Episodes

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast ! Episode 18, "Stop Saving Them from Losing: Reframing Failure and Anxiety in Youth Sports," was born out of a quiet moment on a back deck in Connecticut while watching my son’s 13U travel baseball team navigate the rare sting of defeat . After 21 years of coaching high school wrestling, I’ve realized how easy it is to forget that failing early is the secret sauce to performing when the stakes are highest <!----><!----><!----><!----><!----><!----><!----><!...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In Episode 17, "The Most Important Words," host Mike Brilla breaks down what happens in a young athlete's head right after a high-stakes failure—and why our go-to parental instincts might actually be falling on deaf ears . When an athlete makes a game-ending error or falls short in a major tournament, standard platitudes like "you did your best" get blocked by the brain's critical gatekeeper . Instead of relying on soft phrases or toxic positivity, this e...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, we are tackling one of the heaviest burdens our teenage athletes carry: the crushing weight of trying to please everyone around them . Drawing on a powerful (and surprisingly liberating) quote from Marcus Aurelius—"soon you will have forgotten everything, soon everything will have forgotten you"—we dive into how we can help our kids drop the heavy backpack of other people's expectations . I talk about the danger of "time traveling" in per...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, we're diving deep into the love-hate relationship many of us—especially coaches, teachers, and athletes—have with the summer off-season . Without the daily grind and rigid structure of the school year schedule, it's incredibly easy to fall into the trap of procrastination and what Jocko Willink calls "mission creep" . I get transparent about my own struggles with staying disciplined when the motivation just isn't there, and how drawing on...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, we tackle that quiet, "now what?" feeling that hits when a competitive season ends or the school year wraps up, and the circus leaves town . It's incredibly easy for athletes and performers to fall into the trap of wrapping their identity in what they do rather than who they are . Drawing timeless wisdom from Olympic gold medalist Tenley Albright, Stoic philosopher Epictetus, big-wave surfer Laird Hamilton, and author Austin Kleon, we dis...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, we’re digging into a truth I’ve learned over 20 years of coaching wrestling: the greatest athletes aren't just in love with winning; they are in love with the daily act of getting better . We explore why legendary researcher Jim Collins argues we should "focus on the fire" of the work itself, using the incredible story of Olympic gold medalist Tenley Albright, who dedicated less than 2% of her biography to her medal because she was so foc...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In today’s episode, we are diving deep into the concept of "productive struggle" and why that feeling of frustration isn't a sign that you're failing, but proof that you’re on the right path . We often fall into the trap of thinking our "encodings"—what we’re meant to do—should be easy, but the reality is that true growth requires us to work through things that challenge us . I share stories ranging from the legendary wrestling culture in Nazareth, PA, to...

Podcast Summary Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the "paradox of habits" and exploring when a healthy routine turns into a rigid attachment. Drawing on the wisdom of James Clear and the teachings of Buddhism, I’m getting real about my own struggles with "tracker obsession" and the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect . We discuss why true greatness requires a flexible identity rather than a fragile one, featuring insights from coaching legend ...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, we are diving deep into what it truly takes to sustain greatness when adversity strikes, stripping away the talent and leaving behind the pure grit required to overcome major setbacks. Inspired by a powerful message from the legendary Inky Johnson, I break down why one bad chapter doesn't define your entire book and how your brain's natural self-defense mechanism might actually be self-sabotaging your progress. Pulling insights from James...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! Today, I’m getting real about my own fitness journey—from the frustrating yo-yo dieting days to chasing heavy lifting goals at 44 years old. We’re diving deep into the power of focus and why Epictetus was right when he said you become what you set your mind to. I’ll break down how your brain’s Reticular Activating System acts like a "proof-seeking machine" that often defaults to keeping you safe and stuck in yesterday’s habits. But don't worry, I’m giving...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, I’m diving deep into the "sacred" space of the car ride home and why we need to stop letting "monsters" of future anxiety take up a seat in our vehicles . As sports parents, it’s so easy to slip into coaching mode or let our own frustrations leak out after a tough loss, but our athletes’ brains are wired for survival and often see those critiques as a reason to quit . Drawing on wisdom from Paulo Coelho and Marcus Aurelius, I discuss how ...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In today's episode, we’re tackling the "biggest misconception" in sports: the idea that confidence comes from winning. I open up about the "hardest part" of being a coach and parent—watching an athlete struggle when you know they have the talent, but something in their head is "blocking them". We dive into 2,000-year-old Stoic wisdom, specifically the "dichotomy of control," to explain why anchoring your self-belief to results like victories or rankings m...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In today’s episode, we’re breaking down why some athletes are absolute "gamers" while others struggle to bring their practice-room energy to the big stage. Drawing on Stoic wisdom and the fascinating concept of the "Quiet Eye," we explore the idea that we don’t actually rise to the level of our competition—we fail to the level of our preparation. I’m sharing stories from my coaching days about athletes who thrived under pressure and discussing how mental ...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! In this episode, I share how a late-night TikTok scroll led me to the band Tucked In, who quickly became the soundtrack for my son and me while he navigated a long, difficult recovery from a freak baseball injury . Beyond just the music, the kindness and personal interest the band members showed my son really hit home for me as a dad . We’re diving into the concept of being a "time traveler"—the way athletes constantly replay missed shots and past failure...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete Podcast! In this episode, I reflect on a powerful moment during the NCAA Division I Wrestling Championships and a message from Ed Mylett in a conversation with Jay Shetty that completely reframed a tough setback for one of my wrestlers. After falling short of his goal of becoming an All-American—even while several guys he had beaten ended up on the podium—we talk about the critical choice athletes face after disappointment: adopting limiting beliefs or choosing a ...

