April 12, 2025

Are Christians Satisfied? Pt 1

Are Christians Satisfied? Pt 1

A discussion about satisfaction in the Christian life

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A discussion about satisfaction in the Christian life

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Looking at our world from a theological perspective. This is

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the Theology Central podcast making Theology Central. Good afternoon everyone.

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It is Saturday, April the twelfth, twenty twenty five. It

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is currently one h one pm Central Time, and I'm

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coming to you live from the Theology Central studio located

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right here in Abilene, Texas. Let me ask you a question.

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Are you truly satisfied with your life? Are you happy? Content?

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You never complain, you never grumble. You just have this

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overwhelming sense of satisfaction. You you you never hunger or thirst again.

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You just have found true satisfaction. You have everything you

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could ever want and everything you could ever need. There

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is happiness, there is contentment. There's no anxiety, there's no worry,

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there's no fear. You have found the secret to life.

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You had a hole inside of you that's now been

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filled by God, and everything is perfect and everything is wonderful.

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Does that describe your life now? Depending on the setting,

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I think you may try to claim that is your life,

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especially if you're amongst a group of Christians, or in

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church or in small group or in Sunday School. You

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may try to kind of sell that that's your life.

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But is it really we're going to be talking about.

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And I don't know how many episodes. I didn't really

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desire to get into a kind of a mini series here,

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or I may put this in, may place this in

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another series that we've been doing. We're doing a series

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on mental health in Christianity. Maybe I'll put it there.

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I don't know. But we've talked about recently fear in Christianity,

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and we looked at the subject of fear from a

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law gospel perspective, because once again I was not happy

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with the way most Christians and most churches handle the

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subject of fear. I just think that their approach is

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law based. I don't think it's realistic. I think it's ridiculous,

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and so we challenged that. Then we found ourselves kind

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of talking about Christianity and pornography. It really wasn't so

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much about pornography. It was about, once again, the way

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Christians handle some of these cultural and social issues and

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sin issues. And again it's very law based. In so

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many cases it misses the deeper issue. So here's what happened.

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I was looking on the sermon's two point oh app

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and I saw a sermon entitled Spiritual satisfaction, spiritual satisfaction,

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and I thought, oh, there's the subject of satisfaction. I

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wonder how. I wonder how this sermon is going to

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handle the subject, because I can pretty much guarantee how

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it's going to handle this subject. So I asked Artificial

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Intelligence to give me its prediction and how this sermon

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called Spiritual Satisfaction will handle the subject of satisfaction. What

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do you think its thesis will be? And AI basically said, well,

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this is how most Christians approach the subject of satisfaction.

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And I was like, I I don't think so. So

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then me and Artificial Intelligence had a long conversation. I

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was going to review the sermon, but I felt like

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that it really is not going to be beneficial or helpful.

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So what we're going to do over the next few

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episodes is we're just going to talk about the subject

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of satisfaction and how Christianity approaches it. And I think

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all of the problems with how Christianity approaches it, and

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maybe a great amount of hypocrisy is built into the

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way Christianity approaches this subject. Now, I can assure you

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most of you are going to disagree with me. I

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can assure you that this is going to put me

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in con with about ninety nine percent of Christianity, which

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is not unusual for me to do on this program.

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But I hope you will give this some serious thought

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because I think we're going to really get into some

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very important issues. And it may be some things that

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maybe you need to hear or maybe maybe you don't.

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Maybe you need to hear it, but you don't want

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to hear it. But I think we're going to have

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to well, we're gonna have to face reality. And I

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think that's what I try to do a lot. So

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much of what Christianity says, I believe is nothing more

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than a denial of reality. And we create this fictional world,

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and we all pretend to be operating in this fictional world.

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That completely that our realities completely contradict everything we're claiming,

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and that bothers me greatly about Christianity. So let's talk

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about Christianity and satisfaction. And I think we need to

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go back to nineteen forty three. That's where I think

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we need to go. We need to go back to

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nineteen forty three. And in nineteen forty three, there's a psychology.

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His name is Abraham Maslow, and he produces a now

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famous model of human motivation known as Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Oh,

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come on, you've learned about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Somehow,

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I think the churches completely forget that this exists. But

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it exists. Now the first time I can remember really

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learning about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Now, maybe it occurred

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somewhere in school. If it did, I have no recollection

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of it. My first time of really going wow, this

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is interesting. I was outside off it Air Force base.

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I don't even know what school I was attending and

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what we were, what training school I was in, but

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I'm in a training school, and the instructor for that

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day I said, all right, guys, we're going to go outside.

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So we went outside to what we call the parade ground, right,

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It was kind of across where the building was where

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we were doing our training. So we go outside and

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he starts talking to us about Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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That's the first time I really remembering it, trying to

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explain what it was, it's impact, it's significance, because we

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were talking a lot about mental health and a lot

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of things along those lines. In that particular training, and

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that's where I really began to go, huh, this is interesting.

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Not that point, I still wasn't really I kind of

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kept it separate, right Like, I kind of, well, this

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is kind of what I did. Here's Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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In some ways, I kept it separate from Christianity. I

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didn't really try to, like, how do these two things.

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Here's my theology, my doctrine, my faith, here's Maslow's hierarchy

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of needs. Do they work together? But I think ultimately

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what I did, oh well, Maslow's hierarchy of needs are

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completely met because I'm a Christian. Basically kind of the

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approach I took, which I think is what most Christians do.

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But let's learn a little bit about this, all right.

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So it's nineteen forty three. Psychologist Abraham Maslow proposed, I

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probably said I'm reading now, I was just kind of

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going with my own words. I'll read, proposed a now

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famous model of human motivation. I may have said produced,

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but proposed a now famous model of human motivation known

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as Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and now un quoting at

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its foundation are our most basic survival needs food, water,

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shelter and safety. Above that are emotional needs like love, belonging,

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and esteem, and at the top are the higher longings

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of the human soul, purpose fulfillment, and transcendence. It's a

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model that resonates across culturals, cultures, and worldviews. Most people

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understand instinctively that you feel whole and human. I'll say

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this again. Most people understand instinctively that to fill whole

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and human, you need more than just food. You need touch,

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physical touch. You need connection, you need meaning, you need hope,

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and most suffering at its very core is the experience

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of living with one or more of those needs un met.

