Jen discussed the challenges of communicating with loved ones struggling with substance abuse. She emphasized the importance of recognizing the shift in perspective from parent to peer, active listening, and setting clear boundaries. Jen also highlighted the need to avoid interrogating questions and maintain a normal and enjoyable tone, while avoiding conversations that may trigger shame and transitioning them into more positive interactions.
Action Items
Reflect on whether you are still in a "parenting role" and make adjustments to communicate as an equal
Avoid repetitive conversations about what your loved one should be doing better and instead ask about what they enjoy
Keep conversations short before they turn negative and end on a positive note
Shift conversations away from interrogating questions about your loved ones actions/choices and instead ask open-ended questions about interests
Recognize conversations may unintentionally "hit shame buttons" and work to understand how your loved one perceives what is said
