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0:00 Bombax, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always the love soy and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and to enjoy life fully. You know the keys to being happy in partner life. How to communicate effectively with my partner. I have a long time without genitality with my husband, how I manage to put up with my mother- in- law who is involved, how I solve the conflicts that grow and grow in my partner.

1:07 These are some of the questions you ask me through the messages I receive in my email. Many people feel that their life as a couple. It ' s not what they dreamed, it' s not what they were looking for. Many feel the need to separate, but they do not find the strength to do so and also have some dependencies that do not allow them to do so. That' s why I want to talk about life as a couple today. I always emphasize that for twenty- five years I accompanied couples from the spiritual experience. They are not later I celebrated with them the sacrament of marriage, but I was in crisis, in reconciliations, I was sharing, through the encounter of boyfriends or, through the marriage or family pastoral encounter, experiences of life as a couple and now I live for five years a couple relationship. In addition to everything I' ve read and everything I' ve written about it, look how clear every couple relationship is unique, it ' s unrepeatable, because human beings are the only and unrepeatable. So every

2:42 couple relationship is built from that oneness. Couples don' t look like each other. I also have to say that there is no perfect couple. All couples have difficulties, have problems, fight is normal. That' s why I can' t come up with magic formulas. I cannot tell you to do this, this and this and you will certainly be happy, because somehow relationships have their own challenges, their own joys, their own obstacles and even their own methods of conflict resolution. What I can do and I do it honestly, firmly, is to share with you some elements some reflections that can help make the relationship work. Today I want to raise five. The first element of mutual respect. There' s no relationship that works if there' s no mutual respect. This is to treat the couple with kindness, with consideration, even in the most difficult moments, even in the most complex moments.

4:15 The first thing is that. Respect is expressed in kindness and expressed in consideration. There, too, the opinions, feelings and needs of the couple must be valued. Without that openness, the relationship doesn' t work. Mutual respect also means avoiding criticism, insults, mockery that sometimes becomes everyday. There are couples who only live to criticize each other, to insult each other and to mock each other. Mutual respect means taking responsibility for one' s own acts, for one' s own words, being consistent and mutual respect means living in a continuous process of forgiveness, because there are always wounds even with silence. Then first element respected a mutual. The second trust and loyalty hears. There must be sincerity and honesty in the relationship. If you check, one of the biggest causes statistically and of separation is lack of sincerity and lack of honesty. Which translates into infidelity, betrayal. Then be honest, be honest. That means keeping promises and commitments. That requires avoiding flirting with

5:54 other people or having sex outside the couple in a hidden way and cheating on that person who is with you. You also have to know how to respect privacy. I don' t think you have to be digging into the couple ' s things, because sure, you end up finding what you don' t want and you end up suffering and you end up suffering. Eye trust and loyalty means supporting that couple in their personal pursuit, in their dreams, in their meths. Third element, acceptance and tolerance. No one is like you want me to be. I know that when they were in love she or he seemed perfect ideals, those prescribed by medicine. For you and not humans we have mistakes, we have tendencies, and that is why it is essential to accept the person, as he is with defects, with virtues, with limitations, with potentialities. Don' t try to change your partner.

7:06 I think it' s better to change the relationship, but you can' t change the couple. One cannot get the couple to act in a different way than it is. And here we have to be tolerant. Sometimes you have to make silences, sometimes you have to take distance, sometimes you have to endure. But please be tolerant. And tolerance is to celebrate the individuality of that person, it is to help him grow personally and that integrally. Please, the third element is acceptance and tolerance. The room to share together.

7:48 Quality time must be devoted to partner life and it must be done on a regular basis. It is necessary to know, to plan activities that both enjoy, to concentrate on the couple when they are together, not to have the cell phone in hand while talking to her, not to be aware of the computer or the series while sharing a moment, no, no, no, the tension is for her or for him, knowing to have an independent life, also that is combined in those moments of sharing. You have to enjoy each other' s company by creating new and better memories together, because those are the ones that will strengthen the relationship. Make it clear whether the first is respect or mutual, the second is trust and loyalty, the third is acceptance and tolerance, the fourth is sharing time together and the fifth is essential to resolve conflicts in a constructive manner. It' s normal for me to fight a couple, not fight a couple, not love each other.

8:54 It' s normal for you to get angry sometimes, but you have to be able to express that anger in a healthy, respectful way. The other must be actively listened to. We need to find solutions that work for both of them. Here we must apply the Ganagana, the win Wien and, above all, we must know how to give in, we must know how to make commitments and fight to make them. Without good conflict resolution, the relationship doesn' t work. He ends up drowning or ends up generating the worst moments. Hey check out these five elements, which are attitudes, which are tasks. Evaluate how these attitudes are, these elements in your partner life and try to put very concrete tasks into your life. Thank you for being there and thank you for sharing with me this moment, this episode, and nothing I will continue to share with you through the messages, through the networks, through all the spaces in which it is missing. My email is p Alberto José Arroba hockemail you know