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Now this is critical, I really now. I know right now,

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you're gonna be all with This is just a bunch

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of psycho you know, Psychology is a bunch of you

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know whatever. I don't care about this. I only care

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about the Bible and theology. I need you to think

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about this, all right. So I'm gonna read this entire

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paragraph again, right, and I'll read it better than I

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did the first time. Right here we go. So this

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model Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's a model that resonates

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across cultures and worldviews. Most people understand instinctively that to

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feel whole and human, you need more than just food.

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If you're gonna truly feel whole, if you're gonna truly

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feel human, you need more than just food. That's like

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basic survival. You need more. You need things like physical touch,

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you need intimacy, you need connection, you need meaning, you

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need hope, and most suffering at its core is the

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experience of living with one or more of those needs unmet. Now,

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I think typically within christiandom the way it is, Oh no,

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no no no no no no, no, no, no no, you

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just need Christ. Oh you don't have this need met,

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you don't have this. You die to yourself just to

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find your fulfillment in Christ. That's all you need. Now

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that preaches good sermons, and everyone in the congregation will

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say amen. And I think all of the amens and

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all of the sermons are the very peak of absolute

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complete hypocrisy. And we'll try to get there, and I'll

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try to explain it. But so everyone at instinctively knows

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I need more than just food, I need more than

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just shelter. If I'm truly going to be whole, if

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I'm truly truly going to have some kind of satisfaction.

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Am I'm truly going to be complete? Typically, Christianity says no, no, no, no,

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you can do without almost all of that. As long

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as you have Jesus, as long as you have food,

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as long as you have shelter. That's all you need.

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Christians love to say that, but oh, we'll work through that.

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I just I just get so irritated by that, that

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way of thinking. And you'll you'll see why now I quote.

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Here's where things get interesting. Christianity claims to offer a

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different solution. Many sermons, books and worship songs tell us

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that when we come to Christ, we gain a complete

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soul level satisfaction that transcends and even replaces all these needs.

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This is typically the way to creation approaches. We now

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have Christ. So what we transcends all of those needs.

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Those needs are irrelevant. You die to those needs. You

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have Christ, so you have everything. You have this sole satisfaction,

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You have joy, you have peace because you have Jesus,

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So you don't really need those needs. Those needs are irrelevant.

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That's what the psychologists talk about, that's what lost people

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talk about. That's what the world wants. But no, not

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as Christians we don't need those things. We can live

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without them. We can die to those needs. That sounds

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good again. I probably preach that concept five hundred times

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in my Christian life because it preaches so good, and

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it's gonna lead to some conviction, and it's gonna and

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people who are suffering and not happy and not content

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and depressed and discouraged and filled with anxiety and worry.

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You'll be like, you know what, that's right. All I

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need is to die to myself and I just focus

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on Jesus and I'll be happy and complete. That's the

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solution we typically give people. I'm going to challenge that

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in this series of episodes. They say, this is typically

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what is said within Christianity. Jesus is enough that he

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fills the void, that if we truly believe in him,

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we won't hunger or thirst anymore. That his word, that

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his presence are more fulfilling than food, than sex, than safety,

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are human love. You can do with all that without

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all of it. I mean, you need food to just survive,

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but that's all you need. You just need your needs. Man,

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All that other stuff is irrelevant. Because we love God

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always that our affections on things above we seek first

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the Kingdom of God. We die to sell. Oh. It

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preaches so good, and everyone in the congregation will say amen,

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and it just drives me crazy. This idea is deeply rooted,

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deeply embedded in modern Christian thought. There's no way to

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separate modern Christianity from these ideas. It's preached constantly, and

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it's typically built on verses like John chapter six, verse

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thirty five, Psalm sixteen eleven, Philippians four eleven through thirteen.

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The message is typically clear and modern day Christianity. If

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you're still longing, if you're still restless, if you're still hungry,

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it must be because you're not going to Jesus rightly,

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or possibly you're not even saved. Oh it sounds so good. Oh,

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oh man. I could preach this all day. I could

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create fifteen different sermons on this, and I could preach it.

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And depending on the type of church, especially if it's

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a church with an altar call, I could probably get

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fifty percent of the people that come to the altar

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going to mare. Yes, I've got to fix this problem

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because deep down, people aren't truly happy, They're not truly satisfied,

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no matter what they say. But here's the problem with

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all of this. Most Christians are even remotely honest with themselves.

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They still hunger, they still thirst, they still desire, They're

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still not happy, They're still not satisfied. Most Christians still

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ache for connection. They wrestle with loneliness, they long for intimacy,

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They fight fear, and grieve the absence of safety, love,

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or meaning. And when those needs aren't met and the

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Church tells them Jesus should be enough, it doesn't lead

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to joy. It leads to guilt, It leads to shame,

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it leads to silence, and it leads, worse of all,

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to pretending. Oh, there's so many issues with this, So

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maybe we need to ask this. Does the Bible actually

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promise that Christ will meet all our deepest needs now

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in this life? Because that's how Christianity's typically sold, or

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possibly has modern day Christianity misunderstood the nature of satisfaction,

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confusing future hope with present experience and spiritual truth with

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emotion fulfillment. What if the Gospel doesn't actually erase hunger,

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doesn't erase these desires, doesn't erase these needs, but it

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actually meets you in the middle of your well struggle

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and not being satisfied and not being content. What if

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faith doesn't actually eliminate the need, but holds fast to

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Christ in the middle of the longing. That's that's what

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we're gonna consider. Now, just a reminder for anyone who

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doesn't know, because I just reference Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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I didn't go through it. It's really typically I think

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they've added I think there's six now. There's really five

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kind of levels in this hierarchy of needs. I think

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they added a sixth with which is now identity and transcendence.

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I don't think that was in the original five. So

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I think there's six now. But first, a cycle is

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physiological all right, Physiological needs all right, And the physiological

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needs are food, water, shelter, rest, food water, shelter rest. Right,

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there's kind of a physiological a food, water, shelter rest.

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Everybody has those needs. Everybody has those needs. Now, many

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Christians will say God will always meet those needs of food, water, shelter, rest,

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but I think we have too much proof in church

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history that that's not the way. It always turns out.

