Ep. 21 Relationships: Something New in Every Moment

Today I'll discuss how to experience something new in our relationships rather than replaying old history again and again in our interactions. This discussion includes:

• How the brain's negativity bias has caused us to store old memories of pain and woundedness regarding our relationships (the "box of resentments").
• How our confirmation bias also prevents us from recognizing growth and change in our partners but rather leads us to see what we already believe to be true.
• How we can override our brain's wiring toward negativity and confirmation bias to truly experience something new.
• The fact that we are new in every moment allows for change and transformation to take place.
• Using forgiveness of self and others to dissolve away the "box of resentments" that keeps us trapped in the past.

“When I say that every lesson is the first lesson it does not mean that we forget what we already know. It means that what we are doing is always new because we are always doing it for the first time.” – Chunliang Al Huang quoted in The Dancing Wu Li Masters by Gary Zukav