Enfrentar los miedos

0:00 Bomb. Why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always the love soy and that is already the basis to go out, to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and to enjoy life fully. You know nothing anchors us more than fear. When we do not know how to regulate this emotion, we end up losing control of life, we end up reacting destructively to the stimuli we experience. Fear can cause us to distort reality, can lead to violent reactions, or it can paralyze us by preventing us from making the decisions and doing the right and necessary actions that we are asked to do. That is why today I would like to talk to you about how to face your own fears. I want to leave reminding

1:34 you that fear is a healthy emotion. We are afraid of those who are moderately healthy, because it is an emotion that allows us to adapt to the reality in which we are. Fear allows us to find in the face of the threat, in the face of danger, a way of acting prepares our being to act sometimes will lead us to defend ourselves, sometimes to run and put ourselves in a safe place. So, don' t feel bad about being afraid at times. The problem is that we do not know how to control, manage and express fear. There is the situation, when it definitely leads us to distort reality, to lose the rudder of our existence and throws us into negative experiences. That' s why I think facing our fears is a challenge, but at the same time, one of the most rewarding experiences

3:07 we have in daily existence. When you react intelligently to your fear, you grow personally, grow in confidence, self- esteem and safety, you are better prepared to face the difficulties and problems that we live daily. When I read different authors, when I hear different lectures about the experience of facing our fears, I find five keys that I would like to share with you.

3:50 The first is to identify and accept our opium fear. You can' t handle an emotion well if you don' t name it, if you don ' t know what it is. I assure you that many people react in such an aggressive way in such a dangerous way because they are feeling fear and yet they do not identify that emotion that stirs them that way. This is the first thing. It is to identify, to put the right name to emotion, in this case, to say yes I am afraid, and there identification is accompanied by acceptance. I understand that we were made to believe that Superman was never afraid, that Batman was never afraid, that Wonder woman was never afraid. And then it is hard for us to accept that we are agitated by that emotion, that we are afraid and that it is a real emotion, valid, that we cannot repress it, that we cannot deny it

5:24 and that one way to begin to act properly in front of it is to accept it. So, the first key is that identifies and accepts your fears two. It is necessary to try to understand, to understand that emotion. I remember when I was a kid and I had episodes of fear, my grandmother, who used it with her popular wisdom, told me Alberto tries to rationalize that, tries to ask you what you' re afraid of. Try to understand if that fear is rational. So, if it was a noise that was managing me, the one that was causing me that reaction, she would say well, investigate what noise is and try to understand what noise produces, because suddenly, by understanding and understanding the situation, emotion goes away or you can express it well. So it' s valuable that we ask ourselves where they come from, where those fears come from, sometimes they' re learned fears. Our parenting process is complex. We have parents tutors, models

6:59 of life that are not perfect, obviously, and that could help us learn irrational fears. Other times they have to do with our self- esteem, they have to do with how we deal with existence. Hey, ask yourself what it says about yourself, that emotion, that fear. In particular, I am convinced that when you challenge your fears, when you understand your fears, you are able to overcome them, you are able to succeed. The third key is, please, understand whether your thoughts, which are normally the ones that cause emotions, are rational or not. Sometimes our fears are caused by negative thoughts, irrational thoughts. Then you have to question your thinking.

8:07 You have to question that inner voice that' s telling you this or that. You have to try to get through the reality strainer. Those thoughts you have many times are wrong. Hey, one more key. Please, get some backup. You don' t have to face your fears alone. There are only many people who can help you, friends, family, therapists, support groups and then, from patience, from love. You ask for help, you ask for help, because sometimes what you can' t solve just with the synergy that occurs in the bond you have you get an extra skull.

9:01 Spiritual experience helps me a lot. You know that my spiritual experience comes from Catholicism. Then, for me to feel like a creature of God, to know myself loved by God, to know me carefully by God, gives me peace, gives me patience, gives me confidence, to face my fears. I know that he is with me, I know that he loves me and then the prayer processes, the meditation processes help me a lot to achieve it. I hope, you check, each of these keys is part of the baggage that I have in my heart and mind, fruit of what I read, fruit of what I study, fruit of what I convert with so many specialists in the subjects. Thank you for being there and thank you for sharing this episode with me. Don' t forget to share it with other friends that you know will help them. If you don' t forget the rational, the man' s up. You know,