El futuro no se adivina

0:00 Bomba, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know, I run into a person who tells me he wants to guess my future. She tells me kindly, you let me tell you what' s going to happen in your life. I affectionately, with appreciation, say no, that I am not interested, that I am not interested in those predictive interpretations, that I believe in the value of uncertainty. I thank you, and I' m on my way. As I walk a friend I was going with asks me Alberto and why and I tell him that I am not able to believe that my future is already programmed or already determined. That

1:36 would imply that I am not a free human being. That means that there is no free will, that is, that I am not really the owner of my existence, but that I am an actor who is performing a previously written script and that that particularly makes sense of existence. And there I immediately took my notebook and wrote down some things to share with you in this episode.

2:17 I think we need to assess uncertainty. That one doesn' t know what' s gonna happen tomorrow. That doesn' t know exactly what the consequences of my actions are, because it' s likely in my case it ' s always so that one plans for one to review. What are the possible consequences, but there is the surprise involved and there are always situations that surprise you. If I tell you we need to value uncertainty, among other things, because psychology has already taught us that there is the prophecy of self - fulfillment, that is, they tell you that something is going to happen and you end up fulfilling that prophecy they made you. You end up determined by that ad they made you. Today I want to invite you to value uncertainty and I would like to propose four keys to reflection. First, we need to accept that the human condition means not knowing the future. Being human

3:51 is knowing the past, learning from yesterday, being located today in the present, but not knowing what tomorrow is. It is a characteristic of the human condition. Whoever knows it' s going to happen tomorrow is not human. It is not human, because humans live in the face of uncertainty and we have to accept uncertainty. If we want to be happy, if we want to own every action, if we want to live fully every moment, then the first key is to recognize that you can' t know what' s going to happen tomorrow and that, as much as they prophesy and as much as they tell you tomorrow depends on free and conscious decisions from you and some people around you. That is why the first statement is to accept uncertainty.

4:55 Don' t see her as a disgrace, don' t see her as a tragedy. On the contrary, look at it with an opportunity, because if everything is already built in the style of the fate of Oedipus Rey, if everything is already done and that, however much he flees he will fulfill the announced fate. There is no freedom and that could end up making us live the absurd. The second, which I think is fundamental, which I think is valuable, is that one must then focus on what one can control.

5:35 A lot of tomorrow' s stuff. I can' t control them because they don' t belong to me, because surprise is possible, because I don' t own the causes that produce them. What I can do to be a happy person, to be a person living in harmony, living in happiness, is or to occupy that which is under my control. I can' t decide how you accept my ways, but what I can do is control the way I propose it, as the saga puts in the example with these episodes. I don' t know if you' re gonna like it or not. I can' t control that. I don' t know if it' s going to be extraordinary for you I don' t know. What I do know and because I have to control it is that I have to prepare it well, I have to write it, I have to try to have some precise ideas that I have read over and over and that I have to find a way to express it in a simple way.

6:49 I love it. One of my exercises is that they look obvious so no one tells me I didn' t understand that. I can control it myself, and then that' s my job, and that' s my effort. I insist on controlling what you can and the future does not depend entirely on IT. The one that does depend entirely on IT is the present. That' s why he works on it. The third key I found is to be tolerant of what we don' t know is going to happen.

7:30 I have to confess that one of the things that bothers me is surprises. I, when I started my relationship with my wife, told her I don ' t like surprises. I' m fascinated to be aware of what' s going on, what' s going on. But to the extent that I have grown, matured through reflection, through meditation, through spiritual development, I realize that it has to be tolerated. I don' t like it, but when it happens, the Tolees. I can' t get bitter because something happened that wasn' t in my plans. I have to accept it. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I celebrate. I react as it has to be, but I understand that it is not up to me and that I cannot be bitter when I become bitter at the surprise realization. All I do is fill my heart with pain, sadness, fears, and all I do is not be happy. Then we must be tolerant of that uncertainty, tolerant of that situation that we cannot control, that we do not know what is going to happen. And the fourth key is to have full consciousness.

8:52 I like that concept of full consciousness, that knowledge, through all my senses, through my relationships, through my approach, what' s going on, why it' s happening, what I do, how I' m acting, how I' m living. Hey, you don' t own your morning, but you own your day. You own what' s happening right now. Focus on those two levels that Daniel Goleman puts before us the inner focus and the focus with the environment, with the contexts in which we live.

9:37 I' m sure you can build a life in happiness. I' m sure everything doesn' t go as planned. I' m sure there are surprises, I' m sure there are pains, I' m sure there are experiences that hurt you, but be assured that they will be catalysts for you to be uglier, for you to live more fully. Hey, thanks for being there, thanks for sharing this episode of my podcast with me. I am happy that you are on each platform, in Spotify, in Deezer, in Amazon, in Apple, in Google Play, on all platforms.

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