Se amable contigo

0:00 Why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know happiness demands self- pity. We have insisted in several episodes on the need to have a good relationship with oneself. That' s the basis of the other relationships. Those who do not have a good relationship with themselves cannot have a good relationship with any other person because they are very sca. Today I want to insist on a key word for self- relationship, self- pity.

1:11 Yes, if we have insisted on the need for compassion in all dimensions of life. Today I want to make it clear that the first consequence, the first effect, has to be on personal relationships. You have to deal with yourself with compassion. That' s what it means in everyday life. It means five things. The first be kind to yourself. This means avoiding these excessive self- criticisms. That means avoiding treating you badly, telling you words that offend you, telling you words that destroy you. It' s important that you treat yourself honestly, but with kindness, with love. You ' re not a person who fails systematically, you' re not a worthless human being. Avoid those words that are dynamite that destroy your heart. Avoid those recurring negative thoughts that somehow undermine your self- esteem and make you always

2:46 in a wrong attitude in your relationship with others and lead you to emotional dependence. Second, forgive your mistakes, let' s be clear, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, they are part of life' s learning and what we need is to learn the lessons that those mistakes, that those mistakes propose to us, you don' t have to fill yourself with guilt and let guilt become an unbearable burden, that doesn' t allow you to straighten out, that doesn' t allow you to see the horizon forgive yourself give thanks for your mistakes, for your mistakes, and specify what life lessons are left there. Don' t live with a grudge for you don ' t have those fixed memories of mistakes you' ve made, of muddy mistakes you' ve made, no, no, don' t let anyone be constantly stressing your mistakes, making you feel bad and undermining your self- image. Please experience forgiveness processes to move on, so that you can trust and believe third- party surround yourself with positive people. Choose to spend time

4:28 with people who fulfill three fundamental actions in your life, who support you, who encourage you and who love you, you are compassionate, with yourself when you establish meaningful relationships with people who encourage you, who make you believe, who are able, who are there when you need help and who put their shoulder in, when you feel that everything is going to fail and who, above all, love you, that is, people who make you feel good, with yourself you are self compassionate when you are able to establish healthy limits with others. You can' t let others deliberately hurt you. If you know that person is harmful, that person is destructive, that person always has words that offend you, words that destroy you inwardly. You have to put limits, healthy limits, you have to be able to look her or look her in the eye and say no. Not those requests that burden you, not those proposals that go against your values, not those words and actions that hurt you and destroy you in n o sns. Don' t be afraid

6:02 to set healthy limits. You' re not obliged to please everyone. You can' t feel guilty about a person turning away from you because I wanted to abuse you and you don' t allow it. Nor can you let someone harm you simply by being afraid of a conflict, a break- up being self- compassionate also means celebrating achievements. We were made to believe that humility was almost considered useless, that humility was almost to say that we have no way to overcome, how to get ahead. Many people stand before others without recognizing their qualities, their strengths, their achievements, because they are afraid that they will create pride. Self- compassionate means celebrating the successes that have been achieved, recognizing them with tranquility, serenity and celebrating them, sharing them with others, announcing them without fear. It doesn' t matter that these achievements are small, it doesn' t matter that those achievements do not have the dimensions that others give to their achievements. You' ve made it,

7:34 you' ve made it, and that makes you a healthy person. As I recognize it, I insist on it. Be compassionate to you. You can' t be happy if you' re not compassionate to you. That means being nice to yourself. That means forgiving you for the wrong mistakes. That means surrounding yourself with positive people, setting healthy boundaries, and celebrating your achievements in the spiritual dimension. It helps a lot to shut up and give thanks for what one is to shut up and thank them for the history that has been lived. It will be before God, It will be before you sublime, before whom you consider fundamental and recognize that you feel valuable, that you feel kind, that is, that you deserve to be loved and that you have dreams to succeed. Be compassionate to you. Don' t be afraid to recognize that you' re worth a lot as a woman, as a man. Don' t be afraid to recognize that there are so many things you' ve accomplished in your life please love and give thanks for you.

9:03 That' ll help you live on your feet. Thank you for listening to me, thank you for sharing this moment with me, thank you for opening your heart and letting these words touch you, you, motivate you, encourage you to reflect. We' re on our Spotify channel, our Apple channel, Amazon visa. Thank you for listening to me and writing down these keys to your daily life. Cheer up, you know.