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So right there, already creates some major theological debates within Christianity. Safety, security, stability, protection. Again,

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many Christians will claim that God will get well protect

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you and you're gonna have you have security, you have stability,

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But we have plenty of cases in life whe Christians

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are murdered, killed, things burned down, So you don't have

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the supposed protection that Christians often claim. Love belonging. So

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we'll just call it so the first one. The first

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group is physiological, that's food, water, shelter, and rest. The

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second is safety, that's security, stability, and protection, and the

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third level is love and belonging. This is intimacy, physical intimacy,

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mental intimacy, emotional intimacy, friendship, community. Right, there's a sense

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of love and belonging. Next number four esteem, respect, recognition,

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and purpose. There's a sense. We need some sense of esteem,

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so feeling that we're respected, feeling that we get recognized

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for something, having some purpose in what we're doing. So

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number one is physiological, number two is safety, number three

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is love and belonging. Number four is esteem, and number

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five is self actualization meaning creativity, fulfillment, meaning we want

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to be able to do different things. We have some

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sense of fulfillment. You can make that as a hierarchy

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of needs. You can you can create a little chart

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if you want. Again, at the very base levels, physiological

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this is food, water, shelter, rest, you've got to have that.

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love belonging. This is intimacy, physical intimacy, mental intimacy. You

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get the idea of friendship, community number four esteem feeling

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some sense of respect, recognition, and purpose. Number five self

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actualization meaning creativity and fulfillment. Now, when one or more levels,

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this is very important, when one or more levels of

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Moslow's hierarchy, when they're missing, just one of one or more.

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If they're missing, we will not experience full satisfaction. And

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that absence often manifest in powerful, visible, and sometimes destructive

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ways emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and behaviorally. I cannot stress this enough.

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I cannot stress this enough. You've got the hierarchy of needs.

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You can look at those hierarchy of needs. You can

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identify them, you can classify them. You know them because

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you have them, you experience them. You know that. Look,

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you can try to wrap this up in all the

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spiritual language in the world. You can pretend you can

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try to be all godly and spiritual. Well, we'll try

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to get to that. But the reality is you strip

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it all away, you and your church, your family, everyone,

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you know. Those needs are there, They're ingrained inside of us.

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There's psychological needs, there's biological needs, there's physical needs, there's

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emotional needs. Those needs exist, and when one or more

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of those needs are missing, you will not experience full satisfaction.

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That you can say, well, that's a worldly perspective, that's

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a psychological perspective. You can say that. Christians will say, no, no, no, no,

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no no, I can be missing these needs. As long

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as I have Jesus, those needs are fulfilled, I have fulfillment.

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Even if those needs are not met, I can have

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complete satisfaction. This is the conflict philologically. Christians say, who cares, Oh,

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you didn't get that need met, you don't have that

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need met, you don't have that need met, or you've

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got Jesus that's all you need. But is that really true?

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Because you look at the lives of Christians just look

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inside of marriages, look inside of relationships, look inside of churches,

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look inside of Christians at work. So much of what

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you see and their words and their actions and their behaviors.

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Clearly something is missing, that one of those needs is missing.

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Because when one of those things are missing, I cannot

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stress this enough. Not only are you not experiencing full satisfaction.

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I'm going to quote here this is very important. When

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one of those lef one or more of those levels

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are not are missing, this is very important. The absence

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of those needs, it's going to manifest and I'm quoting

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here in powerful, visible and sometimes destructive ways. This shows

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up emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and behaviorally. Sometimes when you look

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at how someone is, what someone is doing, either how

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they're acting emotionally, what they're doing in their relationship, what

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they're doing spiritually, what they're doing in their behavior, many

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cases you can trace it right back to Maslow's hierarchy

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of needs. That's missing, that's missing, that's missing, that explains

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the the attitude, the thinking, the emotions, the feelings, the discouragement,

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the depression, the action, the anger, the bitterness. Something is missing. Now,

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the church never wants to address this because the Church

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is just like, get over it, you don't need it,

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you got Jesus, just be happy and be content the end.

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Die to yourself and you'll fix all your problems. Now

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we can ask if that's a true philological solution or not.

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We can really ask ourselves if that's the case. But

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the point is clearly no one's figured out how to

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do that. Now. Here's why this is true because Maslow's

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model reflects a basic truth of human design. We are embodied,

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we're in a body. We are relational, we are emotional,

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and we are spiritual beings. You can't get around this

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right as human beings because the way we are created.

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We have a body, so you're gonna have those physiological needs.

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Can't get around that. We're a body, and those needs

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can are for a lot of things. For the body

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has these needs. They're like hunger, like like there's there's

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these needs. Nobody wants to talk about these actual needs

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that are built. You didn't ask for those needs. You

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didn't ask to have the need for hunger. You didn't

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ask for the need for sleep. You didn't ask for

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the need of maybe physical intimacy that's built into you.

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It's there. It's you didn't ask for it, it's there

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inside of you. Relational, We didn't You didn't born and

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just go hmm, you know I I, and find yourself

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longing for relationship, longing for intimacy, longing for a companionship.

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You didn't ask for that to be there. It's just

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built inside of you. You're You're emotional. You didn't ask

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for emotions. You didn't ask to have depression and pain,

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and and and heartbreak and you you would if we

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didn't have any emotions. Can you imagine what life would

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be if we just didn't have any emotions? How? Probably,

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how emotions can make your life a roller coaster up

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and down and even you can go from one day

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you can find yourself moping around and unhappy and the

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next day you're filled with un just, unbelievable joy. You

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didn't ask for those. Those emotions are way outside. There's

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something inside of you, built inside of you, and we

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and you. You basically have to learn to try to

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control your emotions. Don't allow your emotions to govern your life.

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It's always a battle with your emotions. But you didn't

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ask for the emotions. The one thing you can do

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is just get rid of them. And then we're spiritual beings. Now,

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this is where atheists would probably disagree, But we're spiritual beings.

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There's something in side of us that that I think,

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we know there has to be more to this life.

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We ask those questions. We have some sense of spirituality

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is inside of us. That's where no matter where you

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go in human history, you start digging into ground looking

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for the next civilization that we didn't know about. You

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uncover that civilization almost inevitably, in every civilization, what do

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you find some deity, some belief in something spiritual you

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didn't ask for that. That's just how we are. So

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we are embodied with physiological needs. We have these relational needs,

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we have these emotional needs, and we have these spiritual needs.

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It's somehow deep inside of us. If one part of

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our human makeup is deprived, the whole person fills the impact.

