REPLAY - Adult Recess

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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 2: She couldn't. She cleaned and cared for her children and the man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 1: She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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Speaker 2: She was a good woman who always made good choice. Ship. We're good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: You single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices and.

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Speaker 2: Found out they weren't so bad after all. We're experts over shares and your new besties. Sit back and enjoy the ride. I can do a bag alone, Mom. I can do me, Mom, Flowers, I can lay it back, Howers.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm Mila. Happy Humpday, bitches, Happy motherfucking hous day.

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Speaker 2: How are you feeling.

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Speaker 1: I'm great If you're watching us right now on YouTube, I am Hello. Sante Palo Santae or palasanting the room to clear the energy. We had some other potters in our studio today, which, by the way, if you are a podcaster in the LA area, make sure you check out our studio space, Good Good Media, Good Goodproductions dot Com to book your podcast. Even a consultation. Maybe you want to start a podcast, don't know where to start. Ask us. We're kind of experts, sort of in this space, not sort of, bitch, so make sure you check that out. But I'm feeling good. I'm clearing the energy.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: We're actually live right now. We have our phone on live on ig so we have some people joining us. We have an audience.

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Speaker 2: Hello audience, Hello Instagram tribe.

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Speaker 1: It's November. We've left October behind. I feel like we had a pretty epic October seat like episode month.

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Speaker 3: October episode month, October episode month, and we just had a lot of shit going on in October in general.

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Speaker 1: So I mean, when do we not have but like.

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Speaker 2: Every single weekend.

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Speaker 1: I was like, god damn because there's a lot of October people, babies and things.

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Speaker 2: I mean, but we were like, we were working. We went to San Francisco.

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Speaker 1: Was that in October?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh wow? I went to San Francisco.

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Speaker 3: I went to Vegas to see I share for thirty six hours, did a Clara event.

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Speaker 2: I fucking went to Pop Palm. Where do we go? We went to josh.

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Speaker 1: Ashy bitch had a live show.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I had a live show. I was like there's something else. We've had quite the month.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I turned thirty one.

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Speaker 2: I turned thirty one. It's been quite a month.

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Speaker 3: And it's Halloween, our favorite month, so I think it's getting ready for hibernation time.

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Speaker 2: It's checking us in for the winter.

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Speaker 1: You know, normally when we have you know, every month, we have a theme. I'm gonna be honest, y'all, where really have a theme? This month?

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Speaker 2: The theme is fuck it fucking November. Fucking November, fucking November. I like it.

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Speaker 3: Fuck it just a mystery box, mystery box, mystery box November.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. How are you feeling? How are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I have been feeling really good. I feel good.

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Speaker 3: We had like a really good meeting today. But I have been feeling a bit like go go go, go, go go go. I am had my last fucking tancer class today and I leave in two weeks to go test out this bitch relation. I'm so fucking happy. I mean, I feel overwhelmed by it. But then now that I realize, oh shit, bitch, this is it, now, I'm getting a little energized by it. Because at first I was like, how the fuck is this gonna work out?

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Speaker 2: But I feel good.

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Speaker 3: I feel grateful to be busy and to be stressed out about shit that I like to do, fun shit. I'm like, I'd rather be busy and like and at a high capacity performing, like high level performing when I know that all this shit is like every single thing I like.

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Speaker 1: To do, and ultimately it benefits you and all the things you want to do. So it's not like, you know, you're doing a bunch of shit for other people that ultimately isn't going to do anything for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've done that too, So this feels good. I feel really I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: Yeah good.

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Speaker 2: I was Actually I was waiting for you.

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Speaker 3: I was going through our pictures from the live show and I was just like tapping them.

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, it looks so cute.

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Speaker 3: And then I'm just like us on stage and sparkly outfits with our tits out and our asses out. And then you see like Lizzie Jeff from the back of her tits out. It's like this is the ultimate girls party. Also, is this real life? Like you're domming somebody with a cute You're like, literally, we found a man on the internet.

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Speaker 1: If you didn't come to the LA show and you live in La You miss the fucking real missed out because shit just magically came together at the last minute. Yeah, me and Mila, like a few weeks ago went to see a Little Dragon and then we got we went ended up going to this other party and we were on We were like on mushrooms, just vibing out and then this like man appears out of nowhere, body rolling towards us. Literally just like that, his body rolls.

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Speaker 2: It was like a mirage in the desert.

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Speaker 1: It was making like extreme eye contact and I was like, oh my god, what's happening here? And it was like fun Like I was actually, who the fuck is this guy? And then he was dead ass series And when we body rolled with him, and then immediately afterwards, Me and Mila looked at each other and were like, love show, we need him for the live show. And then he came to the live show and did he come?

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Speaker 2: Did he come? Baby? Babe? B Rico brought it okay.

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Speaker 1: Rico brought the heat to if anyone's getting married, it has a bachelorette party of friends getting married.

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Speaker 2: I endorsed this message.

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Speaker 1: I endorsed Rico one hundred percent. I put my money on.

