episodes
June 12, 2019
Letting Our Kids Feel Unsafe (In a Safe Way) with Guest Evangeline Lilly
How can we allow ourselves to allow our kids to experience the exhilaration of feeling just a little unsafe? How does risky play create more confident adults? Guest: actress and author Evangeline Lilly, author of the book series The Squickerwonkers.
May 15, 2019
Do We Really Have To Play With Our Kids? When Parenting Feels Relentless
Parenting really is more demanding than it used to be. We spend three times as many hours playing with our kids as our mothers did. But why? Do we really need to curate kids’ every waking moment? Or might they be better off playing in a dirt pile?
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May 8, 2019
Mom Wins! (and Mother's Day Fails)
Happy Mother’s Day Week! We are passing out some Mom Awards to our listeners to counteract the lukewarm eggs benedict, hastily-purchased cards, and kindergarten art projects proclaiming, in 3-inch crayoned letters, that your favorite food is “BEER.”
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April 24, 2019
Screen-Free Week: How To Survive and Why It's Worth It
Screen-Free Week starts 4/29. If the very notion sends ice through your veins, you’re not alone! But we loved it, and we think you might too. We discuss how to prepare, what to do instead, and why it’s all truly worth it. Learn more: screenfree.org.
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April 17, 2019
Changing How We Talk To Our Kids (with guest Dr. Wendy Mogel)
We know what’s wrong with how our kids speak to us: the sarcasm and eye-rolling are two things we could live without. But does how we talk to our kids need a little fine-tuning as well? Guest: Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of VOICE LESSONS FOR PARENTS.
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April 10, 2019
100th Episode! The Best Stories We Haven't Told Yet
Amy and Margaret celebrate 100 episodes by trying to stump each other with crazy stories that are either “True or False.” Was Amy ever interviewed by Child Protective Services? Did Margaret greet her MIL for first time by saying, “Don’t touch me”?
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April 3, 2019
Youth Sports: If You Must
Is there any middle ground between the 9-year-old with a pitching coach and the kid who quits after the second game? Maybe. Even if your family has mortgaged all its weekends for travel lacrosse, here’s how to put the “play” back in playing sports.
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March 27, 2019
What We Thought Being a Mom Would Be Like (with guest Betsy Stover)
Some of the things we imagined about motherhood turned out to be pretty accurate. Some of it was WAY off base. We talk what lived up to, exceeded, and confounded our expectations with the hilarious Betsy Stover of the podcast “Why Mommy Drinks.”
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March 20, 2019
When School Projects Become Parents' Projects
Sooner or later every kid gets assigned a school project that is, without question, a PARENTS' project. Here’s how to discern the right amount of help such projects require, whether it’s a shoebox diorama or the science fair. Put the glue gun down!
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March 13, 2019
When You Feel Like a Failure as a Parent
Why do all mothers feel like failures sometimes? Is it the 24/7 job description? The high stakes of nurturing small humans? A culture which tells us no matter how hard we try, there’s another mom doing it better? All of the above. Here’s what works.
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March 6, 2019
The Best Relationship Advice Ever
Here's the best relationship advice we’ve ever gotten: how to prioritize our partners, how to fight better, how to keep things going for the long haul. Thanks to all our contributors from our Facebook group- search “whatfreshhellcast” to join us!
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Feb. 27, 2019
Helping Kids Manage Anxiety
Anxious kids often can’t explain how they’re feeling, so they’ll act out instead. We talk how to help anxious kids settle their “glitter brain” with Dr. Lisa Damour, author of Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls.
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Feb. 20, 2019
Middle Kids
Most of us assume middle kids get the short end of the parenting stick. But some experts believe their place in the birth order makes them uniquely poised to succeed. Are there lifelong benefits for kids who grow up with a little benign neglect?
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Feb. 13, 2019
The Best Advice Ever
Here is (no lie) the best advice ever when it comes to making choices, doing what matters, ignoring the haters, and liking ourselves a little better. Thanks to all our contributors from our Facebook group- search “whatfreshhellcast” to find us there!
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Feb. 6, 2019
Punishing Kids: What Works and What Doesn't
What makes a punishment effective? Is the primary goal payback or providing insight? Can our discipline help kids make better choices- even when they’re not worried about being caught? Here’s what does and doesn’t work for punishing kids of all ages.
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Jan. 30, 2019
Making It Work When You Go Back To Work
Going back to work with little ones at home is complicated— even if you’re secretly thrilled to get back that half hour on the train. Here are our listeners’ tips for smoother returns to work, whether it’s been 6 weeks, 6 months, or a lot longer.
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Jan. 23, 2019
Surviving a Toddler and a Newborn
No lie: parenting a toddler and a newborn is as hard as parenting gets. Here’s what to have on hand, what to do when you have a hand free, how you can let people help you, and why naps are the most important thing to get organized (for you too, Mom).
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Jan. 16, 2019
Having People Over
Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the potluck! Here’s how to take the stress out of having people over, whether it’s beers on the couch or a dinner party for ten. If we make it fun enough, we just might do it more often.
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Jan. 9, 2019
The Birds and The Bees: Having 'The Talk'
We’ve got to talk- and sooner than any of us would probably like to think. Here’s how to talk to kids of all ages about sex, how to be an “askable” parent, how to punt when the moment isn’t right—and how to steer kids towards making better decisions.
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Jan. 2, 2019
Our Goals for 2019
New year, new datebook, some very familiar goals. But this is the year we make things HAPPEN. At least sometimes. In this episode we discuss what we hope to accomplish in 2019- as moms, as friends, as people who exercise once in a while.
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Dec. 26, 2018
Live Show Bonus! Chappaqua, NY 12/1/18
This episode was recorded live at the Chappaqua Performing Arts Center on Dec 1, 2018. We book live shows into theaters around the country as well as smaller custom events for PTAs and moms’ groups. To find out more: info@whatfreshhellpodcast.com
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Dec. 19, 2018
Holiday Traditions: The Good, The Bad, The Wish-We-Never-Started
What are the holiday traditions that work great for your family? What are the things you kind of dread but can't stop now? Here’s how to create a holiday season that works for everyone- including those of us who do most of Santa’s heavy lifting.
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Dec. 12, 2018
How Not To Go Insane in the Winter
Everyone’s energy levels get depleted during the winter. But parents with low batteries also have to deal with cranky kids who’ve watched way too many YouTube videos and who probably should have gotten outside but it’s 4:35 pm and dark as deep space.
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Dec. 5, 2018
Sometimes We Lose It (with guests Heather Turgeon and Julie Wright)
Sometimes we lose it. And while yelling kinda feels good in the moment, afterwards? Not so much. But studies show that trying to clamp down on anger actually makes us MORE angry. Here’s how to recognize our parental triggers in time to control them.