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If one area something's not right, it impacts every other part.

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Every other part is impacted. You just take one part

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of the massows hierarchy of needs and you go, Okay,

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we're gonna have a little bit of this, a little

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bit of that boom. The entire person is impacted, whether

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they can process it, whether either even conscious of it.

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It's there, and Christianity doesn't ever want to talk about

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there's something deeper. No no, No, it's just like, don't

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do it, don't do it. It's law, law, law, law, law, law, law,

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Get over yourself. Just you don't need that, you know

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it doesn't. You've got God, that's all. Just raise your

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Bible more, pray more, go to church more. Just be better.

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That's that's our answer to everything. You're like, well, well

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one minute, we've got some really deep there's there's a

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layer here that's not discussed. Let's consider some examples of

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how lacking anything and Maslow's hierarchy of needs, how this,

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how this lack of fulfillment, how it may manifest. Let's

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just go with first one, the physiological or safety needs.

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Let's go with physiological and safety needs. If the physiological

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or safety needs are missing, well there's some things that

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can happen here, So I'll try to go through these.

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Hunger or a lack of sleep or homelessness. Our financial

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instability can lead to things like irritability. I think that

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makes sense, right, Oh, come on, you never been irritable

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in your life? Did you only got four hours of sleep?

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Is it? Does that ever make you irritable? You haven't eaten,

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you missed breakfast, and you for some reason lunch got

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messed up. Now it's like three in the afternoon. Do

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you get irritable? Do you get frustrated? Where is it

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coming from? Just be a good Christian? Come on, you

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believe in Jesus. You should just be over it, right,

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die to yourself. You shouldn't be irritable. You shouldn't be frustrated.

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Get over it. Oh but trust me, you're gonna be

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feeling it. And if you are missing, if you're hunger,

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lack of sleep, or homelessness or financial instability, it leads

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to chronic stress. Well no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no no, don't worry, don't worry. Don't give any thought

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about what you will ware or what you will eat.

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That's what we will quote thinking that. And the solution

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is just obey that. It's very law based, and again

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that's why we need a law gospel perspective. But okay,

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So it leads to irritability, chronic stress. It can lead

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to anxiety, It can lead to panic. It can literally

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lead to physical illness. It can lead to difficulty. It

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can lead to difficulty concentrating. It can literally lead to

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difficulty and praying. It can even lead you to spiritual despair.

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Where is God? You start taking away some of those

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physiological and safety needs, you start stripping them away. Oh man,

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things begin to crumble, Things begin to crumble. A little

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bit of financial instability. How many people have to go

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to counseling, and our marriages begin to fall apart because

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there's financial issues all of a sudden, And you can

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just have conflict in your day just when something goes

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on about about food or anything. These are basic levels

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and you will see the impact almost immediately. So that's

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what happens when you're missing physiological or safety needs. How

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about the missing love or belonging, Well, what happens If

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you're missing love and belonging, well, then this is what happens.

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You start obviously, then you're experiencing loneliness. You're experiencing rejection,

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you're experiencing absence of intimacy. So if you're experiencing loneliness,

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this is missing love and belonging. If you're experiencing loneliness,

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you just alone. You just feel like it's just you yourself,

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and that's it. That's you're living your life basically alone.

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You feel rejection, feel like you're being rejected, an absence

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of intimacy. There's no intimacy. You're just again, you're living

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your life alone. You know what that leads to? Number one?

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It leads to depression. It leads to emotional numbness, leads

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00:31:13.440 --> 00:31:22.839
to insecurity, leads to desperate relational choices. You can get desperate,

455
00:31:24.480 --> 00:31:29.200
so you end up attaching, maybe yourself to someone you shouldn't.

456
00:31:30.039 --> 00:31:33.880
Maybe you become code dependent on someone you don't really

457
00:31:33.920 --> 00:31:37.640
feel you can function without this person. Because you've been alone,

458
00:31:37.880 --> 00:31:41.799
you have no intimacy, so you attach, you become co dependent.

459
00:31:43.920 --> 00:31:54.920
It leads to sexual sin. This deep ache for connection,

460
00:31:57.440 --> 00:31:59.440
that's what it's going to lead to, This deep ache

461
00:31:59.480 --> 00:32:03.440
for connection, for intimacy, to be to belong to love,

462
00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:08.559
to not be so alone. You're gonna have this ache.

463
00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:12.440
Guess what. It's not gonna be silenced. Even though Christianity

464
00:32:12.480 --> 00:32:16.519
will tell you just read your Bible, just pray, just

465
00:32:16.559 --> 00:32:19.359
focus on the things of God now. The people who

466
00:32:19.359 --> 00:32:22.440
always say don't even I'll get into that later, oh man.

467
00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:25.599
The Christians who say this stuff to it ticks me

468
00:32:25.720 --> 00:32:30.440
off so very much. But this deep ache is not

469
00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:33.119
gonna be fixed by a quiet time. It's not gonna

470
00:32:33.119 --> 00:32:35.720
be fixed by listening to five sermons, listening to a

471
00:32:35.720 --> 00:32:37.759
praise song. You can try to play all of the

472
00:32:37.759 --> 00:32:40.640
little psychological games you want, it's not because it's not

473
00:32:40.839 --> 00:32:43.880
meeting the actual need. The actual need goes unmat. I know.

474
00:32:43.960 --> 00:32:46.519
Christianity says that's okay, you can be alone, you can

475
00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:50.920
be isolated. No love, no intacimy, intimacy, no touch, just

476
00:32:50.960 --> 00:32:54.799
get over it. You've got Jesus, be happy now. Typically

477
00:32:54.799 --> 00:32:57.119
the people saying that have the very things that the

478
00:32:57.160 --> 00:32:59.480
other people don't. But don't even get me started on

479
00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:06.720
that nonsense. So see what happens. If you're missing the

480
00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:10.799
physiological and safety needs, boom immediately manifests itself. If you're

481
00:33:10.839 --> 00:33:15.279
missing the love belonging, you end up feeling lonely, rejection,

482
00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:21.000
and absence of intimacy. It leads to these other things.

