Feb. 4, 2022

Fresh Take: Kat Vellos On Friendship and Connection

Making friends as adults? Hard work. Seeing the friends we already have? Weirdly difficult. Post-pandemic social stamina? Not exactly helping. Kat Vellos, author of WE SHOULD GET TOGETHER, explains how to get intentional about the connection we need.

How is it possible to find ourselves lonely in the midst of crazy-busy lives? Why does adulthood mean you only see people you really like twice a year? How did friendship get so complicated?

Kat Vellos is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships in adulthood. She’s the author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships, a book which has beenn helping adults around the world heal from disconnection and loneliness. Her follow-up book, Connected from Afar: A Guide for Staying Close When You’re Far Away, is filled with connection-boosting exercises to help us cultivate closeness and belonging no matter how far away we are from the ones we love.

In this episode, Kat and Amy discuss

  • the paradox of our increasingly busy lives, with more opportunities to meet people, and our decreasing feelings of connection
  • how to overcome our decreased "social stamina" as we come out of the pandemic
  • our main challenges to connection– and how to get intentional about getting the amount of connection that is just right for each one of us


Check out weshouldgettogether.com for all of Kat's books and calendars, plus tons of resources to help you cultivate better friendships.

Find out more about Kat's talks and coaching at katvellos.com.

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