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Speaker 2: Reache money on Rico and I.

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Speaker 3: In fact, i don't even know when I'm getting married, but I've told all my friends, at least three of them, but they better fucking hire Rico for my bachelorette party.

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Speaker 1: I'm put we're gonna I'm gonna share Rito's I g in the in the in the whatever the caption of this episode, because he.

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Speaker 2: Deserves a shadow, deserves just a major shout out.

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Speaker 3: I thank god for the mushroom gods who like told us at the club that day like it was an angelic.

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Speaker 2: I was like, he's our guy, Erica, I know it.

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Speaker 3: And boy was that intuition right, because he came with this, he had this, he had his boots, he had on a fucking cowboy.

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Speaker 1: Hat, and those jeans came off, and I saw Rico's full ass and something else I don't know. I couldn't tell. Maybe from me, maybe people in the audience saw something. I didn't see anything.

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Speaker 3: But he did some like incredible, like three dramatic threesome moves that I've never seen. He he put them in a win winshield.

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Speaker 1: He did a winchow warper move with you.

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Speaker 2: That was crazy, a roller coaster. I was like, oh my gosh, I mean he picked me up too.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, Rico, I thought you were a smaller man when I met you that day.

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Speaker 2: Hell yeah, now he picked your ass up. He just did. He showed your ass.

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Speaker 1: Thanks very small.

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Speaker 3: We also had a nice gentleman come be Erica's sub I got and I also saw that picture and I was like handing you a cake with like the leash.

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Speaker 1: Was it good?

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Speaker 2: It was so good and I really wanted to. I meant to send it to you and be like, who's best friend? What best friend gives you gifts like this?

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Speaker 3: But now we need to have a sub in every city. So if you're listening and you like to be humiliated, and you would like to be humiliated by either one of us or both of us, we're coming to a city near you. You need to reach out. D m us, D m us, this is very important. We can't we can't go without it.

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Speaker 1: No, we cannot. Do you want to tell the people what cities we're hitting?

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Speaker 2: I do so. First we're hitting my hometown of Philadelphia. Let me check my notes.

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Speaker 1: I was like, why you put the going freestyle?

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Speaker 3: You remember the day you be fucking should have that we're going to be in Philadelphia in March thirteenth.

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Speaker 1: Woop.

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Speaker 2: DC March fourteenth, whoop, whoop, New York.

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Speaker 3: March sixteen, Hey, Ay, Atlanta March twenty first, Hey, and then Charlotte March twenty second.

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Speaker 2: Hey.

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Speaker 1: So we are and we have more dates pending. So that's just what we got so far. So if you are in d C, New York, Philly, Charlotte, and any of the other cities, she said.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, wait, there's some new hot incoming news. We're gonna be in Dallas four nineteen baby.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's the day before four twenty.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know you can't smoke in Dallas. Oh, we almost got we almost kicked out the hotel.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna have to get the fuck out of there. We'll get and out like immediately, Like we gotta get we gotta be somewhere good on four twenty.

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Speaker 2: Oh right, we're gonna be somewhere like liberal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah we almost yet, you're right, we almost did get kicked out of our hotel.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Dallas, we can't fuck around with that again.

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Speaker 3: But yes, the I'm so excited for the rest of the Confessions tour because it really was a good pop off. The girls came out, the tribe showed up. We were like running late and we were rehearsing and I heard like howling from outside. I'm like, are people getting in fights?

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Speaker 2: It's the tribe. They're waiting for you. I was like, oh my goodness, the girls have gone wild.

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Speaker 1: They have And yeah, the reason we found of the sub was because of our confession line, So then the confession line was kind of lit. We didn't even get to share all the confessions, but we need more confessions. So if you have something you want to confess anonymously and get featured at the live show or even possibly on the podcast, please call eight one, eight two and three twelve eighty seven and leave your confession. Please don't leave no bullshit. Please make it at least a little bit longer than I don't know, two sentences, and make it juicy.

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Speaker 2: Make it juicy.

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Speaker 1: It's anonymous, so you have nothing to lose unless so I was like, eh, I know that voice, and if you're scared that someone's gonna know your they.

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Speaker 2: Won't know your How was what city not to play it in?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Well we could switch up, we could, we could choose what city, but yeah, I'm super I'm super fucking excited. I feel like like touring is my rock star lifestyle, Like we get to really embody different parts of our personalities, and that one is Like I was looking at those pictures, I'm like, oh, you can't tell me shave.

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Speaker 1: A rock nothing, Okay, tell me nothing.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: I invited my cousin and shit, everybody had a good time. So we invited super Nova.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, he came and supported us. I hope we didn't scare that black King.

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Speaker 2: We didn't scare the Black King.

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Speaker 3: Supernova was with the shits, even though when I asked him after he said he was terrified. I think he was terrified but also having fun.

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Speaker 2: So you know, it's a little bit of both.

