's trauma. Bonding in the airport with all the issues that are arise.
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Speaker 3: Do you not do it? Most couple?
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Speaker 1: So I maybe not, but shouldn't you relish just in generally speaking, relish the opportunity to be able to sit with your significant other and not have kids of yours needing something, or the phone being able to ring, or sometime not even having a TV. It seems like some private intimate time that we would value, that you would want to have with your loved one. And so yes, it's because we have a different experience now. It's hard to understand someone like saying that my level of comfort or pleasure in how I want to fly trumps.
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Speaker 3: Spending time with you.
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Speaker 1: And that's just kind of it works for other folks, and maybe it's not that deep for a lot of people, but for me, it's just saying, yeah, I want to board first, and you don't mind going into groups two and so nope, by like, I won't even board, like you know, it drives me crazy when our group is going through and we're not in that group and I've had to you're in the bathroom or doing something. I don't go ahead and board. I wait, I let you hear it when you get there. But it's just that experience is ours to have. I think about as running marathons together, we did all the training and now we get to the marathon day and I'm just gonna run ahead or trying to get something. No, we're in this shit together, and that's just it is. It is the best date you will ever have if you think of it that way. Yes, it's flying with your loved one.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I think if we can, and I do think it does help when you've got someone by your side. It does help alleviate stress. And hopefully I don't know, I just sometimes I think it's if you just reframe how you look at things, it can actually change the experience. So how about an airport I don't know, rekindling an airport date, an airport date instead of an airport divorce. Let's try that, everybody, all right, And with that, we always appreciate you listening to us. I'm Amy Robot alongside TJ. Holmes. We'll talk so