483
00:33:20.200 --> 00:33:25.519
It's the inevitable result of it. Christianny will just look

484
00:33:25.559 --> 00:33:27.920
at it from a very moral perspective and not even

485
00:33:27.920 --> 00:33:30.359
being willing to go well, there may be something deeper

486
00:33:30.400 --> 00:33:32.359
is going on. No, no, no, no, we can't even

487
00:33:32.400 --> 00:33:34.480
expect it. We can't even talk about that. No, no,

488
00:33:34.480 --> 00:33:36.799
no no, it's just sin. It's just wrong. We like

489
00:33:36.920 --> 00:33:40.200
black and white. We don't like nuance. We don't like layers. No, no, no, no,

490
00:33:40.200 --> 00:33:45.559
no no, we don't want to deal with that. What

491
00:33:45.680 --> 00:33:49.880
happens number three, If you're missing esteem, you start feeling unseen,

492
00:33:50.720 --> 00:33:57.240
you feel undervalued or unvalued, or you feel you feel

493
00:33:57.279 --> 00:33:59.960
maybe a sense of being incompetent. You're just your esteem

494
00:34:00.240 --> 00:34:02.920
is shot. Your self esteem is gone. Now I know

495
00:34:02.960 --> 00:34:05.519
what Christianity says. You don't need self esteem, you need

496
00:34:05.599 --> 00:34:09.400
christ esteem. You just need to find your self worth

497
00:34:09.440 --> 00:34:11.599
in christ. Don't look to yourself, don't look at what

498
00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:14.400
you do, don't don't look at anything again. The people

499
00:34:14.400 --> 00:34:17.079
who say that typically have lots of reasons to have

500
00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:20.239
self esteem, even though they tell you don't need it,

501
00:34:20.599 --> 00:34:23.239
they have it. No, don't talk to me until you

502
00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:25.679
don't have one of these things, until all of it's

503
00:34:25.719 --> 00:34:28.440
gone for you, don't speak to someone else. I get

504
00:34:28.480 --> 00:34:31.880
sick and tired of that. Within Christianity, you've got this,

505
00:34:32.039 --> 00:34:34.320
you've got this, you've got this, you got this, and

506
00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:36.719
you tell everyone else that they don't need these things

507
00:34:36.800 --> 00:34:39.280
because they've got Jesus. Well, it's easy for you to say,

508
00:34:39.320 --> 00:34:42.119
because you've got all the other things. Oh, I get

509
00:34:42.239 --> 00:34:48.320
so ticked off by that. But when you feel unseen,

510
00:34:48.360 --> 00:34:51.519
when you feel unvalued, when you feel maybe a feeling

511
00:34:51.559 --> 00:34:57.599
of incompetence. Well, then you start having self doubt, you

512
00:34:57.639 --> 00:35:03.159
start comparing your your yourself with other people, You become bitter,

513
00:35:04.679 --> 00:35:09.199
you can withdraw, or you turn to a very performance

514
00:35:09.280 --> 00:35:13.679
based religion. You turn to a very performance based religion

515
00:35:13.840 --> 00:35:16.360
because now you're going to build your self esteem based

516
00:35:16.400 --> 00:35:21.000
off your religious performance. Oh, that is my Christian life

517
00:35:21.119 --> 00:35:23.360
right there. If you want to say, wait, what was

518
00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:25.719
your Christian life at the beginning, it was right there.

519
00:35:25.800 --> 00:35:28.599
It became a performance based religion because that was how

520
00:35:28.639 --> 00:35:31.000
I was going to find some form of self esteem.

521
00:35:31.039 --> 00:35:33.199
Being raised in the family that I was, I was

522
00:35:33.280 --> 00:35:36.320
beaten down, told I was stupid and idiot, a moron,

523
00:35:36.599 --> 00:35:38.400
that they did not love me because I was not

524
00:35:38.559 --> 00:35:41.119
good enough, and all the horrible things that happened to

525
00:35:41.159 --> 00:35:43.760
me growing up. When I became a Christian, then it

526
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:46.079
was like, I'm gonna find my self esteem and being

527
00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:47.960
a I'm going to be the best Christian. I'm going

528
00:35:48.039 --> 00:35:50.159
to read my Bible more than anybody else, I'm going

529
00:35:50.239 --> 00:35:52.679
to know theology better than anybody else. I'm gonna be

530
00:35:52.679 --> 00:35:55.440
able to win any spiritual debate I'm gonna know this ofuff.

531
00:35:55.440 --> 00:35:56.639
I'm going to be able to teach it. I'm going

532
00:35:56.719 --> 00:35:58.199
to be able to preach it. I'm going to get

533
00:35:58.199 --> 00:36:01.679
more degrees than anybody else and know more than anybody.

534
00:36:01.800 --> 00:36:03.960
No Christian can step to me, and I'm gonna find

535
00:36:03.960 --> 00:36:06.079
my self esteem and how good of a Christian I am.

536
00:36:06.159 --> 00:36:08.719
And it became nothing more than a performance based religion

537
00:36:08.840 --> 00:36:11.559
to build my own self esteem. Well, I told everyone

538
00:36:11.639 --> 00:36:13.360
I was doing it for the glory of God. I

539
00:36:13.400 --> 00:36:16.760
was doing it nothing more than to lift up myself.

540
00:36:17.800 --> 00:36:22.880
And I know many times the only reason I do podcasting,

541
00:36:23.119 --> 00:36:27.199
the only reason in many cases that I preached as

542
00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:32.519
long as I have, is for my own ungodly, fleshly

543
00:36:33.119 --> 00:36:42.280
self esteem. I can stand behind this podcast, this microphone,

544
00:36:42.400 --> 00:36:47.719
and I can broadcast for five hours, six hours, and

545
00:36:47.719 --> 00:36:49.239
then I can be like, hey, I may be a

546
00:36:49.280 --> 00:36:51.360
failure here, and I may be a failure here, and

547
00:36:51.400 --> 00:36:53.320
I may not like this about myself, and I may

548
00:36:53.360 --> 00:36:55.559
not like this about myself, and I may hate myself

549
00:36:55.559 --> 00:36:57.360
this and I may not have this. Oh, but I

550
00:36:57.400 --> 00:36:59.599
can feel a sense of self esteem because who can

551
00:36:59.679 --> 00:37:02.639
broad cast more than I can? Who can say that

552
00:37:02.639 --> 00:37:06.679
they're I mean, look, I've even mentioned it on this podcast.

553
00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:10.159
We're at my statistics for how many episodes I've done.

