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0:00 Or why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love. I am and that is already the basis for going out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and to enjoy life fully. You know in interpersonal relationships it is necessary to establish healthy limits. We all need to understand how far we can go. Definitely, when there are no healthy limits, we end up respecting, we end up invading people' s privacy. What I understand by healthy boundaries. They are those guidelines that we define to protect our well- being. It is these guidelines that help us communicate our needs, our desires and our preferences, and of course we do so in an assertive way, in a clear way, respecting ourselves and respecting others. Without healthy limits, relationships tend to become a source of respect,

1:38 suffering, and harm to others. Why healthy boundaries are important. I ' d like to ask you three benefits of establishing those lines. First, they improve emotional and mental well- being, because when you set those limits, you reduce stress, anxiety, and resentment. I mean, you feel empowered by yourself and in control of your life, because you' re able to tell each other. You can' t invade, you can' t generate a pressure that I don' t want. You can' t try to force me to do what I don' t want to do then.

2:23 The first benefit is that improvement, emotional and mental well- being. The second benefit strengthens the relationships between clearer are the limits, more confidence, more mutual respect in relationships, said a father, friend clear accounts, friends forever and I believe that. To the extent that you know how far you can go, to the extent that you know how you can behave you will surely generate greater confidence in your course and the other person' s response. The third benefit is that they help us achieve our goals, because we are protecting our time, we are protecting our resources and that way we focus on what is really important and brings us closer to our goals, preventing any attempt at manipulation or abuse. When we set limits, we are identifying and avoiding those situations that harm us, those situations that put us at risk. Now there is one more question and how these healthy limits are set. I propose four keys for you to try to build those boundaries. The first thing really identifies

3:54 what bothers you, what you need to feel respected, respected and you can specify them through a limit. The first thing is to identify what really bothers you, what really puts you at risk. By being clear that you identify a limit, you write it the precise. The second key must be clearly communicated. Hey, you can' t expect the other guy to know what your limit is. If you haven' t told him, if you haven ' t looked him in the eye and told him, this bothers me, this puts me at risk, this I don' t want to live. Then you have to explain them, you have to expose them with total clarity, you have to say hear. I feel uncomfortable when you do this.

4:46 Please don' t manifest yourself this way, because this makes me feel this and it' s party. Do not blame the other, do not criticize others manifest their situation tell what really happens to you third method or third way or third key to build those limits. Be firm and steady. It' s important that you keep your limits. Watch out that they' re not so flexible, don' t move constantly, because then the other person doesn ' t know what to stick to. Sometimes what happens to us is that we change the boundaries so much that other people enter a region of mistrust.

5:27 They don' t really know what to say, they don' t really know how to act. Then please be a firm person, even with those people who are trying to push you to change your limit. Don' t be afraid to say I don' t need time to think about it. I disagree. I don' t like your behavior. That' s fundamental. Now it is also necessary for you to respect the limits of others that you are someone who gives what he wants, to give him that he is responsible to others. If you respect the limits of others, you have the right to set your eye for it, listen carefully to their needs and respect their space. And the last key is that you take care of yourself physically and emotionally in order to establish and maintain your limits. To do this, do experiences of relaxation, breathing, experiences that help you to learn and be more calm and to be surrounded by people who love you, people who value you, people who are willing to help you and give it better. I insist on establishing healthy limits. It' s not being selfish, because that ' s another one of the reviews they' re gonna make you hey.

6:51 That' s selfishness. No, it' s not an act of self - love, because you have to take care of your well- being, you have to give your peace, you have to take care of your life, your dignity. Now don' t be afraid to change your mind, you can do it, to reset the limits as needed and according to the experience you' re living, you do it clearly, intelligently, firmly. Now, if you have trouble reestablishing or maintaining healthy boundaries, I think you should seek help, because you may be having that which we call emotional dependence. Many people for low self- esteem do not want to set limits because they are afraid to lose these people. They are afraid that this person will abandon them, or are afraid to enter into a collision of interests and then allow them to step on them, allow them to carry them down, allow everything as long as this person does not leave life. It' s essential that you have a clarity about what' s hurting you, what' s putting you at risk, and you know how to communicate and you know how to say it. I think it' s the rules of the game.

8:05 I believe that in relationships they must be very clear in all relationships. I particularly tell you I don' t like hand- playing. For example, on the Caribbean coast, where I come from, it is very normal for there to be a hand. No. I don' t, I don ' t give those games, I don' t get it two. I don' t like the aesthetic opinions of others. I don' t give them and I' d rather they don' t give them to me. When someone tells me Alberto, you' re fat, you' re skinny, you' re pretty, you' re ugly, I always look at him, and if he insists, I' m going to be clear about telling him I' m not interested and I don' t let you, I mean, you' re not the one to make those comments to me.

8:45 Limits have to be set. For example, I don' t deal with my dignity, I don' t allow anyone to play with my dignity and sometimes I' m assertive. There are people who say, but Alberto, don' t exaggerate. No, it' s not that I' m exaggerating, it' s just that for me that' s a limit that no one can exceed. To the extent that those limits are clear, one may be happier. My spiritual experience has helped me to set those limits. My spiritual experience has helped me to know how much I am worth, to know who I am and to be clear about my purpose for life. So, therefore, I' m not willing to negotiate that. I' m not willing to get into it, it' s worth it or not.

9:28 No. There I am firm and I have an unnegotiable. I' m telling you clearly. Set your limits and make them healthy limits. Hey, thanks for being there. I hope you will share with us the texts we have been writing. The man is alive and is with you which is a text that I recommend to you. We are in Say, we are in Apple, we are in Amazon, we are in Spotify and also in Google Play and on all platforms. You know Boom Bux.