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Speaker 1: Also, you guys in LA on December ninth, we are collabing with Susia and NYC, which is our favorite play party in New York. You've heard us talk about it, You've heard about our experiences. Actually, if you listen to our episode about our last tour, we actually made a pit stop at Susia in between tour dates between New York and Philly because we had to stop at Susia because Louise has created such an credible, amazing, sexy environment for free environment, and I love to see so many black and brown people in there. It's for everyone, but it really is a space for I feel like our people to explore and play. And so we're collaborating. We're collaborating with Susia and Mistress Marley. Shout out to Mistress Marley, and we're doing a Susie a play party here on December ninth in LA So make sure you click the link in this episode and fill out the vetting form because I'm sorry, not everyone is going to be invited, because we gotta we gotta weed out, we gotta weed out you know, the weirdos. And fill out the form and come party with us on December ninth. If you've never attended this kind of party, this is a really beautiful place to start. It's actually the first play party I ever went to, and it's set the bar so motherfucking high.

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Speaker 2: I don't I can't now you're a partner.

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Speaker 1: Now a partner, but now I can't even like really enjoy myself at other parties. Like No, it's really yeah, he's really created something special there, and the.

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Speaker 3: Vetting forms have already been coming in heavy and I've been looking at the pictures. It's gonna be some fine people. There's gonna be a lot of couples, a lot of singles. It's really sexy. The space is sexy. I think it's gonna be a lot of beautiful people. And it's just like, I'm excited to have something sexy and black in LA because we don't have we don't get a lot of that.

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Speaker 1: And also, like for those of you who've never attended any sort of play or sex party, there's no pressure. Like I think people think that they when they come, they have to do something. Yeah, they have to participate. It really is a place for you to just chill, you know, take in the vibes and you know, and then you can decide what you want to do. But there really is a beautiful space that Luis has created with Susia. So if it's something that you've been interested in, it's something that maybe you want to experience with your partner, this is the space. So I can't wait for December night.

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Speaker 2: A lot of our VIP guests up in there. Yeah, I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: You know, like even if you okay, maybe it's maybe a play party, feels like you're not ready for that. There's so many other ways to explore your sexuality because I think most people are curious, you know, and so like that's why I love Field. Field is this dating app and I'm even on it, and it just is this space where you can feel like you're kind of find your tribe, but you're still kind of like just dipping your toe in because it's still a dating app, but it's the safe space for you to really explore your kinks and your pleasures and find other people that are into your shit.

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Speaker 3: It's like a discreete playground because you know everyone's there for the same reason. That's why I kind of fuck with it, you know, Like you know, if I come here and I'm like chatting, we're all like I think like one in two people have kinks on Field or something like that. Like they have all these like interesting stats too, Like it really proves that people are malleable, like their sexuality. Like and when you know you're in a safe space like an app like Field where everyone can show up as themselves, like you're free to fluctuate, it gives you permission to change. Because there's like so many sexual identity options, and so you can identify is whatever you want and you can like play with having interest in whatever you want. It's pretty fun.

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy. I was reading one of these stats and did you know one hundred and eighty one thousand people changed their sexuality within their first year on field?

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Speaker 2: Not just one hundred and eighty thousand.

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Speaker 1: That goes to show you how like what you give yourself permission and you see other people and you're like, okay.

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Speaker 2: Well maybe maybe maybe maybe you know that's crazy and it's kind of beautiful.

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Speaker 3: People have to have the permission to change and to shift and not feel like afraid of like exploring and trying new things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I've seen some kind of fine people on field. I'm not gonna lie, have you.

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Speaker 2: I need to go over there.

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Speaker 3: I haven't been over there in a while. I need to go check out my my profile. Yeah, and I've probably changed now changed.

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Speaker 1: Now you and Orlando can join have a Field account together because Field allows couples to kind of have their own profile, share profile together. Oh I love that, and then you can kind of message with people and you know, again, it's people are there to find threesomes. People are there to you know, be treated like a little bitch boy. People are there to explore all the different types of kinks that they have, even just exploring polyamory in all the different ways.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I just think Field is it's a cool little app and it's like dipping your toe into it if you're not quite ready for the play party. But the play party is also super chill, so I don't know, you can't go wrong with either one.

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Speaker 3: I feel like like doing one and the and the other. It's like a good way to warm up and before you get there. So I think, like, yeah, those are definitely good tips to just give yourself more permission. Yeah, speaking of parties, we also just got back from Joshua Tree. We went to Joshua Tree for Erica's birthday. Even though Eric Haud tried to cancel it like fourteen times, it was only.

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Speaker 1: One time and you didn't even know about it. It was a secret.

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Speaker 2: I could feel it enetically, energetically. I could feel like you're on some fun shit.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if there's any other scorpios in the building that get really weird around our birthdays, but I am heard, she is me and you know, I've been going through a transition. I've been going through like like a transition out of a relationship, and it's been weird, and I've been just it's been hard. I've been going through a hard time and letting that go and departing from that and really like being okay with it, and so I don't know. Part of me was just like I want to be with my friends and feel supported and loved. But then also there was another part of me where I was like, I just want to be alone. Leave me the fuck alone. I don't want to be in my cave and cry and just do whatever the fuck I want. I don't want to answer any questions. I want to look anybody. Don't want to see anyone's joy.

