6: Parts of Self Series: Critical Part
This week, we’re tackling one of the most powerful—and complicated—parts of self: the Critical Part. You know that inner voice that claims it’s “just being helpful” but somehow leaves you feeling like garbage? Yeah, that one.
Brittney breaks down how our critical parts can either build us up or tear us (and everyone around us) down. When unburdened, they help us make solid decisions, set boundaries, and stay true to our values. When burdened, they morph into bullies—judgy, rigid, and obsessed with control.
We explore how these parts get shaped early on (hello, critical parents), why they can hijack relationships and even fuel abuse, and how our protectors often tag-team with them in the name of “safety.” The tradeoff? Freedom, joy, and genuine connection.
Amy shares personal reflections on how the critical part shows up in everyday life—from podcast goals to family dynamics—and Brittney offers practical ways to spot when this part’s in the driver’s seat. Together, they unpack how to shift from self-sabotage to self-awareness.
And yes, Paul Rudd makes another cameo as our unofficial Parts of Self mascot—because who better to remind us that you can be serious and stay playful?
And if your inner critic pipes up while you do—just tell it to chill. You’re doing great.
This episode was recorded on October 27, 2025 and released on December 3, 2025.
Chapter Markers
00:00:15 Intro
00:01:45 When Criticism Turns Toxic
00:05:35 Self-Criticism and Inner Abuse
00:10:03 Critical Parents
00:10:52 Control, Power, and Relationships
00:25:20 Critical Thinking vs. Judging
00:34:27 Freedom vs. Safety
00:37:16 Generational Patterns
00:42:43 Taming the God Complex
00:48:12 Harness Your Power
00:59:56 Domestic Violence Joined the Chat
01:03:14 Next Time: Protector Part
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Credits:
Co-Produced and Hosted by: Brittney Baxter Dameron and Amy Lotsberg
Production, Artwork, and Editing: Amy Lotsberg at Collected Sounds Media, LLC.
Theme song. “The Journey” by Melissa West and Mixed/Mastered by Pink Flamingo Home Studio
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