Small Ego, Big Lie

Welcome And A Naming Question

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Peace, peace to all my good people out there. Welcome to Mind State Sessions. I am your host. And today we need to talk about a name change. Not the name change of this, because we've done it at we've done that enough because we're not doing it. But but I think we might have been using a word wrong. And we all know that words matter. So let's start calling a thing a thing. And the word I want to stop calling is well white supremacy.

Why “White Narcissism” Fits Better

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I think we should start calling it white narcissism. And I'm going to tell you exactly why. So I've been reading a book called Fear of Black Consciousness by Lewis Gordon. Very, very good read. If you have the moment, a moment, read it. Also, I want to give a shout out to the original idea for this episode. It comes from a young lady named Ashley the Baroness on TikTok. She is one of the most knowledgeable individuals on TikTok that gives so much good information, so much good history, so many good different headlines. And this was one of the things that she originally spoke about. So I am just conveying her ideas in my own way on my own show in order to get the idea and the thought process out differently. So give her a follow and hear more dope shit. But back to the book. Something clicked so hard that I had to put the book down, and I literally had to sit with it for a minute because it reframes something that I thought I really already understood. And what it was is that a lot of what we describe as supremacy doesn't actually look like some confident shit. It doesn't look like dominance. And that is not supremacy. That shit is narcissism. Let me break down what that truly means.

What Malignant Narcissism Looks Like

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Malignant narcissism isn't just I think I'm so green. No, no, it's deeper than that shit. It's I deserve to be centered. It's I deserve to be obeyed. It's I deserve to be deferred to and thought of first. And if I'm not, somebody has to pay for that shit. The entitlement, the lack of empathy, the obsession with control, the aggression when that control is challenged. Sound familiar? Now apply that to what we actually see in the real world every fucking day? Why does someone spiral when a black person talks about racism? Why does teaching accurate history feel like a personal attack to certain people? And why does someone crash out a whole fucking conversation about police violence that is recorded and shown time after time after time, and then they make it about their feelings? Why does equality feel like oppression to certain people? Now that is not a behavior of someone who is secure in their power. That is the behavior of someone whose identity only works if everyone else stays small and beneath them.

Why Centering Black Experience Triggers Backlash

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Lewis Gordon makes the point that whiteness has been positioned as the default for what it means to be human. So when black people speak from our own experiences, when we try to center ourselves, it registers as a disruption to the narcissist. Like we are the ones making it about race, even though race was already baked into every single layer of the conversation. Everything is about race, every fucking thing. We didn't introduce it, we're just giving a name for it, and that's exactly where the narcissism shows up. Because narcissism, narcissistic systems don't just want dominance, they want validation too. They want to be admired for that dominance, they want to be obeyed, and they definitely cannot handle being questioned about said narcissism. Look at the examples. Black students ask for inclusion, and suddenly it's why are they dividing us? I thought it was all about one team, one fight. Someone points out that ICE mirrors the structure of historical slave patrols. And instead of engaging with that fact, with that fact that is historically written, people rush to redirect the conversation entirely. That is narcissism reacting to a loss of control. Malignant narcissism cannot handle criticism, it cannot handle boundaries, and it absolutely, positively cannot handle being told that it is not the center of the story. So the response is always going to be one of three things: rage, denial, or rewriting reality to suit said narrative.

Universalizing Whiteness As “Human Nature”

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Gordon also points out something I think is one of the most important observations of the book. When people insist that their behavior is just human nature, what they are actually doing is universalizing themselves. Everyone is like me. Everyone thinks like this, everyone does this, everyone experiences the world the way I do. So if you don't, if your experiences look different, then your behavior is a problem. If you don't think like me, then you're a problem. That is textbook narcissism. And once you look at it that way, instead of whatever you think narcissism is supposed to look like, it starts to make a lot more sense. And why equality feels like theft, and why accountability feels like persecution, and why diversity feels like erasure, and why black consciousness gets treated like a threat instead of the great awakening that it is. But that is not what we're dealing with here. I don't think so. I think what we're dealing with is a system that cannot survive without constant admiration, and that is going to fall apart when it's not centered. A system that panics when it loses the silence of everyone around it. This system doesn't freak out because it's losing power, it freaks out because it's losing attention.

Predicting The Pattern And Closing

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And in closing, that is not supremacy, that is white narcissism. And once you think about naming it differently, the behavior becomes a little less confusing if it was before. It becomes a lot more predictable, and predictable things you can prepare for, you can move around predictable shit, you can possibly even dismantle it. But I think we should change the name. And I hope you at least think about it. And that is this episode of Mind State Sessions.

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Catch y'all next time.

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