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Speaker 2: I just I don't want to see anybody's joy.

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Speaker 1: No, That's how I was feeling that night. Fuck your joy, Yeah, fuck your joy.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to hear it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I love it for you, but I'm not there, So I just can't do it. It's too much. It's mirroring whatever I don't have at the moment, and I didn't know if I feel like dealing with that on my birthday. But I'm sad.

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Speaker 2: You can come, but only it's sad people are allowed you sad?

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Speaker 1: Are you sad you're invited?

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Speaker 2: How happy?

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Speaker 1: I on a scale from one to happiness?

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Speaker 2: Where do you fall?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Four?

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Speaker 1: Okay, you five?

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Speaker 2: A little bit too much joy for me? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But then I emailed the airbnb host and I said something weird, and I told them that I should not even gonna tell you what I said because it's fucked up. But I was like, I just can't come, and they were like, well, you can't get your money back. And I was like, oh, hey, we'll work. Packed the car up, and did we pack the car up?

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Speaker 2: Did we pack thought we were.

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Speaker 1: Leaving for we thought we were moving?

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Speaker 2: We were moving there. I wish we could move because that house was fucking bomb.

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Speaker 3: I want to release like an Airbnb secret list, okay, because we've just stated some beautiful it is.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna be on Patreon. I told people were releasing this airbnb on Patreon because I can't let too many people know about this ship because it was perfect. It was like the perfect compound for a friend circle party, chill, whatever the fuck you want to do, mushrooms whatever, Like sister Circle is there and everyone has their own space. Like you'r you can go be alone if you want, and no one's gonna fuck with you. So I still got my alone solo weird time, but it was perfect, and I'm just so happy that I didn't cancel it and they didn't let me because I really needed that. And then we got there, my wife and surprised me and took us to the entire Ritron, which I've been i think, talking to her about since probably the day I met her. It's this amazing sound healing experience on the way to Joshua Tree and it's built on a vortex. And the guy who created it got this download or no was visited by aliens from Venus apparently that told him to build this structure, because he said that the aliens told him that people on Earth are stupid because they don't live long enough, and if you build this vortex, build this structure on this vortex, you can extend your life. He ended up dying where eerie way, there's no real answers, and then all his all the all his work was like deleted and show was missing and like the files were taken there did you say he knew something like maybe the aliens, they deleted everything. No, they told him to free us, and then the government, the government said fuck that.

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Speaker 3: The government said, fucked up. He's not going to free everybody from fucking getting old.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, and now it's a sound he the place, and it's just hypnotizing when you go in there. And I got a lot of downloads in that space, and that was like the way we started the trip. And then we went to the house, which when I got to the house, I was super high. I was just like, oh my god, it's so amazing, which it was, but I think also I was, I think we're all kind of high. Yeah, yeah, and yeah, I just had such an amazing time with you guys, and.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, even though maybe our happiness was above a four point five, yeah crazy, Really being around your happy friends can be nice, isn't that crazy?

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Speaker 2: I needed breaking news.

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Speaker 1: I needed that, And also I also spent a lot of time. I feel like I was romanticizing myself, and that's what I've kind of been doing over the last since that. Since that trip, I realized that part of my healing in this space that I'm in is romancing myself and like doing things for myself that I want my partner to do for me. Yeah, and that's been really good. And it started there. I took a lot of baths with coconut milk and rose petals in essences, and I already like buy my self flowers every week and stuff anyway, but I realize like that's I feel like this is part of the medicine that's going to help me move through this with more ease, because it's felt very rough trying to get through this. And so if you're listening and you're going through something difficult, try romanticizing yourself, like really do the romantic things that you would hope your partner would do, like literally set up your room or set up dinner for yourself exactly how you hoped your partner would do with rose petals incense, like set the tone, set the mood, and just see what happens. Because I don't know, it's been feeling. It's been feeling really good to do that, and I like look forward to it. So that trip, I got a lot of downloads, and one of the downloads was was that romanticizing my life more intentionally, like trying to get in my own pants.

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Speaker 2: Basically, you have to.

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Speaker 3: I remember doing this when I was like realizing I'm a people addict and I'd moved too my own place, and like even when Luna wasn't there, usually I would try to go out, like let me go do something, get into something. And finally I was like, bitch, cook yourself a meal. And then when I started to do it, I'm like, I can cook really good and I'm fun.

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Speaker 2: Like sometimes I started.