554
00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:14.440
I'm in elite territory. No almost no podcast has as

555
00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:19.280
many episodes as I have. I've blown past everyone. Oh,

556
00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:22.440
my podcast is in the top five percent of all

557
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:25.840
podcasts in the world. You don't think I find self

558
00:37:25.920 --> 00:37:28.639
esteem in that. I'd be a liar if I don't.

559
00:37:29.320 --> 00:37:31.719
And I know that. I know I do a lot

560
00:37:31.719 --> 00:37:33.920
of it for my own self esteem. That's why I

561
00:37:34.119 --> 00:37:37.519
try my very best that when I mess up and

562
00:37:37.559 --> 00:37:39.519
I said, well, you hear it. When I mess up

563
00:37:39.559 --> 00:37:42.599
or stumble over a word, it bothers me. Sometimes I'll

564
00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:45.079
come back and offer an apology. It's all because of

565
00:37:45.119 --> 00:37:47.920
my self esteem. But what I try to do is

566
00:37:47.960 --> 00:37:50.440
I try to leave my mistakes out there. I try

567
00:37:50.480 --> 00:37:52.760
to leave the bad episodes out there because I have

568
00:37:52.800 --> 00:37:55.400
to try to crush my self esteem because I know

569
00:37:55.679 --> 00:37:58.199
very much that it's a monster that I've probably have been.

570
00:37:58.360 --> 00:38:00.800
It's so much of my Christian life. There's probably been

571
00:38:00.800 --> 00:38:03.320
more about that. And then once you start realizing, and

572
00:38:03.360 --> 00:38:07.840
then I have probably had major crises of faith because

573
00:38:08.559 --> 00:38:12.239
I try to be perfect. I keep realizing I'm not perfect. Well,

574
00:38:12.280 --> 00:38:14.480
if I'm not perfect either, I've got to hide the

575
00:38:14.559 --> 00:38:16.639
end perfection so I can still have the self esteem,

576
00:38:16.679 --> 00:38:18.639
at least in the eyes of other people. But once

577
00:38:18.679 --> 00:38:20.559
other people know that I'm a mess and I'm a

578
00:38:20.599 --> 00:38:23.360
failure and that I've committed great sin, well, then all

579
00:38:23.360 --> 00:38:27.199
of a sudden, well who cares about my Christianity because Christianity.

580
00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:30.360
I'm no longer finding my self esteem in my Christianity

581
00:38:30.440 --> 00:38:32.639
because I'm a failure and I'm a sinner. And that's

582
00:38:32.639 --> 00:38:37.639
what happens when you get involved in a performance based religion.

583
00:38:37.840 --> 00:38:40.079
It's all great as long as you're performing, but the

584
00:38:40.119 --> 00:38:42.480
minutes you start coming to face to face with the

585
00:38:42.079 --> 00:38:46.320
reality that your performance is really not that good, especially

586
00:38:46.440 --> 00:38:48.639
when you compare it to God, which is be holy,

587
00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:51.320
Be holy, because He is holy, then you're going to

588
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:54.199
realize your performance is all a facade, it's all lie,

589
00:38:54.440 --> 00:38:56.960
it's all nothing but filthy rags, and you're a fraud.

590
00:38:57.119 --> 00:38:58.440
And then you're going to be like, well, then what

591
00:38:58.519 --> 00:39:00.840
happened to my self esteem? And then your self esteem

592
00:39:00.920 --> 00:39:03.480
is left and broken in a million pieces and you

593
00:39:03.559 --> 00:39:12.079
realize the piece of trash you really are, So you

594
00:39:12.119 --> 00:39:15.159
can either withdraw because you have no self esteem, or

595
00:39:15.440 --> 00:39:18.239
you throw yourself into a performance based religion. I think

596
00:39:18.280 --> 00:39:20.719
a lot of people who are so gung ho about

597
00:39:20.719 --> 00:39:25.320
their religion it's because it's they're compensating for low self esteem,

598
00:39:25.320 --> 00:39:27.920
and they're trying to find their self esteem and their performance,

599
00:39:28.119 --> 00:39:31.119
and so they get loud and boisterous and condemning of

600
00:39:31.159 --> 00:39:35.920
everyone else, thinking that they're better than everyone else. Oh oh,

601
00:39:36.039 --> 00:39:39.280
I know. People say, you're getting too psychological on this. No,

602
00:39:39.400 --> 00:39:45.800
we're getting to some really reality here. So much of

603
00:39:45.800 --> 00:39:48.719
what we do religiously is far more for us than

604
00:39:48.719 --> 00:39:51.000
it is for the glory of God or for anybody else.

605
00:39:51.079 --> 00:39:53.800
It's for us. It's for us. I say the same

606
00:39:53.840 --> 00:39:57.360
thing about love. We love people because of what we

607
00:39:57.519 --> 00:40:00.440
get from it, not because of what we give, because

608
00:40:00.480 --> 00:40:03.119
if we didn't get something, we wouldn't love them, we

609
00:40:03.159 --> 00:40:12.159
would walk away. When you're missing the self esteem, here's

610
00:40:12.159 --> 00:40:16.480
what happens. This hunger for affirmation can get masked within

611
00:40:16.559 --> 00:40:23.199
Christianity as a zeal for ministry, as a zeal for God.

612
00:40:24.320 --> 00:40:29.920
You're just covering up your own hunger for affirmation. That's

613
00:40:29.960 --> 00:40:33.039
all you're doing it. I got a zeal for God,

614
00:40:33.159 --> 00:40:36.079
You got a zeal for affirmation. You want to be

615
00:40:36.239 --> 00:40:40.400
told how good you're doing, and this can show up.

616
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:43.800
And look, I'm relating it to Christianity and ministry and

617
00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:47.599
broadcasting because obviously that speaks to me. I'm being very

618
00:40:47.639 --> 00:40:51.880
open and transparent about my own sin and psychological mess

619
00:40:51.960 --> 00:40:53.639
that I am. Look, I say it all the time.

620
00:40:53.679 --> 00:40:55.880
I'm just a center with a microphone. I try never

621
00:40:55.920 --> 00:40:58.079
to pretend to be anything other than that, but it

622
00:40:58.239 --> 00:41:00.480
shows up in your own life. You do a lot

623
00:41:00.519 --> 00:41:04.719
of things because you're missing this the Masso's hierarchy of needs.

