Construyendo confianza

0:00 Bombs, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always the love soy and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and to enjoy life fully. You know how to be reliable. That is one of the questions I ask myself the most in my daily life, because many times we ask others to trust us, but we are reliable. I' m always reading authors to help me answer these existential questions these days. I ran into a number of them. Yeah, I started looking in my library and I found Walterrizo, I found Curro Cañete, I found jumaswell I found Daniel Coleman and I tried to look there for characteristics of a reliable person. What characterizes a human being

1:33 who deserves our trust. Without a doubt, each one can establish some characteristics, but those that I have been able to group here in this notebook that I have. I belong to the previous time in which one wrote down in a notebook, ideas, in the abstracts of books, quotations that he likes well, and I find six characteristics that I want to share with you in this episode. I believe that the basis of trust is integrity, that is to say, knowing that the other person is a sonist by word, living according to values, that he exposes freely and that he keeps his promises.

2:42 If you want to be reliable, you have to be whole. But how do you pretend that someone trusts You if they find you lying, lying, if they find that you change values according to convenience and circumstance, if you are not honest, with yourself and we must lie lies to You to reassure you. They trust You if they see you as a whole person, that is, a sincere person, a person who shows what' s inside and then you know what to stick to with that person. That means a person who lives with clear principles. Yeah, it doesn' t change principles.

3:43 They are exposed there and one sees them Despite adversities, despite pressures, despite many difficult moments, that is, their ethical code is explicit and we consider it valuable. For me, you can' t ask someone to trust him or her if it' s not true. In these terms. The second characteristic for me is a responsible person with solid commitments. That is, he admits his mistakes, he learns from them, he does not spread blame with his index finger to calm his conscience and feel good, but he accepts what got him muddy, what got him wrong, what didn' t do the right thing. But that translates into a firm commitment. It doesn' t leave easily, it doesn' t leave. One thrown on the roadside, is persevering and gives the battle and gives the battle with one. I love that story that maybe told Anthony de Melo, that, in a war of

5:15 those terribles of humanity, a soldier goes to the officer and tells him my friend stayed in the trench. I ask permission to go find him. The officer says don' t go looking for him because I' ve already lost him and he' s very likely to lose you. However, the soldier insists so much that he allows it. Soon he returns with his dead and wounded friend, and the officer said to him now I also run the risk of losing you. It wasn' t worth it and the soldier said yes it was worth it because when I got here my friend hadn' t died yet and he told me he knew you' d come for me. That ' s called commitment, and that makes you trust people. The third characteristic is the sum of humility and generosity. He is not a proud person who seeks to make one feel inferior. How can I trust You if you live by disqualifying me, if you live by saying that I am useless, if

6:46 you live by questioning everything I do with a certain haughty attitude? I don ' t need to recognize you as someone who values dignity equally, but at the same time what is generous that gives away, which gives that you are not stingy with existential resources. That makes you trust those people. How we distrust proud people, Kukhí people as we say on the coast, that is, cheap people who are unable to give anything out of fear of being alone.

7:29 The fourth is a person who knows how to live from effort, from sacrifice, from discipline, someone in whom you can see a whole process that doesn' t want easy things, because if you want them easy or look for the easy ones at any time you can put aside and sell you for realizing your dream. On the other hand, disciplines two, the sacrificed, those who live boldly, give one confidence. The fifth is people who are working on themselves. They are flexible people, people with the ability to adapt, creative people, people who lose some learning because they are no longer generating the growth that is required. And the last one. I trust spiritual people more than religious ones. I am frightened by religious fanatics, those who believe that a dogma is above a person' s dignity, that a moral fact is above a person' s freedom. I like more the spiritual ones, those who transcend, those who smell life, those who are able to discover in the orion new goals, new challenges, new challenges, and see life

9:05 as a whole and not simply as the sum of the parts. There are six characteristics, they are not mine properly, they are the ones I have here. Noted in my old notebook, in this notebook that always accompanies me. That' s why he misses us if he sees me on public transport or at some table reading and writing, is that I' m putting food into this notebook. Hey. Thank you for being there and thank you for sharing with me. I hope you read my book. The man is alive and with you. I am convinced that it can generate reflections that will make you happier. You know p Boom Bucks