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Speaker 3: To notice I would get around people, and then I was just like, this is not that fun, Like I don't want to force myself to talk to someone that doesn't come naturally, or I feel like I have to fill up space. Even when like love songs come on, start to address them to yourself instead of them making you feel sad when you hear like love songs start, I started to like re relate them to loving myself and then I always met. It always made so that's always fun. And I think women. I've had this major download this weekend and just from like a number of women in my life and also reading this book that I've been reading for so long called Communion by Bell Hooks. But it's all about like how society fucks women from the jump about like like just are worth our belief system. But I just know so many smart women who get caught up with like guys that are not on their level, and I am her, and I am I had this epiphany, like a couple of my friends have called me. My mom had called me talking about her friends not being her friend no more because she's still married to my dad.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking, what are you talking about? I was literally had this ephany.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, so many women will like don't even fuck around in their power because they are so caught up with niggas that are not on their level, and like it's literally it's our kryptonite and if we don't catch it, we will like fuck around and miss our purpose. So it's just like I feel like it's super important to romanticize yourself.

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Speaker 2: And to really chase the money. Chase the mother fucking money. It's the money weed.

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Speaker 1: OHT know, yeah I was about the weed, not chase the money. But I'm happy that you were ready to co sign.

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Speaker 2: That with me though. Yeah, fuck these niggas. Chase the money.

00:24:26
Speaker 1: I know. I was talking about chase the money. Gave us this weed, but.

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Speaker 3: Also chase the money, true, like for real, Yeah, but it's just like it's so diabolical the self destruction that happens. And I only feel like we can only make the men raise up if we withhold the relationships from the ones that are not worthy. That's the only way they're going to embrace their their fucking healing vibes. And it's just like there's just and I know it's every woman listening. You've been that bitch, you know a friend who's being that bitch right now, or you're being the bitch right now, But there's always like it's women. Women do this specifically. I don't think man get caught up on women as much as women.

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Speaker 1: Right here are the healers and nurtures of the world. All we want to do is be is fucking beloved and nurtured and healed.

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Speaker 2: People love me, let me heal you.

00:25:20
Speaker 1: Are you okay? I know you just beat my ass, But are you okay?

00:25:23
Speaker 2: I know I'm bad. I should have made you do that.

00:25:25
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I know you.

00:25:26
Speaker 2: I know you're going through a tough time right now because you ain't paid the bills.

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Speaker 1: God.

00:25:31
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's my Publix service announcement.

00:25:33
Speaker 3: But yeah, we had a really really really really epic time in Joshua Tree, like it was just perfect and beautiful and like friends came in and now shout out to Brittany trap Yoga Bay who came and when we say we like we did some sambols on the side of a fucking desert mountain under the fucking full moon eclips and took the fuck off, took off.

00:25:58
Speaker 2: Okay, thanks you solely magic bitch.

00:26:01
Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to Solly Magic. Those mushrooms were wonderful, and you know that part of what really special to me. That was like the gift to myself. I really was so happy to be able to like be lead the circle for my friends, Like I really I needed to do that to kind of like remember who the fuck I am for a second, you know, and like sit and create the space for all of us to share and talk. And like God, I was just like God, I love women, I love Orlando, I just love our friends. Like how we can just we can do the party, whatever the fuck thing, but then we can also sit here and have real conversations and really connect to all of the elements.

00:26:47
Speaker 2: Earth, water, bitch.

00:26:48
Speaker 1: We connected to every element out there, space, space. I went to spire.

00:26:54
Speaker 2: And and it was just so.

00:26:58
Speaker 1: Soul filling for me, and I feel like I've been on a high since then, and I just feel like things are really already starting to like reveal themselves to me because I finally am like letting moving through something that I've needed to move through, you know, and.

00:27:16
Speaker 2: It's it doesn't make it any easier.

00:27:18
Speaker 3: I know it's not easy, but it feels like even being next to you feels different. Like I feel the difference in your energy, Like I feel like not your happiness, but like your inner like you coming back out to play, you know, I feel that, And it's like in little ways, but it's like it's so crazy when you're close to somebody and like when they're energy, like just like we're so close, like if something's wrong with me and I try to lie, like the bitch knows I'm lying, you know, and it's vice versa.

00:27:45
Speaker 2: I'm like, are you good? And we don't have to say anything, but we know.

00:27:48
Speaker 3: But it's just like seeing you emerge from that it feels good, and like having that be like the trip for that felt good and being able to We always talk about bringing our friends into our circles because we go away and we retreat. But it was really nice to like spend time with people we haven't spent time with, bring our like our friend family to our space that way, you know, and no.

00:28:08
Speaker 1: Like and you know, I like, when was the last time you had a circle with your friends and had an intentional moment.

00:28:14
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, let's take a moment and said, hey, we're going to take this moment right now, and you're free. You're free to cry, You're free to be honest, You're free to.

00:28:23
Speaker 3: Say like this, like this is what fucked me up this year, or like I'm just taking a break, like you're free. That was I think that was the most beautiful thing about this experience, And like we know this about our friend group, but it was a confirmation of like the space that we hold for each other and just how genuinely good it feels to be free with other people. Like when I say we played, we played and we laughed and we were naked and like there was no nothing.

00:28:49
Speaker 2: Sexual or weird about it and it was just like and we cried and we did all these things.

00:28:54
Speaker 3: But like there was a moment where we sat at the top of the hill and we were like, how are you doing this year? How like is this eclipse was about like the last eighteen months of last year, two years? So you know, like when have you sat with your friends and asked how the last two years been for you?