624
00:41:04.760 --> 00:41:07.519
When it comes to esteem, something has caused an issue,

625
00:41:07.559 --> 00:41:11.039
something is missing, and you try to compensate for it.

626
00:41:11.039 --> 00:41:14.519
It all whenever something is missing in this hierarchy of needs,

627
00:41:14.639 --> 00:41:17.840
it manifests in your life. It's going to show up

628
00:41:17.920 --> 00:41:21.159
somewhere somehow. You either can admit that or you can

629
00:41:21.239 --> 00:41:26.360
just lie, but it's going to show up. So we

630
00:41:26.440 --> 00:41:28.320
talked about what happens when you're missing one of the

631
00:41:28.320 --> 00:41:30.639
psychological or safety needs. We've talked about what happens when

632
00:41:30.639 --> 00:41:33.159
you're missing one of the some of the love or

633
00:41:33.199 --> 00:41:36.599
belonging needs. We just talked about what happened when you're

634
00:41:36.599 --> 00:41:39.719
missing self esteem or esteem. Number four, What happens when

635
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:44.159
you're missing self actualization or meaning, you have no sense

636
00:41:44.199 --> 00:41:47.639
of purpose, maybe no sense of agency. You know what

637
00:41:47.719 --> 00:41:52.679
does this leads to? Leads to a feeling of deadness, restlessness,

638
00:41:53.159 --> 00:41:59.599
or boredom. You can lead to addictive behaviors, can lead

639
00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:02.159
to apple, can lead to what someone will refer to

640
00:42:02.199 --> 00:42:06.840
as a midlife crisis. It can lead to a quiet

641
00:42:06.920 --> 00:42:11.840
spiritual crisis, like does any of this even matter? What

642
00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:26.280
am I even doing? I'm wasting my time. I cannot

643
00:42:26.280 --> 00:42:32.800
stress this enough. There's going to be impact. Now Here's

644
00:42:32.840 --> 00:42:35.400
what you need to know. Scripture never denies that we

645
00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:38.800
are creatures of need. I would argue, it affirms it.

646
00:42:39.119 --> 00:42:44.639
We all grown Romans eight twenty three, We all grown, right?

647
00:42:46.239 --> 00:42:50.599
Are we long for a city that is to come?

648
00:42:50.719 --> 00:42:54.800
Hebrews thirteen, So Romans eight, we grown, We long for

649
00:42:54.840 --> 00:42:57.840
a city that is to come. We're always longing for something?

650
00:42:57.960 --> 00:43:01.480
Are we always longing and desire for something better? We

651
00:43:01.519 --> 00:43:05.320
always want something better, And maybe sometimes we're looking towards

652
00:43:05.360 --> 00:43:08.199
heaven as Christians, but we're always looking, We're always longing.

653
00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:13.760
The Bible acknowledges that we're still in exile. We're still

654
00:43:13.800 --> 00:43:17.519
pilgrims and strangers here that this is not our world,

655
00:43:17.519 --> 00:43:23.039
this is not our home. So I think the scripture

656
00:43:23.079 --> 00:43:27.440
affirms that we are creatures of need, that we're creatures

657
00:43:27.519 --> 00:43:29.719
who fill this same If you go through the Bible,

658
00:43:29.760 --> 00:43:33.360
you see people all the spiritual all the psalms of

659
00:43:33.480 --> 00:43:37.800
lament are people showing their need, their desire, and their

660
00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:41.559
lament is a spiritual cry that they're maslow of a

661
00:43:41.599 --> 00:43:45.360
hierarchy of needs is not being met. I think the

662
00:43:45.400 --> 00:43:49.159
Bible is filled with showing people with need and desire

663
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:56.000
and want, and they constantly struggle with that. So when

664
00:43:56.079 --> 00:43:59.079
Christians teach that you should feel satisfied even when one

665
00:43:59.159 --> 00:44:01.440
or more of these needs unmet, I think they're often

666
00:44:01.480 --> 00:44:05.960
ignoring basic human design. I think they are completely ignoring

667
00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:10.159
the psychological cost of deprivation. When you're when you when

668
00:44:10.199 --> 00:44:13.280
you're deprived of one of these things, there's a psychological cost.

669
00:44:13.719 --> 00:44:21.639
There's something going on there. And the philological reality is, Hey,

670
00:44:22.039 --> 00:44:24.679
we're not in a glorified state yet, we're not home yet,

671
00:44:24.719 --> 00:44:27.920
We're we're far away from home. We're in a broken,

672
00:44:28.079 --> 00:44:37.440
sinful world, and we're in a broken sinful body. So

673
00:44:37.519 --> 00:44:42.519
when a need goes unmet especially one as foundational as love,

674
00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:47.840
safety or meaning. Real satisfaction is elusive, it's not there,

675
00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:54.360
and that that dissatisfaction eventually leaks out into our emotional life,

676
00:44:54.679 --> 00:45:00.679
our relationships, and even our spiritual outlook. Now, this doesn't

677
00:45:00.719 --> 00:45:07.440
mean people shouldn't endure their unmet needs faithfully, because we're

678
00:45:07.440 --> 00:45:11.519
called to meet those unmet needs faithfully even though we're

679
00:45:11.599 --> 00:45:14.239
we know ultimately we're not going to because look, let's

680
00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:17.079
be honest, we're already sinners by nature. So if we

681
00:45:17.119 --> 00:45:20.599
have an unmet need, it's very unrealistic to say we're

682
00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:23.440
going to be faithful in that unmet need. The reality

683
00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:25.960
is we're going to send because even if we even

684
00:45:26.000 --> 00:45:30.320
if we endure the unmet need faithfully externally, we know

685
00:45:30.480 --> 00:45:34.480
we're not meeting that unmeatt need internally in a faithful way.

686
00:45:34.599 --> 00:45:38.360
We're griping, complaining, we're upset, and we're bitter, and we

687
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may we may be filled with lust and desire for

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the very thing that we don't have. So even if

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we don't do anything externally, we're already guilty before God.

690
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So I think the real we are called to try

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to be faithful in the unmettate needs. But we know

692
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we're not the only one who's ever faithful is Christ.

693
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But you, as a Christian, you should expect the ache.

