Cuida tu familia

0:00 Bombo why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know, no one has a perfect family. Why nobody' s perfect. The family. For me it is that inner circle of care and affection, that living space in which we feel loved, in which we feel helped. Today I want to stress four fundamental keys to making family space. An experience that empowers you, an experience that throws you into realization, an experience that helps you to endure in the midst of limitations and that generates the relationships of solidarity required to be happier every day. I think the first thing is to recognize

1:37 the family, as it is. I understand that there are family ideals, I understand that many times we hear heroic stories, almost idealized from the family. If you want your family space to be really that space in which you can realize it, it is first to recognize it and accept it, as it is with many possibilities, with many capacities, but also with limitations, also with shortcomings, because families are formed by human beings, and all human beings have capacities and potentialities and we have limitations and shortcomings. So, the first thing is that you recognize each member and recognize them as they are and don' t ask him what they can' t give and don' t try to change them because you' re not going to. The members of your family have the characteristics that they have, and I think we need to recognize them and accept them like this and try to build healthy relationships with them, relationships in which we can combine objectives and establish life plans that will lead you all to the happiness that the first is that. Sometimes you want to

3:12 have a perfect mom and not or you want to have a perfect dad and not Sometimes you want your family to be like family and not Sometimes your family just counts on your mom or it' s just your grandmother or it' s just your aunts who raised you and they' re with you. You have to learn to recognize, accept, value and love your family, as it is. The second is that I believe that limits and routines must always be established why. Because when you set clear boundaries, consistent boundaries, everyone will know what or what to stick to. Many times families fail because they don' t know what to stick to. They don' t know what to expect from the others. They do not have the limits that help you to know how far you go, to know what you can ask, to know how you can collaborate or build. The limits and routines of time allow to create security structures that are expressed in confidence. That' s why you have to have specific routines. Look. We meet every day at such an

4:45 hour or weekly. We meet at this moment or say goodbye as we go out or express affection constantly or forgive ourselves what I know, but they have to be clear routines in the s s s s s s, that each one feels realized, expressed and that can be given without imposition. Now, these routines have to be characterized by flexibility and adaptation, because life is changing, because human beings change, because we are not always the same, and we do not need to go on recognizing those changes and adapting to those changes.

5:30 Sometimes it' s about changes in work that disrupt all the routines we had and that have to be adapted. We' re not going to be crying that situation, but we' re going to learn from it. Thirdly, I believe that it is essential to promote respect and kindness. It is clear to me that no healthy bond is given without kindness. I believe in the power of kindness, I believe in good words, good attitudes, good gestures, good deeds. Then it is essential that in the family there are friendly ways to relate, and this means creating an environment of mutual respect.

6:26 Don' t tell me what you know hurts me and I won' t tell you what I know hurts you. I' m not trying to change you, because I know that' s you. Because I know that' s you. Please don' t try to use corsets so that I behave like I' m not, because that not only harms us, but makes the family environment really unbearable. There needs to be compassion, empathy, that we can feel each other. It' s just that we love each other, we take care of each other, we know how important we are.

7:09 This is how kindness is expressed and here we must recognize the triumphs, the achievements of the other members of the family. That brings us closer, that brings us together, that allows us to build solid relationships. When I know that you rejoice in my conquests, in my successes, I feel loved and I feel valued for you. And the fourth key goes through spiritual experience. I' m blunt. A spiritual experience that makes me despise the members of my family or makes me believe that I am superior to them, is not good, is not healthy. True spirituality brings us together in communion, and Communion always occurs in the midst of differences, always occurs in the midst of the nuances that human beings have. Then, please, it is necessary to find spiritual experiences, religious experiences that help us to love, that help us to be supportive, that help us to forgive and that do not demand angelic behaviors that we will not have and that we will not have because nobody has them. Spiritual experiences can be expressed through rites of moments. I remember how much I remember sitting at the table with my family members and giving thanks for

8:39 the food, or how much I remember meeting with those I love to pray for one of our sick family members. That is definitely fundamental in family experience. Listen I wish you would see today thanks for your family, that, if you have a spiritual experience, you will pray for your family, because that space is the one you have to be happy with, that space is the one you count with to get ahead. That' s why I want you to review these four simple, simple keys and try to make them a reality in your family space, that there is a family space in which you can be freely. That will fill you with joy and joy. I think it' s great that we can love and care for our family. I recommend my book. Loving is winning everything can help you establish healthier affective bonds.

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