00:29:08
Speaker 2: Really? How are you feeling now?

00:29:11
Speaker 1: You know?

00:29:11
Speaker 2: And like it's like where were you at then?

00:29:13
Speaker 1: And like really having to even think about that, because that's why we're in that circle. I was like thinking when I was setting up those bulls, and I was like thinking about that, I really had to think, like where the fuck was I. It was asking us to think about this cycle of time where I had to really think about where was I? Where was I at that time, and where am I now? And it's been a motherfucking journey of a lot of a lot of shit, a lot of deep reckonings of my soul feels like, and realizations and having to really reflect on who I am at this moment versus now was like, oh shit, a lot has changed, but you know, like ultimately you are who you are. Though that's also the thing too, It's like you also have those realizations like oh, no, bitch, that's just you.

00:30:05
Speaker 2: Yeah and yeah.

00:30:07
Speaker 3: But also I think it's an opportunity because so often we are moving so quickly. We don't give ourselves permission to be like, damn, bitch, you got through a lot of shit this year, or damn you've accomplished a lot, you know, or you have changed a lot, you know. Like we're so busy looking forward that we forget to look back and sometimes looking back and sitting in it and saying it out loud, it's it's worth it, you know, like you've come out of some shit, you've accomplished some shit.

00:30:32
Speaker 2: So yeah, I really thoroughly enjoyed that.

00:30:36
Speaker 3: And like Orlando was the only guy until Sebastian got there for twenty seconds, but he cooked for us and it felt good.

00:30:42
Speaker 2: You know.

00:30:43
Speaker 3: It's like I know it's not always it's probably not always fun for him to be the only man amongst six women, but he really he really showed up for us, showed up for us for us, He really showed up for us and big ways, and it made me so grateful for him. It was like as my friend, as my lover, just like it's nice to have some man hands around. And he cooked for us and he watered us, and it was like a really nice balance of like an exemple of like an example of having like the divine masculine, a space full of women, especially of space where women are free to be, you know, and like when I say we were literally being like bitch was sitting where four people in jacuzzi.

00:31:24
Speaker 2: One bawling, one laughing, all naked and not talking.

00:31:29
Speaker 1: That was the best because you know, like sometimes you just need to cry and not be asked if you're okay, no, you don't interrupt me. I am fucking crying. Leave me alone.

00:31:37
Speaker 2: I reas like, and that was the vibe. There was no there was no question, no one like it was like are we.

00:31:43
Speaker 1: Talking to each other?

00:31:44
Speaker 3: I don't think so with the words okay, and then you come back like sorry, I float on you like you would think the jacuzzie was six feet long, like it was.

00:31:54
Speaker 2: It was a very beautiful, powerful, lovely birthday. Yeah.

00:32:00
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like just like just a perfect mixture of ratchet and healed ratchet healing.

00:32:07
Speaker 2: Raight shield right shields Shield meet my love of child.

00:32:12
Speaker 1: She's so fun and then I named her rat Shield my firstborn child.

00:32:19
Speaker 2: It was great.

00:32:20
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I did feel like we went to space. Joshua Tree has that magical effect like you're going to a space globe.

00:32:27
Speaker 2: And you feel like this, like the I don't know, like the I felt the energy.

00:32:31
Speaker 3: Yeah, like the indigenous people that once lived there before we came and tooket. They made it the airbnb land. Yeah, and no TVs, just music, vibes, good food. So many backwoods hm hm, so many backs backwards sponsored Erica's birthday.

00:32:50
Speaker 1: I didn't even know it and they didn't even know it. Crazy and so did.

00:32:54
Speaker 2: Honey Pot literally had honey pote in all the bathrooms.

00:32:58
Speaker 1: I'm like, we're I felt very I was like, I am a mature woman.

00:33:02
Speaker 2: I feel like Mary Kay of Honeypot.

00:33:05
Speaker 1: I was like, this is how rich people have the curated their homes, and I am rich. So every room shall have honeypot in every bathroom for every bitch, there will also be the honey pot foam.

00:33:14
Speaker 2: Because we had films, we had wipes.

00:33:16
Speaker 1: Why not.

00:33:19
Speaker 2: Possis be taken care of.

00:33:20
Speaker 1: They were very nourished. And we played games. We did we made we played big Janga, we played pool.

00:33:27
Speaker 3: You would have thought we were like came sounded like a playground, like let's go play this name.

00:33:31
Speaker 1: We were and we're not in that house. We said, oh they're bitch, there's too much shit in here. We got to try.

00:33:35
Speaker 2: It was like we got to get our moneys work.

00:33:36
Speaker 3: We need a schedule activities. We're gonna start at the jacuzzi. We're gonna move to the garage, but there's a pool table. Then we're gonna do a dance party.

00:33:43
Speaker 2: We're gonna we literally this is what we did.