694
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You should expect it, and we should not treat it

695
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as some psychologically abnormal thing. This is what happens. And

696
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I don't think we should condemn that need because those

697
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needs are built into us. There's Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

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That's the foundational point here. Now here's what happened. I

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took all of this Maslow's hierarchy of needs, how Christians

700
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talk about satisfaction, and me and artificial intelligence just started

701
00:46:39.480 --> 00:46:47.000
having a conversation that lasted about three hours. Now, this conversation,

702
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I feel what I'm gonna do is try to share

703
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this conversation because I feel like the conversation it unfolds naturally. Right,

704
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You'll just as I share the conversation, it's gonna unfold

705
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in a way where you hear someone with these questions

706
00:47:01.400 --> 00:47:03.039
in real time. You're going to see how I was

707
00:47:03.079 --> 00:47:06.159
wrestling with these questions in real time. With artificial intelligence,

708
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You're going to see us go back and forth on this.

709
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I think it's going to model being honest with it.

710
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It's the kind of conversation we need to have with

711
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one another. I think you're going to see that it

712
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models honesty at models exploration, and models exploring it. Rather

713
00:47:27.800 --> 00:47:31.199
than starting I didn't start with a rigid thesis. I

714
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started with just struggling and exploring this. I think it

715
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will allow you the listener, to follow the progression of

716
00:47:38.679 --> 00:47:40.920
thought instead of being told what to believe. Instead of

717
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just saying, hey, here's what you should believe, I want

718
00:47:43.480 --> 00:47:46.119
you to just walk through it with me. And I

719
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think the conversation is a balance between psychology, theology, scripture,

720
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and personal reflection. I think it brings it all together.

721
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There's a psychology, there's theology, there's scripture. You're going to

722
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hear my own personal reflection, just like you heard right

723
00:47:59.639 --> 00:48:01.719
there just in the opening. I know this is like

724
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a forty eight minute introduction to all of this. Well

725
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this is the introductory episode. I think what you heard

726
00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:09.519
right there is just me acknowledging my I can look

727
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at massholds hierarchy of needs, think about my own Christian life,

728
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and go I can see when some of those needs

729
00:48:15.400 --> 00:48:18.360
weren't being met and exactly what happened. Now that doesn't

730
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I'm not excusing what I did. I'm acknowledging what I did,

731
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but it's sometimes good to understand the deeper reason behind it,

732
00:48:25.519 --> 00:48:27.800
other than just I have a sinful nature. Clearly, the

733
00:48:27.840 --> 00:48:31.280
sinful nature is the ultimate cause. But the unmet you take,

734
00:48:32.559 --> 00:48:36.519
you take unmet needs, mix it with sinful nature. I

735
00:48:36.559 --> 00:48:42.480
think you know where it's going. So what you're going

736
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to learn or hear over I don't know how many

737
00:48:44.880 --> 00:48:47.599
episodes you're gonna hear a conversation I had about the

738
00:48:47.639 --> 00:48:56.199
idea of spiritual satisfaction, that's what you're going to hear now.

739
00:48:56.239 --> 00:49:00.159
I wanted to keep going, but if we're right at

740
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fifty minutes or well forty nine minutes, so if I

741
00:49:03.320 --> 00:49:05.639
keep going, then it's going to turn into a mess.

742
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So we'll stop right there. I want you to consider

743
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Really, I want you to write

744
00:49:12.280 --> 00:49:15.519
get you can look at up online. Just understand Maslow's

745
00:49:15.599 --> 00:49:18.440
hierarchy of needs. Outline what those needs are, put them

746
00:49:18.440 --> 00:49:22.559
on the refrigerator, right, put them on the refrigerator, and

747
00:49:22.679 --> 00:49:24.960
just every day look at it and just ask yourself,

748
00:49:25.239 --> 00:49:27.880
which of those needs are not being met in your life?

749
00:49:28.519 --> 00:49:32.559
And how is that manifesting in your life? Next time

750
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you have a fight, or you're arguing, or you're unhappy,

751
00:49:35.360 --> 00:49:38.719
are you're mad or you're frustrated, just stop which need

752
00:49:38.800 --> 00:49:51.320
is not being mad? There's something deeper now you can

753
00:49:51.360 --> 00:49:54.880
approach it. Just stop just because your need's not met,

754
00:49:54.920 --> 00:49:58.000
that's no excuse. Just stop sinning, be good, and just

755
00:49:58.559 --> 00:50:00.639
die to yourself. You can go oh with that kind

756
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of very law based approach. I don't think you're gonna

757
00:50:02.840 --> 00:50:07.920
get anywhere. I don't think you're gonna get anywhere because

758
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you can tell yourself all day be good, be good,

759
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be good. But those those unmet needs, now you're internal.

760
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Now it's dealing with your emotions, your mind. You man,

761
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you can, you can. You can condemn it all day

762
00:50:19.519 --> 00:50:23.079
long and tell it to stop stop acting bad and

763
00:50:23.119 --> 00:50:34.760
be good. You're not gonna get anywhere, all right, we

764
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didn't get any We didn't get See now, my you

765
00:50:37.360 --> 00:50:43.880
know what my unmat need's gonna be here. I'm not

766
00:50:43.920 --> 00:50:47.559
gonna feel any satisfaction because I don't feel like I

767
00:50:47.599 --> 00:50:50.039
did a good job here. So now that am I esteem?

768
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My esteem? So I can start breaking this all down. Right, See,

769
00:50:53.280 --> 00:50:56.159
I feel like I, oh, I didn't do I didn't

770
00:50:56.199 --> 00:50:58.880
do well enough I didn't do it was not a

771
00:50:58.880 --> 00:51:02.280
good episode. Oh man, all right, do I need to

772
00:51:02.280 --> 00:51:09.079
do the other episode immediately? Oh wait a minute. So yeah, Well,

773
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I'm not going to sit there and get into all

774
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of it. I'm trying to give you the idea of

775
00:51:12.679 --> 00:51:15.199
how you can work on all of that for yourself.

776
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All Right, we'll get into this. We're going to have

777
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a I think when we dig into this, I think

778
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it's going to be a good thing. I think it's

779
00:51:22.719 --> 00:51:25.239
going to be a good thing. All right, thanks for listening.

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Maslow's hierarchy of needs, what happens when those needs are

781
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not met? How does that impact you emotionally, physically, mentally,

782
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and spiritually? Godless