Welcome to The Inspired Athlete Podcast! In this episode, we dig into a powerful idea about performance: while thoughts matter, they don’t get the final say—identity does. Drawing on an insight from Mike Travisano’s Refuge in Small Things, we explore the loop between belief, thoughts, emotions, actions, and results, and how the story we carry about who we are shapes everything that follows. I share some reflections from a weekend coaching at the state tournament—van rides, lobby checkers, and ho...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete Podcast! This episode is a reflection on one unforgettable weekend filled with highs, heartbreaks, growth, and powerful reminders about what sport is really teaching us. From watching my son compete at his state tournament, to coaching athletes chasing championships and state qualifications, to supporting a college wrestler fighting for one last shot at nationals, I was reminded that competition is never about guarantees — it’s about the what if. We talk about suc...

Welcome to the Inspired Athlete podcast! Today we’re diving into a powerful truth that can completely change the way you compete: your thoughts and feelings are real—but they don’t get the final say in your performance. Identity does. We’ve all been told to “just think positive,” but what happens when nerves show up anyway? What do you do when doubt creeps in before a big match or game? In this episode, we’re talking about why you’re not responsible for the first thought that pops into your head...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher podcast! In this episode, Just Stop Worrying, I lean on the timeless wisdom of Marcus Aurelius in Meditations to remind us of something we all need to hear—far more of our mental energy is spent on things that are completely outside our control. Whether it’s the opinions of others, the outcomes we can’t predict, or the “what ifs” that keep looping in our minds, worry quietly steals our focus and presence. This episode is a simple but powerful invitation to pause, ...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher podcast! In this very personal episode, I look back on nearly four years and 273 episodes of hitting “record,” sharing ideas, and growing alongside educators across the U.S. and Canada. I talk about why I started the show back in 2022, what I’m most proud of, and why I’m now making a big pivot out of the education podcast space. This isn’t goodbye to teaching—it’s an expansion into mental performance work with wrestlers, athletes, and their parents. Drawing on my ...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher podcast! It’s been a while, and in this episode, I talk about why I’m back behind the mic and how this podcast still fits into my life right now. I share my love for that quiet stretch between Christmas and New Year’s—a rare bit of downtime to slow down, read, and reflect—and how a short piece called "Float" from Mike Travisano’s Refuge and Small Things really hit home as I was preparing to head back to school. January can feel heavy for a lot of educators and stu...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher Podcast! In today’s episode, I’m talking about something I think we all wrestle with—our tendency to chase comfort and try to avoid anything that feels tough or unpredictable. The truth is, life’s never going to be smooth sailing, and as Marcus Aurelius reminds us, what stands in the way can actually become the way. As teachers, we see this every day in those lessons that go sideways or those students who surprise us in the best possible ways. So let’s dive into w...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher Podcast! This week, I’m coming to you from Cary, North Carolina, just a few days before the school year kicks off. I’m here with my two sons for a big baseball tournament—one competing on the field, the other supporting from the stands while still rehabbing an injury from months back. Watching one play and the other choose to show up for his brother—even though it wasn’t easy—filled me with pride in ways I can’t fully describe. Later that weekend, a conversation w...

Welcome to the Inspired Teacher podcast! In today’s episode, I talk about starting restorative practices at our school and the powerful reminder that it’s not the big, flashy events that build relationships—it’s the small, intentional moments we share with our students, our colleagues, and even ourselves. I connect this to the Stoic wisdom of Zeno, who taught that well-being is built little by little, and how that truth applies as I begin a new school year. From recovery and mobility, to better ...