00:33:45
Speaker 1: And I was like, if we are not seven years old, and then at some point we will have like a two am barbecue. We said that, and then we did that. We had a two thirty am barbecue, which I don't know how Orlando did it, but he was fucking it up over there. After a mushroom him with a little glass of water, like sprinkling the chicken. I said, at two thirty, this nigga is not playing games.

00:34:05
Speaker 2: I don't know. I woke up ate that food. I messed up.

00:34:07
Speaker 1: I think I left the plate right there, and just we did. I left the everything. We came out and all the chicken, the salmon, everything was laid out. Everyone went to sleep.

00:34:15
Speaker 2: No one had a single ounce of energy.

00:34:18
Speaker 3: But it was like, I feel like a high school student who had access to a luxury house and drugs. Honestly, my friend was like, I wonder if you're a good kissing and then like we like kiss and Eric's like that was a no kiss, And I was like, I.

00:34:29
Speaker 2: Forgot that happened.

00:34:30
Speaker 1: That's wait, I forgot that happened until like a few days ago, and I was like, I had thought and I meant to call you and be like, bitch, do you remember this happening?

00:34:38
Speaker 2: We never talked, but the whole thing is like, first of all, why are you challenging me? Erica was like, that is not no kiss.

00:34:45
Speaker 1: I was like. Then I was like, come here, bitch, why are you so because I'm an instigator.

00:34:50
Speaker 2: Then literally I was like, wow, we are sixteen years old.

00:34:53
Speaker 1: That was sixteen of me.

00:34:54
Speaker 2: That was very sixty. The whole trip, I was like, are we adults? Is this adulthood? Like just being sixteen?

00:35:00
Speaker 3: It's a little bit of money, but you know what, it was a reminder that like you need to quarterly go play with your friends.

00:35:07
Speaker 1: Well that was the thing that came up for me too. I was sitting there with one of our friends and I'm sitting in front of my little fire that I had in my room. Because I also made sure that we used that part too, and we sat there and we talked, and I was telling her that I realized, like I had this download that we must play like that I need to play with my daughter even more to keep this connection in this time period where she's at right now, and like because like she nevitly will start to go play with other people, but I always want her to know that she can come here. And also that just opens up I feel like more opportunity for conversation and like just understanding at this age. But then also I was thinking, well, look at what I'm doing here with my friends. I'm playing and.

00:35:50
Speaker 2: This is so healthy, and this feels so good and it feels so.

00:35:55
Speaker 1: Nourishing and like pleasurable and like I feel sexy and like it's for me and it's mine. Right there's like we're not going to all and I'm just saying and embodying this like the sex the sexiness for ourselves, you know, and and just opening our and when you do that, you start to just your mind automatically starts to open. And that's why you get those downloads when you go to those spaces, because you're also making a choice to do that and you're just.

00:36:21
Speaker 3: At ease, like you know when we got there, we didn't talk about work a computer of cel phone and that shit came out because we knew it wasn't possible to do both. And like, but that's when I felt like it, Like it energized us in a way where you could literally just be without worrying about what time it is and what's next, and like, yeah, I think it's so necessary.

00:36:42
Speaker 2: Adult recess, adult recess, adult recess.

00:36:46
Speaker 3: You have to take breaks, but not just to do like adult shit, to do like low key teenage shit.

00:36:55
Speaker 2: It was very, very, very soul filling. What else am I love? We shoul just talk about something else.

00:37:12
Speaker 1: I don't know's it?

00:37:14
Speaker 2: I think that's it.

00:37:15
Speaker 1: I see that was so great.

00:37:18
Speaker 2: That was so great. So I hope what you got from this is adult recess. So that would be the name of the episode, adult recess. Yes, I love that. It's so necessary.

00:37:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, let you like tantalize all your senses and do like silly shit, do silly shit, be naked, laugh, don't care if anyone's looking, and only have friends that you can not care if anybody's looking.

00:37:46
Speaker 1: I mean, I think I think that's the thing. I'm sure there's people listening that are like, I don't even know who I can do that with, but you'd be surprised. You'd be surprised how many of your friends are waiting to do some of the shit like this. It's not just you. You guys just aren't talking about it. You guys, and you guys have to meet each other like where you're at and have the conversation.

00:38:04
Speaker 3: And you have to take chances with the people you may not always hang out with all the time. That's true because there was people like literally one of my friends that came we met in the DMS and we.

00:38:12
Speaker 2: Never hung out with her before, and we had our other friend pick her up and I was like, have you ever met her in real life?

00:38:17
Speaker 1: I thought, I was like, I've never met her before.

00:38:19
Speaker 2: I think I was.

00:38:20
Speaker 3: We met one time drunk, like leaving a party, but we never like hung out, but we're supposed to, but we did it. And I was like, it was where we're telling her to come for a four day trip, not at all, because you know who you can call when you when you're open to just like plant like you know, letting your guard down and not really giving a fuck, you know, like what people think or at least not surrounding yourself with you with people who even vibe on that that frequency you know and you kind of know who.

