Saber decidir

0:00 Box why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know, you have to know why. That' s where life' s at stake. That' s where we' re happy or unhappy. It is in decisions that we make sense of existence. For many years I have been investigating the subject of first as a consequence of freedom, but above all seeing the power that a yes or no has, the power that has to go this way or that one before the continuous forks that arise in life. Today I want to talk about a very important process in making decisions, and it

1:30 is discerning. Discernment is fundamental in decision- making, please do not decide without making a good discernment process. For me, the word discerning makes me think immediately of the tsaranda, where it filters, the soft, the thin and stays the gross is to know, to filter the reality, to know what it brings me, what it takes away from me, what drives me, what stops me, to know, to find what makes me good or what definitely does not allow me to move forward. Discernment is fundamental to this, and from the readings I want to offer you six fundamental criteria in this process of thinking, of internalizing, of trying, of understanding life, and then of being able to decide. The first criterion, no doubt, is the clarity one should have in one’ s own life. You must know where you are going, what your purpose is, what you want, what you are really looking for, what you are not looking for, that clarity,

3:07 any decision is valid without really knowing what I want, because you can fall into the trap of choosing in any way. So today I would like to invite you to be able to specify before you say what you are looking for, what you want to get, what you want to live with clarity. It is essential to have a clear understanding of the decision being made. This involves defining the problem, the situation you want to solve, identifying the different options available and understanding the implications of each of them. That is the first criterion for such clarity. There is a second criterion and, obviously, it is to be informed, that is, to gather as much information as possible, the relevant, the reliable one to be able to understand each of the options offered. You cannot make a decision without information, without having the clarity of what causal relations are like in that reality. This requires research, listening, asking experts, people who have gone through these experiences, or simply learning through reading. Without clarity and information, the decisions you make are improvised

4:47 and random. The third criterion, no doubt, has to do with values and emotions, that is, how far you are willing to go, what you care most about in your life what motivates you, because values set those limits and you have to have them clear what you are looking for. But values are not enough, but there, together with emotions, you feel excited, you feel anxious, you feel at peace. What makes you feel each of the different options that you have in front of you. That' s fundamental, that' s necessary, but things don' t work, but we' re not going to do well and we' re going to end up in problems that we could have solved, in problems that we could have anticipated. The fourth criterion certainly has to do with the social dimension. One has to consider how the decision we are making, how the decision you make affects people around the family, friends, co- workers, the world in general. How my decision affects them, how my decision strikes them or not.

6:16 That is fundamental, that is necessary and I invite you to review it, because sometimes we enter into a selfishness that makes us think only of ourselves and not the others are part of life. The fifth criterion, no doubt, is spiritual experience, and I think you have one to meditate, you have one to pray, you have one to transcend to the immediate, to the urgent, to the material, You have one to live from above, from that higher dimension life. I, who am a believer, am always in an experience of worship to ask God for clarity of what I am seeking and what I am doing so that those decisions are somehow visualized. Not because of life, but from the higher dimension. And the sixth criterion has to do with intuition. That thing my mother calls hunches. I believe that intuition is a way of knowing, different from rational knowledge, different from the metopological knowledge in which we have lived, but fundamental to existence, because it is to grasp the sense of a single blow. And that helps us and that really gives us clarity to move forward. I don' t know what decision

7:50 you' re going to make. I don' t know what fork you ' re in. But check these criteria carefully, pausely, and find out how you can use them in your particular decision. Don' t despair, don' t be anxious, don' t improvise and be sure that you can always get ahead. Have confidence in you have confidence in what you know and what you can. I want to remind you that there is not a single set of criteria of discernment that works for everyone. But I' m putting this to you because you can adapt them to your personal situation and I hope you' ll help her make a decision. It creates peace, creates serenity and helps you grow and helps you move forward. I truly welcome the sharing with you of these criteria of discernment. I wish we were formed more at this important stage of life. Many, because they are reactive, end up in bigger problems or end up repentant, full of guilt, full of mistakes that we could have avoided with a good process of discernment. Thank you for being there and thank you for sharing this episode with me. We'

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