00:38:44
Speaker 1: That is, well, I think, I mean even I had that intention when I was planning, I was really thinking, like, okay, I'm going I'm reflecting on all areas of my life currently, not just my love space, but like my friend's space, and if like how can I expand, Like I I've met all these amazing people, but I haven't been able to really spend time with certain people that I know even upon first meeting, like I've even maybe not even meeting, just in our exchange and our energy knowing I wanted to understand them better, like we had things to exchange. And I was like, well, why don't I just invite a few of those people on my birthday in this intimate space where I can finally do that And it's not like oh shit, like we keep trying to get together or we're having coffee for five minutes or like an hour, and then we don't see each other again for another.

00:39:30
Speaker 2: Two month years.

00:39:31
Speaker 1: It's so hard to it's so hard to make a friends in adulthood and like continue to you know, not feel like it's interrupting your regular scheduled programming, you know, so really really getting out of that. And so yeah, that's why I think it's like even just that's kind of the vibe of the retreat too. It's like bringing people in, people coming to have this adult recess and really not know who's going to be there, you know, right, And yeah, those I'm so like the people that come to our retreat, Like it picks bravery to do that. Like that's a big first step for a lot of those women that come, and it's a big one and it's a transformational one. Well that's sometimes you need that big first step to kind of know that you can do it, and then all the other big steps don't feel as big as and it's daunting and is scary because you're like, fuck it, I did this one.

00:40:25
Speaker 2: Thing and it and it feels so good. Yeah.

00:40:28
Speaker 3: We were talking about that last night about like being optimistic or being or being you know, h optimistic or pestimistic and like worrying about things happening. And I was like, one of the things I've realized with like faith or like magic or whatever, is like once you do that one big thing, you start to kind of realize that, like you do have this like this magic, and once you've like kind of worked that way up, then you're less fearful of things going wrong because you're like, well, I've made if I've been and made a million dollars once, even if I go broke, like I know I can make it again, you know what I mean. But people fear that instead of just like stepping into it because you kind of build that tool of knowing that there's something magical over the fear.

00:41:16
Speaker 1: That's true, that believing your magic.

00:41:22
Speaker 2: Go for it.

00:41:23
Speaker 3: Just do it, words of Nike, Just do it. Keep I picked a card. I don't know if I love this card, but I'm don't read it anyone, Okay, it's.

00:41:34
Speaker 2: A five, right, that's five. Five of one's reversed.

00:41:38
Speaker 3: It suggests that you are facing internal conflict and are unclear on where you.

00:41:42
Speaker 2: Stand on important issues.

00:41:44
Speaker 3: You may try to work through your point of view on contentious topics such as abortion, immigration, globalization, or the environment, or you may navigate personal issues such as whether to stay or leave a particular relationship or job. You have others around you who have strong views about what you should do, and this is creating an enormous amount of tension and disagreement. Just when you think you have a clear perspective, someone challenges you on it and you discover new information.

00:42:12
Speaker 2: And you change your standpoint again.

00:42:14
Speaker 3: This process is beneficial and will help you come to the well researched and well thought out viewpoint. Know too, that there's no right answer, and someone will agree, someone will disagree with your path you choose, with any path that you choose, so find the option that sits best with you. Align your head and your heart to discover a sense of peace within yourself.

00:42:36
Speaker 1: Sounds like an email I got today that soundstone has very strong opinions about what I should do.

00:42:45
Speaker 2: Isn't that crazy to like?

00:42:48
Speaker 3: When you think about someone having an opinion over what you should do, It's just so strange, Like, but why does it matter? I'm not even you, be you, I'll be me yeah yeah, And didn't like to be mean about it.

00:43:03
Speaker 1: Just hurt people, hurt people. It's a fact some of these old ass quotes are really hidden today. Just do it, hurt people, hurt people, not old ass cos they are not.

00:43:16
Speaker 2: Just do it a bit.

00:43:17
Speaker 1: I mean, you Knowikey's Nike's not like a new brand.

00:43:22
Speaker 2: No, it's not. You know, does that resonate resonate with you or ti? I feel like it does.

00:43:30
Speaker 1: I feel like it represents where I'm at that Yes, I have to be in my mind and my body and spirit and be at peace with my choices and my decisions how I want to present myself to the world and knowing that not everyone is going to love that and saying that's okay, you know, and I'm okay with that that I'm not going to be able to please everyone. It's fucking impossible, but I can please myself, and that's what I should be doing anyway, right, you know?

00:44:00
Speaker 2: Yeah? And yeah that does resonate. Yeah, I agree. Can't please everybody mine as well? Please?

00:44:12
Speaker 1: Is that the affirmation of the day?

00:44:13
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, can't please everybody mine might as well? Please you?

00:44:18
Speaker 1: Yeah?

00:44:18
Speaker 2: Beautiful?

00:44:20
Speaker 3: Well, thank you guys. So happy to see you or you see me? You see me, We see you, I see you, I see you there. Put that ponytail up. Just got back from the gym. Huh, it was hard you saw that hot guy this time, but you did it anyway.

00:44:39
Speaker 2: I love you.

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00:45:17
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00:45:19
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